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You aren't feeling sexy?
Mt confidence has plummeted recently, I'm not feeling sexy in myself and it's put me off meeting anyone until I'm a bit happier with myself.
Do you still meet when you aren't feeling your best?
Mrs |
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By *eliWoman 42 weeks ago
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No. Well, there's one person I'm happy to because sex/no sex I still really enjoy spending time with him and I don't feel bad if I rock up in Uggs and an oversized jumper and we just snuggle or I watch him game and yeah...
But when I'm not feeling particularly desirable, it's normally because of other things going on. I don't think it would fair for people who are probably wanting the Meli experience. So socially, yes. Sexually. No. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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Nope tryed it before and didn’t work out
got stood up made me feel even more unsexy
And to make matters worse
Throw up the meet now flag and just took any old meet that came my direction
After it was sed and done I felt worse |
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Usually in winter when I'm in cave mode and feel like I'd burst into flames in the clear light of day I don't pursue meets or put energy into new connections.
If I'm feeling really off I tend not to meet but I might hang out with someone I'm close to because those cuddles are healing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I think winter is a hard season - most of us put on weight and are used to being smothered in layers, so we don't pay attention to our skin or bodies and pretty easily the sexy has gone into hibernation...
I'm sure Spring will bring you some va-va-voooooom |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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Maybe. It would depend who. But I do t always meet people and I tend to have sex. I just meet people and I tend to have a good time whatever we do. Sometimes it feels sexy to rip each others cloths off, and sometimes it light flirting, and other times it’s just lovely company.
I wouldn’t NOT meet up if I wasn’t feeling it.
But, somebody expected sex to be on the cards, and I wasn’t feeling it, I probably duck out not agree to meet up. 
You’ll get your sexy back op. Sexy people do   |
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"Maybe. It would depend who. But I do t always meet people and I tend to have sex. I just meet people and I tend to have a good time whatever we do. Sometimes it feels sexy to rip each others cloths off, and sometimes it light flirting, and other times it’s just lovely company.
I wouldn’t NOT meet up if I wasn’t feeling it.
But, somebody expected sex to be on the cards, and I wasn’t feeling it, I probably duck out not agree to meet up.
You’ll get your sexy back op. Sexy people do "
Thanks Woody you are a good egg.
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"Oh god no. I need to be feeling "it" before I even think about feeling anyone else x"
This is my thoughts too, I guess I kinda feel bad for not making plans I said I'd make..... But I'm not feeling myself and I don't think I'd be able to relax enough without thinking I'm a flump or I'll be a disappointment - I need to be in that I feel sexy state of mind to even think about meeting again.
The people pleaser in my feels bad I guess.
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"Oh god no. I need to be feeling "it" before I even think about feeling anyone else x
This is my thoughts too, I guess I kinda feel bad for not making plans I said I'd make..... But I'm not feeling myself and I don't think I'd be able to relax enough without thinking I'm a flump or I'll be a disappointment - I need to be in that I feel sexy state of mind to even think about meeting again.
The people pleaser in my feels bad I guess.
Mrs "
I totally get where you are coming from. I'm sure you'll find your mojo lurking around somewhere and you'll be raring to go in no time x |
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By *a LunaWoman 42 weeks ago
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I have done. I once went ahead with a then regular FWB meet when my Sciatica was playing up. I struggled getting out of my car at the Hotel. I shuffled, bent over, across the car park like someone had just mugged me of a walking stick.
Got to the Hotel room. He had to help me take my jeans off. I couldn’t really do much. He made me laugh and my back went into spasm. I could have cried!
He helped me get dressed and off home I went.
I think we both wished I hadn’t bothered that night  and I’ve no idea why I went like that. I didn’t want to let him down I guess. |
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If I'm not up for sexy things I make sure I'm only meeting people I'm happy to meet socially and that they know I'm not in that headspace beforehand.
I wouldn't try and push myself to feel sexy when I don't. It's not fair on anyone involved when that happens.
I hope you feel better soon  |
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By *bi HaiveMan 42 weeks ago
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I'm gonna buck the trend a bit.
I never assume sex is on the cards, even if meeting someone I already know, because regardless of what's going on in my head/life I can never be 100% aware of what's going on in theirs til we meet. So I'd meet, because a good social is as much fun as a physical meet, even if its just to watch a movie, eat pizza or play scrabble.
I've also met someone before who said the same thing, that they weren't 'feeling sexy', prior to us meeting that night, but they didnt want to cancel last minute. Turned out it was down to recent weight gain combined with a visit from mother nature, so completely understandable. Their confidence had taken a knock and they were down. The meet actually went really well, they got some reassurance from me and we had a great evening chilling, joking, cuddling and snogging. It ended up becoming more physical later too.
So an initial headspace of not being in the mood changed.
I guess it's down to the reason someone doesn't feel sexy or in the mood. But sometimes a meet (whether social or physical) can be good medicine and the pick me up someone needs to feel better.
Just a thought.
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By *stellaWoman 42 weeks ago
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"You aren't feeling sexy?
Mt confidence has plummeted recently, I'm not feeling sexy in myself and it's put me off meeting anyone until I'm a bit happier with myself.
Do you still meet when you aren't feeling your best?
Mrs "
No, absolutely not. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman 42 weeks ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J "
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy. |
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"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J "
This is fair.
There are people I can still see (with the heads up that I'm not quite feeling myself and might not get to that space before committing) and being with them can bring me back around to the sexy feeling. But I need it to be someone I have that level of connection with. I wouldn't meet a new person or spend time with a more casual connection when I'm feeling unsexy. Personally |
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I haven’t been feeling myself lately (not like that, you filthy perverts) so I haven’t been meeting anyone.
If I’m not physically well, my mojo fucks off into hiding. I figure most people are the same (not everyone, but most people) so I figure most people will understand. It only takes a bout of flu or a virus going round to put me right off sex for a bit.
It’s temporary. My mojo will return.
’Tis but a flesh wound, and all that. |
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"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J "
Thats how I feel - being desired even when I don't feel desirable makes me still want to be open and with that person.
My confidence is low atm but some people make me feel attractive so would still meet them, if that makes sense?
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By *bi HaiveMan 42 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy."
Bloody copycats the pair of you....  |
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"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.
Bloody copycats the pair of you.... "
Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same. 
J |
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By *otSoPoshWoman 42 weeks ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.
Bloody copycats the pair of you....
Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.
J"
And my answer wasn't quite the same.
So ner |
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"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.
Bloody copycats the pair of you....
Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.
J
And my answer wasn't quite the same.
So ner "
Yeah, ner.
Posh! 
Jx |
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By *otSoPoshWoman 42 weeks ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.
Bloody copycats the pair of you....
Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.
J
And my answer wasn't quite the same.
So ner
Yeah, ner.
Posh!
Jx"
Julie! |
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By *bi HaiveMan 42 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.
Bloody copycats the pair of you....
Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.
J
And my answer wasn't quite the same.
So ner
Yeah, ner.
Posh!
Jx
Julie! "
Ner
Nice to see you back anyhoo. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman 42 weeks ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.
J
My answer is her answer, mostly.
It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.
Bloody copycats the pair of you....
Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.
J
And my answer wasn't quite the same.
So ner
Yeah, ner.
Posh!
Jx
Julie!
Ner
Nice to see you back anyhoo. "
You've always preferred my back to my front  |
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