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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer"
If you want a tradwife, you gotta be a tradhusband.
That means earning enough that she doesn’t have to work and can do all the tradwife duties
Otherwise your just a guy that wants another mother in his life disguised as a wife and a roommate |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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Ooh the stay at home 1950s wait for you to get home. Slippers dear, paper dear, dinner in 5 mins. Yes, dear and your favourite tart for pudding and custard op.
No I am not one. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
If you want a tradwife, you gotta be a tradhusband.
That means earning enough that she doesn’t have to work and can do all the tradwife duties
Otherwise your just a guy that wants another mother in his life disguised as a wife and a roommate "
Exactly this op |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Ooh the stay at home 1950s wait for you to get home. Slippers dear, paper dear, dinner in 5 mins. Yes, dear and your favourite tart for pudding and custard op.
No I am not one. "
As not a wife |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
If you want a tradwife, you gotta be a tradhusband.
That means earning enough that she doesn’t have to work and can do all the tradwife duties
Otherwise your just a guy that wants another mother in his life disguised as a wife and a roommate "
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
If you want a tradwife, you gotta be a tradhusband.
That means earning enough that she doesn’t have to work and can do all the tradwife duties
Otherwise your just a guy that wants another mother in his life disguised as a wife and a roommate "
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer"
I was one of those.
I suppose you could say he was the tradhusband, with a bit on the side. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"I think if a woman chooses that role, her husband is happy with it and prepared to bring enough money in to support the whole family its entirely their decision"
True each to their own I always believe.
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I'm very much a tradwife Mr. Flinstone kills the dinosaurs and I roast em .....
Only messin'
I am a trad wife as it happens..... I go killing Romans in my chariot , me being Queen n all and Mr. Bouddica sharpens my blades...... |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position "
Do women who work not raise their kids? |
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position "
Oh C'mon Wokingham.... raising children IS work. Unpaid work. You should envy him. It seems they have a great set up that works for them.
I never think of going for coffee as 'trad' ..... it's very modern |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
Do women who work not raise their kids? "
Yeah, never said they didn’t. Chill |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
Oh C'mon Wokingham.... raising children IS work. Unpaid work. You should envy him. It seems they have a great set up that works for them.
I never think of going for coffee as 'trad' ..... it's very modern"
Who said it wasn’t work? It’s just work she really enjoys
Chill. Stop looking to be outraged |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
Do women who work not raise their kids?
Yeah, never said they didn’t. Chill "
You know with your next GF - make sure you say chill a lot. Goes down a treat with women.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
Do women who work not raise their kids?
Yeah, never said they didn’t. Chill
You know with your next GF - make sure you say chill a lot. Goes down a treat with women. "
Calm down |
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
Oh C'mon Wokingham.... raising children IS work. Unpaid work. You should envy him. It seems they have a great set up that works for them.
I never think of going for coffee as 'trad' ..... it's very modern
Who said it wasn’t work? It’s just work she really enjoys
Chill. Stop looking to be outraged "
Don't try that ridiculous angle. I am chilled.
I'm chilled enough to own my own comments for example without trying to gaslight others.
Roger Wilco
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
Do women who work not raise their kids?
Yeah, never said they didn’t. Chill
You know with your next GF - make sure you say chill a lot. Goes down a treat with women.
Calm down "
Oh yep. That as well. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
Oh C'mon Wokingham.... raising children IS work. Unpaid work. You should envy him. It seems they have a great set up that works for them.
I never think of going for coffee as 'trad' ..... it's very modern
Who said it wasn’t work? It’s just work she really enjoys
Chill. Stop looking to be outraged
Don't try that ridiculous angle. I am chilled.
I'm chilled enough to own my own comments for example without trying to gaslight others.
Roger Wilco
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I’m glad you’ve calmed down |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Are there any on fab? "
Wouldn’t being on Fab be the total opposite of what a tradwife is?! I assume you mean you are looking for a single lady who wants to be a tradwife.
Just being pedantic!  |
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position "
He's probably knobbing his secretary, or the bird down the builder's merchant. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"My sisters a tradwife and I’m jealous
Looks after the house and gets to actually raise her kids. Always out getting coffee or going on walks while the kids are at school. Very chill
Her husband works 10-14 hour days to support this. I don’t envy his position
He's probably knobbing his secretary, or the bird down the builder's merchant."
