...worn out by just contemplating all the hard work and energy needed by sex? So much effort going into searching, trying to organise meets, travelling for socials, being awkward at parties... And then if and when you do get with somebody (or somebodies) the actual bump and grind, getting sweaty, uncomfortable positions, cramping muscles - bloody hell I feel tired just thinking about it. I think that I'm getting to an age when all I want is a nice cuddle and a cum, then more nice cuddles. And a mug of hot chocolate.
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The first bit yeah. Finding someone you’re compatible with. The first social etc.
the rest of it, no I love it. Love meeting a fwb as often as possible, love the sex, love the tease, love the whole thing. Can’t be doing with the first bit. So I tend to keep the ones I find   |
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I can absolutely relate at the moment Polly. Being injured for so long has had a huge knock on effect and I can’t imagine finding that energy or excitement anymore. Possibly because I’m not recovered enough to really consider what to do next. But the thought of trying to find someone worth it is exhausting in itself. |
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"The first bit yeah. Finding someone you’re compatible with. The first social etc.
the rest of it, no I love it. Love meeting a fwb as often as possible, love the sex, love the tease, love the whole thing. Can’t be doing with the first bit. So I tend to keep the ones I find "
Exactly this! Keep the fwb you have, once you have them it's all fun. It's finding the right one in the first place. |
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"...worn out by just contemplating all the hard work and energy needed by sex? So much effort going into searching, trying to organise meets, travelling for socials, being awkward at parties... And then if and when you do get with somebody (or somebodies) the actual bump and grind, getting sweaty, uncomfortable positions, cramping muscles - bloody hell I feel tired just thinking about it. I think that I'm getting to an age when all I want is a nice cuddle and a cum, then more nice cuddles. And a mug of hot chocolate.
Is it just me, or are there others thinking like this?"
I couldn't have put it better myself. |
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Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.
I’ve noticed a mixture of menopause, endometriosis flare up and life circumstances that are unlikely to change for the foreseeable, makes me unable to be enjoyable company to be around so I don’t want that for myself, but mostly I don’t want that for others who are just looking to enjoy life. |
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"Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.
I’ve noticed a mixture of menopause, endometriosis flare up and life circumstances that are unlikely to change for the foreseeable, makes me unable to be enjoyable company to be around so I don’t want that for myself, but mostly I don’t want that for others who are just looking to enjoy life. "
Happy to take the risk 
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The finding someone I'm compatible with, well I've feel like I've been banging my head against a wall for weeks. Tried different things and get the same results.
But when I've had someone I love all of it. The organising, the getting ready, the teasing, the time spent in and out of the bed and everything that goes with it. The afterglow and flashbacks Even the busy catch up at home after.
But finding someone, god that's such a pain, I seriously wonder I try at times. Its like pulling teeth.
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By (user no longer on site) 43 weeks ago
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I need a connection to have sex. Get in my head before my pants otherwise I’d rather just self pleasure.
That in itself makes it not so easy. I mean what is a connection, for me it’s someone who has conversation outside of sex and a laugh, maybe a brew and cake.
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"Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.
I’ve noticed a mixture of menopause, endometriosis flare up and life circumstances that are unlikely to change for the foreseeable, makes me unable to be enjoyable company to be around so I don’t want that for myself, but mostly I don’t want that for others who are just looking to enjoy life.
Happy to take the risk
Marc"
More than happy to give you the most disappointing time of your life
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By *lder.Woman 43 weeks ago
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I quite like the idea of just finding someone uncomplicated to lie with and fall asleep on whilst watching a film or listening to music.
I cant contemplate the effort of shaving and washing and moisturising to even get that currently so yes me |
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The finding someone compatible is definitely the most exhausting part!
And then having to actually get ready.
I don't mind the actual sex part, I mean I mostly just lie there and let them get on with it. |
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"...worn out by just contemplating all the hard work and energy needed by sex? So much effort going into searching, trying to organise meets, travelling for socials, being awkward at parties... And then if and when you do get with somebody (or somebodies) the actual bump and grind, getting sweaty, uncomfortable positions, cramping muscles - bloody hell I feel tired just thinking about it. I think that I'm getting to an age when all I want is a nice cuddle and a cum, then more nice cuddles. And a mug of hot chocolate.
Is it just me, or are there others thinking like this?"
No!! I still love it- finding someone I want to meet is the most tiresome part- I have a knack for picking sexually selfish men, but I've had some amazing meets, hopefully more in the future  |
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"Me OP. That’s why I stopped looking, possibly forever.
I’ve noticed a mixture of menopause, endometriosis flare up and life circumstances that are unlikely to change for the foreseeable, makes me unable to be enjoyable company to be around so I don’t want that for myself, but mostly I don’t want that for others who are just looking to enjoy life.
Happy to take the risk
Marc
More than happy to give you the most disappointing time of your life
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We might as well both be disappointed then
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