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Best way to break in
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Hey, not break into a house, but break into swinging. See, loads of profile want to meet men already verified which is understandable because an erect dick is a problem many a times and can cause men to be irrational.
However, its much like the chicken and egg story. Who came first.
So, in case one wants to break into the scene, what's the best way to go about it? Private parties or clubs?
And please, no one should say "profile" because that's just not true. There are people on here with almost nothing on their profiles with loads of veris. I've tried that too, writing long essays and uploading pics, but it just doesn't work like magic. Though I'll confess I am not an enthusiastic fabber and I can go away for days, weeks or months. Fab is a nice place though, you get to see fellow kinksters by the hundreds  |
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Picklocks, crow bar, angle grinder, brick through the window...
And upon entry shout
"I HAVE ARRIVED, NOW TAKE OF YOUR CLOTHES AND COME HERE YOU SEXY SEXY LADY!"
*nb don't break in. Just knock on the door with a wry smile and a charming approach. |
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If you've tried what you can in terms of your profile and messaging and that doesn't work for you then the only real option is in person networking.
I go to social events and find that works quite well. |
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"Picklocks, crow bar, angle grinder, brick through the window...
And upon entry shout
"I HAVE ARRIVED, NOW TAKE OF YOUR CLOTHES AND COME HERE YOU SEXY SEXY LADY!"
*nb don't break in. Just knock on the door with a wry smile and a charming approach."
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"If you've tried what you can in terms of your profile and messaging and that doesn't work for you then the only real option is in person networking.
I go to social events and find that works quite well."
I envy you, so, how do I find the socials coming up? |
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By *oxy jWoman 41 weeks ago
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op dont get fooled this scene for most men is and will be either impossible or very very hard ...
with that in mind clubs are the way forward but again dont be fooled there still has to be attraction /compatibility its so easy for women and couples to give advice when things are not really hard for them so easy to say oh you'll be ok or there someone for everyone but in truth theres not just look at how few women and couples there are compared to men ... there no easy way to get on this scene its like trying to get a job 500/1000 interviews for one job well finding a job is easy compared to this scene for men...
not trying to put you off just being honest with what yuou face ... a very small group of guys will ''get it'' and do well most wont
clubs is deffo the correct route for alot of guys ...but also bear in mind the clubs scene is tiny part of the scene and not everyone enjoys them |
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Without a doubt clubs and socials, I was on the scene as a single male on and off for near 20 years and I only had about a dozen veri's on here. Most of my meet's came at clubs, people I'd met at socials, even friends of friend recommendations. All of these came from been in person, it can't be beat. |
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"op dont get fooled this scene for most men is and will be either impossible or very very hard ...
with that in mind clubs are the way forward but again dont be fooled there still has to be attraction /compatibility its so easy for women and couples to give advice when things are not really hard for them so easy to say oh you'll be ok or there someone for everyone but in truth theres not just look at how few women and couples there are compared to men ... there no easy way to get on this scene its like trying to get a job 500/1000 interviews for one job well finding a job is easy compared to this scene for men...
not trying to put you off just being honest with what yuou face ... a very small group of guys will ''get it'' and do well most wont
clubs is deffo the correct route for alot of guys ...but also bear in mind the clubs scene is tiny part of the scene and not everyone enjoys them"
Lol, I can keep pushing at my pace. No rushing. |
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"Without a doubt clubs and socials, I was on the scene as a single male on and off for near 20 years and I only had about a dozen veri's on here. Most of my meet's came at clubs, people I'd met at socials, even friends of friend recommendations. All of these came from been in person, it can't be beat. "
Wow, 20 years  that's one hell lot of a dedication mate. But it's worth the wait I guess. |
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"As most have already said clubs and socials is the easiest way to get verified - there's lots of organised socials in the events section of the forum.
Mrs "
Aww thank you love. Yeah, I will be looking out for socials now. What happens at socials by the way? |
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We got taken under a more experienced couples wing and attended a few socials with them and as someone said it's good to prove you are genuine and a great way to put names to faces and network of course ! and sounds obvious but go at your own pace and only do stuff you feel comfortable with and as we found despite meeting a fair few with differents interests sex wise doesn't mean you can't have a good night with them and learn afew things ! and everyone is slightly different how they approach stuff though and no set in stone right or wrong way apart from the obvious again manners/respect/social skills and a sense of humour is essential we've found anyway xx  |
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"ditch the bull tag it puts more people off than on and i say that as part of a lifestyle cuckold couple ...
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It wasn't really for the cuckold lifestyle I chose the bull name. But I may consider changing after what you said. Lol
By the way, I kinda like humour, I once had a fab name Sydney_Prof lmao |
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" We got taken under a more experienced couples wing and attended a few socials with them and as someone said it's good to prove you are genuine and a great way to put names to faces and network of course ! and sounds obvious but go at your own pace and only do stuff you feel comfortable with and as we found despite meeting a fair few with differents interests sex wise doesn't mean you can't have a good night with them and learn afew things ! and everyone is slightly different how they approach stuff though and no set in stone right or wrong way apart from the obvious again manners/respect/social skills and a sense of humour is essential we've found anyway xx "
Manners/respect/social skills/sense of humour, all these should be essentials in any case. Not just on fab or the swinging lifestyle  |
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"Give good chat
Chat is good, but doesn't guarantee play. "
Nothing guarantees play other than mutual attraction and consent.
It's best to get over the idea that because you are hanging out in a community where people have sex with other people as a lifestyle choice that they will have sex with you too.
Your much better off trying to make friends and building up a social network. |
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"Give good chat
Chat is good, but doesn't guarantee play.
Nothing guarantees play other than mutual attraction and consent.
It's best to get over the idea that because you are hanging out in a community where people have sex with other people as a lifestyle choice that they will have sex with you too.
Your much better off trying to make friends and building up a social network. "
Part reason why I don't spend much time on fab. Just touch and go. Socialising is important, but for that of course I need a social event which I haven't been to one so far. |
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"Group socials i think are less intimidating then a club for a single man so find one in your area and go be chatty.
Now I am curious. What happens at socials? Are they usually at private venues?"
Scroll down and check the meets requests and parties forum. |
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"Group socials i think are less intimidating then a club for a single man so find one in your area and go be chatty.
Now I am curious. What happens at socials? Are they usually at private venues?
Scroll down and check the meets requests and parties forum."
I didn't know there was a parties forum. Thanks
I am learning |
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"Group socials i think are less intimidating then a club for a single man so find one in your area and go be chatty.
Now I am curious. What happens at socials? Are they usually at private venues?
Scroll down and check the meets requests and parties forum.
I didn't know there was a parties forum. Thanks
I am learning"
Go to the home page, click on meets and events box, click on browse organized events too. |
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"As most have already said clubs and socials is the easiest way to get verified - there's lots of organised socials in the events section of the forum.
Mrs
Aww thank you love. Yeah, I will be looking out for socials now. What happens at socials by the way?"
Not much, it's literally a group of people in a bar just chat, make friends, some go back with each other, some onto clubs etc, it's usually just a good night out.
Mrs |
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"I'd say definitely organised socials though some of them say you have to be verified as from what I've heard some clubs can be cliquey.
Good luck OP"
I have spoken to people who have had poor experiences at organised socials too. Greeted initially, then ignored when the regulars close themselves into a group. |
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"I'd say definitely organised socials though some of them say you have to be verified as from what I've heard some clubs can be cliquey.
Good luck OP
I have spoken to people who have had poor experiences at organised socials too. Greeted initially, then ignored when the regulars close themselves into a group."
I can see it happening there also x |
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