I appreciate it’s a joke but my sisters husband is more than a brother to me. He treats her like an actual queen and busts his ass day in day out to provide for the family. He’s a hell of a guy and I’m unbelievably thankful she’s found such an awesome partner. |
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"What’s so terrible about it?
It’s the perfect partnership if you ask me. There’s a breadwinner and a homemaker. A team if you will.
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I’d like my wife to focus on perfecting wearing aprons and pretty dresses not worrying about working! |
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I am very pro single-income households becoming the norm again.
However, this traditional lifestyle has to come with modern values that suit our world.
For instance, if the higher-earning partner isn’t ensuring that the lower-/non-earning partners pension is topped up to the same degree, and that they have the same amount of spending and saving money at the end of each month, then frankly it’s financial abuse.
If you want your partner to stay at home and raise your children but you aren’t even treating them as well as you’d treat staff, then you are a problem.
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"I am very pro single-income households becoming the norm again.
However, this traditional lifestyle has to come with modern values that suit our world.
For instance, if the higher-earning partner isn’t ensuring that the lower-/non-earning partners pension is topped up to the same degree, and that they have the same amount of spending and saving money at the end of each month, then frankly it’s financial abuse.
If you want your partner to stay at home and raise your children but you aren’t even treating them as well as you’d treat staff, then you are a problem.
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With regard to the pension, wouldn’t the wife be entitled to half of the pension anyway ? |
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"Or do I mean I was working the munitions factories during ww1 ? Is that what I was doing ?
The tradition of who and when Tom ?
Women have ALWAYS worked..... ALWAYS"
It was called pin money back in the day. A few part time hours in between school drop off and pick up. It gave a little independence as they say. |
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I remember sitting at my desk in the mid eighties with a budget of just over £1 million, several staff and earning more than my partner. My mum called for a chat in my lunch hour and blythely told me that 'women only work for pin money'. |
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"I am very pro single-income households becoming the norm again.
However, this traditional lifestyle has to come with modern values that suit our world.
For instance, if the higher-earning partner isn’t ensuring that the lower-/non-earning partners pension is topped up to the same degree, and that they have the same amount of spending and saving money at the end of each month, then frankly it’s financial abuse.
If you want your partner to stay at home and raise your children but you aren’t even treating them as well as you’d treat staff, then you are a problem.
With regard to the pension, wouldn’t the wife be entitled to half of the pension anyway ?"
Not always (and of course, sometimes it's the husband entitled to it). But why not start on a footing of equality if you believe in it?
This should happen in unmarried relationships too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Or do I mean I was working the munitions factories during ww1 ? Is that what I was doing ?
The tradition of who and when Tom ?
Women have ALWAYS worked..... ALWAYS
It was called pin money back in the day. A few part time hours in between school drop off and pick up. It gave a little independence as they say. "
Lovely. They could buy themselves a nice little frock, couldn't they? Maybe a lipstick. |
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"Or do I mean I was working the munitions factories during ww1 ? Is that what I was doing ?
The tradition of who and when Tom ?
Women have ALWAYS worked..... ALWAYS
It was called pin money back in the day. A few part time hours in between school drop off and pick up. It gave a little independence as they say.
Lovely. They could buy themselves a nice little frock, couldn't they? Maybe a lipstick. "
Couldn't nowadays. Have you seen the price of decent lipstick? |
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"I am very pro single-income households becoming the norm again.
However, this traditional lifestyle has to come with modern values that suit our world.
For instance, if the higher-earning partner isn’t ensuring that the lower-/non-earning partners pension is topped up to the same degree, and that they have the same amount of spending and saving money at the end of each month, then frankly it’s financial abuse.
If you want your partner to stay at home and raise your children but you aren’t even treating them as well as you’d treat staff, then you are a problem.
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The norm is an interesting concept. I personally think having "norms", aspiring to normality, assisting towards normality... Has so many benefits for a society. Things can be planned for and delivered more easily when catering to the norm. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Or do I mean I was working the munitions factories during ww1 ? Is that what I was doing ?
