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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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I’ve been struggling to go outside (depression/some personal stuff) for last couple of months - one of my mates phoned me this morning and said he would drive and pick me up this week at a convenient time/day for me to whisk me to some nice countryside for a walk so we can have a non-intensive time outside in pleasant surroundings that aren’t too crowded.
It made me cry as it’s the first moment that one of my mates has really “got” it lately and what’s more it’s not the expected mate, it’s someone I adore but I would have expected others to have done something ahead of him. I really appreciate him for taking the time to carve out space for me in a way that is accessible for me, rather than just expecting me to fit into his existing plans or agenda.
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"I’ve been struggling to go outside (depression/some personal stuff) for last couple of months - one of my mates phoned me this morning and said he would drive and pick me up this week at a convenient time/day for me to whisk me to some nice countryside for a walk so we can have a non-intensive time outside in pleasant surroundings that aren’t too crowded.
It made me cry as it’s the first moment that one of my mates has really “got” it lately and what’s more it’s not the expected mate, it’s someone I adore but I would have expected others to have done something ahead of him. I really appreciate him for taking the time to carve out space for me in a way that is accessible for me, rather than just expecting me to fit into his existing plans or agenda.
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Being 'seen' and considered is pretty huge. |
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"I’ve been struggling to go outside (depression/some personal stuff) for last couple of months - one of my mates phoned me this morning and said he would drive and pick me up this week at a convenient time/day for me to whisk me to some nice countryside for a walk so we can have a non-intensive time outside in pleasant surroundings that aren’t too crowded.
It made me cry as it’s the first moment that one of my mates has really “got” it lately and what’s more it’s not the expected mate, it’s someone I adore but I would have expected others to have done something ahead of him. I really appreciate him for taking the time to carve out space for me in a way that is accessible for me, rather than just expecting me to fit into his existing plans or agenda.
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That’s lovely, enjoy |
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over a year ago
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"Believed in me.
That's a big one. I always tell my partner I believe in her."
It is, very true. What's the nicest thing someone has done for you though? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I was very depressed and on the verge of giving up on life. My dad lived a long way away. He drove a whole day just to see me. To tell me he loved me and that I mattered. And then he had to drive back again. He died last month and I keep thinking of that. |
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"Believed in me.
That's a big one. I always tell my partner I believe in her.
It is, very true. What's the nicest thing someone has done for you though?"
Um..I'm not really sure. My bar is pretty low so just someone showing they have thought about me and care is enough. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Believed in me.
That's a big one. I always tell my partner I believe in her.
It is, very true. What's the nicest thing someone has done for you though?
Um..I'm not really sure. My bar is pretty low so just someone showing they have thought about me and care is enough. "
But it sounds as though you will make the effort for others. You deserve that too. |
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"I was very depressed and on the verge of giving up on life. My dad lived a long way away. He drove a whole day just to see me. To tell me he loved me and that I mattered. And then he had to drive back again. He died last month and I keep thinking of that. "
That's a really powerful memory to have of your dad. I'm sorry for your loss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"anyone has ever done for you? (Non-sexual)
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Went due a job interview abs was getting wet on the way back. The bus came and the driver says exact change please which I only had notes. An old guy gave me the £3 fair. I almost cried. Didn't get the job either. |
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"Believed in me.
That's a big one. I always tell my partner I believe in her.
It is, very true. What's the nicest thing someone has done for you though?
Um..I'm not really sure. My bar is pretty low so just someone showing they have thought about me and care is enough.
But it sounds as though you will make the effort for others. You deserve that too."
Probably but I have issues with self worth. I don't really believe it. |
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I think I've been very lucky in life because my loved ones and friends have done many nice things for me. The ones that stand out are things like Mr N making sure I had sharp pencils for my evening class or my daughter making me up a tin with cartoon characters on it and coloured pencils in it to take or the time I wasn't well and my dad just left his car on the drive with the keys in it without saying a word so I didn't have to walk to collect the kids from school.
My life has been full of kindness  |
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"I was very depressed and on the verge of giving up on life. My dad lived a long way away. He drove a whole day just to see me. To tell me he loved me and that I mattered. And then he had to drive back again. He died last month and I keep thinking of that.
