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By *emidemi OP   Woman  over a year ago

basingstoke

Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple  over a year ago

Manchester-ish

No.

J

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By *estarossa.Woman  over a year ago

Flagrante

No.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Cheers. Son’s crying.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman  over a year ago

Essex


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

Absolutely not. And I hope they wouldn’t either.

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By *andynecklaceWoman  over a year ago

Someplace

Nope, it would just be awkward

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No it would be morally wrong and evil to give them that false impression about how you feel.

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By *parkle1974Woman  over a year ago

Leeds

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By *ourtney CocksWoman  over a year ago

fabland

No not for the sake of it

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By *illy IdolMan  over a year ago

Midlands


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

Am I still attracted to them or no attraction?

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By *parkle1974Woman  over a year ago

Leeds

No. This is one of the reasons my 1st meet with someone will be a social only....so many are different in the RW than what they appear to be online x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?

Absolutely not. And I hope they wouldn’t either."

Yeah I’d still do you

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not inclined to building anything up until I've seen the whites of their eyes

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nah

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By *istnbroke69Man  over a year ago

Cheshire / Shropshire

No probably not

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By *sWyldWoman  over a year ago

Edinburgh

No. And I'd be gutted if someone ever had with me

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By *dy-ukTV/TS  over a year ago

Alcester

No... If the attraction wasn't there, I'd not want her knickers either

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By *inkylipsWoman  over a year ago

Debauchery

This has happened to me a couple of times. They are brilliant people but something was just missing so when I came from the socials I was honest with them and basically said there was no chemistry or sexually they aren’t what I’m looking for and they appreciated the fact I didn’t just ghost them. I still chat to them now. This is. Why a social first is essential so no one feels obligated to do anything

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman  over a year ago

London (She/Her)

Would I gave to look at his face?

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman  over a year ago

London (She/Her)


"Would I gave to look at his face? "

“Have”, doh!

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford

If she was thicc, maybe

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"This has happened to me a couple of times. They are brilliant people but something was just missing so when I came from the socials I was honest with them and basically said there was no chemistry or sexually they aren’t what I’m looking for and they appreciated the fact I didn’t just ghost them. I still chat to them now. This is. Why a social first is essential so no one feels obligated to do anything "

Your profile is quite simply delicious xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Ah, probably not. No. It just sometimes doesn’t happen. Sparks don’t always start fires.

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By *affron40Woman  over a year ago

manchester

No it’s full on chemistry or nothing

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By *inkylipsWoman  over a year ago

Debauchery


"This has happened to me a couple of times. They are brilliant people but something was just missing so when I came from the socials I was honest with them and basically said there was no chemistry or sexually they aren’t what I’m looking for and they appreciated the fact I didn’t just ghost them. I still chat to them now. This is. Why a social first is essential so no one feels obligated to do anything

Your profile is quite simply delicious xxxx "

Thank you

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By *aughtycandyCouple  over a year ago

chams west Midlands

If the vibe was there and we all got on ,then yes I've always got my man to be dirty with ha ha xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"If she was thicc, maybe "

^ He’d die for nyash

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By *elix SightedMan  over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

Nope. It would be disappointing but I have too much self respect to thumb in a softie.

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By *inkylipsWoman  over a year ago

Debauchery


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?

Nope. It would be disappointing but I have too much self respect to thumb in a softie."

“Thumb in a softie” ()

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By *olden RatioWoman  over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

No, that's not for me.

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By *alico_KittyWoman  over a year ago

Kittys Lane

No I wouldn't

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By *ncrediblepjw34Man  over a year ago

Blackpool

No I wouldn’t

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nope, definitely friend zone them and keep them there until I got home

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Noooo. Mutual attraction is as vital as a great connection

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By *iaisonseekerMan  over a year ago

Liverpool

It would depend on the level of intimacy that had built up beforehand. If that could create an expectation that something substantial would result then, no.

However, if it was a meet for "NSA" and both parties wanted sex, I think I still would if the shared understanding was intact. Basically, I could still enjoy consensual sex with someone even if they didn't match up to the image generated through online interactions.