The tradition of who and when Tom ?
Women have ALWAYS worked..... ALWAYS
It was called pin money back in the day. A few part time hours in between school drop off and pick up. It gave a little independence as they say.
Lovely. They could buy themselves a nice little frock, couldn't they? Maybe a lipstick.
Couldn't nowadays. Have you seen the price of decent lipstick?"
Surely if you saved your pin money? |
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"Or do I mean I was working the munitions factories during ww1 ? Is that what I was doing ?
The tradition of who and when Tom ?
Women have ALWAYS worked..... ALWAYS
It was called pin money back in the day. A few part time hours in between school drop off and pick up. It gave a little independence as they say.
Lovely. They could buy themselves a nice little frock, couldn't they? Maybe a lipstick. "
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Surely they could run up their own frock, from an old pair of curtains, they’d have the time during the day, it would keep them busy instead of watching daytime TV.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for.. "
Why do they have to keep on top of the laundry? Men can do laundry? |
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for.. "
Don’t forget microwaving lasagne as well Tom, it won’t cook itself you know. |
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for..
Why do they have to keep on top of the laundry? Men can do laundry?"
But can they do it as well ? |
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for..
Why do they have to keep on top of the laundry? Men can do laundry?
But can they do it as well ?"
It's a task. Can't men learn how to do a task well? Bit worrying for their jobs. |
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
If you want a tradwife, you gotta be a tradhusband.
That means earning enough that she doesn’t have to work and can do all the tradwife duties
Otherwise your just a guy that wants another mother in his life disguised as a wife and a roommate "
Exactly this, the man child seems to be a role that most men are looking to take (at least in my generation before I'm shot down). Big part of the reason I'm done with relationships for life |
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for..
Why do they have to keep on top of the laundry? Men can do laundry?
But can they do it as well ?"
Do you think that the lack of a penis makes women somehow better at operating machinery and dosing chemicals?
If that's the case, why do so many men have jobs that involves operating machinery and dosing chemicals? |
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for..
Why do they have to keep on top of the laundry? Men can do laundry?
But can they do it as well ?
It's a task. Can't men learn how to do a task well? Bit worrying for their jobs. "
We all need a purpose. |
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for..
Why do they have to keep on top of the laundry? Men can do laundry?
But can they do it as well ?
Do you think that the lack of a penis makes women somehow better at operating machinery and dosing chemicals?
If that's the case, why do so many men have jobs that involves operating machinery and dosing chemicals?"
And there we have it. Being a trad wife is not for every wife but is perfect for some. To reject that just narrows the choice for some women.. |
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"There are some wives who work bloomin hard in employment and still have to keep on top of the washing basket and all credit to them but be careful what you wish for..
Why do they have to keep on top of the laundry? Men can do laundry?
But can they do it as well ?
Do you think that the lack of a penis makes women somehow better at operating machinery and dosing chemicals?
If that's the case, why do so many men have jobs that involves operating machinery and dosing chemicals?
And there we have it. Being a trad wife is not for every wife but is perfect for some. To reject that just narrows the choice for some women.."
If you read above you'll see that I actually support single-income households.
I just don't understand why women are better at operating machinary and dosing chemicals than men are. Makes it hard for all the stay at home husbands, right? |
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer"
So you mean 1950s housewife |
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
So you mean 1950s housewife "
Is that what you think free choice and preference means? |
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
So you mean 1950s housewife
Is that what you think free choice and preference means? "
Um... Yes, that is exactly what "choice" means. She is "choosing" to do that role. Hubby ain't gonna hold a gun to her head, saying "you will be a housewife, and look out if dinner ain't ready when I get home" This isn't the 1950's anymore...
Same way that she was free to choose to go out and work. Or choose to take her life abroad. |
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"Ah, bangmaids for man children 
I'd assume part of being trad would involve not fucking other people from a swingers site though."
Hang on a minute, let’s back this up a little. Let’s not get too trad here! |
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
So you mean 1950s housewife
Is that what you think free choice and preference means? "
What being a 1950s house wife? What the OP has described sounds very very much that. Which is our free choice and preference to vocalise  |
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
So you mean 1950s housewife
Is that what you think free choice and preference means?
