Why is it so difficult for single guys to meet F or MF on this site?
I've been on this site & its predecessor for over 15 years. In the past 6-7 years though it seems to be next to impossible for a Single Guy to meet a female or couple on this site in person.
Seems the trend is for couples to meet couples and only VWE guys might have a chance to meet a couple or fem. Many want to meet at paid for sex party locations too which is cool but it sort of makes it difficult for those wanting to be discreet.
There seems to be many who just want pics and phone chats as well as fake profiles.
Winks was a way for informally testing the waters on compatibility / interest between profiles but many profiles frown on it or worst block profiles if they do.
Sadly, I’ve also experienced more & more racism. It’s only the 21st Jan but I’ve experienced it 6 times already. I lost count last year after 8.
I have had a total of 23 meets in 15 years. I’ve kept a track of this for health purposes. On this sites predecessor I was able to leave my profile verifications on without revealing the user profile or messages as I respect discreteness. On this website I did the same too. sadly, when a couple/person deletes their profile on this site it deletes the verification unless I’ve selected to show verifications on my profile prior. However, it’s getting to the point where one must also show all verifications prior to being considered for a meet.
It’s got to the point where I’m questioning if this is worth it anymore.
does any of this resonate with you? Are others experiencing this?
It would be great to understand from genuine F or FF or MF profiles to do differently. |
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I'm sorry to hear this OP.
I haven't experienced any form of racism on here; quite the opposite in fact, and my journey on here has been pleasurable and without hindrance, despite some initial hiccups when I first joined years ago.
The common theme is 'ad nauseam' — men outnumber the women, plain and simple.
You haven't asked for profile advice and therefore I'm not allowed to critique...but I can sêê some red flags which might be attributed to your frustration. |
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Utterly shite about the racist comments, never any excuse for that.
However as mentioned above, the ratio of women to men means that women by far have the "upper hand" on here. At least as regards the pool of men that they can choose from. From speaking to men who have been able to meet, attending smaller Socials seems to be the way to go. Actually get your face seen and interact in real time with people. Sadly with a message you're just another yellow box in a lady's inbox.
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Firstly I'm sorry you've been subjected to racism, that's terrible.
So to answer your questions, I can't be bothered to even check if I have winks. The amount of messages make winks a bit of a lazy form of contact really.
I prefer to meet at clubs or parties. I've had a few scary situations in the past, so it's by far a safer and less pressured environment. And ideally a good way to meet a future regular fwb?
But I will make exceptions if I really click with a guy via his messages. That said, since I rejoined fab I've had around 100 messages, only 1 guy stood out, and I couldn't tell you what it was about his opening message either!
You haven't asked for advice on your profile, but after reading it, it doesn't come across as very warm friendly or fun. So that would probably put me off if I was considering you.
And ps the profiles of women just wanting insta boosts are fairly easy to spot after awhile! Maybe try a dating website but be also clear on there what you're after? |
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I've been here almost 8 years and didn't join until I was 52.
I've never had an issue meeting people.
I've never been to a club and only one small house party 6 years ago.
I'm not vwe or even we but I've never had a conversation on here about the size of my manhood just as I've never had any questions or issues about my age.
I have never chatted to a fake profile and haven't had a single no show or been one.
I have been to a handful of group socials but none of those ever led to an increase in my circle of friends and less than 10 percent of meets have gone beyond a coffee social.
I've had 4 different profiles and accumulated 60+ veries across those but chose to only have sex with 6 in those 8 years.
That has all been by choice rather than circumstance.
I'm happy with my interactions on here and my "success" rate.
Most of my verifications have left the site but I've never once been asked to show any hidden ones I have. |
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"Sorry to hear about the racist comments, I hope you've reported the profiles.
Have you tried going to group socials and chatted with people? Clubs maybe?
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I did a couple of times but sadly I found the clubs not for me. When I was in my early 20s it was cool but I’ve somewhat grown out of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Racism aside, sometimes you just got to charge it.
It’s shit but this is the game.
On the racism stuff, all I can say is solidarity, man. I hear you. I’m sure you’ve reported it or even if you haven’t I hear you. 6 in January alone is rough. Take some time away if you need it.
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I mean the site is called fab"swingers", so I wouldn't say couples meeting other couples is a trend as such!
Also I see very few profiles asking specifically for VWE, in fact lots of folks prefer average!
Sorry to hear that you've dealt with people being ignorant and racist though, there's no excuse for being so nasty x |
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There was a local "fem" who would regularly update her status to share how many messages she got after posting a profile picture.
She hit the 700 mark within a day.
That's 700 horny men, 70% of which are BBC, 90% of which are 9 inches or greater, 30% of which .... Etc etc
You get it.
So yeah, you've had double digit meets in all that time. You're doing great.  |
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"I mean the site is called fab"swingers", so I wouldn't say couples meeting other couples is a trend as such!
