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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"Profile seems fine to me. You not being able to accomodate will rule out all the women who also cant and some people will assume you are married "
Thanks for that . Yeah I have been told that before that’s not the reason why I can’t accom and if someone was to ask would explain my reason |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"Profile reads ok, I'd have stopped at the cock pics though, but that's just me I'm not a fan.
Mrs "
Thanks for that appreciated . I always toyed with the idea of dick pics some like some don’t but I opted to go with them and understand they aren’t for everyone |
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"Profile seems fine to me. You not being able to accomodate will rule out all the women who also cant and some people will assume you are married
Thanks for that . Yeah I have been told that before that’s not the reason why I can’t accom and if someone was to ask would explain my reason "
I don’t tend to chat with people who can’t accommodate. I’m not really bothered what the reason is, but if it was to go any further I think it’s unreasonable to expect to meet at my gaff every time we meet. I expect there are probably lots of people on here who are the same |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
It's all ok, but not that fantastic - it doesn't really rise above the decent average.
The blurb doesn't really show off your personality, nor do the pics.
What makes you you? And why should someone want to meet you as a person? Why would an evening with you be a fun night out?
My profile isn't perfect (and this thread isn't about mine), but have a look and you'll hopefully see what I mean about how to display a bit more personality in what you write and the pics you use  |
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By *ossannCouple
over a year ago
London |
"It's all ok, but not that fantastic - it doesn't really rise above the decent average.
The blurb doesn't really show off your personality, nor do the pics.
What makes you you? And why should someone want to meet you as a person? Why would an evening with you be a fun night out?
My profile isn't perfect (and this thread isn't about mine), but have a look and you'll hopefully see what I mean about how to display a bit more personality in what you write and the pics you use "
Don't you think that's for dating though?
Why would I be seeking a fun night out with a guy from here? It should surely be a filthy night in? What aspects of his personality does he need to advertise on a sex site? |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"Profile seems fine to me. You not being able to accomodate will rule out all the women who also cant and some people will assume you are married
Thanks for that . Yeah I have been told that before that’s not the reason why I can’t accom and if someone was to ask would explain my reason
I don’t tend to chat with people who can’t accommodate. I’m not really bothered what the reason is, but if it was to go any further I think it’s unreasonable to expect to meet at my gaff every time we meet. I expect there are probably lots of people on here who are the same "
But if I started to meet someone for regular fun then I would start to accommodate . So that’s why if someone asked for my reason I don’t accommodate I would explain  |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
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Don't you think that's for dating though?
Why would I be seeking a fun night out with a guy from here? It should surely be a filthy night in? What aspects of his personality does he need to advertise on a sex site? "
Dating/shagging, night out/in together - unless someone is just looking for a person with a pulse and without 2 heads, etc, personality counts. If you look like you're going to be good company over the course of meet and not just a shag, then it makes a huge difference. |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"If you're not after a potential girlfriend from here, I'd keep the pics. If you're open to meeting single women who are looking for more of a dating experience, add some clothed pics."
Yeah I’m not really looking for a girlfriend from here I wouldn’t use this as a dating site . But I do get what you mean |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"It's all ok, but not that fantastic - it doesn't really rise above the decent average.
The blurb doesn't really show off your personality, nor do the pics.
What makes you you? And why should someone want to meet you as a person? Why would an evening with you be a fun night out?
My profile isn't perfect (and this thread isn't about mine), but have a look and you'll hopefully see what I mean about how to display a bit more personality in what you write and the pics you use "
I appreciate your feedback as the couple touched on I also feel that would be more for a dating site and as I don’t really use for dating I wouldn’t want to add all of the above but there are some good points you made of some things I could possibly add |
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By *ossannCouple
over a year ago
London |
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Don't you think that's for dating though?
Why would I be seeking a fun night out with a guy from here? It should surely be a filthy night in? What aspects of his personality does he need to advertise on a sex site?
Dating/shagging, night out/in together - unless someone is just looking for a person with a pulse and without 2 heads, etc, personality counts. If you look like you're going to be good company over the course of meet and not just a shag, then it makes a huge difference. "
Yeah I think if I'm meeting up with someone with the expectation of sex, then their personality is of far less importance. Sure I need to be able to get through the shag without hating them, but it's not a date so our interaction should be pretty sexually focused anyway.
If someone is too into my hopes, dreams and motivations, then it probably says that they're looking for a level of companionship beyond what I'm offering on this site. I think they'd be better served looking on dating apps for that. |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
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Don't you think that's for dating though?
Why would I be seeking a fun night out with a guy from here? It should surely be a filthy night in? What aspects of his personality does he need to advertise on a sex site?
Dating/shagging, night out/in together - unless someone is just looking for a person with a pulse and without 2 heads, etc, personality counts. If you look like you're going to be good company over the course of meet and not just a shag, then it makes a huge difference.
Yeah I think if I'm meeting up with someone with the expectation of sex, then their personality is of far less importance. Sure I need to be able to get through the shag without hating them, but it's not a date so our interaction should be pretty sexually focused anyway.
