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"Yeah, sometimes. It's not about them being too attractive though, it's more, I don't think I'm attractive enough to garner and keep their interest. Note the sometimes. That's an important word. It's a monthly doubt. "I think it’s normal. We have moments. | |||
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Actually I know I’m not their type when people are only looking for one woman, have a history of leaving sites when they get in relationships and coming back again, that kind of thing. My type are people who are committed to non-mongoamy long term and if they don’t want that then I’m not their type. | |||
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"Oh fuck me this is a good one. Pickles i can't explain it. Sometimes women way out of my league think I'm hot. Crazy! Generally I'd say no, my types type is usually 6 foot shaved back and sides classic man type. You know how most good looking men look the same these days? I don't fit that. Usually it's the 'indie girls' who find me cute. Which is my type to a degree but they obviously grow up and then tend to go for the above!" Most women find those men attractive. Not all (I don’t need you to tell me that you don’t Thank you) but most do. That’s why they’re marketable and beauty standards are built around that image. I think it’s a weird one isn’t it. Like you like what you like but the chances of what you like liking you feels slim. Creates a disconnect. Like a strain. It’s interesting | |||
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"I know I’m a fucking catch so I’m never worried about that.
Actually I know I’m not their type when people are only looking for one woman, have a history of leaving sites when they get in relationships and coming back again, that kind of thing. My type are people who are committed to non-mongoamy long term and if they don’t want that then I’m not their type."Hot. I like you. But what about physically  | |||
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"Yeah, sometimes. It's not about them being too attractive though, it's more, I don't think I'm attractive enough to garner and keep their interest. Note the sometimes. That's an important word. It's a monthly doubt.
I think it’s normal. We have moments. "Exactly. I don't really have a physical type. There's a personality type that I'm always putty for but luckily for me it tends to be one that is attracted to my attempts of a personality. | |||
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"Oh fuck me this is a good one. Pickles i can't explain it. Sometimes women way out of my league think I'm hot. Crazy! Generally I'd say no, my types type is usually 6 foot shaved back and sides classic man type. You know how most good looking men look the same these days? I don't fit that. Usually it's the 'indie girls' who find me cute. Which is my type to a degree but they obviously grow up and then tend to go for the above! Most women find those men attractive. Not all (I don’t need you to tell me that you don’t Thank you) but most do. That’s why they’re marketable and beauty standards are built around that image. I think it’s a weird one isn’t it. Like you like what you like but the chances of what you like liking you feels slim. Creates a disconnect. Like a strain. It’s interesting" It is interesting! I just couldn't get that haircut It wouldn't suit me and I like having HAIR | |||
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"I am only going to reply to someone or approach them if I think they might be interested in me. I don’t really want the rejection. If I see their pics and veris are full of women that are not a similar type of body shape then I would rule myself out straight away. Kx" Interesting. I get that. But let’s take out the verifications. They don’t display them. You’re on a dating app whatever. How do you know? | |||
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"Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type? Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you? Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless? "I often feel that I won't be someones type - not just physically but also I'm super chatty and I don't know how to be still (MrAbz has found a way to make me shut off but only him), chaos tends to surround me. So, if I find someone attractive I usually think they won't like me. Sometimes I just go for it though! Clearly just a chaotic choice in a moment of madness. MrsAbz | |||
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"Yeah, sometimes. It's not about them being too attractive though, it's more, I don't think I'm attractive enough to garner and keep their interest. Note the sometimes. That's an important word. It's a monthly doubt.
I think it’s normal. We have moments.