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By *ittlebirdWoman  over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Nope. I would tell them there and then too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

No but I would be diplomatic especially if we got on as friends

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By *KTim61Man  over a year ago

Tipton


"Nope, definitely friend zone them and keep them there until I got home "

Thsts me put in the Friends Zone as I quite fancied this 1 girl but we just become just friends nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'm not inclined to building anything up until I've seen the whites of their eyes "

Exactly. This is why I only ever meet people for coffee. Nothing more.

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By *eroLondonMan  over a year ago

Mayfair

Going with the 'ad nauseam' on this thread: Nø.

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford


"If she was thicc, maybe

^ He’d die for nyash"

I really would

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Nope. I would tell them there and then too. "

bffs though

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I have. And really wish I hadn't.

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By *urora1912Woman  over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Always social first.

Then there's no awkwardness if you don't like each other

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Depends why I’m not as attracted to them

If I feel like I’ve been mislead or catfushed then yeah so they’ll be more confused when I ghost them

If there’s just not a spark then no I wouldn’t

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By *ittlebirdWoman  over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Nope. I would tell them there and then too.

bffs though"

Yep

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By *r SteelhammerMan  over a year ago

belfast

Depends on what I’m feeling at the point in time

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

How can you gauge attraction by a message anyway?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"How can you gauge attraction by a message anyway?"

If it includes a picture of their face helps

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By *inky_couple2020Couple  over a year ago

North West


"I'm not inclined to building anything up until I've seen the whites of their eyes "

What if they've got conjunctivitis?

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By *inkyfun2013Couple  over a year ago

lewisham

I did. Found out over time she was a really nice person.

Mr

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By *heGateKeeperMan  over a year ago

Stratford


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

Would you?

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By *ornycougaWoman  over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

Hell would freeze over first

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By *erry bull1Man  over a year ago

doncaster

If there’s no attraction then no

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London

No.

Happened with someone on here. So no. No sex.

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By *eroLondonMan  over a year ago

Mayfair


"Hell would freeze over first"

What if that first meet was in an Igloo, somewhere in the Underworld?

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By *bi HaiveMan  over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

Are we talking just physical attraction or mental? When you say 'as much' do you mean there's literally no chemistry and connection or just not as much as you'd hoped initially?

Because whilst the majority have said a straight up 'no', I'd be considering maybe a second social meet to see if it was initial nerves, a lack of confidence or just something that meant the initial spark wasn't as strong as hoped for.

I wouldn't write them off completely unless there was absolutely no connection full stop.

I've met people before who I've thought 'nope, let's leave this just as a nice chat/coffee' and then after more online/phone chat and further conversation at a second face to face meet, we've just clicked. Followed by some very good sex.

I hate snap judgements. I'm never in a rush. Some things take longer than others.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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I don't have sex the first time I meet someone so no.

Attraction can grow though can't it? You can have friendships where you think nothing of it and one day you find them rather fuckable.

I also think... people are human. They can have off days, they aren't always *bam* from the get go. So I try and give people space to just be. See without pressure, relax in to things.

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By *inchyorksMan  over a year ago

huddersfield

It depends if there is still enough attraction that everyone still wants to go through with it, if not then no x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS  over a year ago

Central

It's a person that I have sex with, not a 2D concept of them. If the real person is attractive enough, then yes, I would, even if they're less interesting than I'd hoped.

But if they don't match my tastes, then I would decline

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yes

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By *layfullsamMan  over a year ago

Solihull


"Would I gave to look at his face? "

Two brown paper bags are allowed

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By *esire in SheffieldMan  over a year ago

Sheffield


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

No why should I.

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By *adJaxMan  over a year ago

Lisburn

Attraction is a major thing, if I'm attracted to someone but they're not feeling it with me, I can accept it and move on. No need to feel like anyone is obliged to do anything

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By *ayd100Man  over a year ago

clitheroe

Just get on with it

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By *ames HardwickMan  over a year ago

Courtown, Gorey

Precisely, problem is a lot of ppl take offence and therefor shut off to the lifestylers which creates animosity amongst us, in certain circles, and there is talk, there is always talk.... We all need to be adults, have social meets and keep it light but establish the dynamic as early as possible and then have a just as good a night either way. If the connection isn't there sexually, which, let's face it is a must, there's no need to take it personal, live and let live and while you out having a coffee/drink/etc make the most of it platonically,, or is that just over expecting in today's society,

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By *atnip make me purrWoman  over a year ago

Reading

it has happened a few times and no. that's what the social is for. if it's not there nothing will happen

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I'm not inclined to building anything up until I've seen the whites of their eyes

What if they've got conjunctivitis? "

Or wearing sunglasses being true to their online photos.

