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Some things are on a strictly need to know basis, no matter how the night is progressing.
For me: I do not discuss my work: anything about the close people in my life; much about my home life beyond that I have pets.
I don’t have conversations about money; property; politics; religion.
I respect others’ privacy and expect same. If I am with someone and I notice I need to police my privacy, I will want nothing more to do with that person.
What parts of your life do you omit discussing with a meet because there’s simply no reason to discuss it with that person? |
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The expanse of information concerning myself, my life and other personal matters is dependent upon the other person. Anything resembling my finances, employer and my immediate family is kept under wraps because they are extraneous to Fab.
With that aside I tell pretty much everything and anything. I have no such qualms about this.
As I said it's all about the other person. Candour can sometimes be infectious. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Some things are on a strictly need to know basis, no matter how the night is progressing.
For me: I do not discuss my work: anything about the close people in my life; much about my home life beyond that I have pets.
I don’t have conversations about money; property; politics; religion.
I respect others’ privacy and expect same. If I am with someone and I notice I need to police my privacy, I will want nothing more to do with that person.
What parts of your life do you omit discussing with a meet because there’s simply no reason to discuss it with that person?"
my name i mean just call me mate  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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There's quite a bit. I trust people but I rarely fully trust if that makes sense.
So, my address. In my decade on here, I've only trusted four people with it. My surname, a handful. Work (as in company and job title) around ten people. Family and personal life? Very unlikely - a few close friends know but our friendship feels solid. Like they truly care. I've dated before from here and not said various things because... I can't quite trust them.
If I'm casually seeing someone, I don't discuss others I'm seeing. If I'm in a relationship with someone from here, because I'm ethically non-monogamous, yes, I'd discuss them with the other person. I might not disclose my NI number and the full Meli story but I'd never cheat on someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a guy before many times & he new everything about me....silly me naively just answering the questions he'd ask me ....
Anyway....things didn't go well in the end....He became a stalker & the strangest thing was I knew absolutely nothing about him zero & he knew so much about me....(naievity was a curse) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What parts of your life do you omit discussing with a meet because there’s simply no reason to discuss it with that person?"
Nocturnal emissions. Blame the beans. |
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With a meet it's all of real life, it's very boring mum stuff and I want to keep to sexy times.
With my special friends, we know pretty much all about each other, but we have been together for nearly 5 years  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm very protective of family, and I don't like talking about work with anyone to be honest. I'm a lot more wary about sharing anything about myself now until I can trust them. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"I'm very protective of family, and I don't like talking about work with anyone to be honest. I'm a lot more wary about sharing anything about myself now until I can trust them. "
cmon share it with me |
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Only a handful of people have ever been privy to my real name on here over the years or had my number.
Less than that have known my surname.
I have found that there are a lot of people who are very good at telling you everything while telling you nothing at the same time.
They are the same people who are happy to share other people's stories with you but don't reveal much about themselves apart from the fact they can't be trusted.
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I don't mind talking about most things. I can talk about family and work without going into specifics. I don't feel strongly enough about politics or religion to care too much, but it's probably not something I'd ask. It amazes me on here how bothered some people are whether they are right or left. |
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"I met a guy before many times & he new everything about me....silly me naively just answering the questions he'd ask me ....
Anyway....things didn't go well in the end....He became a stalker & the strangest thing was I knew absolutely nothing about him zero & he knew so much about me....(naievity was a curse)"
I’m sorry this happened to you. |
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"Only a handful of people have ever been privy to my real name on here over the years or had my number.
Less than that have known my surname.
I have found that there are a lot of people who are very good at telling you everything while telling you nothing at the same time.
They are the same people who are happy to share other people's stories with you but don't reveal much about themselves apart from the fact they can't be trusted.
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This last bit makes me queasy. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people don’t like to give out their phone number.
This makes sense to me. I give out my number for WhatsApp BUT I only use burner phones for fab.
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lol |
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"One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people don’t like to give out their phone number.
This makes sense to me. I give out my number for WhatsApp BUT I only use burner phones for fab.
lol "
What’s funny about that, Fred?
Hmmm? |
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I have no issues with giving my number — it involves a long drawn-out process of due diligence before that happens anyway; you can easily block on WhatsApp...
I avoid women with burner phones/burner SIMs. In my experience I've found the interactions disingenuous and laced with subterfuge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What parts of your life do you omit discussing with a meet because there’s simply no reason to discuss it with that person?"
If I’m meeting them I’ve built up some trust already, and there’s little I won’t share. If I want to know them I’m more than happy for them to ask me anything.
I find it weird someone will let me put my dick in them, but I can’t ask what job you for work? 
*just my opinion. |
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What parts of your life do you omit discussing with a meet because there’s simply no reason to discuss it with that person?
If I’m meeting them I’ve built up some trust already, and there’s little I won’t share. If I want to know them I’m more than happy for them to ask me anything.
I find it weird someone will let me put my dick in them, but I can’t ask what job you for work?
*just my opinion. "
Different strokes for different folks, right? |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people don’t like to give out their phone number.
This makes sense to me. I give out my number for WhatsApp BUT I only use burner phones for fab.
lol
What’s funny about that, Fred?
Hmmm?"
I too have burner phones |
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"One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people don’t like to give out their phone number.
This makes sense to me. I give out my number for WhatsApp BUT I only use burner phones for fab.
lol
What’s funny about that, Fred?
Hmmm?I too have burner phones "
I know, Fred, we’re on a family plan ffs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"….
What parts of your life do you omit discussing with a meet because there’s simply no reason to discuss it with that person?
If I’m meeting them I’ve built up some trust already, and there’s little I won’t share. If I want to know them I’m more than happy for them to ask me anything.
I find it weird someone will let me put my dick in them, but I can’t ask what job you for work?
*just my opinion.
Different strokes for different folks, right? "
Absolutely. Some people like to be private. I respect that.
But if I wanted to meet someone w who all I know is a name she gives me (or the couple) that just doesn’t feel right.
In a club, a one night stand at a bar!m? Sure, but a fwb or a f/b.m? I lm going to get nosey and ask questions.
We are all different, nobody is right or wrong. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people don’t like to give out their phone number.
This makes sense to me. I give out my number for WhatsApp BUT I only use burner phones for fab.
lol
What’s funny about that, Fred?
Hmmm?I too have burner phones
I know, Fred, we’re on a family plan ffs "
Well thats a poignant point  |
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"I'm not that mysterious. I'll ask things too, not as a nosy thing, more as a "I like you as a person and I'm interested in you" thing. (But if I'm told it's over the line, I'll back off!)"
Oh definitely - I try to be mindful of people’s comfort levels especially if I don’t know them that well.
Unless they don’t extend me the same courtesy.
But in a case like that I won’t be asking any questions and I’ll be doing my best to keep that person in the rear view mirror. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people don’t like to give out their phone number.
This makes sense to me. I give out my number for WhatsApp BUT I only use burner phones for fab.
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I don't have a burner phone. I don't give my number out. WhatsApp is for family and RL friends. Telegram for anything else. |
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With those that have made it into our small inner circle of friends, everything..
Names, address, work and personal stuff, even invite to our wedding.
With club, random, one-off meets, nothing that isn’t on fab already. |
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