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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar? |
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"Oh boy, yes I have  .
Also I wouldn’t say you look Spanish. Guessing ethnicity is too difficult for me though. I can only figure it out by accents. "
I get bored of White people not accepting I’m British as an answer. But also other Black peoples often guess that my family are from West Africa. And like- I’m Jamaican so I almost definitely am West African. But my maternal great grandad was Chinese and my maternal grandma has a Portuguese maiden name . Guessing ethnicity is pointless. |
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"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar? "
Maybe confusing _stella with that damm _stella cerveza por favor? |
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"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar? "
I once got frogmarched out of an Irish bar in Portugal by the police after they raided it looking for some Eastern European gang members… luckily I had my passport and my thick brummie accent 
The group then proceeded to call me Vladimir for the remainder of the boy’s holiday. |
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People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends.  |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Oh boy, yes I have .
Also I wouldn’t say you look Spanish. Guessing ethnicity is too difficult for me though. I can only figure it out by accents.
I get bored of White people not accepting I’m British as an answer. But also other Black peoples often guess that my family are from West Africa. And like- I’m Jamaican so I almost definitely am West African. But my maternal great grandad was Chinese and my maternal grandma has a Portuguese maiden name . Guessing ethnicity is pointless. "
Actually sorry, I posted after a sudden spate of messages just now, and didn’t really think through the actual depth of daily attrition that I don’t receive and many people do - I hope I haven’t (with no intent) minimised or negated others’ experiences - just thinking. |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
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"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends. "
People are fucking annoying, I’m sorry. |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
I once got frogmarched out of an Irish bar in Portugal by the police after they raided it looking for some Eastern European gang members… luckily I had my passport and my thick brummie accent
The group then proceeded to call me Vladimir for the remainder of the boy’s holiday."
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"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
I once got frogmarched out of an Irish bar in Portugal by the police after they raided it looking for some Eastern European gang members… luckily I had my passport and my thick brummie accent
The group then proceeded to call me Vladimir for the remainder of the boy’s holiday."
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"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar? "
People have asked me if I’m Canadian “to be polite.”
I don’t think that’s polite at all but my accent, like my haircut, is a good litmus test.  |
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By *TG3Man 44 weeks ago
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"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar? "
yes you have a Mediterranean look even Italian  |
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By *TG3Man 44 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
People have asked me if I’m Canadian “to be polite.”
I don’t think that’s polite at all but my accent, like my haircut, is a good litmus test. "
It turned blue when i lit it  |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I've had the are you (insert nationality here) question a few times and they haven't even seen my face.
It's when the mistake you for their ex it's a bit concerning. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"I've been asked a lot on here if I'm Spanish or Italian. Nope, I've just got dark hair"
Oh I can see why they'd ask if you are Italian.. You are one gorgeous lady! |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends.
People are fucking annoying, I’m sorry. "
I find it funny now. When they say “Where are you really from” or similar I reply with “Out of my mothers vagina” it makes them feel awkward |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
Well both my passport and my driving licence have photos that make me look like some kind of Russian/East European gangster apparently.
That's the excuse they used at security for the last body cavity search anyhoo......  |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends.
People are fucking annoying, I’m sorry.
I find it funny now. When they say “Where are you really from” or similar I reply with “Out of my mothers vagina” it makes them feel awkward "
Ha! Nicely handled! |
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"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends.
People are fucking annoying, I’m sorry.
I find it funny now. When they say “Where are you really from” or similar I reply with “Out of my mothers vagina” it makes them feel awkward "
I’ve been saying this a lot myself over the last decade when someone insist I must be from somewhere different than what I’ve told them. I love the awkward looks after saying it. |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Well both my passport and my driving licence have photos that make me look like some kind of Russian/East European gangster apparently.
That's the excuse they used at security for the last body cavity search anyhoo...... "
Are you sure you didn’t ask for one?  |
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"Well both my passport and my driving licence have photos that make me look like some kind of Russian/East European gangster apparently.
That's the excuse they used at security for the last body cavity search anyhoo...... "
Didn’t stop you volunteering to go through security twice more though! |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends. "
I know a Caribbean babe when I see one   |
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"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends.
I know a Caribbean babe when I see one "
Plus- classic. The West Indies are full of so many different people from different diasporas. Many indentured peoples were there, you have the native people, you have west Africans that were slxves there and you have obviously Europeans that were there. I think it’s fascinating because people from all the different islands look like they’ve got family from all around the world. And I guess we do tbf. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"Oh boy, yes I have .
Also I wouldn’t say you look Spanish. Guessing ethnicity is too difficult for me though. I can only figure it out by accents.
I get bored of White people not accepting I’m British as an answer. But also other Black peoples often guess that my family are from West Africa. And like- I’m Jamaican so I almost definitely am West African. But my maternal great grandad was Chinese and my maternal grandma has a Portuguese maiden name . Guessing ethnicity is pointless.
Actually sorry, I posted after a sudden spate of messages just now, and didn’t really think through the actual depth of daily attrition that I don’t receive and many people do - I hope I haven’t (with no intent) minimised or negated others’ experiences - just thinking. "
Nah I don’t think it was that deep |
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"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar? "
Maybe it is your profile name? |
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By *ost SockMan 44 weeks ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
Maybe confusing _stella with that damm _stella cerveza por favor? "
This is actually what I thought.
Dark hair and a name that’s one letter away from a Spanish beer. I honestly think that’s that’s likely to be part of it.
I’ve spent my whole life being told “you don’t sound Welsh”. Everyone over 50 seems to think there’s only one accent here and that’s Windsor Davies’s in “It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”
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By *ost SockMan 44 weeks ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
Maybe confusing _stella with that damm _stella cerveza por favor?
