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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Um.
I don't think I do.
I have some things I'm working on in myself. But there's nothing I'm wishing for rather than actively trying to achieve  "
Right so... let's play along and what are you actively trying to achieve a state of better in?  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What do you wish you were better at?
Sexually.
And non-sexually.
Blow jobs.
Brushing my teeth."
Can you combine the two? Gargle with the results of the former to help the latter? Sure salt can be used for pulling. |
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"Um.
I don't think I do.
I have some things I'm working on in myself. But there's nothing I'm wishing for rather than actively trying to achieve
Right so... let's play along and what are you actively trying to achieve a state of better in? "
Sexually I'm working on my body confidence. I hate that sometimes I can still feel that self conscious urge to hide the parts I like least aesthetically. I get my tits out a lot more in person these days though, so that's huge steps from where I was a couple of years ago.
Non sexually, expressing negative emotions effectively without getting overemotional |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sexually: Giving BJs
Non sexually: Football or pushups. I wanna be able to blast out 100 perfect Royal Marine style pushups."
Oh that's a good one! I don't think I could do one. Might go and try that soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's an easy one, but it's not a wish but rather something I need to actively work upon as I'm fairly certain it's overcome-able . If I can overcome it, I feel it's going to open up so much more of the world for me.  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Squatting on a dick.
Walking. "
Do you know what would be really handy? If there were exercise videos aimed at those who want to be good sexually. Like, do these moves and your core will be strong enough to ride a dick for thirty minutes. I'd subscribe to that sort of thing. |
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Sexually - I’m pretty shit at the sex thing but enthusiastic so either take me as I am or move on.
Non sexually - my communication skills.
As per keeping in touch with family and friends.
I’m bad at this one too. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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How many is that now today?
Hey boo,
I think it's two.
Nope, it's three.
They’ll complain at this rate. Slow down  "
Zero fucks given. I'm one stressful day away from dyeing my hair dark green so the forums can take my energy instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually- dirty talk
Non sexual- maths
Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?"
Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely |
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"What do you wish you were better at?
Sexually.
And non-sexually."
Sexually - oh, a lot. I wish I was a lot more confident. I wish I could just look forward to sex without any aspect of anxiety around it. I love sex but I wish it was just a joy.
Non-sexual - I wish I was better socially, that it didn't make me anxious. I wish I worked harder and made more of myself. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Sexually- dirty talk
Non sexual- maths
Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?
Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually- dirty talk
Non sexual- maths
Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?
Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely
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Out loud. I’m good behind a screen  |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Sexually- dirty talk
Non sexual- maths
Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?
Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely
Out loud. I’m good behind a screen "
Well that’s just as well than. The former will never be an issue. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Squatting on a dick.
Walking.
Do you know what would be really handy? If there were exercise videos aimed at those who want to be good sexually. Like, do these moves and your core will be strong enough to ride a dick for thirty minutes. I'd subscribe to that sort of thing."
I just use a chunky man to put me through my paces.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually- dirty talk
Non sexual- maths
Would you like some help with that?
The maths? yes 
The sex? YES
Something like 12 times 12 is 144 you filthy whore?"
While you’re riding me? |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.
Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face."
Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.
I like your expressive face. It's a beaut. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.
Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.
Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.
I like your expressive face. It's a beaut. "
What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"??  |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.
Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.
Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.
I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.
What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"?? "
I panicked and thought the straws were to hold your eyes open!! |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Sexually- dirty talk
Non sexual- maths
Would you like some help with that?
The maths? yes
The sex? YES
Something like 12 times 12 is 144 you filthy whore?
While you’re riding me?"
And whisper Pythagoras theorem in your ear  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.
Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.
Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.
I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.
What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"?? "
I don't know why you're saying that like it's weird; that's exactly what's going to happen.
Actually I'll bring a mini dildo. And antibac wipes. The taste of antibac whilst looking at me and mimicking fellatio? What could be weird about that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.
Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.
Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.
I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.
What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"??
I panicked and thought the straws were to hold your eyes open!! "
Malcolm McDowell style??  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Fisting I want to be better at anal and vaginal fisting...
And I'd like to be better a napkin folding
Mr "
Anal fisting. Gosh. How big are your hands? How do you become better at fisting anyway? Oh I guess you could learn when to erm insert more fingers. When to move. When not to. Got it. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.
Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.
Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.
I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.
What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"??
I panicked and thought the straws were to hold your eyes open!!
Malcolm McDowell style?? "
Exactly! |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Um.
I don't think I do.
I have some things I'm working on in myself. But there's nothing I'm wishing for rather than actively trying to achieve
Right so... let's play along and what are you actively trying to achieve a state of better in?
Sexually I'm working on my body confidence. I hate that sometimes I can still feel that self conscious urge to hide the parts I like least aesthetically. I get my tits out a lot more in person these days though, so that's huge steps from where I was a couple of years ago.
