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Wheres your life going? Is it going where you want?
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I’ve got a great career, two awesome kids and I get to indulge in hobbies that I love like my band.
Relationship stuff is shit and confusing at present, but that’s the two sides of life I guess. Peaks and troughs.
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste "
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes "
true i love my time away in the sun just doing nothing i see that as productive |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes "
Totally agree with this. I think society tends to give people the impression that you have to always be busy or doing something during moments of freedom, but being able to just 'be' is really important. |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes true i love my time away in the sun just doing nothing i see that as productive "
You're recharging that's vital |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes "
I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes
Totally agree with this. I think society tends to give people the impression that you have to always be busy or doing something during moments of freedom, but being able to just 'be' is really important."
Yep. I sometimes think a lot of people are running away from themselves |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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My life is pretty good actually and nothing really for me to complain about justifiably. But my current work is meh, and am looking for something else. Staying with my parents at the moment, which is lovely, but I would love to find a small space of my own that I can get creative with in decorating and modifying. |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x"
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I do feel that life is passing me by, to an extent. Partly due to the speed at which life is moving, and no one honestly can possibly keep up with it all. Partly due to my introverted nature that makes me very content to stay at home when I'm not at work, and so I find it tricky to go out and do stuff and interact with people. And partly that I have no desire or want to be constantly busy all the time, as I find ways of adjusting my life to be easy and straight forward in a sense. I don't enjoy complicating things, so simplicity is the way forward for me. |
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I have to admit I find myself in a dilemna over where I am, I want to be where I am, but I want to be happy which doesnt seem something I can be and havent been for a while. Im married and have step children and my own children but the issues lyes with the step children and I find myself regretting things |
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Life’s good, I have fantastic kids & friends, good health & finances, lots of free time for travel and adventure. I made a huge impact in my 30s and 40s I’m wondering if it’s time to ease off into NXD / Trustee land of if there’s one or two more big challenges left. I can’t quite decide |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes
Totally agree with this. I think society tends to give people the impression that you have to always be busy or doing something during moments of freedom, but being able to just 'be' is really important.
Yep. I sometimes think a lot of people are running away from themselves "
I wake really early normally between 4 and 5 am. I go sit on the balcony with a coffee and just be - give myself 1-2 hours every day , no phone , just a journal. Sometimes I meditate or pray, draw, write thoughts, Sometimes I reflect on my values , am I fully living them, sometimes I do absolutely nothing, just breathe. Slowly the day wakes up and I feel focussed & aligned  |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early "
and what do you do all day? |
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I could have done without my wife going bananas, so that knocked me off kilter nine years ago, but I'm still alive, have a good job and income, three great kids and I can afford to do things. Look up, you never know when it's all going to end  |
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By *929Man 42 weeks ago
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I tend to think it’s shit but when I look it’s not that bad
Good points - live full time with both my sons, have joint custody of my daughter who also plans to move in down the line, self employed with a decent reputation for my work, own my house outright
Bad points - can’t stop living in past di d it hard to move on every time try just end up feeling guilty and missing my most recent ex, been a shit few years long term ex moved out nov 2021, met a new lass feb 2022, nearly died from heart attack June 2022, august 2022 childhood friend died, personality change after heart attack caused new lass to walk after 10 months in apr 2023, ended up in hospital again with suspected heart attack just before christmas told me stress was effecting pumping function of my heart and would sort itself out if avoid stress.
So this year trying to finally move on from last few years of shit, concentrate on business, on getting in good shape on sorting house out let everything else fall in place |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"I tend to think it’s shit but when I look it’s not that bad
Good points - live full time with both my sons, have joint custody of my daughter who also plans to move in down the line, self employed with a decent reputation for my work, own my house outright
Bad points - can’t stop living in past di d it hard to move on every time try just end up feeling guilty and missing my most recent ex, been a shit few years long term ex moved out nov 2021, met a new lass feb 2022, nearly died from heart attack June 2022, august 2022 childhood friend died, personality change after heart attack caused new lass to walk after 10 months in apr 2023, ended up in hospital again with suspected heart attack just before christmas told me stress was effecting pumping function of my heart and would sort itself out if avoid stress.
So this year trying to finally move on from last few years of shit, concentrate on business, on getting in good shape on sorting house out let everything else fall in place "
Life of Brian quote:-Always look on the bright side of life |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes
Totally agree with this. I think society tends to give people the impression that you have to always be busy or doing something during moments of freedom, but being able to just 'be' is really important.
Yep. I sometimes think a lot of people are running away from themselves
I wake really early normally between 4 and 5 am. I go sit on the balcony with a coffee and just be - give myself 1-2 hours every day , no phone , just a journal. Sometimes I meditate or pray, draw, write thoughts, Sometimes I reflect on my values , am I fully living them, sometimes I do absolutely nothing, just breathe. Slowly the day wakes up and I feel focussed & aligned "
We're fortunate enough to be able to do that too |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early and what do you do all day? "
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes "
Totally agree with you. I still work. I get 4 days off. I need to balance work and my social life out. I can with that anount of time off. |
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"I could have done without my wife going bananas, so that knocked me off kilter nine years ago, but I'm still alive, have a good job and income, three great kids and I can afford to do things. Look up, you never know when it's all going to end "
"Look up, you never know when it's all going to end" is going to be my February quote of the month! Thank you.
