"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?
Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?
Someone on fab? "
Yeah context seems important here |
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By *eliWoman 50 weeks ago
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It's very, very situational.
People change their minds, it happens. Depending on the relationship I have with another, I'd change how I respond. I'd try and do it with as much respect and tact as the situation needs. |
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"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?
Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?
Someone on fab? "
What’s the first rule of Fight Club?  |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"It's very, very situational.
People change their minds, it happens. Depending on the relationship I have with another, I'd change how I respond. I'd try and do it with as much respect and tact as the situation needs. "
I think this is the right way to go about it.
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By *TG3Man 50 weeks ago
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"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?
Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?
Someone on fab?
What’s the first rule of Fight Club? "
Hit first  |
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"Erm. In what context?someone asked you out, you said no, but on reflection it’s a maybe?
Someone you liked as a friend but don’t anymore or vice-versa?
Someone on fab?
What’s the first rule of Fight Club? Hit first "
You’re punch d*unk, Fred. |
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By *TG3Man 50 weeks ago
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"… you mind about someone.
What’s the best way to let them know?
Should you tell them the reason(s) or is that pointless?give it to me hot and strong
Keep tempting me, Fred. "
i thought my earthy demeanor was enough |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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"I'm just not feeling it anymore...
Literally 
Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.
What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”"
I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you |
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"I'm just not feeling it anymore...
Literally
Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.
What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”
I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you "
This is what I don’t want to happen. |
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By (user no longer on site) 50 weeks ago
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From good to bad. Ghosting is the usual way isn’t it? From bad to good? The person probably knows you’ve started warming to them, so I wouldn’t worry about it.  |
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"I'm just not feeling it anymore...
Literally
Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.
What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”
I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you
This is what I don’t want to happen. "
I think it's like saying no in the first place - the more info you give, the more the other person can work with. It's easier on both parties to keep it short and sweet. |
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"I'm just not feeling it anymore...
Literally
Short, sweet, to the point. I like it.
What if they want to know “whyyyyy?”
I think that gets embroiled in issues. I recently decided against meeting a guy from here and said why as diplomatically as I could. He argued the toss for ages. Next time I am just saying no. I'm not feeling it. I don't want to meet you
This is what I don’t want to happen.
I think it's like saying no in the first place - the more info you give, the more the other person can work with. It's easier on both parties to keep it short and sweet. "
I’ve never understood why people try to argue this. I’d be beyond embarrassed to keep on pestering someone who isn’t interested in me for whatever reason.
But then, there are quite a lot of behaviours people try on me that I would never dream of replicating. So maybe it’s not important for me to understand. |
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It depends, especially if you have committed to informing them. If, previously, there's significant interaction between you, then it could be supportive to let them know that you are pursuing a different agenda.
Via Fab, for limited engagement chats, it's probably superfluous. |
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