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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The fastest person I ever blocked was a woman I was meant to meet. One day she told me she told a man from here all about me because she shared who was on her Friends List, and he specifically asked her all about me.
The man was abusive to me in the past and she went on to share things about me I wouldn’t want shared with him.
Her inability to be discreet put me off her. She was stunning. Gorgeous. But all her beauty could t save her for what she did without my consent. |
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I don't dip my quill into too many disparate inkwells in this place and so that situation doesn't really occur. With that said, it would be courteous to exercise discretion.
I suppose the only indirect way of knowing would be through verifications... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had this woman stalk my page and others from the man’s profile and when I had enough I wrote and asked her if she had been told what I thought she had been told yet suddenly I’m the one in the wrong yet they named me first … unbelievable crossing that boundary and who else have they told? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not even that ha.
If someone asks if I'm seeing someone I'll be honest, but I don't typically offer information about myself unless asked or wether it's inline with the topic of the convo.
My business is my business.
Plus I think my ex possibly still has feelings so I'm not tryna rub her face in anything. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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My verification only show social masts which state clearly they are just that and no sex … I understand telling someone you don’t want to meet as your seeing someone but why then go onto name them? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t have sex with anyone on here so it’s a moot point.
I just fall in virtual love and flirt. And I do that openly."
If you ever get bored and fancy chatting to a female then feel free to message x |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"I don’t have sex with anyone on here so it’s a moot point.
I just fall in virtual love and flirt. And I do that openly.
If you ever get bored and fancy chatting to a female then feel free to message x "
Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some fellas are really bad with it because it's tied in with their little ego. They feel like a player telling you who/how many women they have shagged.
Because with those types sex is either scratching an itch or a conquest to high five their little buddies over.
I think the fellas that actually want/enjoy a great experience don't really care to tell people because the experience isn't to boost their ego, it's to do something they enjoy with somebody they desire.
Just my thoughts.
I might be wrong.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some fellas are really bad with it because it's tied in with their little ego. They feel like a player telling you who/how many women they have shagged.
Because with those types sex is either scratching an itch or a conquest to high five their little buddies over.
I think the fellas that actually want/enjoy a great experience don't really care to tell people because the experience isn't to boost their ego, it's to do something they enjoy with somebody they desire.
Just my thoughts.
I might be wrong.
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Then that makes two of us and I believe the same x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not if they wanted to keep me as their dirty little secret."
I do love being a naughty secret , this was supposed to be till he started telling other members who I was |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't dip my quill into too many disparate inkwells in this place and so that situation doesn't really occur. With that said, it would be courteous to exercise discretion.
I suppose the only indirect way of knowing would be through verifications..."
I agree but you can’t tell through my verifications as I only put social ones up x |
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"Some fellas are really bad with it because it's tied in with their little ego. They feel like a player telling you who/how many women they have shagged.
Because with those types sex is either scratching an itch or a conquest to high five their little buddies over.
I think the fellas that actually want/enjoy a great experience don't really care to tell people because the experience isn't to boost their ego, it's to do something they enjoy with somebody they desire.
Just my thoughts.
I might be wrong.
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I can honestly say that I've never had a male friend or work colleague who discussed their sex life but over the years unfortunately I can't say the same about some women.
On here my experience has been exactly the same with some women talking about privacy and discretion while at the same time exchanging other people's personal details when it suits their agenda.
Some might do it as an egotistical thing. Most others are just thundercunts. |
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"Some fellas are really bad with it because it's tied in with their little ego. They feel like a player telling you who/how many women they have shagged.
Because with those types sex is either scratching an itch or a conquest to high five their little buddies over.
I think the fellas that actually want/enjoy a great experience don't really care to tell people because the experience isn't to boost their ego, it's to do something they enjoy with somebody they desire.
Just my thoughts.
I might be wrong.
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I agree. Not only men though. I avoid people who show sexual veris. |
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Lycan is on here and we both waffle about each other. But he's here on the forums and can see what I'm saying. I wouldn't be as open about someone who wasn't here to see, or someone that didn't indicate first that they were happy for it to be public knowledge.
I might share odd bits of stories about others, but without identifying them or giving away more than I'd be comfortable with in their shoes |
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If I can avoid anyone who's indiscreet or a gossip or attempts to influence my opinion of another person. It isn't always possible and sometimes the devil on my shoulder gets the better of me, I pull up a chair abd say "tell me more". I'm human |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you name someone you are fucking on here to another member of the same sex as your fucking ? "
No, but a woman has never asked that question. When I was here before for several years, men would message me asking which women I was. No again. |
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"I wouldn't. But the entire site is geared to telling all and sundry who you're fucking..."
