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Feel sad/disappointed for a day or 2.
Accept that sometimes things don't work out the way we want.
Focus your energy on something more fulfilling.
Sorry you're feeling bad, OP. |
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It is what it is. Isn't it?
You can't change it. They (whoever) have decided you aren't worth a response. So why are you allowing yourself to be bothered.
Their loss.
Don't allow them to live rent free in your head. |
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"how do you deal with being ghosted?"
It depends on definition being ghosted.
In my mind if I never met and just suddenly stoped chatting - that’s not ghosting. It’s just we aren’t good match. No problem at all
If we met and I was said it was nice and we should repeat but then no response at all even no NoThanksIChangeMyMind. That’s rude and shows emotional immaturity. Well, I don’t need that in my life. Delete all messages, block on all communication tools and move on. |
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You have no choice but to deal. I was ghosted recently after i spent the night with a goy who beforehand was mega kèen. Talked about travelling going to plays etc. The next day he said his mum was ill and he would be in touch soon. Never heard from him again. Beware the overly keen!!
Just move on to the next. The idiots are not worth our time. If they do not see our worth we find someone who does. |
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"how do you deal with being ghosted?
It depends on definition being ghosted.
In my mind if I never met and just suddenly stoped chatting - that’s not ghosting. It’s just we aren’t good match. No problem at all
If we met and I was said it was nice and we should repeat but then no response at all even no NoThanksIChangeMyMind. That’s rude and shows emotional immaturity. Well, I don’t need that in my life. Delete all messages, block on all communication tools and move on. "
Agree with this. People I have just started talking to I’m not bothered about at all. Sometimes it’s easier than saying you’re not interested. I get that.
If it was someone I had met then I would hope by then we’ve developed a bit of a friendship as that’s how I do things so yeah I’d probably be disappointed. The depth of feeling would depend on how much effort i had put into them and how much I liked them. I doubt it would last long though. I’d probably easily distract myself with someone else 
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By (user no longer on site) OP 52 weeks ago
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"Sob into my pillow for a day then pull my big girl pants up and move on!
I don't really have a problem with it, tbh, how do You cope with it OP?"
big girl pants needed.
not coping with it tbh |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 52 weeks ago
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"It is what it is. Isn't it?
You can't change it. They (whoever) have decided you aren't worth a response. So why are you allowing yourself to be bothered.
Their loss.
Don't allow them to live rent free in your head."
because after seeing someone regularly for over 2 years you'd assume you were worthy of a goodbye, rather than just being deleted/ignored. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 52 weeks ago
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"how do you deal with being ghosted?
It depends on definition being ghosted.
In my mind if I never met and just suddenly stoped chatting - that’s not ghosting. It’s just we aren’t good match. No problem at all
If we met and I was said it was nice and we should repeat but then no response at all even no NoThanksIChangeMyMind. That’s rude and shows emotional immaturity. Well, I don’t need that in my life. Delete all messages, block on all communication tools and move on.
Agree with this. People I have just started talking to I’m not bothered about at all. Sometimes it’s easier than saying you’re not interested. I get that.
If it was someone I had met then I would hope by then we’ve developed a bit of a friendship as that’s how I do things so yeah I’d probably be disappointed. The depth of feeling would depend on how much effort i had put into them and how much I liked them. I doubt it would last long though. I’d probably easily distract myself with someone else
Kx"
a distraction is definitely needed |
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"It is what it is. Isn't it?
You can't change it. They (whoever) have decided you aren't worth a response. So why are you allowing yourself to be bothered.
Their loss.
Don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
because after seeing someone regularly for over 2 years you'd assume you were worthy of a goodbye, rather than just being deleted/ignored."
Thats awful. Genuinely.
My point was more along the lines of. They've clearly got no respect. So don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
Turn your hurt into anger, forgive but don't forget and realise your clearly worth more.
There is absolutely nothing you can do about it. So don't let it affect you negatively for very long. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 52 weeks ago
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"Feel sad/disappointed for a day or 2.
Accept that sometimes things don't work out the way we want.
Focus your energy on something more fulfilling.
Sorry you're feeling bad, OP."
thank you. just feeling a bit meh! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 52 weeks ago
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"It is what it is. Isn't it?
You can't change it. They (whoever) have decided you aren't worth a response. So why are you allowing yourself to be bothered.
Their loss.
Don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
because after seeing someone regularly for over 2 years you'd assume you were worthy of a goodbye, rather than just being deleted/ignored.
Thats awful. Genuinely.
My point was more along the lines of. They've clearly got no respect. So don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
Turn your hurt into anger, forgive but don't forget and realise your clearly worth more.
There is absolutely nothing you can do about it. So don't let it affect you negatively for very long."
Yeah I deserve better, just wish he would realise it |
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"It is what it is. Isn't it?
You can't change it. They (whoever) have decided you aren't worth a response. So why are you allowing yourself to be bothered.
Their loss.
Don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
because after seeing someone regularly for over 2 years you'd assume you were worthy of a goodbye, rather than just being deleted/ignored.
Thats awful. Genuinely.
My point was more along the lines of. They've clearly got no respect. So don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
Turn your hurt into anger, forgive but don't forget and realise your clearly worth more.