That's a really powerful memory to have of your dad. I'm sorry for your loss."
Thank you  |
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Gave me a home, and love, when I was at the lowest point in my life. Let me just be when I couldn't function, when even sitting up in bed was too much. Gave me a reason to live when it would have been so much easier to die. He loved me, he made me scones when I was sleeping, and he believed in me. |
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"I was very depressed and on the verge of giving up on life. My dad lived a long way away. He drove a whole day just to see me. To tell me he loved me and that I mattered. And then he had to drive back again. He died last month and I keep thinking of that. "
Obviously a great guy. Sounds like he will be missed.
My condolences.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Must be being loved in the purest and most unconditional way by my children. "
That has to be the highest, most valuable thing you can receive. Unconditional love. But we all have to remember... to give it, is to receive it. |
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Got me work when I needed it. (Thanks V! You’ll never see this cause you're not on this site, but you’re my big sis and I’ll love you forever.)
Given me free studio time / production.
Been a true friend, not judged me, and not walked away if / when the going got tough (#theyknoworatleastihopetheydo)
I’ve been the recipient of numerous random kindnesses, I do not take any of them for granted, and I hope I do my part to pay it forward
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"I was very depressed and on the verge of giving up on life. My dad lived a long way away. He drove a whole day just to see me. To tell me he loved me and that I mattered. And then he had to drive back again. He died last month and I keep thinking of that. "
I'm so sorry for your loss, sending you love x |
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"I was very depressed and on the verge of giving up on life. My dad lived a long way away. He drove a whole day just to see me. To tell me he loved me and that I mattered. And then he had to drive back again. He died last month and I keep thinking of that. "
This warmed my heart. I’m sorry for your loss. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
"I think I've been very lucky in life because my loved ones and friends have done many nice things for me. The ones that stand out are things like Mr N making sure I had sharp pencils for my evening class or my daughter making me up a tin with cartoon characters on it and coloured pencils in it to take or the time I wasn't well and my dad just left his car on the drive with the keys in it without saying a word so I didn't have to walk to collect the kids from school.
My life has been full of kindness "
Family based goodness here to*:
When I had my own place, pre kids, I was poorly and my mum did a food shop for me and also had bought what seemed like half a Chemist for me. She put it all away for me and then went home.
My late nan and gramp practically half raised me because my mum, as a single mum, worked all the hours she could to keep a roof over our head. My gramp would collect me from School and drive me to Dental appointments etc. They’d contribute towards my School uniform, new shoes etc.
And the biggest thing (to me) I’d split with my ex just before discovering I was pregnant with our second child (he had moved on swiftly to a new relationship so wasn’t keen to be involved). My mum came with me to all the Hospital appointments, of which there was many as I had complications, came to the Hospital in the ambulance with me and stayed during the birth so I wasn’t alone. She acted as cheerleader/kick up the ass person. She collected us from the Hospital the next morning too, all whilst running her own Business and us having lost my Step-dad the month before.
I’ve been very lucky with my family. They figure heavily in some of the bestest, happiest times I’ve ever had and my memories of them are full of love .
*apologies for the long rambling post
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
My oldest and bestest friend has done so many kind things for me over the years and just been there for me.
Probably one of the best was when I had tonsillitis and was sent home from work. She brought me some cat food over, as I was too ill to shop and hungry cats lol. Plus lots of pain relief, Ice cream and an Easter egg to cheer me up. |
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"anyone has ever done for you? (Non-sexual)
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My new love sent me this quote yesterday.
If you want to know where your heart is look to where
Your mind goes to when it wanders .
This was after telling me the other day that she fucked up in meeting at work
Because her mind had wandered back to us makeing love . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was very depressed and on the verge of giving up on life. My dad lived a long way away. He drove a whole day just to see me. To tell me he loved me and that I mattered. And then he had to drive back again. He died last month and I keep thinking of that.
Obviously a great guy. Sounds like he will be missed.
My condolences.
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Thank you. He is very missed.  |
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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
Smacked my mother when I was born, instead of me. 
I can honestly say though, I've never had anything nice done for me.