It is?? I must be doing it wrong then 
I find it all rather crass talking about who's fucking who. My business is my business and I won't display verifications let alone talk to someone else in here about it. |
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"I wouldn't. But the entire site is geared to telling all and sundry who you're fucking...
It is?? I must be doing it wrong then
I find it all rather crass talking about who's fucking who. My business is my business and I won't display verifications let alone talk to someone else in here about it. "
I think she probably means with the verification system. It kind of is really. |
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"Lycan is on here and we both waffle about each other. But he's here on the forums and can see what I'm saying. I wouldn't be as open about someone who wasn't here to see, or someone that didn't indicate first that they were happy for it to be public knowledge.
I might share odd bits of stories about others, but without identifying them or giving away more than I'd be comfortable with in their shoes "
Just so. Discretion is a given. Never name names.
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"I wouldn't. But the entire site is geared to telling all and sundry who you're fucking...
It is?? I must be doing it wrong then
I find it all rather crass talking about who's fucking who. My business is my business and I won't display verifications let alone talk to someone else in here about it.
I think she probably means with the verification system. It kind of is really. "
I agree. Thats why i hate the verification system. Now that i find really crass. |
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I've had it announced on the forum by the person I was fucking. Sure we had veris that anyone could see if they chose to look, but to have her out us so obviously on here was cringey as fuck and I died inside a little. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't. But the entire site is geared to telling all and sundry who you're fucking...
It is?? I must be doing it wrong then
I find it all rather crass talking about who's fucking who. My business is my business and I won't display verifications let alone talk to someone else in here about it.
I think she probably means with the verification system. It kind of is really. "
Yeah that's what I meant. And to be fair the Lounge people aren't really like the rest of the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arnt veris different though? The person that has given you a veri is giving the site the information they are happy to talk about, and then you get a chance to read it and show it.
That's different to you going around shouting your business with someone without the other person's knowledge or say so.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arnt veris different though? The person that has given you a veri is giving the site the information they are happy to talk about, and then you get a chance to read it and show it.
That's different to you going around shouting your business with someone without the other person's knowledge or say so.
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It's an attitude towards sex. Many people here have no problem with it. But some of us do and there can be a clash. As with Phil above. I'd be so cringed out if that had happened to me! |
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"I've had it announced on the forum by the person I was fucking. Sure we had veris that anyone could see if they chose to look, but to have her out us so obviously on here was cringey as fuck and I died inside a little."
I think I remember that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My business is my business is how I deal with it. Discretion is important to this lifestyle, so I don't see the benefit in sharing info like that willy nilly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, I don't think I would. I wouldn't want to come across as me bragging about having sex with multiple women but if they wanted to tell me, then that would be up to them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arnt veris different though? The person that has given you a veri is giving the site the information they are happy to talk about, and then you get a chance to read it and show it.
That's different to you going around shouting your business with someone without the other person's knowledge or say so.
It's an attitude towards sex. Many people here have no problem with it. But some of us do and there can be a clash. As with Phil above. I'd be so cringed out if that had happened to me!"
The only sticking point with me is being a guy. As a guy you are constantly doubted until you prove otherwise. The veris are the way that we can prove that we might be worth investing time in getting to know. Some women won't even talk to a guy without a veri.
So I don't agree in this case that it shows their attitude towards sex (I would normally)
Because its extremely hard to get your foot in the door here as a single guy.
I won't be going around shouting about people I have been with and what we did.
But I will be displaying some veris so others can read from others and get a feel for who I am and what I do, rather than it just sounding like a guy talking himself up.
I know veris arnt the be all, but I feel like it helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you name someone you are fucking on here to another member of the same sex as your fucking ? "
Gentlemen never tell. But this question is probably best asked to someone who’s had sexual experiences on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and my fwb had a 3some with a lady off fab afterwards I found she was messaging my fwb saying I was meeting her 1 on 1 which was lies luckily my fwb knows me and knew was lies very annoying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arnt veris different though? The person that has given you a veri is giving the site the information they are happy to talk about, and then you get a chance to read it and show it.
That's different to you going around shouting your business with someone without the other person's knowledge or say so.
It's an attitude towards sex. Many people here have no problem with it. But some of us do and there can be a clash. As with Phil above. I'd be so cringed out if that had happened to me!
The only sticking point with me is being a guy. As a guy you are constantly doubted until you prove otherwise. The veris are the way that we can prove that we might be worth investing time in getting to know. Some women won't even talk to a guy without a veri.