This is actually what I thought.
Dark hair and a name that’s one letter away from a Spanish beer. I honestly think that’s that’s likely to be part of it.
I’ve spent my whole life being told “you don’t sound Welsh”. Everyone over 50 seems to think there’s only one accent here and that’s Windsor Davies’s in “It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”
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The Estrella bit being the key thing, not the hair.
I should add - plenty of Welsh people say thT to me too |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Well both my passport and my driving licence have photos that make me look like some kind of Russian/East European gangster apparently.
That's the excuse they used at security for the last body cavity search anyhoo......
Didn’t stop you volunteering to go through security twice more though! "
Only cos I thought one of them had lost his watch....... |
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By *stella OP Woman 44 weeks ago
London |
"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
Maybe confusing _stella with that damm _stella cerveza por favor?
This is actually what I thought.
Dark hair and a name that’s one letter away from a Spanish beer. I honestly think that’s that’s likely to be part of it.
I’ve spent my whole life being told “you don’t sound Welsh”. Everyone over 50 seems to think there’s only one accent here and that’s Windsor Davies’s in “It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”
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The Estrella bit being the key thing, not the hair.
I should add - plenty of Welsh people say thT to me too "
Actually I get loads of messages where people think my username *is* actually Estrella too! |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends.
I know a Caribbean babe when I see one "
Hahaha |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"People usually assume I’m mixed race because I’m not a darker skinned black person, I teased at school a lot they used to say I was adopted as both my parents are dark skinned, not realising I look identical to my grandmother in skin tone and appearance. :D
I’ve had people ask if I’m half Asian (East Asian) before which baffles me. There is Indian in my lineage further down though!
And then you get the “Where are you really from” when you say you’re British to people, it never ends.
People are fucking annoying, I’m sorry.
I find it funny now. When they say “Where are you really from” or similar I reply with “Out of my mothers vagina” it makes them feel awkward
I’ve been saying this a lot myself over the last decade when someone insist I must be from somewhere different than what I’ve told them. I love the awkward looks after saying it. "
It’s the best! I just smile and watch their face |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 44 weeks ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
"As a European I'm always asked if I'm Polish. Guess what? There are other languages beside Polish that have a Slavic accent
K"
A friend of mine has material he performs about that. 15 different races in Eastern Europe, but from how people react over here, just the one accent.
I once got mistaken for almost being human |
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By *ost SockMan 44 weeks ago
West Wales and Cardiff |
"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
Maybe confusing _stella with that damm _stella cerveza por favor?
This is actually what I thought.
Dark hair and a name that’s one letter away from a Spanish beer. I honestly think that’s that’s likely to be part of it.
I’ve spent my whole life being told “you don’t sound Welsh”. Everyone over 50 seems to think there’s only one accent here and that’s Windsor Davies’s in “It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”
.
The Estrella bit being the key thing, not the hair.
I should add - plenty of Welsh people say thT to me too
Actually I get loads of messages where people think my username *is* actually Estrella too! "
You’re much less bland than that over-commercialised beverage |
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"Do I look Spanish? I’m getting a myriad of messages asking if I am today! I’m not. Not that I’m implying that there’s anything wrong if I was. Just bemused that a) people approach in that way and b) that you wouldn’t start from the assumption I’m simply British.
Have you ever been asked if you’re another nationality? Or an assumption re something similar?
Maybe confusing _stella with that damm _stella cerveza por favor?
This is actually what I thought.
Dark hair and a name that’s one letter away from a Spanish beer. I honestly think that’s that’s likely to be part of it.
I’ve spent my whole life being told “you don’t sound Welsh”. Everyone over 50 seems to think there’s only one accent here and that’s Windsor Davies’s in “It Ain’t Half Hot Mum”
.
The Estrella bit being the key thing, not the hair.
I should add - plenty of Welsh people say thT to me too
Actually I get loads of messages where people think my username *is* actually Estrella too! "
What about the classic Phil Lynott line... "is there any of the girls got a bit of oyrish in them?is there any of the girls would like a bit of oyrish in them?" ...and so on... |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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The first year I joined fab I kept getting asked if I was French. I couldn't tell if it was a naff chat up line or if they genuinely thought only French women had short hair *gallic shrug* |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I've been mistaken for being Middle Eastern before, but the most bemusing one was when a couple who had "No Asians" on their profile messaged me to compliment my profile. When I brought this up and stated I was Indian, they said I "looked Mediterranean"  |
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"I've been mistaken for being Middle Eastern before, but the most bemusing one was when a couple who had "No Asians" on their profile messaged me to compliment my profile. When I brought this up and stated I was Indian, they said I "looked Mediterranean" "
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"Oh boy, yes I have .
Also I wouldn’t say you look Spanish. Guessing ethnicity is too difficult for me though. I can only figure it out by accents.
I get bored of White people not accepting I’m British as an answer. But also other Black peoples often guess that my family are from West Africa. And like- I’m Jamaican so I almost definitely am West African. But my maternal great grandad was Chinese and my maternal grandma has a Portuguese maiden name . Guessing ethnicity is pointless. "
I did DNA ancestry testing and I'm only 80% white British! I'm a decent portion Jewish (Ashkenazi) but I knew that. I also have Scandinavian, Italian and North African genetics. I'm a Heinz variety but look like the quintessential English rose. But I ain't |
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Not something I can say I have, must just look like a 'typical' British person.
My dad and paternal grandad have/had a olive complexion that tans really well and were always asked if they were from elsewhere til they opened their mouths and you got broad glasweigian area accent from them.
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