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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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No not rugby 
Do you think on here that the 'league' system is the same as in real life?
I was contacted by a guy earlier this week who I think is totally out of my league, total Adonis and gorgeous. I've told him that but he's still persisting (don't get me wrong I'm not complaining).
There again I get messages from guys on here who I don't think would approach me in a bar so I often wonder why they think they are going to have more luck on here than in real life. Or is it just them chancing it because its easier to take a knock back from behind a keyboard?
This is all very shallow, i know, but im not just talking from a looks point of _iew. I would only message on here someone who I felt was going to be attracted to me in the same way to the real world but there again there I wonder sometimes if things are a little different on here.
Not really sure what I'm asking but any thoughts are welcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No not rugby
Do you think on here that the 'league' system is the same as in real life?
I was contacted by a guy earlier this week who I think is totally out of my league, total Adonis and gorgeous. I've told him that but he's still persisting (don't get me wrong I'm not complaining).
There again I get messages from guys on here who I don't think would approach me in a bar so I often wonder why they think they are going to have more luck on here than in real life. Or is it just them chancing it because its easier to take a knock back from behind a keyboard?
This is all very shallow, i know, but im not just talking from a looks point of _iew. I would only message on here someone who I felt was going to be attracted to me in the same way to the real world but there again there I wonder sometimes if things are a little different on here.
Not really sure what I'm asking but any thoughts are welcome "
I dont think its a case of being out of your league, if theres a mutual attraction then there shouldnt be a problem, but on the other hand some guys/women who think they are goodlooking can turn out to be total arseholes |
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I sort of understand what you mean, but the difference is this is a swinging site not dating site, so although attraction is important, to some it is less important than what your sexual interest is.
Never ever think that you are not in someone elses league, if he is interested in you then go for it. xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I sort of understand what you mean, but the difference is this is a swinging site not dating site, so although attraction is important, to some it is less important than what your sexual interest is.
Never ever think that you are not in someone elses league, if he is interested in you then go for it. xx"
Don't worry, I quickly got over myself and am all on it! |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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it does go both ways, but as the men out number the ladies, the women do have the pick.
i feel from what i have seen, its gone to a lot of there heads, i seen some rite monsters on here, that in real life would never approach u in a bar .yet they are cocky and rude ,and come across as something they are def not, they look in the mirror as anne widecome and see cameron diase staring back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Possibly, but I think everyone creates their own league - I don't think there is a general or 'municipal' league.
The concept of 'in my league' or 'out of my league' is very much down to individual perception and linked directly to ones own self-perception.
Anyway, that's my 2 cents from someone in the casual 5-a-side Sunday league. |
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"it does go both ways, but as the men out number the ladies, the women do have the pick.
i feel from what i have seen, its gone to a lot of there heads, i seen some rite monsters on here, that in real life would never approach u in a bar .yet they are cocky and rude ,and come across as something they are def not, they look in the mirror as anne widecome and see cameron diase staring back "
cough cough, An Widicombe is hot.  |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"it does go both ways, but as the men out number the ladies, the women do have the pick.
i feel from what i have seen, its gone to a lot of there heads, i seen some rite monsters on here, that in real life would never approach u in a bar .yet they are cocky and rude ,and come across as something they are def not, they look in the mirror as anne widecome and see cameron diase staring back "
and its caused by all the bullshit the guys on here spill to them, blowing smoke up arses, in order to get a cheap shag they have started to believe it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it does go both ways, but as the men out number the ladies, the women do have the pick.
i feel from what i have seen, its gone to a lot of there heads, i seen some rite monsters on here, that in real life would never approach u in a bar .yet they are cocky and rude ,and come across as something they are def not, they look in the mirror as anne widecome and see cameron diase staring back "
The flip side is there are some blokes that think women are only on here because they can't get laid in 'real life' and so will be grateful of the attention.
As for leagues, I know what you're saying OP but I've changed my thinking on it. If I like someone and they like me it's all good. If one of us doesn't like the other then that's all good too.   |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"it does go both ways, but as the men out number the ladies, the women do have the pick.
i feel from what i have seen, its gone to a lot of there heads, i seen some rite monsters on here, that in real life would never approach u in a bar .yet they are cocky and rude ,and come across as something they are def not, they look in the mirror as anne widecome and see cameron diase staring back
The flip side is there are some blokes that think women are only on here because they can't get laid in 'real life' and so will be grateful of the attention.