Also I see very few profiles asking specifically for VWE, in fact lots of folks prefer average!
Sorry to hear that you've dealt with people being ignorant and racist though, there's no excuse for being so nasty x"
I think it also just depends right? My local updates is full of women that want 8+ only. And say don’t bother messaging if you don’t have it. |
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Also, OP, don’t put all your eggs in one basket. You can’t meet people for sex only from fab. Because like you say, there’s many things that will make it tough on here. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 44 weeks ago
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Simple answer.
It's not.
You just have to adopt an approach that doesn't simply revolve around using the site alone.
Clubs. Organised socials. Being prepared to play the long game, rather than look simply for quick hook ups. Make sure your profile and images stand out, as there's an abundance of single men on site. Although many put so little effort into their profiles and how they interact on here that it's actually beneficial in making those prepared to put in the effort stand out.
As has oft been said on Fab in the 16 years I've been here - it's not instashag, it's a swingers site. |
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"'racism' is rife in any walk of life.
'racism' will never be eradicated."
I mean…. That’s not strictly true is it.
People who look like me, for example, are never going to experience systemic racism in the way that other people do. People are never gonna hold their purses a bit closer when I get on a bus. They’re never gonna turn me down for a job or a friendship just because of the colour of my skin. They’re never going to cross the road to avoid me. Police are never going to stop and search me. |
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"'racism' is rife in any walk of life.
'racism' will never be eradicated.
I mean…. That’s not strictly true is it.
People who look like me, for example, are never going to experience systemic racism in the way that other people do. People are never gonna hold their purses a bit closer when I get on a bus. They’re never gonna turn me down for a job or a friendship just because of the colour of my skin. They’re never going to cross the road to avoid me. Police are never going to stop and search me. "
Well said. |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
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This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this. |
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"There was a local "fem" who would regularly update her status to share how many messages she got after posting a profile picture.
She hit the 700 mark within a day.
That's 700 horny men, 70% of which are BBC, 90% of which are 9 inches or greater, 30% of which .... Etc etc
You get it.
So yeah, you've had double digit meets in all that time. You're doing great. "
Why do you say 70% BBC and assume 90% are 9" plus? |
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"'racism' is rife in any walk of life.
'racism' will never be eradicated.
I mean…. That’s not strictly true is it.
People who look like me, for example, are never going to experience systemic racism in the way that other people do. People are never gonna hold their purses a bit closer when I get on a bus. They’re never gonna turn me down for a job or a friendship just because of the colour of my skin. They’re never going to cross the road to avoid me. Police are never going to stop and search me. "
Oh she’s spitting here  |
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"There was a local "fem" who would regularly update her status to share how many messages she got after posting a profile picture.
She hit the 700 mark within a day.
That's 700 horny men, 70% of which are BBC, 90% of which are 9 inches or greater, 30% of which .... Etc etc
You get it.
So yeah, you've had double digit meets in all that time. You're doing great.
Why do you say 70% BBC and assume 90% are 9" plus?"
I hoped it was because she had included the data breakdown in the status |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
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Sad to hear this. I hate rushed meets & when I do meet I take the time out to enjoy it. |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this."
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
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"I mean the site is called fab"swingers", so I wouldn't say couples meeting other couples is a trend as such!
Also I see very few profiles asking specifically for VWE, in fact lots of folks prefer average!
Sorry to hear that you've dealt with people being ignorant and racist though, there's no excuse for being so nasty x
I think it also just depends right? My local updates is full of women that want 8+ only. And say don’t bother messaging if you don’t have it. "
Oh wow, yes I think it must depend on who's around!!  |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
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It means you want to trap a man, Nanna, and you have no place here |
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"There was a local "fem" who would regularly update her status to share how many messages she got after posting a profile picture.
She hit the 700 mark within a day.
That's 700 horny men, 70% of which are BBC, 90% of which are 9 inches or greater, 30% of which .... Etc etc
You get it.
So yeah, you've had double digit meets in all that time. You're doing great.
Why do you say 70% BBC and assume 90% are 9" plus?"
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"'racism' is rife in any walk of life.
'racism' will never be eradicated.
I mean…. That’s not strictly true is it.
People who look like me, for example, are never going to experience systemic racism in the way that other people do. People are never gonna hold their purses a bit closer when I get on a bus. They’re never gonna turn me down for a job or a friendship just because of the colour of my skin. They’re never going to cross the road to avoid me. Police are never going to stop and search me. "
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
Sad to hear this. I hate rushed meets & when I do meet I take the time out to enjoy it. "
I'll add that some men like a bite to eat or drink before sex, but once they've had their orgasm it's see ya, I'm off to find someone new, and, as Deliciouschaos said, I'll be kept in their contacts in case they can't find anyone better for next time.