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By *sirapMan  over a year ago

Manchester

Yeah I absolutely would!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple  over a year ago

Leeds

No, this is why I don't like meeting up from here.

Social 1st, if the attraction isn't there then it's a no.

Mrs

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By *TG3Man  over a year ago

Dorchester

Absolutely not but hey you can't appeal to everyone

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'd go to the toilet and run away

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By *adgerMan  over a year ago

york

Again a no and why I prefer socials

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By *riar BelisseWoman  over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Nooooooooo

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast

I don't have sex just for the sake of it so if there was no attraction in person it wouldn't be happening.

I don't meet for sex anyway without at least one social and I've said no twice as many times as I've said yes on here.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan  over a year ago

The last house on the left…


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

Yeah, I would.

It’s free Pizza

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By *ora the explorerWoman  over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Of course not. But I’d never ever be in that situation anyway.

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By *lfa RomeoMan  over a year ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

No not at all. But I'd be very respectful and at least enjoy the evening with them, plus I would of made a friend

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By *ddie1966Man  over a year ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

No.

Definitely not.

Id be lying to myself and I don't do that.

There has to be mutual sexual attraction, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with staying good friends IMO.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

So I'm attracted to their personality on paper but when I meet them in person the attraction isn't as strong?

I'd never agree to sex with someone just off of on line interaction anyway but *if* I had and this situation arose it would depend entirely on what 'not so much' meant. Did he turn up looking like a gargoyle with breath that could strip paint? Or was he not quite what I had imagined?

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By *andi19Couple  over a year ago

somewhere

It happens to us! But it was a couple, she was attractive but the guy was completely different from his pic, and the personality didn’t help! I would fuck her bur M wouldn’t fuck him, we ended up not having any thing with them!

D

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By *akequeen90Couple  over a year ago

Sydney

We would for the commitment

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

Depends what was on tv or whether bingo was on at the village hall.

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By *attoo manMan  over a year ago

Rhyl

Yep

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By *a LunaWoman  over a year ago

South Wales

So is there attraction there but it’s just not as strong as online?

Bit like fancying Brad Pitt only to realise in person his feet smell if he takes his socks off, but he’s shaggable with the socks left on?

Mmm depends how needy my pussy is feeling.

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By *tsJustKateWoman  over a year ago

London

Seeing as I'd made the effort, probably, and probably have.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

No never again. Did it once and wouldn't do it again, shite experience.

Miss S x

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By *ohntall123Man  over a year ago

Biggleswade


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?"

No

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By *oney HoneyWoman  over a year ago

York

Nope. Happened to me a few times. I won’t lower my standards

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By *illybeachboyMan  over a year ago

Guernsey

No, you need a spark of attraction.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS  over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

If it was borderline, perhaps, but if there was nothing there, then no. They'd just get an extra jelly baby

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman  over a year ago

Wherever


"Someone you had been talking to online, lots of build up etc.. but then when you met them, the attraction wasn’t as much? Would you still go through with it?

Are we talking just physical attraction or mental? When you say 'as much' do you mean there's literally no chemistry and connection or just not as much as you'd hoped initially?

Because whilst the majority have said a straight up 'no', I'd be considering maybe a second social meet to see if it was initial nerves, a lack of confidence or just something that meant the initial spark wasn't as strong as hoped for.

I wouldn't write them off completely unless there was absolutely no connection full stop.

I've met people before who I've thought 'nope, let's leave this just as a nice chat/coffee' and then after more online/phone chat and further conversation at a second face to face meet, we've just clicked. Followed by some very good sex.

I hate snap judgements. I'm never in a rush. Some things take longer than others. "

I am with you on this one. Absolutely spot on.

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