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can you find true love on here?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondered what peoples opinions were on above topic as I have recently been in situation where feelings of a more real nature came into being only to be fully played and then crushed. But can you honestly find love on here if of course that's what you're after. And yes I know its not a dating site and It was never my intention to look for a relationship or have anything with anyone other than good clean fun. Well maybe not so clean  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met on here... and yes... it is possible.
Think we got very lucky and met someone so similar - but it always is a bit weird to think about where we met, but the easy bit is that we both came on here NOT looking for each other in anyway, so the fact tha we met, liked and have been together for 18 months sort of shows us that its working.
Whats the song 'we found love in a hopeless place' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe you can find love anywhere. If you are meant to be then so be it.
Enjoy whatever you have for however long it lasts  xx
Wishing you all the best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I joined last year, my first meet was so lovely to me, understanding, not pushy or rushing me into stuff. he came to pick me up, dropped me home, took me out of town for a drink or coffee then we went off for fun. Lovely lovely guy, to use a word he hates, he is nice too. Unfortunately for me and him, i did fall for him a little bit, which was too much for him to cope with and our last meet was him telling me we couldnt meet anymore. He just wanted fun. If I hadnt had feelings I think we would still have been seeing each other now and as he now is moved into his own place at least I think he has, that was his plan last year, we would have had somewhere fab to go to in private. Sweet, lovely guy and i fucked it up. I would definately meet him again if he asked me and prob no-one else. He did block me but has since un-blocked me so, unfortunately for my state of mind I am hopeful of a message sometime maybe. I sent him a wink but he hasnt been online so I think he may be away or just not going online. Im scared to message him in case he blocks me again as I do not want to freak him out again. Have his mobile no but same applies. Anyway, this was about you not me, but as usual I go off on one. I think anyway, if you find someone you get on well with and have some reg meets with, why not fall in love especially if they feel the same way? Hurts like fuck though if they dont.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not sure i aint looking for that but my mate loopy lou met someone off here richard and they married they not on here they dont swing and they are very happy xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Three years ago I had a Friday night meet that lasted till the Monday morning. Since that day Ahabs and I have been together. Took us over a year to admit we were together, as neither of us were looking for a partner. The point I'm trying to make is that it does not matter where you met, as long as you are always honest and upfront about everything you do and everyone you meet. And don't change who you are just because you are now a "couple". |
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I wasn't looking for it...but it found me, lol. We'll be celebrating our 3rd anniversary in a few months. Of course it's possible to find love on a swinging site....as you can find it anywhere, but I think you should take things slowly... if it's meant to be it will be |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
A few things we promised ourselves:
1) We would not change who we are, what we like or what we do as individuals
2) We talk about everything no matter ho small, trivial or awkward
3) We talk to each other about our meets (to those that think its not discreet,... our honesty and communication comes first)
4) We do not get a couples profile: we do not want one nor do we need one - any couples or pairs we have met in the time have approached us both as individuals.
5) And no, anyone that ha suggested we become a "full and genuine couple" and "stop meeting singles" have been told where to go.
6) Neither of us "takes one for the team", nor would we ask or expect it of either.
7) When we are out together, we enjoy the mingling, as well as when either one of us gets "abducted" with a wave to "have fun!" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some have found success, others failed spectacularly for all to see.
I shan't say never never, however, I am too busy in other areas of my life to have time to invest on a full blown relationship for the foreseeable future.
Besides, I am happy being single and be my own mistress with my time, needs and wants.
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"Just wondered what peoples opinions were on above topic as I have recently been in situation where feelings of a more real nature came into being only to be fully played and then crushed. But can you honestly find love on here if of course that's what you're after. And yes I know its not a dating site and It was never my intention to look for a relationship or have anything with anyone other than good clean fun. Well maybe not so clean "
I think its like anything too be honest something might start as friends or your playing with another but outside of this when the play/fun is over people have to talk to each other and sometimes they find they have something other that what ever in common it’s a funny old world but they also say there’s someone out there for everyone
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I did yes and a connectiin not just sexually but in so many ways.
I dont think I will find that again to be honest. To be completely honest with someone and allow them to see your flaws too is pretty special.
We are still friends but no longer a couple and he is now forming a relationship with another lady from here. I hope our friendship carries on but will have to see if it does.
But yes. I did find love. Maybe I need to put my walls up again now and listen to my intuition more.
Fruit x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you checked down the back of the sofa? Find most things there 
Failing that you cant find love it sneaks up and bites yer arse when you least expect it. If it does come from here at least you will know they like sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If........i was looking for love...and im not. ...I wouldnt want a relationship based firstly on sex....