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It means you want to trap a man, Nanna, and you have no place here "
I've bought the dress and everything  |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
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Of course that's an additionally weird thing, because surely the best place for a swinger to find a boyfriend (if they wanted one) would be on a swinging site.
Surely a swinger would want to date another swinger so that they could keep doing the whole swinging thing...
I assume that men who tell me to join a dating site if I want a boyfriend aren't actually swingers and so I block them. |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
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It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
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This for me too. I get it though. It’s a swingers site so I don’t really moan about it too much. Every now and then you find a needle in that giant haystack who’s looking for similar. Just not very often x |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
Sad to hear this. I hate rushed meets & when I do meet I take the time out to enjoy it.
I'll add that some men like a bite to eat or drink before sex, but once they've had their orgasm it's see ya, I'm off to find someone new, and, as Deliciouschaos said, I'll be kept in their contacts in case they can't find anyone better for next time.
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Not all men. Some men like to chill after orgasms & take in the moment - it’s quiet rude to zip up & go imho  |
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OP, as many have rightly said, there is no excuse for racism. Ever. Sadly I think it will always be a part of life but if you report it we might reduce it on our site.
You seem like a decent guy and are obviously not a ‘here today, gone tomorrow’ character, so your observations are valid. Have you considered a change in approach? A while ago my outlook changed towards various things in life, notably my fab activity. It wasn’t conscious, but I stopped searching and chasing and just engaged with people in the forums.
Now, to many people, I’m more than just a profile or a message - they know my (dodgy) personality and are willing to chat as friends. Along with meeting people at socials, I’ve made some good connections and sometimes that has morphed into meeting. It was never my ultimate goal, though, so I hope I have come across as relaxed and agenda-free.
Each to their own but a change in approach may serve you well in the long term.
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
This for me too. I get it though. It’s a swingers site so I don’t really moan about it too much. Every now and then you find a needle in that giant haystack who’s looking for similar. Just not very often x"
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
This for me too. I get it though. It’s a swingers site so I don’t really moan about it too much. Every now and then you find a needle in that giant haystack who’s looking for similar. Just not very often x
The needles are why I'm still here. "
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Equally frustrating for women, for different reasons.
I can only speak for myself, but I am never inundated with messages (when I'm in my home city)
My main issues are men who are flakey... I'm always keen to have a social pretty quickly, lots make noises about this but never arrange/confirm plans.
And then the guys that do often don't want to make the effort with meets, they just want to pop round for a quick fuck and disappear.
And their communication skills are poor, voicing what they want, what they're looking for, completely honestly. |
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I too find it hard to get any meets for the reasons given already and it's very frustrating when they say that they are up for fun and when you are upfront & honest with them they are not interested.
I'm finding that they are a lot of timewasters on here |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
This for me too. I get it though. It’s a swingers site so I don’t really moan about it too much. Every now and then you find a needle in that giant haystack who’s looking for similar. Just not very often x"
This is indeed, very true. |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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"It is possible to get nice meets. It does take me some effort and time chatting to people. One was over a year before met in person "
Over a year!!!! Fuck that! 
Ps my willy is like a needle |
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I'm not going to diminish your experiences, OP, but I will say in the years I've been here, men not getting meets with women and couples, more luck in swinger's clubs, and stigma or abuse based on ethnic group have all been common refrains in all that time. I can't speak to the experience from your demographic, but the complaints have remained pretty constant while I've been here. |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
This for me too. I get it though. It’s a swingers site so I don’t really moan about it too much. Every now and then you find a needle in that giant haystack who’s looking for similar. Just not very often x
This is indeed, very true."
I echo all of this as well.
I also think there's an increase in a hook up mentality on here compared to when I first joined. And the men are flakey 99 times out of 100, cancel or want to skip a social entirely. And I'm fed of hearing the statements, maybe you should look at how you're picking men or your approach or you should try messaging first.
Well I picked him, or I messaged first does not equal he won't be flakey or cancel. They are still men on fab. The approach doesn't change their mindset. |
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By *TG3Man 44 weeks ago
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"Why is it so difficult for single guys to meet F or MF on this site?
I've been on this site & its predecessor for over 15 years. In the past 6-7 years though it seems to be next to impossible for a Single Guy to meet a female or couple on this site in person.
Seems the trend is for couples to meet couples and only VWE guys might have a chance to meet a couple or fem. Many want to meet at paid for sex party locations too which is cool but it sort of makes it difficult for those wanting to be discreet.
There seems to be many who just want pics and phone chats as well as fake profiles.
Winks was a way for informally testing the waters on compatibility / interest between profiles but many profiles frown on it or worst block profiles if they do.
Sadly, I’ve also experienced more & more racism. It’s only the 21st Jan but I’ve experienced it 6 times already. I lost count last year after 8.
