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Was popularity important to you as a child?
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By *hagTonight OP Man 44 weeks ago
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It would be fun to know how you was a child and if popularity was important to you during the school years.
It was a little bit, but not so much for me. I would say it was the opposite. I remember how many wanted to play sports with me during the lunch break and after school as well 
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"No. I just enjoyed making friends as a child. Even in high school I just wanted to fit in, I was lucky I wasn’t popular or unpopular, we had a good year.  "
Similar to my experience to be honest. I had a lot of friends but I wasn’t popular or unpopular |
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By *eliWoman 44 weeks ago
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No it wasn't. School was an escape for me and I found the other girls endlessly fascinating because I love people. So I had quite a few friends, was part of various groups but I didn't seek it.
I think I wanted to find my tribe rather than be popular. |
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By *aseylee324Couple 44 weeks ago
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I was bullied in primary school - my mother was one of the teachers. Secondary was much better, I wouldn't say I was popular, but well enough liked by the ones I cared to be liked by. I'm an introvert so popularity per se isn't something that matters to me, something I am thankful for, from what I can see it's a double-edged sword. |
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I was tall, overweight and painfully shy when I was at school, and had to use crutches for a while. I was also a brainiac. This should be, according to American movies, a recipe for disaster, I should have been picked on mercilessly. However, in my country of origin, the bullying culture had not developed then yet. So my school years were all good- I was "popular" when help with homework or Maths was needed, but I was mostly left to my own devices. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Luckily social media didn’t exist back then
But no wasn’t particularly important
If anything I saw flaws in the really popular kids and personally didn’t like them
You know the teachers pet types and the cool kid that fell for the latest fashion
I was reasonably well liked myself
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"No. I just enjoyed making friends as a child. Even in high school I just wanted to fit in, I was lucky I wasn’t popular or unpopular, we had a good year.
Similar to my experience to be honest. I had a lot of friends but I wasn’t popular or unpopular "
That’s what I think we all wanted. To not stand out. (in college was different for me., I fought for the spotlight  ). But I do point to the fact our year was a very very small year., nobody got left behind. So I think most would probably say the same as me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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It was and it was a huge mistake. Hanging out with all the popular crowd felt like I was a winner, but once I grew up a little I realised it’s better to find your people instead of just the people that others think are “popular”. Turns out I had way more in common and had a better time with all the groups we used to bully |
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By *ookie46Woman 44 weeks ago
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Primary school I would say I was probably popular but that was more to do with being house captain, sports captain and part of most school clubs
Secondary school was a little different. I was neither popular or not popular but from age 15 onwards I was bullied awfully as I went out with the school heartthrob and he hadn’t chose one of the popular girls … |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I don’t think it was that important to me when I think back to that time but I was fairly popular in school. I think the fact that I was, meant that I probably cared less. Because school was pretty easy for me in most ways, definitely from a social pov. But yeah
It certainly doesn’t bother me now. I have few friends but I value the ones I do have and those in my life. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Was always pretty quiet all the way though school, but always had friends and was never picked on. Think being able to play sports really helped.
Can't say I was ever too bothered about being 'popular' though |
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Not really, I had friends through different groups I never stuck with one particular group of people, I was neither popular or unpopular I hung around with who I liked which included both popular & less popular friends, I never put much thought to it it's just how it was.
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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I was moved around alot due to a violent home , trans thing kicked in early, got bullied alot later on ,retaliated with extreme violence was the only way to stop it, not proud of that ,putting some in hospital. I had to have councelling, the bullies should just have left me alone.Popularity never came into it ,library was my main place ,skipping classes,having my sandwiches on the highest roof. I hope it different now for the school kids. |
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Yes, I’d think it is to most Kids, but I wasn’t, I was a bit of a been pole, didnt have much personality, so was bullied more than my fair share.
Now, those traits have developed and I get on with people better, but as a result of experience at school, I really don’t care. Nice if people like me, but I get by quite nicely if they don’t. |
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Not really. I had a small group of friends where I lived and a different and even smaller group at school.
I never had any interest in being popular from what I can remember and therefore never felt the need to go along with things just to be popular.
I stood up to those who were scaring elderly neighbours as part of their initiations and still have some of the scars to prove it.
I didn't explore all the usual things such as smoking and drinking even when my closest friends were because I never gave in to peer pressure. |
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I was in the popular crowd out of school, but because I was in a different ability group with them, except for one girl in our English lessons, I didn't see much of them at school.
At lunch I'd be in their group but chat to everyone else.
It wasn't like you see in films set in the US.
I got in with everyone. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS 44 weeks ago
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It was nice to be liked and respected by my friends, but as for the wider school population, I wasn't that bothered either way.
Easy friendship doesn't carry as much value as that which is earned through knowing someone.
There were a few nasty sorts at school, but they didn't like anyone and all I wanted from them was neutrality. I certainly didn't want their friendship. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Not at all, quite the opposite. I wanted to fly below the radar and not be noticed. Unfortunately, I was a bit odd and would attract some negative attention because I didn't know how to blend in. |
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By *hagTonight OP Man 44 weeks ago
From the land of haribos. |
"I was very sporty too shag and geeky. That automatically comes with friends from your teams, which breeds popularity, I've always had it, so can't really say that I seeked it at school "
Hi beatrice, that is good you also were sporty and geeky too. I see yes, as you already had it as well |
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Would have loved to b one of the popular kids! Quite the opposite though! At school reunions I rarely get remembered when I say who I am! But like the fact if I do say so myself I've aged better than alot of my peer group! X |
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