"Is it rude just to say "no?
Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"
its always better to be a bit more polite,,, a gentle easy let down tends to be accepted more gracefully and then you dont get the nasty remarks afterwards  |
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"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.
More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude
For example you get a message saying "let's meet""
“”Let’s not”, would be my reply.
Not to you personally OP but to someone who asked that question and I didn’t want to meet them. |
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"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.
More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude
For example you get a message saying "let's meet"
“”Let’s not”, would be my reply.
Not to you personally OP but to someone who asked that question and I didn’t want to meet them. "
I've tried that  |
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"No.
Why would I use a word of gratitude for something I'm not grateful for?
I'm often described as rude though. Even though as far as I'm concerned I'm perfectly polite  "
I know exactly what you mean |
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I literally had a message asking to see my dick
There was no hello, no how are you or any introduction. I found it quite rude.
So all I wrote was: 'No'
So like some peeps have said, it depends on the question. |
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I do find a stark "no" rude in most circumstances. But...if people have been rude to me on here, and they frequently are, I don't even give them a "no". I think with some people on Fab, you have to be a bit merciless. Everyone else gets a polite response. |
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"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.
More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude
For example you get a message saying "let's meet""
I'd just delete that type of message and not engage at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"Is it rude just to say "no?
Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"
It's not rude. I actually like seeing a message with a 'no', because it provides closure however disappointing it may feel for me. I do understand that women are inundated with messages, so it is what it is. |
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"Is it rude just to say "no?
Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"?? its always better to be a bit more polite,,, a gentle easy let down tends to be accepted more gracefully and then you dont get the nasty remarks afterwards "
Then again… should we have to baby strangers because they can’t control their own temper? |
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No is a complete and unambiguous sentence on its own.
People don't like hearing it because of this. There is less wiggle room for the No-sayer to be swayed into changing their mind.
More women should be comfortable with the power of No.
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"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.
More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude
For example you get a message saying "let's meet""
Even getting round to answering a message like that with 'no' is perhaps more effort than it deserves. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 41 weeks ago
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"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.
More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude
For example you get a message saying "let's meet""
In that case it's fine to just say no.
If they say 'let's meet please' then you probably should add 'thanks' on the end.
Likewise if they send a 'FAFP' message.   |
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By (user no longer on site) 41 weeks ago
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"No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude
Just no to an impolite request is fine
What if they’re not thankful for the message though? "
Still rude
Being not thankful isn’t an excuse to be rude to a polite question/request
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"No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude
Just no to an impolite request is fine
What if they’re not thankful for the message though?
Still rude
Being not thankful isn’t an excuse to be rude to a polite question/request
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It’s lying though, isn’t it?
No is a full and complete sentence. It’s not rude.
If someone asked you if you wanted to meet and you said Yes… that isn’t rude compared to Yes, Please. |
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"No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude
Just no to an impolite request is fine
What if they’re not thankful for the message though?
Still rude
Being not thankful isn’t an excuse to be rude to a polite question/request
It’s lying though, isn’t it?
No is a full and complete sentence. It’s not rude.
If someone asked you if you wanted to meet and you said Yes… that isn’t rude compared to Yes, Please."
We can agree to disagree. It’s just my opinion |
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"I just say no or ignore / delete
Not here to handhold strangers feelings of rejection "
Definitely… a “no” isn’t putting you down in any way… just means your not what they are looking for… there is someone out there for everyone  |
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