Exactly. I don't really have a physical type. There's a personality type that I'm always putty for but luckily for me it tends to be one that is attracted to my attempts of a personality."I think we don’t often have a physical type but still end up with more people with certain features than others. You like women of all races but most of the women you’ve been with are Black- you like women that are interested in certain things and so they’re from or embracing of a particular culture. (That’s just an example) If you get that? | |||
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"When I think about it realistically, yeah it’s bleak I’m a very average/below average guy that has an above average type So when I think about it, they are gonna be getting offers from guys way above me. Taller, better lookin, better lifestyle more money etc etc Still shoot my shot, anything else would be giving up, but I’m not shocked or surprised or even disappointed when it doesn’t land. I know where I’m at and I either gotta accept that or settle for less " I get you. I feel this | |||
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"Oh very much so. If the couple or woman is too hot it is a little daunting. But when I decided fuck it and message I don't get a reply then it kicks me back to reality. I'm definitely more personality than looks and hard to get that across on social platforms like fabs. " It is daunting I get that. But they’re just people right. Not their fault they’re so attractive | |||
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"I am only going to reply to someone or approach them if I think they might be interested in me. I don’t really want the rejection. If I see their pics and veris are full of women that are not a similar type of body shape then I would rule myself out straight away. Kx Interesting. I get that. But let’s take out the verifications. They don’t display them. You’re on a dating app whatever. How do you know?" Good point as I’ve actually recently gone back to one such app. I’ll probably get shot down for this but I think a lot of people stick to their own type so I think geeky looking guys like geeky looking girls and gym fit guys like gym for girls. So I guess I’m looking for middle aged dad bods
I’m not looking to be anyone’s easy shag so yeah although I know people would have sex with me even if I’m not their type, for me I want to feel like the person does really find me attractive. | |||
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"I know I’m a fucking catch so I’m never worried about that.
Actually I know I’m not their type when people are only looking for one woman, have a history of leaving sites when they get in relationships and coming back again, that kind of thing. My type are people who are committed to non-mongoamy long term and if they don’t want that then I’m not their type.
Hot. I like you.
But what about physically "No, I never worry I’m not someone’s type physically. People have eyes and can use them. | |||
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"Oh very much so. If the couple or woman is too hot it is a little daunting. But when I decided fuck it and message I don't get a reply then it kicks me back to reality. I'm definitely more personality than looks and hard to get that across on social platforms like fabs. It is daunting I get that. But they’re just people right. Not their fault they’re so attractive "Very true. Must be a curse and a burden to be so hot and sexy  | |||
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"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair. Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks? " This has made me giggle
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"I think we don’t often have a physical type but still end up with more people with certain features than others. You like women of all races but most of the women you’ve been with are Black- you like women that are interested in certain things and so they’re from or embracing of a particular culture. (That’s just an example) If you get that?" It's the Lord's Day. Not only that but it's not even midday. It's way, way, way too early to be disturbing* my peace like this with race. I do understand what you're saying but physically there really hasn't been any notable similarities for many years. In my younger years I went through phases whilst I was forming an identity - alt girls, lecturers, gamers, rugby boys, city boys/girls, pilots. I guess that's kind of what you mean? At those times in my life I didn't worry about it because I knew I was attractive to them. I did worry about being intelligent enough to keep up with them (some of them). *I'm teasing you, tongue firmly in cheek. | |||
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"I feel like I'm always going to be a bit of a let down in person. I often think people are too hot for me and it really surprises me that some of the people I've met have wanted me (and more than once which means it wasn't a fluke or a pity fuck) I don't say this for sympathy etc it's genuinely how I feel. In the past it has stopped me meeting people, however now I push past those insecurities and just go anyway. " This is very much same for me but with a difference - after a few obvious pity fucks I stopped meeting people completely as I can’t make myself push through those insecurities. | |||
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"Yeah, sometimes. Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason. " But a lot of people don't display sexual veris..... | |||
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"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off. J" How would you know? | |||
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"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair. Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks? " I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence 
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"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off. J How would you know? " You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then. J | |||
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"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off. J How would you know? You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then. J" I can’t believe people check veris (like go on other profiles from them) 
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"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off. J How would you know? You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then. J" But one cannot trust the forums to make a decision - surely everyone flirts a little because its fun? Therefore, they may want you most but still flirtatious with others? MrsAbz (still in a pondering mood) | |||
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"Oh more interesting ponderings. Yes, if they seem to have a type and I think I don't fit that I might be put off. J How would you know? You said to pretend we can't see veris but that's bullshit. You're going to if they're there so I'm answering realistically. If it's someone from the forums (OMG she went there) I'm going to see who else they're horndogging after and think, yeah not me then. J But one cannot trust the forums to make a decision - surely everyone flirts a little because its fun? Therefore, they may want you most but still flirtatious with others? MrsAbz (still in a pondering mood)" I flirt with everyone.  | |||
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"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair. Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks? I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence
J"I thought it would be a ‘fake it till you make it’ type situation and I would learn as we went along. All I’ve learnt is if there’s a zombie apocalypse, I’m f*cked. | |||
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"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair. Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks? I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence
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I thought it would be a ‘fake it till you make it’ type situation and I would learn as we went along.
