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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everywhere is long distance from Aberdeen! "
Oh Angus.. Nearest I get is Angus steak.
I always say a true connection warrants a plan to travel. Book hotel and enjoy Scotland it is on my bucket list |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
I think I could get on board with the infrequency of seeing them.
But they’d have to be faithful. And what happens if they get a local hottie giving them the eye. Guess who’ll be binned. The LDR that’s what.
I can feel the angst already!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We had a long distance marriage for 10 years her in Aberdeen & me in the Middle East. We have just had our 40th anniversary this week"
Biggest congratulations to you both  |
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It was possibly the best part of my relationship with my now ex husband as the time we spent together after being apart was always so special. Absence really did make the heart grow fonder and we didn’t waste time on mundane stuff like shopping and housework, we just spent time with each other, enjoying shared passions.
We weren’t too far apart geographically (120 miles, 2.5-3 hours each way) and we still saw each other often (every two weeks as often as possible) but weren’t living together. Once we moved in together we would have absences as he travelled a lot with work and the reuniting was still awesome but not as much fun as when we lived apart. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They’ve been my life haha 
But sometimes you could be on someone’s doorstep and they are the most difficult to meet… "
I have dated people that are local and seen them barely ever because of schedules etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't find the notion of them appealing.
Spontaneous time together wouldn't be an option
And feeling wanty or wistful during time apart could potentially be a source of unhappiness for me"
That’s good self awareness. Fair |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
Relationships and love are an active choice, everyday. Attraction can be there but you have to put effort in for a relationship. I could do long distance with the right person, clear comms and agreed goals that work for both parties. It’s also about being mindfully present when you are together so it’s clear your time and being connected is important and special. |
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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
I used to think it was about making a choice to pick each other and that it was enough.
That love would be enough.
Maybe for some it is but now I've realised that making that choice doesn't mean the same thing to everyone.
I don't think I'd be able to put myself through that again, not with all the angst that came with it.
Equally though I don't particularly want someone living in my pocket demanding all my time either.
Odd thing for the hopeless romantic to say and actually makes me realise why there's probably no hope for me!
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By *eliWoman 43 weeks ago
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I've done them before. To varying degrees of success.
And because I'm delightfully poly and have a predilection for liking those who live away from me, I'll probably do it again.
I think they can work. If you're both on the same page, have that level of communication, don't cheat, make time and effort for each other. It's easier being poly because I don't want them to be my everything nor for me to be everything to them.
I want to be part of their life without being the whole thing. So yes, distance for me, it can work. Nothing lasts but it can be beautiful whilst it does. |
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My longest “relationship” was with a guy who lived in the Isle of Man while I lived in London. I liked it, we would spend two weeks together then two weeks apart, and by the end of each two weeks I was ready for the change. |
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Enjoyed the ones I've had and the bonus is the time apart ...They ended mutually without issues and not because of the distances.
No need for people to be round each other 24/7 ...Everyone needs space and time apart and to some degree separate interests ...it works for me ..but it'll not be for everyone ...
Plus it's possible to be lonely in a close, smothering relationship |
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Yeah it’s pointless I find ultimately. Prob for a relationship I need to be at least within 90 min travel otherwise job just never get spend any time.
Saying that I am long time single so it’s not something that comes up I find |
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By *a LunaWoman 43 weeks ago
South Wales |
"I’ve dabbled within the UK.
Sadly I don’t think I could afford the upkeep of a LDR outside of the UK, my passport has expired 
I typed a rude reply but then thought better of it. "
That’s not like you!  |
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"I’ve dabbled within the UK.
Sadly I don’t think I could afford the upkeep of a LDR outside of the UK, my passport has expired
I typed a rude reply but then thought better of it.
That’s not like you! "
Oh I’ve turned over a new leaf, I’m politeness personified these days  |
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"I was in a long distance relationship ( well 85 miles) with my late partner but we did see each other every week.
Worked perfectly well for us for 16 years"
Every other week is great amount of time between seeing someone. |
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"Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that.
Doomed from the start, you and I "
You and I are *checks notes* not that far apart, in the grand scheme. |
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"Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that.
Doomed from the start, you and I
You and I are *checks notes* not that far apart, in the grand scheme."
that’s what I like to hear. |
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"Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that.
Doomed from the start, you and I
You and I are *checks notes* not that far apart, in the grand scheme.that’s what I like to hear. "
I mean, Nigel Farage is also geographically not that far away. It's not a selling point |
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It would be my ideal dynamic. I don’t want someone randomly turning up at my house midweek, I want to enjoy my time by myself and see them at the weekends or twice a month. I would absolutely love that. |
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"It would be my ideal dynamic. I don’t want someone randomly turning up at my house midweek, I want to enjoy my time by myself and see them at the weekends or twice a month. I would absolutely love that."
Good luck 🤞🏾 |
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