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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
Why is dating so much angst? All that having to get to know someone from scratch. Is there a word for that? The dread of the small talk to get to know someone…?
What do you write in the bio, what pics to choose that aren’t just thirst-trappin’ drill me now pics?
The opening message. The where to go on the date.
Ahhh it’s almost like being on here. |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"I prefer dating apps to fab  "
I think dating apps should have a forum section like here. A good way to get to know people before taking it direct. I’d enjoy that. I mean how else did I work out that you should be avoided?! |
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By *sWyldWoman 44 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
Dating is so much harder than being on here.
My face probably puts people off.
I swipe and match but rarely get a reply so I must have bad chat too.
I think I'm not pretty enough for tinder, too fussy for Pof too lazy for bumble and I'll never do Facebook dating again.
I'm probably just going to be single forever! |
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"And then it all goes nowhere and you have to start all over again. It’s exhausting  "
This! I started internet dating (again) at Christmas and, while I never have problems matching online, getting someone to agree to a date is a task and a half. And then being on my best behaviour and hiding all the weird, trying to make a connection with her, hoping she feels the same if I like her. Exhausting. |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"And then it all goes nowhere and you have to start all over again. It’s exhausting "
Yeah I love the excitement of meeting new people but the practicality of it *is* absolutely exhausting as it can be a bad investment if it burns out/nose dives etc. I’d be fine if friendship came out of it rather than romance etc as that is worth investing in, but the stop-start of it is draining! Perhaps I’m just a shit date!  |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Dating is so much harder than being on here.
My face probably puts people off.
I swipe and match but rarely get a reply so I must have bad chat too.
I think I'm not pretty enough for tinder, too fussy for Pof too lazy for bumble and I'll never do Facebook dating again.
I'm probably just going to be single forever! "
I’ll date you. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I prefer dating apps to fab
I think dating apps should have a forum section like here. A good way to get to know people before taking it direct. I’d enjoy that. I mean how else did I work out that you should be avoided?! "
After we had sex I think you did? |
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I think a lot of people join dating apps to hook up and go through the charade of being interested in a relationship to get sex out of you. People still do that on here but fab does tend to be more honest. |
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By *emidemiWoman 44 weeks ago
basingstoke |
Oh I love dating. The getting to know each other, the playful flirting, the first kisses etc.
But I think more importantly, I love how I feel about myself on a date. Like it’s a different person that doesn’t get to come out often  |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"I prefer dating apps to fab
I think dating apps should have a forum section like here. A good way to get to know people before taking it direct. I’d enjoy that. I mean how else did I work out that you should be avoided?!
After we had sex I think you did?"
In. Your. Dreams. Pickle. |
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"I'm awful at dating. Like, truly terrible at it
I second this 
Is that because I came second behind you in the World's Worst Dater competition? "
Listen I’ll admit to being a social hand grenade
I had good intentions  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I prefer dating apps to fab
I think dating apps should have a forum section like here. A good way to get to know people before taking it direct. I’d enjoy that. I mean how else did I work out that you should be avoided?!
After we had sex I think you did?
In. Your. Dreams. Pickle. "
I still dream about the times we had sex, Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"Oh I love dating. The getting to know each other, the playful flirting, the first kisses etc.
But I think more importantly, I love how I feel about myself on a date. Like it’s a different person that doesn’t get to come out often "
All of this.
Dating is fun. |
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By *emidemiWoman 44 weeks ago
basingstoke |
"Oh I love dating. The getting to know each other, the playful flirting, the first kisses etc.
But I think more importantly, I love how I feel about myself on a date. Like it’s a different person that doesn’t get to come out often
All of this.
Dating is fun."
Let’s go on a date. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Why is dating so much angst? All that having to get to know someone from scratch. Is there a word for that? The dread of the small talk to get to know someone…?
What do you write in the bio, what pics to choose that aren’t just thirst-trappin’ drill me now pics?
The opening message. The where to go on the date.
Ahhh it’s almost like being on here. "
Date from here.
It's much easier.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"Oh I love dating. The getting to know each other, the playful flirting, the first kisses etc.
But I think more importantly, I love how I feel about myself on a date. Like it’s a different person that doesn’t get to come out often
All of this.
Dating is fun.
Let’s go on a date. "
Fuck it.  |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"I prefer dating apps to fab
I think dating apps should have a forum section like here. A good way to get to know people before taking it direct. I’d enjoy that. I mean how else did I work out that you should be avoided?!
After we had sex I think you did?
In. Your. Dreams. Pickle.
I still dream about the times we had sex, Yes. "
Oh let me know how I was, what we did, was it good for me, in your fantasy? Sounds intriguing. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I prefer dating apps to fab
I think dating apps should have a forum section like here. A good way to get to know people before taking it direct. I’d enjoy that. I mean how else did I work out that you should be avoided?!
After we had sex I think you did?
In. Your. Dreams. Pickle.
I still dream about the times we had sex, Yes.
Oh let me know how I was, what we did, was it good for me, in your fantasy? Sounds intriguing. "
No because then you’ll ruin it. Let me have this |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Why is dating so much angst? All that having to get to know someone from scratch. Is there a word for that? The dread of the small talk to get to know someone…?
What do you write in the bio, what pics to choose that aren’t just thirst-trappin’ drill me now pics?
The opening message. The where to go on the date.
Ahhh it’s almost like being on here.
Date from here.
It's much easier. "
I’M TRYING!!  |
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By *orny PTMan 44 weeks ago
Peterborough |
Looking for a date is like looking for a job.