All I’ve learnt is if there’s a zombie apocalypse, I’m f*cked."A tent ain’t gonna save you babe | |||
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” " If a man says it vs if a woman does? | |||
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” If a man says it vs if a woman does?" Kidding btw  | |||
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"Yeah, sometimes. Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason. But a lot of people don't display sexual veris..... " True but I’m still going to look
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"Yeah, sometimes. Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason. But a lot of people don't display sexual veris..... True but I’m still going to look
If all they all look nothing like I do I’m going to assume I’m not their type. "Can someone please tell Mrs Shiv that unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type? | |||
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"Yeah, sometimes. Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason. But a lot of people don't display sexual veris..... True but I’m still going to look
If all they all look nothing like I do I’m going to assume I’m not their type. "Good luck! | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x" Must be nice | |||
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"Message for Mrs Shivs from my hot mate. He says : unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type? "Please | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x" Kinda like a normal fab user then? I agree. And sometimes they don't feel the same back but we still have a nice hot chat about kink! It's fine! | |||
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"Message for Mrs Shivs from my hot mate. He says : unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type?
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"Yeah, sometimes. Veris are the bane of my life and I’m trying to get better at not snooping to see who they’ve met previously for this reason. But a lot of people don't display sexual veris..... True but I’m still going to look
If all they all look nothing like I do I’m going to assume I’m not their type.
Can someone please tell Mrs Shiv that unless the person has had some form of head injury, she is everyone's type?"MrsShiv you are delectable and everyones type bar the head injury contingent Done
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Must be nice" Try it | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Must be nice Try it "I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t? | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Must be nice Try it "I can collectively speak for the guys here and say we have been, with horrible results | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Kinda like a normal fab user then? I agree. And sometimes they don't feel the same back but we still have a nice hot chat about kink! It's fine!" Uh oh, normal? Danger, Brucey, danger! | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Must be nice Try it
I can collectively speak for the guys here and say we have been, with horrible results " fr | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Must be nice Try it
I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t? "I don't know, I'm not a man. Does all the pondering about whose type you are make it easier, though? Or yield more positive results? | |||
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Must be nice Try it
I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t?
I don't know, I'm not a man. Does all the pondering about whose type you are make it easier, though? Or yield more positive results? "No. But less messages sent = less rejection. Quick maths  | |||
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"I had an ex who wasn’t my type and I wasn’t his. He was very outdoorsy and competent and I’m a really good liar and said I was too on our first date. Fast forward a few years and we’re trying to put up a tent in the rain, he’s shouting, I’m crying (with laughter, the whole thing was a shit show) and he goes ‘THIS IS WHY PEOPLE HAVE TYPES’ and tbh that was fair. Looks wise? I veer away from my type all the time as attraction isn’t just based on looks, so why would I expect them to only care about looks? I love this! Yeah, if someone is looking for a sporty type I'm never going to be able to fake compétence
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I thought it would be a ‘fake it till you make it’ type situation and I would learn as we went along.
