This is, I assure you, a purely hypothetical situation. Not actual or hyper pathetic. But I been wondrin innit.
Imagine for a moment you fancy someone on fab. You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested. There’s no innate incompatibility or derision, just a lack of lustful desire.
And imagine this person is regularly vocal about needing a right good see-un to, but never finding the right person.
If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire? Or would you accept fab is fab and it’s someone you want so what the hell? |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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How do I know for sure they aren't interested? Have they told me before ?
If I've never spoken to this person, and they got in touch , then the answer would be different to if they had declined to meet me prior, and were just at the any hole is a goal stage. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 42 weeks ago
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"This is, I assure you, a purely hypothetical situation. Not actual or hyper pathetic. But I been wondrin innit.
Imagine for a moment you fancy someone on fab. You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested. There’s no innate incompatibility or derision, just a lack of lustful desire.
And imagine this person is regularly vocal about needing a right good see-un to, but never finding the right person.
If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire? Or would you accept fab is fab and it’s someone you want so what the hell?"
If they're reaching out then surely there's interest and attraction on their part? 
Even if it takes a while to appear.... |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"How do I know for sure they aren't interested? Have they told me before ?
If I've never spoken to this person, and they got in touch , then the answer would be different to if they had declined to meet me prior, and were just at the any hole is a goal stage. "
This also op. |
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Ultimately, the decision to engage in casual sex is a personal choice that varies from person to person. It's important to be honest with yourself and your potential partners about your intentions and expectations to avoid misunderstandings. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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I'd meet them for a social because they can't fairly judge you by a couple of pics and text.
If they still ain't interested then I'm legging it out and they can pay for my coffee. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"This is, I assure you, a purely hypothetical situation. Not actual or hyper pathetic. But I been wondrin innit.
Imagine for a moment you fancy someone on fab. You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested. There’s no innate incompatibility or derision, just a lack of lustful desire.
And imagine this person is regularly vocal about needing a right good see-un to, but never finding the right person.
If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire? Or would you accept fab is fab and it’s someone you want so what the hell?"
Lusting over a fabber who you say isnt interested but she puts it that she needs a good shag but you are lusting over someone you cannot have. Is this certain she does not want you? |
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"It sounds specific…
Ask her. What have you got to lose?   "
Ha! I knew someone would assume that! Honestly, it really isn’t. I just had one of those mind wandering thoughts in my head I wanted out there for other perspectives. For what it’s worth I wouldn’t be a last chance shag. Either they like me or you don’t and I wouldn’t mind being part of a small ‘roster’, but not as a backup for when they’ve exhausted all other avenues. |
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No if someone didn’t want me the way I wanted them then I’d lose interest pretty quickly. For me attraction grows in the moments of anticipation.
I wouldn’t wait around hoping to be a last resort if they get desperate enough. I am really really into myself and wouldn’t do that to me |
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"You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested."
I would leave them alone in the first instance.
"If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire?"
I would press upon them their change of heart, get some affirmation that they are genuine from their renewed interest and take things from there. I would continue to think with my head until things developed before thinking of my desires. |
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"You would *love* to meet them but you know for sure they aren’t interested.
I would leave them alone in the first instance.
If this person was to eventually reach out to you, would your dignity override your desire?
I would press upon them their change of heart, get some affirmation that they are genuine from their renewed interest and take things from there. I would continue to think with my head until things developed before thinking of my desires."
A sound response. So not rejection out of hand but a chance for them to explain. |
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By *a LunaWoman 42 weeks ago
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"I'm one of those people who loses all interest in people who aren't interested in me so by the time they got round to me it would be way to late."
This.
I like to be lusted after. Wanted. Adored even!
So if they showed no interest in me before, then no. They can go and seek carnal solace elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) 42 weeks ago
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"I'm one of those people who loses all interest in people who aren't interested in me so by the time they got round to me it would be way to late.
This.
I like to be lusted after. Wanted. Adored even!
So if they showed no interest in me before, then no. They can go and seek carnal solace elsewhere."
I want that too. But I’m just so desperate to be wanted I’d say yes  |
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"I know myself. I’d say yes in a heartbeat. Even though I know I shouldn’t and I should respect myself. I just don’t. "
I’m ashamed to say that a small part of me thinks this too. Which is why I asked the question in the first place - because I believe I would still be tempted if it were someone I liked, even though they may have previously overlooked me (for everyone else in a 500 mile radius ) |
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"I'm one of those people who loses all interest in people who aren't interested in me so by the time they got round to me it would be way to late.
This.
I like to be lusted after. Wanted. Adored even!
So if they showed no interest in me before, then no. They can go and seek carnal solace elsewhere.
I want that too. But I’m just so desperate to be wanted I’d say yes "
Oh Pickle  |
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