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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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Why is that some people have to play everything out in public and why do we find this embarrassing?
I like holding hands walking down the street. I like a tender kiss, that moment of just you two in your own little world. I like seeing other people like this too - it makes me smile.
I don't like it when it's traffic stopping snogging in the middle of the road.
I understand that declaration that the I is, for a moment, a we. In moderation. Love, infatuation are both really the same OCD madness. The only difference is that one lasts longer and deepens.
On here I have wondered if the proclamations that sometimes appear are that declaration to the only people who can know about the origins of the relationship.
I know it's ranty Thursday but this is not aimed at anyone on here but comes from my examination of my past behaviour. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Or sat in a restaurant while you are trying to look away to eat your steak !
Are you having steak tonight though  "
lol I just asked my OH does he want steak and he said no....so no BJ for him tonight !! |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"and if love bites are ever involved.....
shout 'Funky, kill'.....
I have to plead guilty to this as a teenager. Sat in the park.  "
not sure you will ever recover from that declaration.
good luck  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I must be lucky not having to see this. 
Some people just want everyone too know  "
Yes they do. I know I have in the past. It's that motivation for everyone to know and the slight repulsion people can feel at being told/shown that interests me at the moment. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"and if love bites are ever involved.....
shout 'Funky, kill'.....
I have to plead guilty to this as a teenager. Sat in the park.
not sure you will ever recover from that declaration.
good luck "
I hang my head in deep shame. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"and if love bites are ever involved.....
shout 'Funky, kill'.....
I have to plead guilty to this as a teenager. Sat in the park.
not sure you will ever recover from that declaration.
good luck
I hang my head in deep shame."
covers them up |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT: I have made sweet luurvve to all the women on this thread. I just wanted you all to know this. "
Can you pop in the time machine and remind me please. My memory isn't so good these days. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT: I have made sweet luurvve to all the women on this thread. I just wanted you all to know this. "
As for you, that was just glitter on the kitchen floor and it doesn't count. |
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"I must be lucky not having to see this.
Some people just want everyone too know
Yes they do. I know I have in the past. It's that motivation for everyone to know and the slight repulsion people can feel at being told/shown that interests me at the moment."
It has never bothered me to be honest. But not sure I would want to see all the tongue thing  |
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"PUBLIC ANNOUNCEMENT: I have made sweet luurvve to all the women on this thread. I just wanted you all to know this. "
When I say 'have', I mean 'will' in sort of time-space-continuum-wormhole-thready-thingy terms of course... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was younger I used to often indulge in public displays of affection. Now however I prefer the more subtle romantic stuff in public, perhaps it's an age thing for me. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"When I was younger I used to often indulge in public displays of affection. Now however I prefer the more subtle romantic stuff in public, perhaps it's an age thing for me."
That's a good point: maybe it is a maturity thing. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"When I was younger I used to often indulge in public displays of affection. Now however I prefer the more subtle romantic stuff in public, perhaps it's an age thing for me.
That's a good point: maybe it is a maturity thing."
and a little insecurity |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"When I was younger I used to often indulge in public displays of affection. Now however I prefer the more subtle romantic stuff in public, perhaps it's an age thing for me.
That's a good point: maybe it is a maturity thing.
and a little insecurity"
Yes, that too. Do you think it's the insecurity that makes the on-looker feel queasy? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"When I was younger I used to often indulge in public displays of affection. Now however I prefer the more subtle romantic stuff in public, perhaps it's an age thing for me.
That's a good point: maybe it is a maturity thing.
and a little insecurity
Yes, that too. Do you think it's the insecurity that makes the on-looker feel queasy?"
for me yes, I have said many about an elderly couple who pass my house every day and they are so in tune with each other, the small gestures he does with her are just sublime. Pure affection and love
I am not a romantic, but I love them as a couple.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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like on fab, if people minded their own businesses theyd help themselves alot
as long as its not harming anyone or potentially unsuitable _iewings(ie kids), then it shouldnt matter what the fuck ppl do |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"like on fab, if people minded their own businesses theyd help themselves alot
as long as its not harming anyone or potentially unsuitable _iewings(ie kids), then it shouldnt matter what the fuck ppl do"
It shouldn't but I suppose putting it all out there in the public domain does make it feel like public business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"like on fab, if people minded their own businesses theyd help themselves alot
as long as its not harming anyone or potentially unsuitable _iewings(ie kids), then it shouldnt matter what the fuck ppl do
It shouldn't but I suppose putting it all out there in the public domain does make it feel like public business."
