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I’ve noticed the newer the profile the more likely it is the person you’re chatting to will disappear. As someone looking to build connections this bothers me (appreciate not everyone will feel the same).
Do you have advice about when it’s time to “trust” a profile? I was thinking about saying I won’t chat to profiles under 6 months, but that feels a bit harsh to genuine guys who just happen to be new! |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak   |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
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Why age?
People of all ages have low effort profiles and think it’s a quick meet up site |
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"6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
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Thank you, I’ve noticed a well constructed profile isn’t a good indicator - I guess once you’ve written your piece and chosen your pics you can just copy and paste for every new profile you open.
But yes verifications tend to be good - only a lot of men find it hard to get verifications so it feels harsh to discriminate that way too lol |
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak "
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ? |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
Thank you, I’ve noticed a well constructed profile isn’t a good indicator - I guess once you’ve written your piece and chosen your pics you can just copy and paste for every new profile you open.
But yes verifications tend to be good - only a lot of men find it hard to get verifications so it feels harsh to discriminate that way too lol "
You have the right to discriminate in my opinion and I believe you and all women 100% should only go for verified profiles
You are not here to do charity after all
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?"
PS, I’m hoping to actually meet you at the London picnic - might get you to autograph a photo or something lol |
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"6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
Thank you, I’ve noticed a well constructed profile isn’t a good indicator - I guess once you’ve written your piece and chosen your pics you can just copy and paste for every new profile you open.
But yes verifications tend to be good - only a lot of men find it hard to get verifications so it feels harsh to discriminate that way too lol
You have the right to discriminate in my opinion and I believe you and all women 100% should only go for verified profiles
You are not here to do charity after all
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That’s a really good point, your last sentence really struck home. Thank you |
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Trust but verify. Look for patterns in communication if you can between people who disappear and people who don't.
Make small commitments - a pub not far from your house that you'd like to go to even if they ghost you. |
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"Trust but verify. Look for patterns in communication if you can between people who disappear and people who don't.
Make small commitments - a pub not far from your house that you'd like to go to even if they ghost you."
That’s a great idea, so their presence would only be a bonus not essential |
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"Trust but verify. Look for patterns in communication if you can between people who disappear and people who don't.
Make small commitments - a pub not far from your house that you'd like to go to even if they ghost you.
That’s a great idea, so their presence would only be a bonus not essential "
It's how I was verified for the first time. "I like that pub, it's not that far from me, if she's full of shit I'll have a pint and go home" |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?"
Usually I just get pissed off from the forums and I know if I hide I’ll just log in and use it. But I do usually tell people I’m talking to and give them the option to message me on telegram |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
Why age?
People of all ages have low effort profiles and think it’s a quick meet up site"
I’m speaking in general.Younger people up to a bit past my age are far more likely to either get easily frustrated or just bored with things.There are exceptions but I don’t believe women should waste their time trying to find them.
Cruel way to think I know but I believe the saved time is worth it |
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?
Usually I just get pissed off from the forums and I know if I hide I’ll just log in and use it. But I do usually tell people I’m talking to and give them the option to message me on telegram "
cough |
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"Trust but verify. Look for patterns in communication if you can between people who disappear and people who don't.
Make small commitments - a pub not far from your house that you'd like to go to even if they ghost you.
That’s a great idea, so their presence would only be a bonus not essential
It's how I was verified for the first time. "I like that pub, it's not that far from me, if she's full of shit I'll have a pint and go home""
You got verified so I guess it worked out! |
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?
Usually I just get pissed off from the forums and I know if I hide I’ll just log in and use it. But I do usually tell people I’m talking to and give them the option to message me on telegram "
Ok yes, that makes more sense. Did you see my PS or are you tactfully ignoring it lol |
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"6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
Why age?
People of all ages have low effort profiles and think it’s a quick meet up site
I’m speaking in general.Younger people up to a bit past my age are far more likely to either get easily frustrated or just bored with things.There are exceptions but I don’t believe women should waste their time trying to find them.
Cruel way to think I know but I believe the saved time is worth it"
I wonder as well whether people creating temporary profiles are even more likely to put fake info, and I expect you’re more likely to lie and say you’re 25 than 45 |
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?
Usually I just get pissed off from the forums and I know if I hide I’ll just log in and use it. But I do usually tell people I’m talking to and give them the option to message me on telegram
cough"
Oh is there story here? Of hardship, tragedy and woe? Or maybe just of someone being a dipshit lol Do share  (reaches for popcorn) |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?
Usually I just get pissed off from the forums and I know if I hide I’ll just log in and use it. But I do usually tell people I’m talking to and give them the option to message me on telegram
Ok yes, that makes more sense. Did you see my PS or are you tactfully ignoring it lol "
Forgive me what is the ps?  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?
Usually I just get pissed off from the forums and I know if I hide I’ll just log in and use it. But I do usually tell people I’m talking to and give them the option to message me on telegram
cough
Oh is there story here? Of hardship, tragedy and woe? Or maybe just of someone being a dipshit lol Do share (reaches for popcorn) "
Just that I don’t reply to her enough  |
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"6 months is harsh.Maybe look for verifications first?
If not Look at the age and the effort put in.
A lot of people join thinking this is a quick meet up site and get disappointed easily.
Why age?
People of all ages have low effort profiles and think it’s a quick meet up site
I’m speaking in general.Younger people up to a bit past my age are far more likely to either get easily frustrated or just bored with things.There are exceptions but I don’t believe women should waste their time trying to find them.
Cruel way to think I know but I believe the saved time is worth it
I wonder as well whether people creating temporary profiles are even more likely to put fake info, and I expect you’re more likely to lie and say you’re 25 than 45 "
he's really 52. |
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"I’m not new but my profile is new. I leave and come back which I imagine would be frustrating for someone if I didn’t tell them to give them the option to maintain contact.
But, OP, you have to do what YOU feel is right to protect YOU. If you want to only talk to profiles at least 6 months old then do that.
But just know, that I’ll never have a profile that old so we will never speak
Why is it you don’t keep a profile that long? You’re such a big community member here, why cut all those ties ?
Usually I just get pissed off from the forums and I know if I hide I’ll just log in and use it. But I do usually tell people I’m talking to and give them the option to message me on telegram
cough
Oh is there story here? Of hardship, tragedy and woe? Or maybe just of someone being a dipshit lol Do share (reaches for popcorn)
Just that I don’t reply to her enough "
at least she gets a reply |
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By *ornycougaWoman 44 weeks ago
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If I get messaged by a new user who I like the look of I either suggest meeting for a drink very quickly - shows if they are genuine or not and saves wasting time chatting. Or I am straight with them and say if you are still interested once they have found their feet on here and got verified, come back and we'll take it from there. |
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