As for leagues, I know what you're saying OP but I've changed my thinking on it. If I like someone and they like me it's all good. If one of us doesn't like the other then that's all good too. "
i guess so, but some women are only on here because they cant get a lay in real life, and a good few ive seen i can see why. i understand they love the attention, who wouldn't esp if u have never had that in the real world before |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You know when all is said and done - if you like them and they like you, you both want to get it on and afterwards you have both had a great time - what's a league?
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"You know when all is said and done - if you like them and they like you, you both want to get it on and afterwards you have both had a great time - what's a league?
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 I agree and if both can handle any feeling of rejection if no second meet... Even better. just enjoy |
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"i guess so, but some women are only on here because they cant get a lay in real life, and a good few ive seen i can see why. i understand they love the attention, who wouldn't esp if u have never had that in the real world before"
Please tell me you are kidding, tongue in cheek comment etc. Where did that come from??? |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"i guess so, but some women are only on here because they cant get a lay in real life, and a good few ive seen i can see why. i understand they love the attention, who wouldn't esp if u have never had that in the real world before
Please tell me you are kidding, tongue in cheek comment etc. Where did that come from???"
im kidding hun most of the ladies ive met or have spoken too have been lovely xx |
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"i guess so, but some women are only on here because they cant get a lay in real life, and a good few ive seen i can see why. i understand they love the attention, who wouldn't esp if u have never had that in the real world before
Please tell me you are kidding, tongue in cheek comment etc. Where did that come from???im kidding hun most of the ladies ive met or have spoken too have been lovely xx"
Phew, thought Yam had been kidnapped  |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
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"i guess so, but some women are only on here because they cant get a lay in real life, and a good few ive seen i can see why. i understand they love the attention, who wouldn't esp if u have never had that in the real world before
Please tell me you are kidding, tongue in cheek comment etc. Where did that come from???im kidding hun most of the ladies ive met or have spoken too have been lovely xx
Phew, thought Yam had been kidnapped "
lol u know me better than that im not horrible tongue was firmly between cheeks i mean in cheek xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Things like this used to bother me a lot, I used to turn down good looking men all the time because I felt I wasn't good enough for them but then I wasn't really enjoying meeting as I wasn't meeting guys I was really attracted to, now I just think fuck it, if I fancy them I meet them, if they don't fancy me that's their fault for mailing me in the first place lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I sort of understand what you mean, but the difference is this is a swinging site not dating site, so although attraction is important, to some it is less important than what your sexual interest is.
Never ever think that you are not in someone elses league, if he is interested in you then go for it. xx"
Believe it or not, I am doing exactly that though more because I think he is way too good looking for me so keep putting him off, just don't want to set myself up for failure as at this moment in time given the job situation, I can do without it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think if you are uncomfortable with it, don't do it.
Good luck whatever you choose"
Thanks, I'm not uncomfortable, of I was I wouldn't still be in touch with the guy, it just made me wonder if others felt the same way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Things like this used to bother me a lot, I used to turn down good looking men all the time because I felt I wasn't good enough for them but then I wasn't really enjoying meeting as I wasn't meeting guys I was really attracted to, now I just think fuck it, if I fancy them I meet them, if they don't fancy me that's their fault for mailing me in the first place lol"
I love that. Glad to hear it!! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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Thanks, I'm not uncomfortable, of I was I wouldn't still be in touch with the guy, it just made me wonder if others felt the same way."
Cool, I read persisting wrong.
Enjoy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks, I'm not uncomfortable, of I was I wouldn't still be in touch with the guy, it just made me wonder if others felt the same way.
Cool, I read persisting wrong.
Enjoy "
I plan to x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I am attracted to someone and from _iewing their profile I feel they may be interested in chatting with me with a _iew to POTENTIALLY arranging a meet, then I will message them.
Sometimes I am spot on and other times I get it completely wrong which is apparent from their response (or lack of).
By the same token, I have received meesages from people who I would not have messaged as their profile (either thru its content or lack of) suggested to me that I would not be their 'type'
That is about the sum of it - no one is above or below me and likewise I am no better or worse than anyone else here.
Some may like to think differently tho - they can usually be found themselves on my 'do no disturb' list
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