Non sexually, expressing negative emotions effectively without getting overemotional "
Aww Prey, I was being a bit of a dick earlier. Yes, that's something I'm working on. It's important. |
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"Fisting I want to be better at anal and vaginal fisting...
And I'd like to be better a napkin folding
Mr
Anal fisting. Gosh. How big are your hands? How do you become better at fisting anyway? Oh I guess you could learn when to erm insert more fingers. When to move. When not to. Got it."
How do you become better at anal fisting is a good question, first step lube
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" Aww Prey, I was being a bit of a dick earlier. Yes, that's something I'm working on. It's important."
That's okay. I have a weird pedantry about wording sometimes, and I associate people saying "I wish" with a complete lack of effort to actually reach the goal is all. So I hate it |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"That's an easy one, but it's not a wish but rather something I need to actively work upon as I'm fairly certain it's overcome-able . If I can overcome it, I feel it's going to open up so much more of the world for me. "
So... what is it? I was waiting for the big reveal but there wasn't one. Tad anticlimactic.  |
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"Squatting on a dick.
Walking.
Do you know what would be really handy? If there were exercise videos aimed at those who want to be good sexually. Like, do these moves and your core will be strong enough to ride a dick for thirty minutes. I'd subscribe to that sort of thing."
Adaptation to imposed demands. So practise riding a dildo or cock for a lesser amount of time and build up. I can recommend a chonky tentacle 
J |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This probably applies to both but confidence. I just wish I had more faith in myself during the times I can begin to doubt myself instead of potentially spiralling down a negative train of thought. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sexually - just being confident that I may be a tiny bit desirable and be confident in the build up to the getting nekkid.
Non-sexually - motivating myself to get fit. "
I really hope you find that confidence. You're more than a tiny bit desirable, little star, but all the people in the world could say that to you and you wouldn't believe it. I hope you find that soon. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sexually - I’m pretty shit at the sex thing but enthusiastic so either take me as I am or move on.
Non sexually - my communication skills.
As per keeping in touch with family and friends.
I’m bad at this one too. "
Shit but enthusiastic can be a winning combination, can't it? In my mind it can be.
Keeping in touch is good but also, people understand when you don't have the spoons for it. Should do, anyway. There's a balance to be found. Good luck in finding it, I haven't quite mastered it yet. I'm a waffle or quiet person sadly. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Life.
Makeup.
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Sending you hugs Davina. I know diddly squat about makeup and this also might be your idea of hell but there are a lot of good simple videos to follow/learn from on TikTok? |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"What do you wish you were better at?
Sexually.
And non-sexually.
Sexually - oh, a lot. I wish I was a lot more confident. I wish I could just look forward to sex without any aspect of anxiety around it. I love sex but I wish it was just a joy.
Non-sexual - I wish I was better socially, that it didn't make me anxious. I wish I worked harder and made more of myself. "
Anxiety is a big part of what's stopping you enjoying yourself isn't it? Can you take little steps to build confidence? If you ever want to work on social confidence, I'm not too far and I have discovered a weakness for Knoops. |
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"What do you wish you were better at?
Sexually.
And non-sexually.
Sexually - oh, a lot. I wish I was a lot more confident. I wish I could just look forward to sex without any aspect of anxiety around it. I love sex but I wish it was just a joy.
Non-sexual - I wish I was better socially, that it didn't make me anxious. I wish I worked harder and made more of myself.
Anxiety is a big part of what's stopping you enjoying yourself isn't it? Can you take little steps to build confidence? If you ever want to work on social confidence, I'm not too far and I have discovered a weakness for Knoops. "
Thank-you Meli. You're a star. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"On a roll Meli
Sexually - confidence / saying what I want
Non-sexually - adulting #isuck"
I know, I know. I actually think I'm winning at life recently now I'm over my emo stint.
Adulting is hard sometimes isn't it? There's no shame to be found in rotting away and raccooning some days you know. We're expected to have it all figured out, to keep going, to smile, to say the right things, to be sociable. Sometimes I think fuck that. I just want to rot in peace for a few hours. Not adult.
So... goblin when you can. Don't feel any shame about that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do you wish you were better at?
Sexually.
And non-sexually."
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Sexually - feeling more body confident. I feel like a Michelin man at times just big all over. Someone pointed out a flaw and were fairly negative about it, it's one they dont have and I obviously have it. That made me feel shit. So yep body confidence, not letting others opinion except those I want, matter.
Non sexually - not be so naive and a push over. Have confidence more in myself. Not general confidence, as I can generally natter away to anyone, although I might feel really anxious, I'll push myself to do it. But confidence in myself, in my decisions and I'm trying for more self belief.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Sexually - anal
Non sexually - socialising
K"
The first? I can't help with. Alas.
The second? I can. And I will. In between elderflower cordial making and general witterings and snack boxes. I think you'll find the confidence in time yourself but in the interim? We're friends. Obviously. So I'd love to help you with that, when you want it. x |
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