public business that two people are in love...its a reason I dont read about sexual story interests generated by the media
it becomes a acceptable level of displays fitted to the societal norms which then achieves who is allowed to show them and who isnt:-
gay men/women kissing
older and younger together
old and old showing affection
different races together
some people dont like seeing the above examples but again..thats why we have eyes and ears...we can control them by using a distraction without actually needing to offend the participants
I just dont see what benefit there is to _iewing with negative judgement when it doesnt exactly concern anyone other than the two people themselves |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"like on fab, if people minded their own businesses theyd help themselves alot
as long as its not harming anyone or potentially unsuitable _iewings(ie kids), then it shouldnt matter what the fuck ppl do
It shouldn't but I suppose putting it all out there in the public domain does make it feel like public business.
public business that two people are in love...its a reason I dont read about sexual story interests generated by the media
it becomes a acceptable level of displays fitted to the societal norms which then achieves who is allowed to show them and who isnt:-
gay men/women kissing
older and younger together
old and old showing affection
different races together
some people dont like seeing the above examples but again..thats why we have eyes and ears...we can control them by using a distraction without actually needing to offend the participants
I just dont see what benefit there is to _iewing with negative judgement when it doesnt exactly concern anyone other than the two people themselves"
All very good points to add to my cogitation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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*Dont get me wrong, I dont like the public displays that cut out interaction between myself and them, for example being 'gooseberried'(either by oneself or with another iof u get what i mean)
thats supposed to be the time when u are sharing each others company, not excluding- thats pretty disrespectful
my other examples where really based on people that arent in ur company |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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Well.... I like to see affection in public between any genders.. It is heartening to see that some people still care for others… But with that comes responsibility! Full blown passionate “snogging” is not what most people want to see in the high street! Yes I can avert my eyes, but surely they have a unspoken duty not to offend others as well?
Problem is, we have all been told for years that we can do what we like as long as no one gets hurt. I don’t subscribe to that at all! In a society, we all have a duty to act in a way that doesn’t offend or embarrass others. For instance, major row going on in the street. Not violent and no swearing, is that OK? Well, the police would soon stop that. Same thing really! Offending people that it is not affecting other than by a visual or in that case, aural assault.
As for offending the participants, what about the offence to those who happen to be there… Social freedoms bring social responsibility!
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"like on fab, if people minded their own businesses theyd help themselves alot
as long as its not harming anyone or potentially unsuitable _iewings(ie kids), then it shouldnt matter what the fuck ppl do"
Suitably told off, sorry Paddy
To be fair though, I didn't say they can't do it, just that I don't like seeing snogging people while I am out.
Now the OH is a different kettle of fish, he gawps and hopes they will grope too...but then he is a hopepless voyeur so it is to be expected  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"like on fab, if people minded their own businesses theyd help themselves alot
as long as its not harming anyone or potentially unsuitable _iewings(ie kids), then it shouldnt matter what the fuck ppl do
Suitably told off, sorry Paddy
To be fair though, I didn't say they can't do it, just that I don't like seeing snogging people while I am out.
Now the OH is a different kettle of fish, he gawps and hopes they will grope too...but then he is a hopepless voyeur so it is to be expected "
YUP! keep ur eyes on the cock and make sure my steaks cooked well! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Holding hands, cuddles and a little kissing in public are absolutely fine, but when it comes to snogs with face eating levels of lust then yes, thats probably best done in private - unless the people in question are two beautiful women and I'm the only other person present, in which case I'll get some popcorn. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Well.... I like to see affection in public between any genders.. It is heartening to see that some people still care for others… But with that comes responsibility! Full blown passionate “snogging” is not what most people want to see in the high street! Yes I can avert my eyes, but surely they have a unspoken duty not to offend others as well?
Problem is, we have all been told for years that we can do what we like as long as no one gets hurt. I don’t subscribe to that at all! In a society, we all have a duty to act in a way that doesn’t offend or embarrass others. For instance, major row going on in the street. Not violent and no swearing, is that OK? Well, the police would soon stop that. Same thing really! Offending people that it is not affecting other than by a visual or in that case, aural assault.
As for offending the participants, what about the offence to those who happen to be there… Social freedoms bring social responsibility!
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I like that. I think the blazing public row is exactly the same - it's displaying the relationship in a way that makes us uncomfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The people slobbering ar insecure or the people watching or not watching as the case may be ?
Maybe both?
I am struggling to understand either being insecure to be honest."