All I’ve learnt is if there’s a zombie apocalypse, I’m f*cked."I'm hoping my life is never dependent on me being able to play rounders. 
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"I don't mean to come across as a dick here. But honestly, if I like someone on fab, I dm them and tell them. Then we go from there. I don't think about it much more than that. Mrs TMN x Must be nice Try it
I’m a man on fab, do you think I haven’t?
I don't know, I'm not a man. Does all the pondering about whose type you are make it easier, though? Or yield more positive results?
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” " I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
J"So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then Anyone else? | |||
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
J"Julie. Repeat after me. Only wanting to get naked with people you like isn't being ridiculously picky. Mrs TMN x | |||
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
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So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then
Anyone else? "Well not your pole or glory hole if that helps narrow it down
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
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So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then
Anyone else?
Well not your pole or glory hole if that helps narrow it down
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"All the time….. as I no normally in everyday life out on the street or a public setting with my clothes on hardly any would be interested. " Are you kidding!? That body is not hiding itself through any clothes kinky! | |||
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
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So that’s a tick on “any hole/poles a goal” then
Anyone else?
Well not your pole or glory hole if that helps narrow it down
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Penis only sadly, I’m very picky too in that regard "Hurrah, we have both sank each other's battleship. Anyone else want to see if their pole or hole is my goal?
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
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"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures. Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise. But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about." Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me “Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle” It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts. It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother | |||
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"Sometimes you gotta just go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained is what I say" I have given up making myself look like a wally I shall just perv privately lol | |||
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
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What if you were blindfolded?! Asking for a friend "You are definitely my type you gorgeous woman. April Entice...? Also to further derail Pickle's thread, I love being blindfolded but not sure I could do it with unknown people even with a chaperone. I've thought about though... J | |||
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"At what point does not having a type go from “I’m more about personality” into “any holes a goal” I don't have a type but I'm ridiculously picky
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Julie. Repeat after me. Only wanting to get naked with people you like isn't being ridiculously picky.
Mrs TMN x"I'm repeating
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"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures. Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise. But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about. Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me “Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle” It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts. It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother " Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point? | |||
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"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures. Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise. But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about. Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me “Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle” It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts. It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point?" That’s interesting, I always assumed that was a guys issue, not a woman’s These beautiful women i see on yachts and expensive resorts in Dubai, I don’t assume they are minted and paying for themselves. I assume their beauty is giving them access to guys that can afford to give them a luxury lifestyle that I can’t match Very interesting to hear you think in a similar way | |||
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"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures. Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise. But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about. Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me “Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle” It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts. It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point? That’s interesting, I always assumed that was a guys issue, not a woman’s These beautiful women i see on yachts and expensive resorts in Dubai, I don’t assume they are minted and paying for themselves. I assume their beauty is giving them access to guys that can afford to give them a luxury lifestyle that I can’t match Very interesting to hear you think in a similar way " It's not even wether I could keep up with the finances (which I couldnt) it's more vaules. And I am being judgmental here but, for somebody to show off that image it makes me feel like they care more about their image than their connections with others. I've had 2 girlfriends who were "brand girls" 1 of them would dig me out for spending loads on music gear but had over 100 pairs of designer shoes? | |||
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" It is daunting I get that. But they’re just people right. Not their fault they’re so attractive "Thanks, that's such a comfort
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"I really don't think anyone should just go from pictures on here as pictures can be extremely deceiving. The right angles and filters and you have a totally different person. If we like someone I do tend to have a nose through their veris and profile to see if they have a type before I message.. " That's why I think chatting on here is so important. You get a feel for the person, although often it's tricky on here with the limited text chat function. From there we'd possibly meet up, rare but it does happen. And if anything happens after that then fabulous. If not, then I've made a new friend. | |||
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"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though. "You’re my type and you know it. | |||
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You are definitely my type you gorgeous woman. April Entice...?