Um... Yes, that is exactly what "choice" means. She is "choosing" to do that role. Hubby ain't gonna hold a gun to her head, saying "you will be a housewife, and look out if dinner ain't ready when I get home" This isn't the 1950's anymore...
Same way that she was free to choose to go out and work. Or choose to take her life abroad. "
Here's the thing about abusive relationships.
You don't get into a relationship thinking it's going to be abusive. It just kind of... happens... while you're not looking.
And once you are in an abusive relationship, it can be extremely difficult to leave. You are not just free to choose to do something different in all relationships. Sometimes you are kept in them through circumstance - and a woman in a non-equal tradwife relationship is particularly vulnerable. |
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"^^ there has to be financial security for the unwaged partner"
Isn’t that the idea though, the money earned by one of the partners is for the good of the family? A lot of working class men would hand their whole pay packet over to their wives, as they were the ones managing the bills.
I’d done properly it all works out fine. |
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"^^ there has to be financial security for the unwaged partner
Isn’t that the idea though, the money earned by one of the partners is for the good of the family? A lot of working class men would hand their whole pay packet over to their wives, as they were the ones managing the bills.
I’d done properly it all works out fine. "
Being financially dependant on another person is never a good shout without proper legal backup |
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Apparently, my comment is sexist and insulting
I did not include all men and was talking about my own experiences.
Yes there are men that are fully capable and functioning adults. But, in my experience the men in my age bracket and younger, more often than not, are not.
Leaving it there. |
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Will you all fook off with the 50's jibes....
It wasn't 'trad' then either .... Jesus
It's NEVER been 'trad' ..... fuck sake
There.... that's my most intelligent contribution to date.. the fuck sake bit. I like that bit. |
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I would never want anyone to run around for me I thought we had got passed all that stuff in the sixties to me a happy wife is a happy life and if something needs doing either do it together or do it yourself don't expect someone else to do it for you |
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"Apparently, my comment is sexist and insulting
I did not include all men and was talking about my own experiences.
Yes there are men that are fully capable and functioning adults. But, in my experience the men in my age bracket and younger, more often than not, are not.
Leaving it there."
If it’s any consolation, it’s not just young men. |
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"^^ there has to be financial security for the unwaged partner
Isn’t that the idea though, the money earned by one of the partners is for the good of the family? A lot of working class men would hand their whole pay packet over to their wives, as they were the ones managing the bills.
I’d done properly it all works out fine. "
It should be the idea that all money is family money.
However seperate and private bank accounts with savings protect the unwaged partner if they should ever need to leave. |
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"^^ there has to be financial security for the unwaged partner
Isn’t that the idea though, the money earned by one of the partners is for the good of the family? A lot of working class men would hand their whole pay packet over to their wives, as they were the ones managing the bills.
I’d done properly it all works out fine.
It should be the idea that all money is family money.
However seperate and private bank accounts with savings protect the unwaged partner if they should ever need to leave."
Should the wages partner do the same? |
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I think all money should be shared equally pay the bills and everything first then share the rest and then you can do whatever you want with yours and if there is one that is not working then if they are looking after the house then they are still working but in a different way but you should be equal |
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"Apparently, my comment is sexist and insulting
I did not include all men and was talking about my own experiences.
Yes there are men that are fully capable and functioning adults. But, in my experience the men in my age bracket and younger, more often than not, are not.
Leaving it there."
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"I think all money should be shared equally pay the bills and everything first then share the rest and then you can do whatever you want with yours and if there is one that is not working then if they are looking after the house then they are still working but in a different way but you should be equal "
That’s my take on it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Loving the sexist comments guys. Excellent job
I know, some of the women accused the men of being useless and childlike. Very sexist indeed, glad you called them out."
Did they? Equally sexist if so. |
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"Apparently, my comment is sexist and insulting
I did not include all men and was talking about my own experiences.
Yes there are men that are fully capable and functioning adults. But, in my experience the men in my age bracket and younger, more often than not, are not.
Leaving it there.
If it’s any consolation, it’s not just young men."
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"They are wives who hold very traditional values such as looking after their menfolk, cooking, cleaning, ironing and doing the housework and home making and this is the role they choose and prefer
If you want a tradwife, you gotta be a tradhusband.
