We've noticed a lot of people who are unhappy with small things about them and mentioning it on their profile. Things like "mum tum" or stretch marks etc like it's a bad thing! Personally we find these imperfections a plus as we are all "normal" people with perfectly "normal" imperfections. It's what makes us human! It's nice to see companies out there using more "normal" models in advertisements but we have been bombarded with photoshopped models for so long that people think that's the norm! I'm sure there are people out there who look like that but we need to stop comparing ourselves to that and start loving our imperfections! Happy Friday everyone! X |
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"Totally agree OP"
Thank you! It's just frustrating seeing so many people put themselves down. We tend to read profiles before going to the pics and we see people talking negatively and then you look at the pics and they look like models haha! |
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"Totally agree OP
Thank you! It's just frustrating seeing so many people put themselves down. We tend to read profiles before going to the pics and we see people talking negatively and then you look at the pics and they look like models haha! "
I like the imperfections but the lack of confidence is often not attractive. People who accept who they are are  |
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I think due to the way the world is, people react I know I do and look at yourself and compare. Hard not to. Think that's where the self doubt comes in other people might find you attractive but you don't yourself (Mr) |
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It’s the imperfections that make us varied, interesting and human it’s attractive- it’s why those AI generated images are so jarring and unsettling, why I don’t find professional porn models desirable. Unfortunately women especially beat themselves up about their perceived flaws when everyone around them sees how attractive and desirable they are.. |
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"We've noticed a lot of people who are unhappy with small things about them and mentioning it on their profile. Things like "mum tum" or stretch marks etc like it's a bad thing! Personally we find these imperfections a plus as we are all "normal" people with perfectly "normal" imperfections. It's what makes us human! It's nice to see companies out there using more "normal" models in advertisements but we have been bombarded with photoshopped models for so long that people think that's the norm! I'm sure there are people out there who look like that but we need to stop comparing ourselves to that and start loving our imperfections! Happy Friday everyone! X"
I like this op! You’re absolutely right in that we should all be more comfortable with how we look. I’ve hated every single thing about my body and face my entire life, but I’m secure enough to own it now so don’t sweat it. If people like me, great. If they don’t, there is someone else for them.
I want to trim up a bit because I like to wear fitted shirts, but I’m working on it (slowly!). |
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By *bi HaiveMan 41 weeks ago
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It's human nature I guess.
Everyone has flaws, even those that don't think so. The old saying 'nobody's perfect' isn't a thing for no reason.
Some are more comfortable in their own skin, some aren't. I guess there's different motivations for making statements in profiles about certain physical attributes.
Some want to be up front and honest about things you might not be able to see in photos to avoid any potential 'disappointment' in people they meet who may be more focussed on physical traits rather than personality. It's easy to build a picture in your head about what someone looks like based on photos which may have been taken to just show the bits people are comfortable with, which may be different from the whole them in reality. Some filter so heavily that it looks like a different person after all. There's plenty of photos posted on Fab that give no idea of what someone actually looks like.
There's nothing wrong with making reference to lumps and bumps, scars and flaws or making people aware of the fact your body isn't perfection.
I'd rather see that any day than endless descriptions of gym fit, toned and muscle bound bodies focusing on what they look like over their personalities and stating they're looking for 'exceptional'.
Although those are good filters of course for those of us who know we don't fit that brief. 
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"We've noticed a lot of people who are unhappy with small things about them and mentioning it on their profile. Things like "mum tum" or stretch marks etc like it's a bad thing! Personally we find these imperfections a plus as we are all "normal" people with perfectly "normal" imperfections. It's what makes us human! It's nice to see companies out there using more "normal" models in advertisements but we have been bombarded with photoshopped models for so long that people think that's the norm! I'm sure there are people out there who look like that but we need to stop comparing ourselves to that and start loving our imperfections! Happy Friday everyone! X"
when you're younger you strive for the perfect body but as you get older you relax into it  |
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I agree I don't notice these things on others & if I did they don't bother me in the slightest however... We are our own worst critics, just because it doesn't bother me on other people I actually like it doesn't mean it doesn't bother me on me.
My body has changed hugely in a short space of time, I'm not happy with it & I am one of these profiles that mentions the mum tum & wobbly bits because they aren't always obvious in some photos especially ones 6m - 1 year ago and I'd hate for anyone to be disappointed meeting me which is why I've written it.
My own self confidence isn't relative to what others think of me, only me - so I highlight the bad too, even the latest 3 pics I've not wanted to post because I look..... Different, my new body is still alien to me.
Sometimes it would be amazing if we could see ourselves through the eyes of others.
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In a world of perfection being thrown at you all the time, with the standard ideal of attraction being shoved down your throat all the time, it isn't hard to see why people feel the need to apologise in advance for not meeting that standard.
If you hear enough times that the opposite of your body is attractive it makes you feel inadequate. Add onto that any negative comments received and it is easy to see why someone would feel insecure in their looks.
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