There is absolutely nothing you can do about it. So don't let it affect you negatively for very long.
Yeah I deserve better, just wish he would realise it"
He will.
And It'll be too late. Please don't spend your time waiting for him to realise.
Your only here once. Put yourself first and find someone / something that makes you feel good (heart) |
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If I've met them, I'd probably feel a bit miffed, but leave them to it.
If it's someone I've spoken to only, I put a private note on their profile to remind me, for when they start messaging again as if nothing happened.
Sadly people lack the balls to say they've moved on or they had other options. |
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"how do you deal with being ghosted?
It depends on definition being ghosted.
In my mind if I never met and just suddenly stoped chatting - that’s not ghosting. It’s just we aren’t good match. No problem at all
If we met and I was said it was nice and we should repeat but then no response at all even no NoThanksIChangeMyMind. That’s rude and shows emotional immaturity. Well, I don’t need that in my life. Delete all messages, block on all communication tools and move on.
Agree with this. People I have just started talking to I’m not bothered about at all. Sometimes it’s easier than saying you’re not interested. I get that.
If it was someone I had met then I would hope by then we’ve developed a bit of a friendship as that’s how I do things so yeah I’d probably be disappointed. The depth of feeling would depend on how much effort i had put into them and how much I liked them. I doubt it would last long though. I’d probably easily distract myself with someone else
Kx
a distraction is definitely needed"
I am sure they’ll be plenty of people happy to help distract you  if not I find a new pair of shoes or lingerie always makes me feel better |
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By *ooBulMan 52 weeks ago
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I'd go & enjoy myself like it was my last day on this mortal coil...
Go to club events, make reviews, take more pics of yer self having fun, find yer beau.
You just picked yer frog. Find yer prince....
Life is really way to short. You have to go through something else shitty to realise this. Don't give it another thought.
Grab life by the balls.
There!!! That's as near as to Mr Motivator as I can get.    |
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"It is what it is. Isn't it?
You can't change it. They (whoever) have decided you aren't worth a response. So why are you allowing yourself to be bothered.
Their loss.
Don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
because after seeing someone regularly for over 2 years you'd assume you were worthy of a goodbye, rather than just being deleted/ignored."
Im so sorry OP. I’ve been in this situation twice. What the other person doesn’t seem to realise and what they clearly don’t care about is how you begin to question yourself. It robs you of your confidence, destroys your sense of self worth. After all that time, all that investment of energy and care and attention, am I not even worthy of an explanation, or even just saying goodbye to? Did nothing mean anything? It’s an awful feeling, and such insensitivity is hard to process. Sending cuddles Xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 52 weeks ago
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I'm sorry OP. I think the tendency for many of us when ghosted is to look internally for some reason why. I've had men ghost me after meeting them multiple times over months. In one case talking almost every day.
It's not something I would do to someone. I think you'd say the same. I figured I didn't want someone in my life who'd treat me so shabbily. I deserved more. So do you.  |
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By *eliWoman 52 weeks ago
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"It is what it is. Isn't it?
You can't change it. They (whoever) have decided you aren't worth a response. So why are you allowing yourself to be bothered.
Their loss.
Don't allow them to live rent free in your head.
because after seeing someone regularly for over 2 years you'd assume you were worthy of a goodbye, rather than just being deleted/ignored.
Im so sorry OP. I’ve been in this situation twice. What the other person doesn’t seem to realise and what they clearly don’t care about is how you begin to question yourself. It robs you of your confidence, destroys your sense of self worth. After all that time, all that investment of energy and care and attention, am I not even worthy of an explanation, or even just saying goodbye to? Did nothing mean anything? It’s an awful feeling, and such insensitivity is hard to process. Sending cuddles Xx"
Very much this. OP, give yourself the space and time to be sad. Allow yourself to feel those emotions. Remember though, it's not a reflection of you. More their inability to be emotionally mature. Don't give it too much headspace, as much as possible. x |
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"Sob into my pillow for a day then pull my big girl pants up and move on!
I don't really have a problem with it, tbh, how do You cope with it OP?
big girl pants needed.
not coping with it tbh "
You are allowed to have feelings. Try and be kind to yourself. Think of it as a reflection of them and who they are in terms of integrity xx |
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By *r TriomanMan 52 weeks ago
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"Don't go looking for reasons or try to analyse it. He's not worthy of you.
Get out and have a "sorbet" fling to cleanse the palate. Then move on "
"Sorbet fling", love it, great expression!
Do your lips taste like sorbet Cougar Silk? I'd love to find out. |
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"Sob into my pillow for a day then pull my big girl pants up and move on!
I don't really have a problem with it, tbh, how do You cope with it OP?"
Leave the big girl pants off, you will find the freedom so enticing  |
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"You have no choice but to deal. I was ghosted recently after i spent the night with a goy who beforehand was mega kèen. Talked about travelling going to plays etc. The next day he said his mum was ill and he would be in touch soon. Never heard from him again. Beware the overly keen!!
Just move on to the next. The idiots are not worth our time. If they do not see our worth we find someone who does."
Having seen your profile, that is very much his loss and your gain |
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