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over a year ago
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"Oh Estella. I want to say yes but I think it's just him saying you smell nice. "
Although I do agree with you, could the phrasing "gorgeous" be a bit more?
You smell nice/smell really nice/smell lovely would be terms I'd use.
Smell gorgeous could be taken as a bit more, I suppose it depends on how it was said and the way he looked at you as he said it.
But to be on the side of caution I'd take it as him saying you smell nice. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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I’m such a teenager in knowing if someone is interested or not. It’s crippling! And I over analyse everything. Everyone says if they’re interested you’ll know and if you’re confused it means they aren’t interested.
If that’s the case then no one has ever been interested - boo! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh Estella. I want to say yes but I think it's just him saying you smell nice.
Although I do agree with you, could the phrasing "gorgeous" be a bit more?
You smell nice/smell really nice/smell lovely would be terms I'd use.
Smell gorgeous could be taken as a bit more, I suppose it depends on how it was said and the way he looked at you as he said it.
But to be on the side of caution I'd take it as him saying you smell nice."
Possibly. I wouldn't put too much weight on the word though; I have a friend who is devastatingly charming and frequently describes things as gorgeous/divine.
You're not unlovable Estella, never have been, never will be.
If you think he's attracted to you, if you got that energy from him, he might be. We don't know. We're just speculating.
But less of the unlovable idea. It's never been true of you. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh Estella. I want to say yes but I think it's just him saying you smell nice.
Although I do agree with you, could the phrasing "gorgeous" be a bit more?
You smell nice/smell really nice/smell lovely would be terms I'd use.
Smell gorgeous could be taken as a bit more, I suppose it depends on how it was said and the way he looked at you as he said it.
But to be on the side of caution I'd take it as him saying you smell nice.
Possibly. I wouldn't put too much weight on the word though; I have a friend who is devastatingly charming and frequently describes things as gorgeous/divine.
You're not unlovable Estella, never have been, never will be.
If you think he's attracted to you, if you got that energy from him, he might be. We don't know. We're just speculating.
But less of the unlovable idea. It's never been true of you."
You’re lovely to me. Thanks Meli. If only I could have you as my partner! |
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"Idiotic teenager question, but I’m asking anyway!
Arrive at a social situation with friends. Receive hugs. Male friend hugs me and then says you smell gorgeous.
Might he be interested?
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he is definitely interested |
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"Idiotic teenager question, but I’m asking anyway!
Arrive at a social situation with friends. Receive hugs. Male friend hugs me and then says you smell gorgeous.
Might he be interested?
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he definitely wants to worship you from head to toe taste your pussy and then bend u over and fuck you balls deep |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Idiotic teenager question, but I’m asking anyway!
Arrive at a social situation with friends. Receive hugs. Male friend hugs me and then says you smell gorgeous.
Might he be interested?
he definitely wants to worship you from head to toe taste your pussy and then bend u over and fuck you balls deep "
Oh serious? I may have just gone off him.
Phew, thanks that helped  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you know you smell good, it's a compliment. Just a compliment.
Do you want them to be interested?
Desperately. Yes. I’m such a saddo!!!"
Next time you see him, give him a compliment. See what happens. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If you know you smell good, it's a compliment. Just a compliment.
Do you want them to be interested?
Desperately. Yes. I’m such a saddo!!!
Next time you see him, give him a compliment. See what happens. "
I compliment him lots but he’s told me he never believes compliments and thinks I’m just hyping up his lack of self esteem which he appreciates but says he knows I’m just being nice!!! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"If you know you smell good, it's a compliment. Just a compliment.
Do you want them to be interested?
Desperately. Yes. I’m such a saddo!!!
Next time you see him, give him a compliment. See what happens.
I compliment him lots but he’s told me he never believes compliments and thinks I’m just hyping up his lack of self esteem which he appreciates but says he knows I’m just being nice!!!"
He’s probably my perfect match because we’re both so socially stunted!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m such a teenager in knowing if someone is interested or not. It’s crippling! And I over analyse everything. Everyone says if they’re interested you’ll know and if you’re confused it means they aren’t interested.
If that’s the case then no one has ever been interested - boo! "
Mate I am exactly the same dont worry. I make the assumption that everyone is just being friendly.
Personally, if you know it won't ruin your friendship I'd say shoot your shot.
Better to know either way than just wonder.