It wouldnt work.
Those relationships that have worked have obviously found something extra and so things progress.
I love my fb but am not in love with him....big difference .
But good luck to those who have found IT.......  |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex |
I firmly believe the key is not to look for it: I know quite a few that have found it by chance, and have done well.
I don't know anyone that went swinging with the aim of finding love, found it and have successfully stayed together.
To a large extent, its somewhat of a contradiction to walk into a polygamous environment with aims to be (effectively) monogamous, look for someone that is happy to also be monogamous and in the meantime rule out anyone else (that chooses to stay polygamous) as not good enough.
Its the same as a vegetarian getting upset about the limited items on a "Chicken Cottage" menu. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes no maybe...
the only thing that surprises me on here is ppl being led up the garden path with promises of love...unfortunately u will be preyed upon as easy fodder
if ur searching for love..I just really wouldnt admit it online, searching for a level of commitment is entirely different
cheated on ONE time by ur 'partner' especially if uve met via a swinging site?- one strike he/she is OUT..longer people let the shit happen, the longer it will happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Who's to say where you'll find love. I'm sure lots have found it in stranger places than this. Good look to all that do.. In the meantime just enjoy yourself and have fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm hoping I will find someone who is open minded as me and accepts me for who I am as I would them just not sure it would ever happen so just chilling and getting my life back on track |
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It’s rather odd in BDSM its always said that you search for the one, however I have known people search for years withought finding the one as its called. It has to be in what’s ever it is the balance like some might say 2 different personas but then its an extension of who you is or are.
I never found the one I will admit to that met a lot of ships that pasted in the night though
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I fail to see how anybody can choose or deny love. The simple fact is that if two people feel the same about each other then the only decision is whether to act upon it or not. Where you find it is immaterial. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have not read the whole thread.... but I would say its possible to find true love anywhere... here is no different..
I guess for me if I was going to meet someone that is compatiable with me in that way then it would be someone I met in my lifestyle rather than out of it...
Although for me that could be someone at a car show just as easy, or bike event.... however they would have to accept all sides of me... including the fact I have a dominant and that I have sex with others... as if I were to give that up, I would be changing who I was.
So as I say... for me if it were to happen ( very very unlikely) it has more chance on places like this than anywhere else.
To those looking... STOP LOOKING... Love is always most true when you let it find you..
Its always when you least expect it. |
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"yes no maybe...
the only thing that surprises me on here is ppl being led up the garden path with promises of love...unfortunately u will be preyed upon as easy fodder
if ur searching for love..I just really wouldnt admit it online, searching for a level of commitment is entirely different
cheated on ONE time by ur 'partner' especially if uve met via a swinging site?- one strike he/she is OUT..longer people let the shit happen, the longer it will happen"
^^^^This!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im not looking for love. my own feelings as I said previously well as was said earlier by someone bit me on the bum in a bad way. got blocked. Id like some affection in the form of a great cuddle and some kissing - nothing wrong with that and some spark/connection then if there is that I think people can have some good fun too. And regarding the guy I was referring to, if he asked to see me id go without question. |
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"Im not looking for love. my own feelings as I said previously well as was said earlier by someone bit me on the bum in a bad way. got blocked. Id like some affection in the form of a great cuddle and some kissing - nothing wrong with that and some spark/connection then if there is that I think people can have some good fun too. And regarding the guy I was referring to, if he asked to see me id go without question."
so there is something still there? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not from my personal experience, but yes, love is found anywhere, even same sex love in prisons etc. it's just an emotional attachment formed through positive experiences shared |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I used to look then I went to specs savers and now I can see clearly....
I can borrow them pls?
You sure can....
are they the ones that have the rose tint on them? "
Oooh those are the best ones..  |
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"I used to look then I went to specs savers and now I can see clearly....
I can borrow them pls?
You sure can....
are they the ones that have the rose tint on them? "
no they got damaged not had the replaced yet.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i wouldnt actively look for it on here as its not the place for love but as has been said it isnt impossible for it to happen afterall when you meet the right person you just no its the right one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You can find love anywhere, so this site would be no different....although it has to be said that some people fall in love at the drop of a hat and end up looking decidedly needy....
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"It is very possible to find true love on here.
I have found it 46 times.
Could be 47 "
Just because you come from Brighton it doesn't mean you have to automatically be ghey Steve!
Don't let them oppress you bro. |
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"I used to look then I went to specs savers and now I can see clearly....
I can borrow them pls?
You sure can....
are they the ones that have the rose tint on them?
Oooh those are the best ones.. "
can you get me a pair then? lol |
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