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Don't think I've ever been 100% happy. I've had times when in that moment I have been. But even when I'm happy there have always been parts of my life that aren't quite there. I look forward to the time in my life where I'm happy with every aspect....I feel it inching closer as I get older  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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I am happy most of the time and really exuberantly happy some of the time. If I feel a bit less than happy I try and think of people who are worse off than me...
like those that have to live with me |
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"I often wonder this. Is anyone happy?? Or is everyone just plodding on waiting to be happy?"
You have hit the nail on the head there, a very astute comment.
I am happy some of the time and content a lot of the time. I think a lot of people fail to recognise the happiness that can be found in the moment because they are so busy waiting to be happy. |
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I know Im happy when I havent asked my Tarot or Angel cards for help...... strange but true.
I suddenly realise that I havent had them out for a while and thats because there is nothing troubling me.  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know Im happy when I havent asked my Tarot or Angel cards for help...... strange but true.
I suddenly realise that I havent had them out for a while and thats because there is nothing troubling me. "
I sometimes think that when I have not had any chocolate for a while I must be happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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can be little things that make me happy
like when me and my hubby are out walking our little dog.
seeing flowers, cats and dogs.
i get excited and i cuddle my hubby and want to have sex with him. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know I am happy when I don't feel I need anything.
If I realise I am happy I slide towards doing something self destructive to bring some balance to my life
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That is really interesting - happiness is a state of just being without any particualr "sensation".... and the moment here are sensations.. it is a sign of some doom? |
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"I know I am happy when I don't feel I need anything.
If I realise I am happy I slide towards doing something self destructive to bring some balance to my life
That is really interesting - happiness is a state of just being without any particualr "sensation".... and the moment here are sensations.. it is a sign of some doom? "
Not sure about impending doom, but happiness is easier to find by living in the moment. I often feel happier in the phases when I am meditating regularly |
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"Minxie, Happy and Mrs Overall - is it not funny that only happy people have posted so far? "
yeah but u know me - I am happy all the time .................  |
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"I know Im happy when I havent asked my Tarot or Angel cards for help...... strange but true.
I suddenly realise that I havent had them out for a while and thats because there is nothing troubling me. I sometimes think that when I have not had any chocolate for a while I must be happy "
nooooooo you mentioned the 'c' word, *races out to kitchen to raid the fridge* |
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"I am happy most of the time and really exuberantly happy some of the time. If I feel a bit less than happy I try and think of people who are worse off than me...
like those that have to live with me"
Spot on
Jx |
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"Ask the question - if this was my last day on earth would I change anything in my life
If the answers yes then go and change what you don't like
Nice way of looking at it.  "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it? "
cos there has to be darkness for us to truly appreciate the light |
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"that you are happy and what do you do when you are? "
I am probably happier at this time of my life than I have been for many many years. I actually sit back and chill. But I do notice that when I am truly happy from within, it is infectious and other people get caught up in my radiance |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
cos there has to be darkness for us to truly appreciate the light "
You are probably right - as much as I always dispute the existence of polarity ...
I think you could be right - without knowing at some level what the opposite of happy is... we would not know the state of happiness! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"that you are happy and what do you do when you are?
I am probably happier at this time of my life than I have been for many many years. I actually sit back and chill. But I do notice that when I am truly happy from within, it is infectious and other people get caught up in my radiance"
That is soooo true - when we are happy it can send such good vibes to others and make them a bit happier, too. |
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"that you are happy and what do you do when you are?
I am probably happier at this time of my life than I have been for many many years. I actually sit back and chill. But I do notice that when I am truly happy from within, it is infectious and other people get caught up in my radianceThat is soooo true - when we are happy it can send such good vibes to others and make them a bit happier, too. "
As corny as it may sound, it can't be a bad thing to spread a little happiness.... |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?"
You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"that you are happy and what do you do when you are?
I am probably happier at this time of my life than I have been for many many years. I actually sit back and chill. But I do notice that when I am truly happy from within, it is infectious and other people get caught up in my radianceThat is soooo true - when we are happy it can send such good vibes to others and make them a bit happier, too.
As corny as it may sound, it can't be a bad thing to spread a little happiness...."
We dont care, corny or not... as long as it works |
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth? "
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth?
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not?"
I guess it does... and I am not visiitng him tonight ... it is only Tuesday and I cannot post a heavy topic on Tuesdays...- it drives too many forumites to drink and/ or chocolate binges |
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth?
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not?I guess it does... and I am not visiitng him tonight ... it is only Tuesday and I cannot post a heavy topic on Tuesdays...- it drives too many forumites to drink and/ or chocolate binges"
And the problem with drink and chocolate binging is? (apart from indicating a lack of happiness/contentment) |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth?