That means earning enough that she doesn’t have to work and can do all the tradwife duties
Otherwise your just a guy that wants another mother in his life disguised as a wife and a roommate "
This.
The only guys I have seen asking for this have no idea or desire of how to be a traditional Husband. They want a Woman who will do all of the cooking, cleaning and child-rearing and let them play the role of Alpha male, but also still work and pay half the bills because, y'know, they don't want no gold-digga... 
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"^^ there has to be financial security for the unwaged partner
Isn’t that the idea though, the money earned by one of the partners is for the good of the family? A lot of working class men would hand their whole pay packet over to their wives, as they were the ones managing the bills.
I’d done properly it all works out fine.
It should be the idea that all money is family money.
However seperate and private bank accounts with savings protect the unwaged partner if they should ever need to leave.
Should the wages partner do the same?"
Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments. |
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"^^ there has to be financial security for the unwaged partner
Isn’t that the idea though, the money earned by one of the partners is for the good of the family? A lot of working class men would hand their whole pay packet over to their wives, as they were the ones managing the bills.
I’d done properly it all works out fine.
It should be the idea that all money is family money.
However seperate and private bank accounts with savings protect the unwaged partner if they should ever need to leave.
Should the wages partner do the same?
Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments."
Sounds very functional. |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional. "
Sounds fair and equal. |
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I was a trad wife for 7 years while my children were very young.
I could still be one as his income is high enough to live comfortably on.
But I hated every minute of it. Don’t get me wrong- I love my children and I love my family, but I’m not cut out to be a homemaker/housewife.
I still fuss over them when I’m home and cook fabulous meals etc- but I just can’t do it full time. |
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"^^ there has to be financial security for the unwaged partner
Isn’t that the idea though, the money earned by one of the partners is for the good of the family? A lot of working class men would hand their whole pay packet over to their wives, as they were the ones managing the bills.
I’d done properly it all works out fine.
It should be the idea that all money is family money.
However seperate and private bank accounts with savings protect the unwaged partner if they should ever need to leave.
Should the wages partner do the same?
Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments."
Sounds perfectly fair to me. |
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"The Tradwife movement is huge amongst the religious fundamentalists right in the usa very much in the Trump camp .
When did being a housewife become a movement?
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal. "
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own. |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own. "
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income. |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income."
How do you know it’s the men who don’t split fairly?
Your posts always have an anti man vibe. |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income."
So equality is partners giving money to their partners? |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.
How do you know it’s the men who don’t split fairly?
Your posts always have an anti man vibe."
So you are saying that in the kind of relationship this thread is discussing, where one partner is unwaged, that the unwaged partner is the one not splitting the money fairly? |
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"Loving the outrage (it's borderline hatred in some comments) against people who like the idea of a certain way of life.
What happened to being tolerant?
C"
No outrage against the lifestyle - it was just the sexist comments I object to. If it suits both partners, go for it! |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.
So equality is partners giving money to their partners? "
Equality within relationship is many things. One element of that is ensuring that both partners have the same financial freedom. |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.
How do you know it’s the men who don’t split fairly?
Your posts always have an anti man vibe.
So you are saying that in the kind of relationship this thread is discussing, where one partner is unwaged, that the unwaged partner is the one not splitting the money fairly?"
Not what I said at all.
You blamed men for not splitting. I’ve quoted you again below to remind you.
“Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.” |
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.
How do you know it’s the men who don’t split fairly?
Your posts always have an anti man vibe.
So you are saying that in the kind of relationship this thread is discussing, where one partner is unwaged, that the unwaged partner is the one not splitting the money fairly?
Not what I said at all.
You blamed men for not splitting. I’ve quoted you again below to remind you.
“Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.”"
I mean statistically women are more likely to be stay at home partners than men, and statistically women are less likely to have savings than men, and statistically women are less likely to be paid as high a wage their male partners, and statistically women are more likely to be financially abused by their male partners.
So yes, I suppose you’re right. On the balance of probability it’s probably mostly women that aren’t splitting their wage fairly with their male partners.