I tend to pay forward and I'm sure it'll come around sometime, but it's not expected. |
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I know this is going to sound childish
Hear goes
Was in children’s home from a very young age
My father liked his alcohol more than us liked to lock us up in wardrobes spare rooms my only Xmas at home my dad smashed a scalectrix up pure malice
My dear departed wife bought me one for Xmas a while ago now
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My mates being there for me.
They all visited me after my op to remove cancer, one went back to the hospital to collect my meds, I wanted to get out quickly. Took me out for a night out, after 3 weeks of radiotherapy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Smacked my mother when I was born, instead of me.
I can honestly say though, I've never had anything nice done for me.
I tend to pay forward and I'm sure it'll come around sometime, but it's not expected."
Sorry to hear that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know this is going to sound childish
Hear goes
Was in children’s home from a very young age
My father liked his alcohol more than us liked to lock us up in wardrobes spare rooms my only Xmas at home my dad smashed a scalectrix up pure malice
My dear departed wife bought me one for Xmas a while ago now
Nicest thing anyone has done for me "
Not childish at all! That was a kind thing she did, knowing how much you'd get out of the gift. |
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"I know this is going to sound childish
Hear goes
Was in children’s home from a very young age
My father liked his alcohol more than us liked to lock us up in wardrobes spare rooms my only Xmas at home my dad smashed a scalectrix up pure malice
My dear departed wife bought me one for Xmas a while ago now
Nicest thing anyone has done for me "
That's brillent |
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"I think I've been very lucky in life because my loved ones and friends have done many nice things for me. The ones that stand out are things like Mr N making sure I had sharp pencils for my evening class or my daughter making me up a tin with cartoon characters on it and coloured pencils in it to take or the time I wasn't well and my dad just left his car on the drive with the keys in it without saying a word so I didn't have to walk to collect the kids from school.
My life has been full of kindness
Family based goodness here to*:
When I had my own place, pre kids, I was poorly and my mum did a food shop for me and also had bought what seemed like half a Chemist for me. She put it all away for me and then went home.
My late nan and gramp practically half raised me because my mum, as a single mum, worked all the hours she could to keep a roof over our head. My gramp would collect me from School and drive me to Dental appointments etc. They’d contribute towards my School uniform, new shoes etc.
And the biggest thing (to me) I’d split with my ex just before discovering I was pregnant with our second child (he had moved on swiftly to a new relationship so wasn’t keen to be involved). My mum came with me to all the Hospital appointments, of which there was many as I had complications, came to the Hospital in the ambulance with me and stayed during the birth so I wasn’t alone. She acted as cheerleader/kick up the ass person. She collected us from the Hospital the next morning too, all whilst running her own Business and us having lost my Step-dad the month before.
I’ve been very lucky with my family. They figure heavily in some of the bestest, happiest times I’ve ever had and my memories of them are full of love .
*apologies for the long rambling post
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Never any need to apologise for the length of a post when you are remembering such kindness amongst difficult times.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think I've been very lucky in life because my loved ones and friends have done many nice things for me. The ones that stand out are things like Mr N making sure I had sharp pencils for my evening class or my daughter making me up a tin with cartoon characters on it and coloured pencils in it to take or the time I wasn't well and my dad just left his car on the drive with the keys in it without saying a word so I didn't have to walk to collect the kids from school.
My life has been full of kindness
Family based goodness here to*:
When I had my own place, pre kids, I was poorly and my mum did a food shop for me and also had bought what seemed like half a Chemist for me. She put it all away for me and then went home.
My late nan and gramp practically half raised me because my mum, as a single mum, worked all the hours she could to keep a roof over our head. My gramp would collect me from School and drive me to Dental appointments etc. They’d contribute towards my School uniform, new shoes etc.
And the biggest thing (to me) I’d split with my ex just before discovering I was pregnant with our second child (he had moved on swiftly to a new relationship so wasn’t keen to be involved). My mum came with me to all the Hospital appointments, of which there was many as I had complications, came to the Hospital in the ambulance with me and stayed during the birth so I wasn’t alone. She acted as cheerleader/kick up the ass person. She collected us from the Hospital the next morning too, all whilst running her own Business and us having lost my Step-dad the month before.
I’ve been very lucky with my family. They figure heavily in some of the bestest, happiest times I’ve ever had and my memories of them are full of love .