If you think it could damage your friendship then try and suss it out a bit more going forward. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I’m such a teenager in knowing if someone is interested or not. It’s crippling! And I over analyse everything. Everyone says if they’re interested you’ll know and if you’re confused it means they aren’t interested.
If that’s the case then no one has ever been interested - boo!
Mate I am exactly the same dont worry. I make the assumption that everyone is just being friendly.
Personally, if you know it won't ruin your friendship I'd say shoot your shot.
Better to know either way than just wonder.
If you think it could damage your friendship then try and suss it out a bit more going forward."
No can do. He’s one of my best friends and it would be horrific if I chanced it and it was a no. Actual death!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you know you smell good, it's a compliment. Just a compliment.
Do you want them to be interested?
Desperately. Yes. I’m such a saddo!!!
Next time you see him, give him a compliment. See what happens.
I compliment him lots but he’s told me he never believes compliments and thinks I’m just hyping up his lack of self esteem which he appreciates but says he knows I’m just being nice!!!"
You mentioned your socially stunned so I appreciate this may be a no go for you.
If I were in this situation of questioning whether he fancies me or not, knowing I fancy him. I’d compliment him, make eye contact and show him it’s not just words to hype his self esteem.
If you don’t take the chance, perhaps you’ll lose the opportunity. May be he’s equally curious if you fancy him and knows he fancies you. The worst case, you fall back on hyping his self esteem because he’s a lovely mate.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m such a teenager in knowing if someone is interested or not. It’s crippling! And I over analyse everything. Everyone says if they’re interested you’ll know and if you’re confused it means they aren’t interested.
If that’s the case then no one has ever been interested - boo!
Mate I am exactly the same dont worry. I make the assumption that everyone is just being friendly.
Personally, if you know it won't ruin your friendship I'd say shoot your shot.
Better to know either way than just wonder.
If you think it could damage your friendship then try and suss it out a bit more going forward.
No can do. He’s one of my best friends and it would be horrific if I chanced it and it was a no. Actual death! "
Yeh I lost a very good lady friend back in the day with this move.
Abort! Abort! Abort!
I'd maybe give it time and try and suss he's vibe and talk to friends for advice.
Good luck. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"My mind is all over the place now.
Had you been baking earlier that day? perhaps cooked a fry up?
Or maybe it’s the obvious one and you’d just bathed in lager."
Lardon grease pomade in my hair and a dab of Fosters behind each ear.
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"My mind is all over the place now.
Had you been baking earlier that day? perhaps cooked a fry up?
Or maybe it’s the obvious one and you’d just bathed in lager.
Lardon grease pomade in my hair and a dab of Fosters behind each ear.
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Ooooft. Well now I fancy you if it helps  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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"My mind is all over the place now.
Had you been baking earlier that day? perhaps cooked a fry up?
Or maybe it’s the obvious one and you’d just bathed in lager.
Lardon grease pomade in my hair and a dab of Fosters behind each ear.
Ooooft. Well now I fancy you if it helps "
It’s a winning odour, clearly. |
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"My mind is all over the place now.
Had you been baking earlier that day? perhaps cooked a fry up?
Or maybe it’s the obvious one and you’d just bathed in lager.
Lardon grease pomade in my hair and a dab of Fosters behind each ear.
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"What actions did you take through the rest of the night to try and see if there is any interest? "
It’s not as simple as that. He’s one of my best mates, so we talked, laughed, all the usual stuff - I know he loves me as a mate (he tells me all the time) but that doesn’t mean he fancies me! And a mate that loves you is harder to read than some random you’ve never previously met doing similar things like eye contact, laughing, hand holding etc. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"What actions did you take through the rest of the night to try and see if there is any interest?
It’s not as simple as that. He’s one of my best mates, so we talked, laughed, all the usual stuff - I know he loves me as a mate (he tells me all the time) but that doesn’t mean he fancies me! And a mate that loves you is harder to read than some random you’ve never previously met doing similar things like eye contact, laughing, hand holding etc. "
To clarify he doesn’t say “I love you as a mate” he says “I love you”, even I could read the signals of the former statement! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What actions did you take through the rest of the night to try and see if there is any interest?