I'm glad you're getting your life back together. |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early and what do you do all day?
Nothing "
lol cmon woman is that useful? |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early and what do you do all day?
Nothing lol cmon woman is that useful? "
I do a load of stuff every day but I doubt you or anybody would be interested in any of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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Sometimes life feels great and I feel on top of the world and other times I feel like I’m living in the worst situation possible. But my future is bright, I know it is, and whatever God has in store for me I’m ready for her |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early and what do you do all day?
Nothing lol cmon woman is that useful?
I do a load of stuff every day but I doubt you or anybody would be interested in any of it. "
you're on here most of it lol |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early and what do you do all day?
Nothing lol cmon woman is that useful?
I do a load of stuff every day but I doubt you or anybody would be interested in any of it. "
but yes tell me |
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"Is it passing you by or are you happy as Larry?
Life is okay. Nothing special. Op how is yours? I'm very happy but starting to think life is passing me by "
That’s what you get, Fred, for passing HER by, and HER, and also HER.
Verifications are commandments. |
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"Is it passing you by or are you happy as Larry?
Life is okay. Nothing special. Op how is yours? I'm very happy but starting to think life is passing me by
That’s what you get, Fred, for passing HER by, and HER, and also HER.
Verifications are commandments."
what about the other 8 |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I’m exactly where I need to be right now. From the way things started to go last year., to where I am now is beyond what I expected, in a good way. 
So with that in mind, my life by the end of the year could be unbelievably great, as I’m not exactly where I could’ve been, which could be a hell of a lot better than I am right now.
Is that confusing enough.?
I’m just happy, enjoy life and what it has to offer right now, |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early and what do you do all day?
Nothing lol cmon woman is that useful?
I do a load of stuff every day but I doubt you or anybody would be interested in any of it. "
I'm intrigued now nicecouple aha. If no one else wants to hear, I would! |
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"Life is going well. It's not passing us by but it's going very, very fast and I have things I want to doIt goes so fast no time to waste
I spend quite a lot of time doing (what a lot of people consider)not very much. I promised myself I would once I stopped working. It's excellent for the soul to be able to just 'be' sometimes I agree wholeheartedly. We are always told to look to the future, strive to get this and that and your life will be so much better. But we seldom enjoy the now. Just take time out for yourselves, the future will always be waiting for you, Mrs x
A number of my colleagues asked me "what will you do all day?" when I told them I was retiring early and what do you do all day?
Nothing lol cmon woman is that useful?
I do a load of stuff every day but I doubt you or anybody would be interested in any of it. but yes tell me "
ok well you and kinkyyoungone did ask.
Just sewing, embroidery, crochet, history, archaeology, gardening, furniture renovation, home maintenance, going out, socialising, coffee, learning a language, looking after dad, baking... |
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Just waiting for the thumbs up from my cardiologist to say I can go back to work again , but I ain't ment to use percussion tools or vibrating tools as I have a pacemaker , should find out tomorrow tho , appointment at 9am with him ,fingers crossed xxx |
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So I hav 3 fabulous grown up kids. They are the kne thing I did right in my life
Maybe not their fathers but that's another story lol
I'm not working at the min due to ill health but I try n manage the best I can . Life's ok depending on wat day you ask me lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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Not exactly any more, the governments ridiculous reaction to covid decimated the industry I worked in, and my life followed (I wish I'd met a single person who had a bad time with covid or if they knew anyone who had, it would make having my life smashed a little easier to bare) I'm currently building from the ground up in an entirely new line of work which I didn't really want but there we go.
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Good questions Fred. When I had the money and the expensive house, there was very little "me" in evidence.
Now, there's a level of "me" in evidence that I'm very pleased with, but not the money.
To get "me", I had to "wash" the other stuff out of my system.
So, all the groundwork is there, which makes me Larry's even happier cousin, but it's the rebuild that is the task before retirement, or else I'll remain his very happy but materially precarious relative.
I like a challenge  . |
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Sometimes the issue lies with Larry (whoever he is). Most people I know have their ups and downs including myself. Utopia only exists for some but we spend so much time looking for it, we miss some of the good stuff. I always think, 'therecare so many people worse off'. The saddest thing about getting older is you start losing people you love and that is not easy for anyone. Also thecpressures of the world ww live in creates far too much stress for so many people. Lots of people with very little are happy and others with almost everything struggle to find the happy corner. I am not worried about the time passing by but sad that the opportunities to fix things, make things better diminish as you get older as with some you have no control off. I am not too bad on the whole, thanks for asking |
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And "Utopia" deliberately means "no place" or "good place" as a direct translation.
Thomas More was playing with the idea of restless desires (always looking for something else, no matter what you have) when he wrote the book and coined the word.
I think society can be and should be a project always travelling to a better place, with the (very Buddhist/Vedic) realisation that a mind is always restless and seeking more to settle on and wonder about too. |
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