Not on Fab, necessarily, more day to day.
Do you have many?
Do you have close friends and then acquaintances?
Have you a close knit cicle?
More of a loner?
As my 50th birthday approaches this year, I was writing a list for a gathering and other than family, it was slim pickings 
I have a ride or die, a couple of "mum" friends, with whom I am not particularly close, and others who have fallen by the wayside, due to complicated reasons that I don't really need to go in to!
I have a couple of male Fab friends who cross over, but probably not quite right for a family and friends, type gathering!
I also have good work relationships, but again, theres a boundary.
So, I realise that I am probably a bit of a bitch, or annoying, or both, but I wonder if thats it for me now.
How about you?
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend. |
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend."
I’m sorry for your loss |
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend.
I’m sorry for your loss "
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend."
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I upset a few people by saying that they were mates not friends. I think in terms of friends I’d say I had a handful, but have a wide circle of acquaintances and ‘contact’ buddies but not necessarily people I’d invite round my house or leave my house to go and see. |
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I don't have many friends and I'm fine with that. Any party I held wouldn't need a large venue.
My mum's funeral was standing room only, my aunt's had 7 mourners including us two. I guess mine will be somewhere in the middle. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I wish I had more friends. I think actually one of my goals this year is to be a better friend and to prioritise friends more rather than sex so much.
Although if friends with benefits count, where we’re actually friends, I’ve got a couple more.
I have friends from Fab that I chat to a lot and trust and actually I value them so much because I can be honest with them about my poly life without judgement. |
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend."
I am sorry you lost them xx
And yes, getting older, and with my daughter now gradually getting more independent, I realise, that in a few years, I might become very alone. |
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By *stellaWoman 45 weeks ago
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I’ve got six core crew that go out together and are inseparable. I’m the only girl and love that. Such a princess.
Two girl mates as besties.
Then others who are deffo friends but more have to arrange to see rather than I’m definitely doing things each week with.
And then a peripheral bunch of people I enjoy and socialise with.
But I have two I share my innermost thoughts with. |
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend."
That must have been hard on you.
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I don't really have friends now. My best friend I'd had since childhood I lost when I was in my mid 20s because of my husband's behaviour.
I had a few after that through my children's hobby but that ended when I got too ill to afford to go away with them.
I've reconnected with one who wants my help with something, and it's nice, but we won't be going for nights out again; we're too old.
I have an online acquaintance I've been chatting to for about 16 years I think, and someone I met online who I've met in person a few times I consider more than an acquaintance. |
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On fab my circle of friends is tiny. In the great big world out there it's very similar.
My best friend is someone I know through fab and beyond and I have a couple of other close friends that I also met through here.
I have a small group of friends that I go hiking with but beyond that nothing apart from acquaintances.
I have no school friends as I cut all ties 35 years ago when I realised the friendship was all one way.
I was always there for them in times of need but it was never reciprocated.
None of my work colleagues were ever anything more than that. I rarely saw any of them outside working hours and had never been to their homes or met their partners.
I take friendship very seriously and have no time for those who don't make the effort. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend.
That must have been hard on you.
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It still is, as we had a road map to our life, from where we would study, to travel. All swept up beneath us because of the big C. |
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend.
That must have been hard on you.
It still is, as we had a road map to our life, from where we would study, to travel. All swept up beneath us because of the big C."
I'm so sorry, x |
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I have the same dilemma as you OP, I am planning a party for my 50th but I don't have many friends and feel that my party would be made up of family and work colleagues, which is fine we are a close knit group but ugh! It's a minefield. The buffet would need to be gluten free and I want to book the karaoke man for it. I have a venue in mind, just don't want to plan just in case nobody decides to come   |
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I have 3 friends, but they are true friends who I’ve had for years. I know lots of people though. But I believe with friends it’s quality over quantity as friends are family you choose for yourself  |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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I had lots growing up, not so many now. Sadly lost a few close friends over the past few years. Still a couple of very close friends but don't speak too often. I'm very boundaried and feel sometimes that as a man who is a supporter of women and not down with patriarchy or wanting to go along with typical 'laddish' culture, I ostracise myself somewhat. I guess I stay true to my beliefs though, although it can get a little lonely at times. |
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Interesting thread. And surprising how many,like me, have acquaintances, not friends. My work situation was always I was top guy, so not easy to have "friends".
One thing, I've always found it easier to be friends with ladies - and now I'm older I'm not seen as a threat by youngsters! However on fab ageism rules! |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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"Interesting thread. And surprising how many,like me, have acquaintances, not friends. My work situation was always I was top guy, so not easy to have "friends".
One thing, I've always found it easier to be friends with ladies - and now I'm older I'm not seen as a threat by youngsters! However on fab ageism rules! "
Tricky that isn't it, I have a bit of the same...lonely at the top, you find there are people you'd like to be friendlier with but have to maintain some distance |
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"My best friend whom I'd known since I was 5, and was best man at his wedding, passed in 04.
We were two peas in a pod, and truthfully I've Not had a friend like him since. Sure, I know his brother very well, but nowhere near the same connection.
It definitely gets harder to make close friends as you get older, at least for me. I still have a few good friends who stick by Mr, and vice versa, but nowhere near the relationship I had with my late friend.
That must have been hard on you.
It still is, as we had a road map to our life, from where we would study, to travel. All swept up beneath us because of the big C."
Time isn't always the great healer they tell us it is.
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OP I am like you. I am sociable and can easily get on with people but my real preference is to do my own stuff so I am naturally a loner.
I have good acquaintances (work, gym, on here) but I wouldn’t say I have anyone I would call a friend in the way that others do. I am happy with that. |
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Well you ain't a bitch, red, that's for sure!
I'm a bit of a loner, keep myself to myself so not that many friends. Plus not having children means I don't have that shared common ground with most women my age. |
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I’m very lucky, I have a few groups of really good friends, some of whom interlink. Some I have know since I was ickle. I’ve moved around for work during the past ten years and not treated them as well as I should have - more like dial a friend when I wanted to meet up.
Now I’m back home again and making a real effort to see them regularly and be a good friend back. They are reciprocating and it’s an awesome, warming feeling.
I feel very lucky. |
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By (user no longer on site) 45 weeks ago
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It's only really the last couple of years I've made the effort to keep friends that I've made. I don't keep in touch with anyone from school which I'm pretty sad about but have a couple of friends from each of my old jobs who I still keep in touch with and meet up with frequently which has been really nice to have |
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By (user no longer on site) 44 weeks ago
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Hm.. well I have some friends that you can consider closer friends than others I hang out with. I don't make friends often as I tend to spend a fair amount of my life in my own company, but I tend to see all the friends I do make/have as people I get to share special moments in this whirlwind of a thing called life with. People ebb and flow about, so I try not to get too attached to others as they all have their own lives to explore and adventure it. |
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I count my friend friends on one hand but through work and social life I have massive amount of mate slash acquaintances that are on a sliding scale so to speak.
If I was having a bash it would be small but then I’m not into having bashes anyway, no 18th, no 21st and I think there were 6 people at a meal for my 40th, that was only because I owed a couple who are friends a meal out and thought I’d combine the two. |
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