It’s not as simple as that. He’s one of my best mates, so we talked, laughed, all the usual stuff - I know he loves me as a mate (he tells me all the time) but that doesn’t mean he fancies me! And a mate that loves you is harder to read than some random you’ve never previously met doing similar things like eye contact, laughing, hand holding etc. "
Yeah tough situation. No way to tell
I’m always of the opinion that friends are friends for a reason
Still, plenty of guys will be able to tell you about a long term woman friend they crushed hard on and did nothing about it
You’ll either need to make a more, or make it really, really, REALLY obvious you want him to make a move.
If he is interested, he’s gonna be firmly planted in the “we’re just friends don’t make a move” mindset
Best of luck |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Maybe text ‘thanks for saying I smell nice’ and take from there?
He’d just reply “No worries weirdo”"
Plus when he said it and released me from the hug I did a little happy dance and went “I do, don’t I?” so I feel like I’ve already made a drama out of it already! |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Maybe text ‘thanks for saying I smell nice’ and take from there?
He’d just reply “No worries weirdo”
But you could call him a weirdo back  "
Of course, but we ‘re best mates we already have that flirty relationship - I just don’t know if it’s more than banter. |
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"Idiotic teenager question, but I’m asking anyway!
Arrive at a social situation with friends. Receive hugs. Male friend hugs me and then says you smell gorgeous.
Might he be interested?
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Surprised hr didn't bend you over there n then, as we all know...
Compliment = definitely intrested
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One comment is not enough to be sure, do you find him staring at you, does he always make effort to sit next to you, talk to you. Is he contacting you asking random stuff or favours. If you like him try flirting back stare at him then when he notices smile, bat your eyelids look away. Half the work is done as you already know him so can meet easily to build a connection. Good luck working it out hope it does too |
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Open a conversation as follows:
"Hey, yeah, funny thing but did I ever tell you that I'm a swinger? Crazy isn't it, look here's the website. So, do you fancy a shag?"
If answer is yes, then get a room. If answer is no, then just continue talking about whatever normal topic completely without any embarrassment.
You never know, you might find that he's already on fab... |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
Update.
Saw him again last night and he invited me to come over and hang out at his house tonight with him and his housemate. It was a casual ask whilst we were out with all our mates last night tipsy. Now I’m stressing as to whether he will remember, will he still invite me, and building it all up in my head! I hate the teenage awkwardness of liking someone messing with my head - I mean we’re mates, really good mates, so why am so aaaaggghhh overthinking? *facepalm
Hope to god he messages today and doesn’t flake on me! Fingers crossed. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Idiotic teenager question, but I’m asking anyway!
Arrive at a social situation with friends. Receive hugs. Male friend hugs me and then says you smell gorgeous.
Might he be interested?
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he might well be |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"Good luck OP, remember, casually touch him as much as possible  "
Tricky. We’re really close and he’s a neurospicy and a bit funny about casual touch. So that’s a hard one to get away with. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"If his housemate is going to be there maybe he just means hang out and nothing more"
Yeah, 100% highly likely, I’m not expecting it’s going round for a hook up, not at all. Just more time together. |
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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago
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"Oh Estella. I want to say yes but I think it's just him saying you smell nice. "
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This. But I would take it as he is "NOT not into you" at least.
Yesterday at the gym, running at the treadmill a woman gets on the one to my right. She smelled amazing... but her looks were not attractive to me (Lars). |
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I have no advice to give OP, only wanted to say that I totally feel your pain on this one. I never know when people fancy me, or if I suspect they might, how to find out without making it horribly weird and cringe-inducing. But you seem lovely and even if this guy isn't interested I'm sure it won't be long until someone comes along who is. |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
London |
"I have no advice to give OP, only wanted to say that I totally feel your pain on this one. I never know when people fancy me, or if I suspect they might, how to find out without making it horribly weird and cringe-inducing. But you seem lovely and even if this guy isn't interested I'm sure it won't be long until someone comes along who is."
What a lovely thing to say. I really appreciate it. Thank you.  |
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By *stella OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Update.
Saw him again last night and he invited me to come over and hang out at his house tonight with him and his housemate. It was a casual ask whilst we were out with all our mates last night tipsy. Now I’m stressing as to whether he will remember, will he still invite me, and building it all up in my head! I hate the teenage awkwardness of liking someone messing with my head - I mean we’re mates, really good mates, so why am so aaaaggghhh overthinking? *facepalm
Hope to god he messages today and doesn’t flake on me! Fingers crossed. "
He just messaged. He’s cancelled tonight’s invite. Safe to assume the original comment was just a mate’s compliment. We live, we learn, we move on. |
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