I have had a total of 23 meets in 15 years. I’ve kept a track of this for health purposes. On this sites predecessor I was able to leave my profile verifications on without revealing the user profile or messages as I respect discreteness. On this website I did the same too. sadly, when a couple/person deletes their profile on this site it deletes the verification unless I’ve selected to show verifications on my profile prior. However, it’s getting to the point where one must also show all verifications prior to being considered for a meet.
It’s got to the point where I’m questioning if this is worth it anymore.
does any of this resonate with you? Are others experiencing this?
It would be great to understand from genuine F or FF or MF profiles to do differently. "
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
This for me too. I get it though. It’s a swingers site so I don’t really moan about it too much. Every now and then you find a needle in that giant haystack who’s looking for similar. Just not very often x
This is indeed, very true.
I echo all of this as well.
I also think there's an increase in a hook up mentality on here compared to when I first joined. And the men are flakey 99 times out of 100, cancel or want to skip a social entirely. And I'm fed of hearing the statements, maybe you should look at how you're picking men or your approach or you should try messaging first.
Well I picked him, or I messaged first does not equal he won't be flakey or cancel. They are still men on fab. The approach doesn't change their mindset."
Must admit I’ve never had a no show or a (non genuine) cancel in all the years I’ve been here. I agree with the hook up thing though. Seems to me that’s what the majority want. But, as I said before, I guess it’s that kind of site. I don’t deny I don’t really belong here but as long as I’m finding what I want, which I have, I shall remain |
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"I think it depends where you're based to. The more rural you are, the happier you are to meet it seems! London is a fucking nightmare and we are all a short train from each other "
London tax.
A 6/7 in London is an 8 somewhere else. |
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"There was a local "fem" who would regularly update her status to share how many messages she got after posting a profile picture.
She hit the 700 mark within a day.
That's 700 horny men, 70% of which are BBC, 90% of which are 9 inches or greater, 30% of which .... Etc etc
You get it.
So yeah, you've had double digit meets in all that time. You're doing great. "
Can we forget about this myth, that you have to be black and have to have a big cock to get meets on here. It’s nonsense. |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
Sad to hear this. I hate rushed meets & when I do meet I take the time out to enjoy it.
I'll add that some men like a bite to eat or drink before sex, but once they've had their orgasm it's see ya, I'm off to find someone new, and, as Deliciouschaos said, I'll be kept in their contacts in case they can't find anyone better for next time.
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I always have the food after. Lol. |
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"It is possible to get nice meets. It does take me some effort and time chatting to people. One was over a year before met in person
Over a year!!!! Fuck that!
Ps my willy is like a needle"
Patience can reward. Trust me it was worth it and we had good connection |
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"It is possible to get nice meets. It does take me some effort and time chatting to people. One was over a year before met in person
Over a year!!!! Fuck that!
Ps my willy is like a needle
Patience can reward. Trust me it was worth it and we had good connection "
That is tremendous news. |
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"Speaking only for myself, I'm fed up with being seen as someone who will suck a cock and service a man who is desperate for an orgasm and wants to squeeze me in one evening after work.
This.
And then will immediately go and look out for where the grass is greener but will feed you breadcrumbs and keep as a backup in case nobody else is available when he needs it.
I’m done with this.
I've said to people I'm not looking for hook ups and been told I should join a dating site. So, not wanting to be treated like convenient holes equals I want a boyfriend.
It baffles me, honestly.
This has been sadly an occurring theme for my time being on Fab so far.
I know what I want and I’m not going to settle for less, just because people think they have a right to tell me I don’t belong here and know better than me what I want.
I’d rather have a wank, thanks.
This for me too. I get it though. It’s a swingers site so I don’t really moan about it too much. Every now and then you find a needle in that giant haystack who’s looking for similar. Just not very often x
This is indeed, very true.
I echo all of this as well.
I also think there's an increase in a hook up mentality on here compared to when I first joined. And the men are flakey 99 times out of 100, cancel or want to skip a social entirely. And I'm fed of hearing the statements, maybe you should look at how you're picking men or your approach or you should try messaging first.
Well I picked him, or I messaged first does not equal he won't be flakey or cancel. They are still men on fab. The approach doesn't change their mindset.
Must admit I’ve never had a no show or a (non genuine) cancel in all the years I’ve been here. I agree with the hook up thing though. Seems to me that’s what the majority want. But, as I said before, I guess it’s that kind of site. I don’t deny I don’t really belong here but as long as I’m finding what I want, which I have, I shall remain "
I didn't pre COVID, and mostly since the summer last year than anything. |
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On a normal day we get around 50 messages from single men who haven't read our profile. When we go on cam we can easily get over 200 messages from single men. All basic, all very blah.
Has it gotten harder to grab the attention of a couple? I wouldn't say so, just read the profile and put yourself out there.
As for getting rejected, we get our share of people not responding to messages, it's all a part of being on here. It's really not worth getting bent over. |
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