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not?I guess it does... and I am not visiitng him tonight ... it is only Tuesday and I cannot post a heavy topic on Tuesdays...- it drives too many forumites to drink and/ or chocolate binges
And the problem with drink and chocolate binging is? (apart from indicating a lack of happiness/contentment)"
The celebration of happiness through drink and chocolate leads to a temporarily increased euphoria which sadly reduces the levels of happiness the next morning when reaching for the pain killers or stepping on the scales |
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it? "
not actually sur that we can be happy all the time tbh..
maybe life is a bit like sailing acoss an ocean, there will be calm times which could be 'your average day'..
peaks and trouphs in stormy weather..
good times when a fair wind is in your sails..
hopefully the latter will outnumber the former..
not sure thats the right response, hey ho..
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth?
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not?I guess it does... and I am not visiitng him tonight ... it is only Tuesday and I cannot post a heavy topic on Tuesdays...- it drives too many forumites to drink and/ or chocolate binges
And the problem with drink and chocolate binging is? (apart from indicating a lack of happiness/contentment)The celebration of happiness through drink and chocolate leads to a temporarily increased euphoria which sadly reduces the levels of happiness the next morning when reaching for the pain killers or stepping on the scales"
I never step on scales |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
not actually sur that we can be happy all the time tbh..
maybe life is a bit like sailing acoss an ocean, there will be calm times which could be 'your average day'..
peaks and trouphs in stormy weather..
good times when a fair wind is in your sails..
hopefully the latter will outnumber the former..
not sure thats the right response, hey ho..
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You know I dont even know what the "right" answer is...but what you are describing so well sounds like a good level of contentment with some highs? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth?
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not?I guess it does... and I am not visiitng him tonight ... it is only Tuesday and I cannot post a heavy topic on Tuesdays...- it drives too many forumites to drink and/ or chocolate binges
And the problem with drink and chocolate binging is? (apart from indicating a lack of happiness/contentment)The celebration of happiness through drink and chocolate leads to a temporarily increased euphoria which sadly reduces the levels of happiness the next morning when reaching for the pain killers or stepping on the scales
I never step on scales"
I sometimes do and then I step off them again. Is that another thread though?;-) |
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth?
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not?I guess it does... and I am not visiitng him tonight ... it is only Tuesday and I cannot post a heavy topic on Tuesdays...- it drives too many forumites to drink and/ or chocolate binges
And the problem with drink and chocolate binging is? (apart from indicating a lack of happiness/contentment)The celebration of happiness through drink and chocolate leads to a temporarily increased euphoria which sadly reduces the levels of happiness the next morning when reaching for the pain killers or stepping on the scales
I never step on scalesI sometimes do and then I step off them again. Is that another thread though?;-)"
Yeah, what would you title it though? |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
Because it's hard to believe we always deserve to be happy?You know, I sometimes wonder whether we stop ourselves sometimes from experiencing real happiness because we feel we somehow dont "deserve" it. Maybe that is soemthing to do with self esteem or self-worth?
I think you are right, it is very much linked to self worth. Which brings us back to Maslow does it not?I guess it does... and I am not visiitng him tonight ... it is only Tuesday and I cannot post a heavy topic on Tuesdays...- it drives too many forumites to drink and/ or chocolate binges
And the problem with drink and chocolate binging is? (apart from indicating a lack of happiness/contentment)The celebration of happiness through drink and chocolate leads to a temporarily increased euphoria which sadly reduces the levels of happiness the next morning when reaching for the pain killers or stepping on the scales
I never step on scalesI sometimes do and then I step off them again. Is that another thread though?;-)
Yeah, what would you title it though?"
"A step too far" or "A step into no-man's land" - have a think |
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"So if we know when we are happy, and what makes us happy... why dont we do more of it?
not actually sur that we can be happy all the time tbh..
maybe life is a bit like sailing acoss an ocean, there will be calm times which could be 'your average day'..
peaks and trouphs in stormy weather..
good times when a fair wind is in your sails..
hopefully the latter will outnumber the former..
not sure thats the right response, hey ho..
You know I dont even know what the "right" answer is...but what you are describing so well sounds like a good level of contentment with some highs? "
dont think there is one right answer as we all differ in health, upbringing, personal issues and many other factors..
little silly things do make one smile and appreciate that being able to enjoy them is a 'blessing'..
as View said..
sometimes we are so busy or after the perfect life, home, sex etc we miss the simple pleasures all around us.. |
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when i start obsessing more than normal about the housework i know the depression is setting in - i pull myself up and make myself go for walks - i know im really happy when his arms are round me as we sleep - cos thats after some amazing sex |
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