So I don't agree in this case that it shows their attitude towards sex (I would normally)
Because its extremely hard to get your foot in the door here as a single guy.
I won't be going around shouting about people I have been with and what we did.
But I will be displaying some veris so others can read from others and get a feel for who I am and what I do, rather than it just sounding like a guy talking himself up.
I know veris arnt the be all, but I feel like it helps."
A veri is fine. I know a single man needs one when I do fine without them. But men who display veris talking about how good their cock tastes and how much they came?  |
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"I've had it announced on the forum by the person I was fucking. Sure we had veris that anyone could see if they chose to look, but to have her out us so obviously on here was cringey as fuck and I died inside a little.
I think I remember that "
It's the stuff of forum legend!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I've had it announced on the forum by the person I was fucking. Sure we had veris that anyone could see if they chose to look, but to have her out us so obviously on here was cringey as fuck and I died inside a little.
I think I remember that
It's the stuff of forum legend! "
This is going to sound awful but I thought you were both in to that? Like you were both pretty... obvious on here. I remember it. |
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"I've had it announced on the forum by the person I was fucking. Sure we had veris that anyone could see if they chose to look, but to have her out us so obviously on here was cringey as fuck and I died inside a little.
I think I remember that
It's the stuff of forum legend!
This is going to sound awful but I thought you were both in to that? Like you were both pretty... obvious on here. I remember it. "
There was a lot of teasing and flirting on the forums, but I draw the line at announcing I'm going to fuck a specific person on a weekend plans thread |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I've had it announced on the forum by the person I was fucking. Sure we had veris that anyone could see if they chose to look, but to have her out us so obviously on here was cringey as fuck and I died inside a little.
I think I remember that
It's the stuff of forum legend!
This is going to sound awful but I thought you were both in to that? Like you were both pretty... obvious on here. I remember it.
There was a lot of teasing and flirting on the forums, but I draw the line at announcing I'm going to fuck a specific person on a weekend plans thread "
Ah so that's the line. The naming. Everything else... no I shan't tease you any further. It's really made me laugh in a good way though so thank you.  |
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"I've had it announced on the forum by the person I was fucking. Sure we had veris that anyone could see if they chose to look, but to have her out us so obviously on here was cringey as fuck and I died inside a little.
I think I remember that
It's the stuff of forum legend!
This is going to sound awful but I thought you were both in to that? Like you were both pretty... obvious on here. I remember it.
There was a lot of teasing and flirting on the forums, but I draw the line at announcing I'm going to fuck a specific person on a weekend plans thread
Ah so that's the line. The naming. Everything else... no I shan't tease you any further. It's really made me laugh in a good way though so thank you. "
Hey, making ladies laugh is my main objective here The problem was she was hot and desired by many guys on here, so I won't deny it was an ego boost to have her flirt with me in the forum, but yeah when it came to explicitly naming it felt like she was trying to claim me (lamppost pissing maybe), and didn't sit right with me. But like I said, she was hot and the sex was great so I said nothing |
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We didn’t name drop each other when we were FWB on the forums and we wouldn’t start LPP on people either.
We display veri’s if it’s mutual - we wouldn’t if people didn’t want to - we don’t show off but we also don’t hide everything.
We do us and I’d say we do us quite well
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*third time's the charm 
There's things I haven't told you. I go out late at night. And if I was to tell you. You'd see my different side
Don't tell anyone anything and always get reminded of fab life whenever I hear that song up there
There's an old saying. "say nothing til you hear more and when you hear more say nothing" |
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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago
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"Would you name someone you are fucking on here to another member of the same sex as your fucking ?
I don’t even tell people I’m /not/ fucking who else I message. Privacy is sacrosanct.
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What faith says.
Even in a verification, I would only describe the traits of that person and verify they're genuine.
Privacy is sacrosanct... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t have sex with anyone on here so it’s a moot point.
I just fall in virtual love and flirt. And I do that openly.
If you ever get bored and fancy chatting to a female then feel free to message x
Thank you."
Message me too, I love a chat  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"The fastest person I ever blocked was a woman I was meant to meet. One day she told me she told a man from here all about me because she shared who was on her Friends List, and he specifically asked her all about me.
The man was abusive to me in the past and she went on to share things about me I wouldn’t want shared with him.
Her inability to be discreet put me off her. She was stunning. Gorgeous. But all her beauty could t save her for what she did without my consent. "
Wow that's an awful thing to do, it's not down to someone else to give details about another person.
I'm not suprised you blocked her, it makes me wonder if she does same to others.
I wouldn't dicuss meets with anyone but my partner, as we always tell each other if we are chatting with someone or interested in meeting them. |
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