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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No because, much like Estella, I know I'm a lot.
I'm neurospicy. Chaotic. Waffle a lot. Get excited easily. I know that I can easily be too much so bar a handful of people in my life, I try and rein it in. It doesn't mean I'm presenting a facade, just... a smaller part of me. If that makes sense. I think it does. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"No because, much like Estella, I know I'm a lot.
I'm neurospicy. Chaotic. Waffle a lot. Get excited easily. I know that I can easily be too much so bar a handful of people in my life, I try and rein it in. It doesn't mean I'm presenting a facade, just... a smaller part of me. If that makes sense. I think it does. "
Makes total sense.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I show different faces in different situations but they're always my face. "
Hello Erving Goffman. I was just talking about your book on the presentation of self last night |
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"I show different faces in different situations but they're always my face. "
This I think is the most common adaptation we all make. I’m me but my emotional intelligence (of which I have lots  ) dictates how I conduct myself for the situation. Am I exactly the same with my mum as I am with my friends? No because she’d take great joy in remind me that she ‘ain’t one of your little friend dem’
That said im me in every interaction I have, even if I chose not to interact which is also a variation of me  |
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I tone myself down at work around people who would he uncomfortable with all of me but the need to pay bills means we have to interact.
I tone myself down around children, or when in public situations.
I tone myself down when that's the appropriate response to a situation.
But I am all of me when I'm just with the people who mean something to me  |
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"I show different faces in different situations but they're always my face. "
I feel this.
I’m not going to go in to a terminally ill patient and regale their family with all my stories about being rogered in the back of vans  |
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I reign myself in a lot, there aren't many who see my full chaotic self. Plus I don't think it's feasible to be the same with your best friends and say work colleagues, it wouldn't be professional. But they're all me just different hats on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think that sometimes we give a view of ourselves to most and most of ourselves to a few.
The more vulnerable side I will keep away from people who don’t really know me at all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see it as toning down
Just behaving in a context appropriate way "
I agree with this. I like to gauge a room in an unfamiliar place before I can decide how much myself I can show to other people. |
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"I show different faces in different situations but they're always my face.
I feel this.
I’m not going to go in to a terminally ill patient and regale their family with all my stories about being rogered in the back of vans "
Unless it’s their dying wish to hear it… right? |
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"I’m forever code switching 
Is it appropriate to talk about code switching when it's a neurotype thing rather than a race thing? Because that's what I feel like I'm doing"
I feel like code switch is an umbrella term that includes neurotype. |
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"I’m forever code switching
Is it appropriate to talk about code switching when it's a neurotype thing rather than a race thing? Because that's what I feel like I'm doing
I feel like code switch is an umbrella term that includes neurotype. "
That's fair. I'm not sure and I don't want to take something that doesn't belong to my pasty arse, if that makes sense. (plus or minus pasty arse) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m forever code switching
Is it appropriate to talk about code switching when it's a neurotype thing rather than a race thing? Because that's what I feel like I'm doing
I feel like code switch is an umbrella term that includes neurotype.
That's fair. I'm not sure and I don't want to take something that doesn't belong to my pasty arse, if that makes sense. (plus or minus pasty arse)"
I don’t think code switching is a thing that only applies in a race context |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I only know how to bring myself. If anyone wants a toned down version they can wait till im dead… 
That’s ages away 
I know right…
So I’ll just be my whole bundle of joy until then "
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"I’m forever code switching
Is it appropriate to talk about code switching when it's a neurotype thing rather than a race thing? Because that's what I feel like I'm doing
I feel like code switch is an umbrella term that includes neurotype.
That's fair. I'm not sure and I don't want to take something that doesn't belong to my pasty arse, if that makes sense. (plus or minus pasty arse)
I don’t think code switching is a thing that only applies in a race context"
Fair enough. I'd only heard it in that context so... deference. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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Pondering: I sometimes wonder if I actually know who the *real* me is, or if I am a reaction to others/a ‘what they may need me to be for them’. In that case, *who* am I toning down or otherwise? |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I’m generally shy and reserved unless:
A) I’ve had a drink
B) I’m in company of friends
C) I’ve known you awhile
I’m sassy, but I’ve got to get a feel for you first. See if you’re my kind of weird.
So I guess it’s masked slightly, but it’s there. |
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Disclaimer: haven't read the thread, apologies if I wander off topic, OP
I think we show different parts of ourselves to different people, and in different situations. I'm different with my kids than I am with my friends or parents, for example. One of the things I loved about finding the fora was being able to be my sexual self publicly. Very few of my friends outside of here know about it. It's liberating and I feel very comfortable. Like I've been hiding my whole life - from myself too - and hadn't fully realised it. So yeah, I can be a lot on here. And I love having that freedom.
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