*apologies for the long rambling post
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Thank you for sharing, Luna. You are lucky to have such a family! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just telling me I was enough….just letting me know they care when I was in a dark place and just sitting with me when i know else would….just being there for me |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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I dont want to go there but i did a nice thing for a stranger today i saw a lady carrying something heavy so offered to carry it to her home for her thinking she lived on that street she didnt  it 1 was 3 streets away with a big steep hill at the end i was fooked by the end but i couldnt show it stupid ego  |
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"I dont want to go there but i did a nice thing for a stranger today i saw a lady carrying something heavy so offered to carry it to her home for her thinking she lived on that street she didnt it 1 was 3 streets away with a big steep hill at the end i was fooked by the end but i couldnt show it stupid ego "
What a lovely kind thing you did x |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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"I dont want to go there but i did a nice thing for a stranger today i saw a lady carrying something heavy so offered to carry it to her home for her thinking she lived on that street she didnt it 1 was 3 streets away with a big steep hill at the end i was fooked by the end but i couldnt show it stupid ego
What a lovely kind thing you did x"
would have killed the poor lass off and i werent doing awt important at the time |
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"I dont want to go there but i did a nice thing for a stranger today i saw a lady carrying something heavy so offered to carry it to her home for her thinking she lived on that street she didnt it 1 was 3 streets away with a big steep hill at the end i was fooked by the end but i couldnt show it stupid ego
What a lovely kind thing you did xwould have killed the poor lass off and i werent doing awt important at the time "
but it's things like this that restore my faith in humanity x |
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By *mf123Man
over a year ago
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"I dont want to go there but i did a nice thing for a stranger today i saw a lady carrying something heavy so offered to carry it to her home for her thinking she lived on that street she didnt it 1 was 3 streets away with a big steep hill at the end i was fooked by the end but i couldnt show it stupid ego
What a lovely kind thing you did xwould have killed the poor lass off and i werent doing awt important at the time
but it's things like this that restore my faith in humanity x"
my god dont use me as a benchmark for humanity you would be very disapointed |
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"I dont want to go there but i did a nice thing for a stranger today i saw a lady carrying something heavy so offered to carry it to her home for her thinking she lived on that street she didnt it 1 was 3 streets away with a big steep hill at the end i was fooked by the end but i couldnt show it stupid ego
What a lovely kind thing you did xwould have killed the poor lass off and i werent doing awt important at the time
but it's things like this that restore my faith in humanity xmy god dont use me as a benchmark for humanity you would be very disapointed "
Lol ... don't worry my faith in humanity won't last very long x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My Mum and Dad worked their arses off so that I would want for nothing and still have that parental instinct to offer to help despite me having a good life and career on the back of their efforts. They're an incredible support system whom I love and I should probably tell them that a lot more |
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"My Mum and Dad worked their arses off so that I would want for nothing and still have that parental instinct to offer to help despite me having a good life and career on the back of their efforts. They're an incredible support system whom I love and I should probably tell them that a lot more "
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By *TaR105Man
over a year ago
Birkenhead |
"I’ve been struggling to go outside (depression/some personal stuff) for last couple of months - one of my mates phoned me this morning and said he would drive and pick me up this week at a convenient time/day for me to whisk me to some nice countryside for a walk so we can have a non-intensive time outside in pleasant surroundings that aren’t too crowded.
It made me cry as it’s the first moment that one of my mates has really “got” it lately and what’s more it’s not the expected mate, it’s someone I adore but I would have expected others to have done something ahead of him. I really appreciate him for taking the time to carve out space for me in a way that is accessible for me, rather than just expecting me to fit into his existing plans or agenda.
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Beautiful and amazing, i would love to hear how you got on and enjoyed that time walking in amazing surroundings, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been blessed and overwhelmed by the kindness of others so many times, but one that stands out was when I was starting out a guy I did some work for had a bigger company and bought me a very expensive drill set |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve been blessed and overwhelmed by the kindness of others so many times, but one that stands out was when I was starting out a guy I did some work for had a bigger company and bought me a very expensive drill set "
That is a thoughtful thing to do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gave birth to me, as I'm a fucking legend, pissing rainbows and farthing glitter every where I go..
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Well done Mum Grey 
She did alright
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The pissing rainbows was probably down to yer da anyway |
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