Also to further derail Pickle's thread, I love being blindfolded but not sure I could do it with unknown people even with a chaperone. I've thought about though...
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"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though. "Yeh. I know that feeling. It’s definitely the disappointment of knowing they tick all your important boxes. And none of that maters if you don’t tick theirs. *woody pulls up a chair and sighs.  | |||
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"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though.
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"I really don't think anyone should just go from pictures on here as pictures can be extremely deceiving. The right angles and filters and you have a totally different person. If we like someone I do tend to have a nose through their veris and profile to see if they have a type before I message.. " That is my worry... People build an image in their heads of how you present yourself in photos - or is that just ne superimposing my worries perhaps! Who knows until you meet | |||
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"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though.
Yeh. I know that feeling. It’s definitely the disappointment of knowing they tick all your important boxes. And none of that maters if you don’t tick theirs.
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"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though. "Don't take that rejection too hard. People change over time. From your forum posts you seem like the kind of person that I like. From your pictures I'd say the kind of person I'd like to meet. The rest would depend on how we interacted and if we were comfortable and happy to possibly take things further. And remember, you're pickle's type, and he's well fussy. | |||
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"That is my worry... People build an image in their heads of how you present yourself in photos - or is that just ne superimposing my worries perhaps! Who knows until you meet "Well if you will insist on taking such great photos, Midders …
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"Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type? Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you? Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless? "I feel like this all the damn time
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"This is why I like clubs. You can tell in an instant if attraction is there and mutual. I've never understood this concept In that setting . but never experienced a club ." Well it works for me. Saves ping pong messaging and trying to find convenient times for both parties to meet only to figure out you aren't compatible for whatever reason | |||
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"I can be a shy* dude so I generally don't shoot my shot, but especially to women with an alt/punk/goth aesthetic (which I like). For some reason I always feel like I'm not their type. Also my laid back nature feels like a detriment when I find myself attracted to a very outgoing, boisterous woman. All of that is just me being in my head too much." Shy* dude; what a word to miss. | |||
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"This is why I like clubs. You can tell in an instant if attraction is there and mutual. I've never understood this concept In that setting . but never experienced a club . Well it works for me. Saves ping pong messaging and trying to find convenient times for both parties to meet only to figure out you aren't compatible for whatever reason" That makes a lot of sense . Call me old fashioned lol | |||
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"Online yeh, but maybe more to do with their style/pictures. Looks wise not really, im not sure what they go for looks wise. But if there's a lady wearing all designer everything and all of her pictures are her at flashy looking establishments then I'd think she wouldn't be into me as thats not what I'm about. Think that’s one of the biggest ones for me “Would I be able to afford/keep up with her type of lifestyle” It’s no surprise these days that all the very beautiful women have endless pictures of them on expensive holidays, high end resorts in Dubai, out on big yachts. It’s about knowing my limits. Have I swiped on these type of women and matched? Sure. Could I keep myself to that lifestyle of level of luxury she clearly used to? No. So why bother Oh fair. I do the exact same with men. If they're talking on dating sites about holidays abroad and have a fancy car - I swipe left. What's the point? That’s interesting, I always assumed that was a guys issue, not a woman’s These beautiful women i see on yachts and expensive resorts in Dubai, I don’t assume they are minted and paying for themselves. I assume their beauty is giving them access to guys that can afford to give them a luxury lifestyle that I can’t match Very interesting to hear you think in a similar way It's not even wether I could keep up with the finances (which I couldnt) it's more vaules. And I am being judgmental here but, for somebody to show off that image it makes me feel like they care more about their image than their connections with others. I've had 2 girlfriends who were "brand girls" 1 of them would dig me out for spending loads on music gear but had over 100 pairs of designer shoes?" Even if I had the money, I wouldn't buy designer shoes. My ex is obsessed with status and luxury - never my values and I don't find offers from men to take me to Michelin restaurants etc attractive. The sports car, the designer clothes etc - that just says not for me. Even here. | |||
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"I really don't think anyone should just go from pictures on here as pictures can be extremely deceiving. The right angles and filters and you have a totally different person. If we like someone I do tend to have a nose through their veris and profile to see if they have a type before I message.. That is my worry... People build an image in their heads of how you present yourself in photos - or is that just ne superimposing my worries perhaps! Who knows until you meet "I worry less about the photos and more about the perception derived from words. I'm quiet in real life, softly spoken and happy to be a wallflower and listen to others hold court. I'm alway honest about this in messages and on forums. There are a lot of big personalities here, and I don't want to be mistaken for being the same - I think that would lead to bigger disappointment than anything presented through the pics Xx | |||
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"I honestly never worried about being someone's type when I was on here as a couple, because I really didn't care. I was already someone's type. Turn out I wasn't though.