I'm struggling to see where I'd jump to conclusions..then again..I wouldnt be watching for long enough to hypothesize |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"The people slobbering ar insecure or the people watching or not watching as the case may be ?
Maybe both?
I am struggling to understand either being insecure to be honest."
The gentle displays of affection show respect and an understanding of a person: security, if you will. We smile and feel good when we see those.
The big snoggy, look at us, displays seem to say one or both of us want you to know we are an item: we need you to notice to validate that we are an item.
When we look on perhaps it reflects our own feelings.
It's all conjecture on my part, of course. I know I have found some of the threads where people 'display' a little uncomfortable in the past and I have to step away from them. Last year I had a strange relationship with a man who did the big traffic-stopping displays. I felt uneasy about it, but also excited. I know now I accepted the behaviour because it was an outward sign that we were together, even though all his private encounters with me and signs pointed in the opposite direction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Holding hands , kiss , hug all ok in my opinion, however must own up and say I have done the whole jump on Ian and snog his face off once when he came back home from being being in sunnier climes for 6months ! |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Holding hands , kiss , hug all ok in my opinion, however must own up and say I have done the whole jump on Ian and snog his face off once when he came back home from being being in sunnier climes for 6months ! "
The odd one off is lovely, I am sure. I'll try and _iew all displays as one off moments of sheer passion. |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
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"What about pulling in a layby and watching a bloke shag his bird like a dog with 2 dicks? "
Nope! I don't like dogging because it puts innocents in the line of fire. Choosing places where they might get caught, meaning places where there may be vulnerable people including kids!
Loads of dogging sites are being closed, which is good, except some sites are being blocked off and we now have to pay to visit. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I am really not one for public displays in busy places either, a quick small peck on the cheek is fine but anything much more is, as far as I am concerned, private.
Different of course when on a lonely beach or in a forest- anything is possible there |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"The people slobbering ar insecure or the people watching or not watching as the case may be ?
Maybe both?
I am struggling to understand either being insecure to be honest.
The gentle displays of affection show respect and an understanding of a person: security, if you will. We smile and feel good when we see those.
The big snoggy, look at us, displays seem to say one or both of us want you to know we are an item: we need you to notice to validate that we are an item.
When we look on perhaps it reflects our own feelings.
It's all conjecture on my part, of course. I know I have found some of the threads where people 'display' a little uncomfortable in the past and I have to step away from them. Last year I had a strange relationship with a man who did the big traffic-stopping displays. I felt uneasy about it, but also excited. I know now I accepted the behaviour because it was an outward sign that we were together, even though all his private encounters with me and signs pointed in the opposite direction."
I suppose I have never thought of that option, that it could be more or less saying " look at me I am in a relationship " and I suppose you could be right....but I still don't understand why people who don't really like seeing something as intimate as a good snog in the street as being insecure too.
For me, when I snog it gets passionate, so I am just thinking OMG go do that in private, or in a sex club if you want an audience |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I suppose I have never thought of that option, that it could be more or less saying " look at me I am in a relationship " and I suppose you could be right....but I still don't understand why people who don't really like seeing something as intimate as a good snog in the street as being insecure too.
For me, when I snog it gets passionate, so I am just thinking OMG go do that in private, or in a sex club if you want an audience "
Now a club with an audience is an entirely different proposition. |
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We always hold hands and maybe a kiss on the cheek, but id be mortified if jay went in for a full on snog in public.
I do however smile when its youngsters doing it as we have all been there and done it. But i think it looks awful when proper adults doing it, im the same with lovebites, it amuses me with youngstes marking their territory but think they look awful on proper adults |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I once received a BJ in a disco does this count?
Is this you in your EDL days?
Bwahahaahhahah ha Yessss! I'm still in the EDL actually
Presume you mean as a lover not a fighter "
I don't know whether he's loving or fighting but it's an EDL I can support. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We always hold hands and maybe a kiss on the cheek, but id be mortified if jay went in for a full on snog in public.
I do however smile when its youngsters doing it as we have all been there and done it. But i think it looks awful when proper adults doing it, im the same with lovebites, it amuses me with youngstes marking their territory but think they look awful on proper adults"
Marking territory is exactly what it looks like. |
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"I once received a BJ in a disco does this count?
Is this you in your EDL days?
Bwahahaahhahah ha Yessss! I'm still in the EDL actually
Presume you mean as a lover not a fighter "
I think you might be thinking of the wrong EDL. I'm in the cool one. |
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