#notallwomen |
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By *hoirCouple 41 weeks ago
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So you are saying that in the kind of relationship this thread is discussing, where one partner is unwaged, that the unwaged partner is the one not splitting the money fairly?
Not what I said at all.
You blamed men for not splitting. I’ve quoted you again below to remind you.
“Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if th
I mean statistically women are more likely to be stay at home partners than men, and statistically women are less likely to have savings than men, and statistically women are less likely to be paid as high a wage their male partners, and statistically women are more likely to be financially abused by their male partners.
So yes, I suppose you’re right. On the balance of probability it’s probably mostly women that aren’t splitting their wage fairly with their male partners.
#notallwomen"
Actually statistically women are more likely to have savings than men. 73% of women compared to 71% of men according to independent research from Women's Budget Group (WBG)
Stay at home men are on the rise in actuality. There is no full research done on this though as the census is known to contain many errors and inaccuracies.
As for the finanicial statemebmnt, that is a misinterpretation of data on your behalf. The crime of abuse against women and girls is from both male and female perps and not contained to just men as you oddly claim. It's also fair to note that the category of "women and girls" in crime has been known to include male victims on more than a few occasions.
Where do you get your statistics from?
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.
How do you know it’s the men who don’t split fairly?
Your posts always have an anti man vibe.
So you are saying that in the kind of relationship this thread is discussing, where one partner is unwaged, that the unwaged partner is the one not splitting the money fairly?
Not what I said at all.
You blamed men for not splitting. I’ve quoted you again below to remind you.
“Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.”
I mean statistically women are more likely to be stay at home partners than men, and statistically women are less likely to have savings than men, and statistically women are less likely to be paid as high a wage their male partners, and statistically women are more likely to be financially abused by their male partners.
So yes, I suppose you’re right. On the balance of probability it’s probably mostly women that aren’t splitting their wage fairly with their male partners.
#notallwomen"
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Yes. As I said above.
All household income paid into a joint bank account. All expenses paid out of it. Some put into joint savings. Pension paid for the unwaged partner.
Anything left at the end of the month is split 50/50 into personal accounts/savings/investments.
Sounds very functional.
Sounds fair and equal.
Sure in the fantasy land it is. Given over 11 million adults in the UK have less than 1000 in savings but nice if you can make it work and it's for the pair involved. To each their own.
Maybe more women would have over £1000 in savings if their partners fairly split the household income.
So equality is partners giving money to their partners?
Equality within relationship is many things. One element of that is ensuring that both partners have the same financial freedom."
Trad wife role for you not for you obs.
Some others love it.. and partake in it..
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By *eavenNhellCouple 41 weeks ago
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"The Tradwife movement is huge amongst the religious fundamentalists right in the usa very much in the Trump camp .
When did being a housewife become a movement?
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when as stated above it is pushed by the religious right as being the "ideal" way to live .anti feminism wifey is a chattel actively promoted by religious and political leaders . |
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By *hoirCouple 41 weeks ago
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Kinda tradwife here but also not. I love looking after my partner and my children, I love not having to go out to work - which is fortunate seeing as I'm disabled and can't. I wish I could do more "tradwife" things, such as making/growing my own food (also known as homesteading), homeschooling, making my own clothes and such, but part and parcel of my disability is that I find all of that very very difficult.
I listen to my partner, I have my own thoughts and opinions but I have him as my safety net. I will defer to him most of the time and always in public, I genuinely believe in his ideals, passions and ideas but that doesn't make my input any less valid and he will always consult me before he makes his decisions.
Sounds so awful doesn't it?
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"Kinda tradwife here but also not. I love looking after my partner and my children, I love not having to go out to work - which is fortunate seeing as I'm disabled and can't. I wish I could do more "tradwife" things, such as making/growing my own food (also known as homesteading), homeschooling, making my own clothes and such, but part and parcel of my disability is that I find all of that very very difficult.
I listen to my partner, I have my own thoughts and opinions but I have him as my safety net. I will defer to him most of the time and always in public, I genuinely believe in his ideals, passions and ideas but that doesn't make my input any less valid and he will always consult me before he makes his decisions.
Sounds so awful doesn't it?
P"
Sounds like it works for you and your family. Which is great. Shame some others can't see it for what it is. |
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