Yeh. I know that feeling. It’s definitely the disappointment of knowing they tick all your important boxes. And none of that maters if you don’t tick theirs.
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"I don’t think they’re TOO attractive for me, and that’s a different question to what you’re asking. But I often think that I’m not a woman’s type. Because I’m a guy who notices the front of men’s health magazines, and I noticed all the profiles on this forum that the ladies fawn over, i’t’s a very society accepted perfect man image. Am I an idiot thinking like that? Probably. I’m late 40s average height slim male. So often think I’m not a ladies type. "What you see on here is a very small snapshot...and therefore a very small number of women fawning over a particular type of man | |||
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"All the time….. as I know normally in everyday life out on the street or a public setting with my clothes on hardly any would be interested. Are you kidding!? That body is not hiding itself through any clothes kinky!" Well it must be the face | |||
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"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster… Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them? Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging" No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest. | |||
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"Inspired by MrsAbz’s thread, do you ever feel like you’re not going to be someone’s type? Like you think they’re too attractive? Or maybe they’re too slim/ athletic and they won’t like you? Or do you not care and just shoot your shot regardless? "I feel this all the time. And then I appear to go after people who are a pattern and not a healthy one. So there’s a lot to unpack. | |||
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"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster… Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them? Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest. " You’re such an icon I literally want to be you | |||
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"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster… Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them? Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest. You’re such an icon I literally want to be you" There should be an ‘in’ somewhere in that sentence | |||
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"I think I'm fairly good as sussing out when I won't be someone's type. It's not that I think I'm unattractive, but I know I'm a fairly acquired taste in society writ large, so will assume I'm not someone's type until suggested otherwise. On here, it can be pretty obvious - they might specify so on a profile - or their type is clear from the people they meet." I get you. I feel the assuming you’re not someone’s type until suggested otherwise bit especially on here. | |||
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"I have a few types. Sometimes I just know and it makes the banter and interactions incredible. Other times I don’t think I’m there type at all, but we still have great interactions. Then they drop it to me that they just didn’t think I was interested and I look at them confused like ‘bruh ’"Ain’t no way a thicc girl didn’t think she was your type?! Ain’t no way!!! | |||
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"Sexually there is a type that I will shy away from, because unless you are 100% switch that’s a recipe for disaster… Physically…. I don’t give a shiny shit. If I’m not attractive to someone they shouldn’t approach. What about you messaging/ approaching them? Is there a physical type that you’d be shy about messaging No. I just don’t approach out of sheer laziness to be honest. You’re such an icon I literally want to be you There should be an ‘in’ somewhere in that sentence" | |||
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"I have a few types. Sometimes I just know and it makes the banter and interactions incredible. Other times I don’t think I’m there type at all, but we still have great interactions. Then they drop it to me that they just didn’t think I was interested and I look at them confused like ‘bruh ’
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"I have a few types. Sometimes I just know and it makes the banter and interactions incredible. Other times I don’t think I’m there type at all, but we still have great interactions. Then they drop it to me that they just didn’t think I was interested and I look at them confused like ‘bruh ’
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