The anxiety is the same, so is the excitement, when it goes well and rejection, when it doesn't.
The only difference is getting told "...you're failing because you're trying too hard": funny how this never gets blurted out to desperate jobseekers |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"I prefer dating apps to fab
I think dating apps should have a forum section like here. A good way to get to know people before taking it direct. I’d enjoy that. I mean how else did I work out that you should be avoided?!
After we had sex I think you did?
In. Your. Dreams. Pickle.
I still dream about the times we had sex, Yes.
Oh let me know how I was, what we did, was it good for me, in your fantasy? Sounds intriguing.
No because then you’ll ruin it. Let me have this "
I better be fucking awesome in it though. I need my ego fluffed.  |
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At times this site can make you feel rejected especially when people view your profile then when you message them nothing no response it's disheartening sometimes wonder if people just like looking at pictures and no one really wants to socialise and potentially meet or maybe I am not the right fit for this site |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Looking for a date is like looking for a job.
The anxiety is the same, so is the excitement, when it goes well and rejection, when it doesn't.
The only difference is getting told "...you're failing because you're trying too hard": funny how this never gets blurted out to desperate jobseekers "
I might be better at dating if there was a potential for pay, I mean I’m great at interviews!! Maybe I’m just not motivated so much in the dating, or don’t believe in the product I’m selling! |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I think I’m at a stage where I just want to cwtch up and watch a movie, snuggle fuck, snack, snuggle fuck, have a foot rub, sleep, morning sex, then maybe a hike or wild swim, throw in a couple of three suns/sex clubs etc.
I can’t be arsed with the dating part. I want all the good stuff. "
It's possible to do both you know....  |
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I think I’m at a stage where I just want to cwtch up and watch a movie, snuggle fuck, snack, snuggle fuck, have a foot rub, sleep, morning sex, then maybe a hike or wild swim, throw in a couple of threesums/sex clubs etc.
I can’t be arsed with the dating part. I want all the good stuff. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Does anyone just date from normal life these days or is it all apps?
My last relationship was my hairdresser.
The apps are great, but nothing beats a natural thing just happening |
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"Does anyone just date from normal life these days or is it all apps?
My last relationship was my hairdresser.
The apps are great, but nothing beats a natural thing just happening "
I met one of my long term partners at work |
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Growing up in the 80’s no dating websites existed we went out to pubs clubs restaurants and cafes I met some beautiful women in those days and believe we all had a magical time.
The other side of the coin is what I’m doing now here on FAB times change although I haven’t met anyone face to face through here I also think there is a chance.
Good luck to everyone |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Does anyone just date from normal life these days or is it all apps?
My last relationship was my hairdresser.
The apps are great, but nothing beats a natural thing just happening "
I find it easier to approach someone in person that I like the look of in person rather than the suspense buildup online and then meet - it’s like waiting for a launched firework to explode and see if it’s pretty or a damp squib online dating. |
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By *orny PTMan 44 weeks ago
Peterborough |
"I think I’m at a stage where I just want to cwtch up and watch a movie, snuggle fuck, snack, snuggle fuck, have a foot rub, sleep, morning sex, then maybe a hike or wild swim, throw in a couple of threesums/sex clubs etc.
I can’t be arsed with the dating part. I want all the good stuff. "
The best thing about FAB is "You're just using me for sex" isn't a default thought.
I liked your hike and wild swim bits too, is it skinny dipping, that you're thinking of?
Fancy a sensual all over spikey glove rub? |
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"Does anyone just date from normal life these days or is it all apps?
My last relationship was my hairdresser.
The apps are great, but nothing beats a natural thing just happening "
I met my fiancé of 8 years at work |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Work seems like a place lots of people meet!
I dunno about you lot, I keep a strict “don’t shit where you eat” policy
So I avoid anything sexual/romantic from work or the gym or people in my close friend group |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Work seems like a place lots of people meet!
I dunno about you lot, I keep a strict “don’t shit where you eat” policy
So I avoid anything sexual/romantic from work or the gym or people in my close friend group "
I fancy one of my line reports. They have no idea.
I’m so fucking professional. |
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"Work seems like a place lots of people meet!
I dunno about you lot, I keep a strict “don’t shit where you eat” policy
So I avoid anything sexual/romantic from work or the gym or people in my close friend group "
Yep, I have the same policy as you. |
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"Work seems like a place lots of people meet!
I dunno about you lot, I keep a strict “don’t shit where you eat” policy
So I avoid anything sexual/romantic from work or the gym or people in my close friend group "
Nothing ventured, nothing gained 
We had a great relationship and in the end an amicable split. |
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"Work seems like a place lots of people meet!
I dunno about you lot, I keep a strict “don’t shit where you eat” policy
So I avoid anything sexual/romantic from work or the gym or people in my close friend group
Nothing ventured, nothing gained
We had a great relationship and in the end an amicable split."
I think that’s a good mentality
I just think there’s 1000 ways it could go bad or awkward so I don’t like to risk it
Which is a shame because there’s some nice girls at my gym that seem interested but I just don’t want to make it weird when it goes bad |
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"Work seems like a place lots of people meet!
I dunno about you lot, I keep a strict “don’t shit where you eat” policy
So I avoid anything sexual/romantic from work or the gym or people in my close friend group
Yep, I have the same policy as you."
Yeah we spend ages around people we would date but don't ask out because we don't want it to be awkward if they yes or no |
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