If someone is too into my hopes, dreams and motivations, then it probably says that they're looking for a level of companionship beyond what I'm offering on this site. I think they'd be better served looking on dating apps for that."
I agree with what you’re saying I think we are very much on the same page in how we use this app . Some are still mad keen on personality even just for sex which is understandable and each to their own . But for me as you said obviously I wouldn’t be meeting someone I hate but I’d use this very differently to a dating site |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"In all honesty OP it’s fine. But that’s it. Just fine. But then it’s your profile. If you’re happy with it stick with it  "
I am happy with it but always feel like I can add bits and like other people’s thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have a profile made up of advice from everyone else, is it still really your profile and a reflection of yourself or does it become a profile made up of words and pictures you think everyone wants to read and see? |
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By *ossannCouple
over a year ago
London |
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Don't you think that's for dating though?
Why would I be seeking a fun night out with a guy from here? It should surely be a filthy night in? What aspects of his personality does he need to advertise on a sex site?
Dating/shagging, night out/in together - unless someone is just looking for a person with a pulse and without 2 heads, etc, personality counts. If you look like you're going to be good company over the course of meet and not just a shag, then it makes a huge difference.
Yeah I think if I'm meeting up with someone with the expectation of sex, then their personality is of far less importance. Sure I need to be able to get through the shag without hating them, but it's not a date so our interaction should be pretty sexually focused anyway.
If someone is too into my hopes, dreams and motivations, then it probably says that they're looking for a level of companionship beyond what I'm offering on this site. I think they'd be better served looking on dating apps for that.
I agree with what you’re saying I think we are very much on the same page in how we use this app . Some are still mad keen on personality even just for sex which is understandable and each to their own . But for me as you said obviously I wouldn’t be meeting someone I hate but I’d use this very differently to a dating site "
Yeah I think some singles use this as a way to meet someone sexually compatible and maybe open to swinging once in a committed relationship. I get that. But they need to realise that they're the ones using the site for something it isn't aimed at providing and they're the ones who should be more upfront about that.
"I am seriously seeking a romantic partner so I am prioritising dating opportunities over recreational sex".
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"Romance and emotional intimacy are a priority for me and I'm seeing people who I can share these things with as well as sex".
Just like if I was on feeld looking for sex only, I'd say as much in my profile so the guys seeking a wife don't bother with me.
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"If you have a profile made up of advice from everyone else, is it still really your profile and a reflection of yourself or does it become a profile made up of words and pictures you think everyone wants to read and see? "
Yeah if I listened and did everything that everyone says it wouldn’t be my profile . But I take on board what people think and put my own spin on things |
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Your profile isn't offensive. It's also not informative.
You have watched someone having sex.
You enjoy giving oral.
Apart from your pics, the above is all I know apart from your stats....
Emojis for me on pics are a turn off.
P.S. The entire first paragraph of your profile is unnecessary .....
Are you looking for meets or staking a right to be here ?
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
Your profile is your advert you need a better advertisement, if you approach this site simply from the sex point of view you won't get far, put your dick away unless they request it and a few subtle photos and more write up showing your personality |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"Your profile isn't offensive. It's also not informative.
You have watched someone having sex.
You enjoy giving oral.
Apart from your pics, the above is all I know apart from your stats....
Emojis for me on pics are a turn off.
P.S. The entire first paragraph of your profile is unnecessary .....
Are you looking for meets or staking a right to be here ?
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No I said I enjoy watching not that I’ve watched someone having sex . Why is it unnecessary ? I’m looking for meets |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"Your profile is your advert you need a better advertisement, if you approach this site simply from the sex point of view you won't get far, put your dick away unless they request it and a few subtle photos and more write up showing your personality "
As I already touched on it’s not a dating site for me |
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I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off. "
Luckily less than 1% of the site uses the forum, so no one’s really gonna know |
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"I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off. "
This isn’t directed just at you op. I just happened to notice this thread |
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"I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off.
Luckily less than 1% of the site uses the forum, so no one’s really gonna know "
True. |
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Yeah I think some singles use this as a way to meet someone sexually compatible and maybe open to swinging once in a committed relationship. I get that. But they need to realise that they're the ones using the site for something it isn't aimed at providing and they're the ones who should be more upfront about that.
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I think the point is that is not what the site is TO YOU. It is many things to many people in different ways. Which is why it’s so good. If that’s not what you’re looking for then that’s all good too. Doesn’t make anyone else’s use of it wrong either |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off.
This isn’t directed just at you op. I just happened to notice this thread "
Yeah and I totally get that . I just always like to hear other peoples views that’s all doesn’t mean il take everything on board . |
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"I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off.
This isn’t directed just at you op. I just happened to notice this thread
Yeah and I totally get that . I just always like to hear other peoples views that’s all doesn’t mean il take everything on board . "
Fair |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
Dorchester |
"I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off. "
Success or lack of is why they ask and also to get attention  |
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I joined a thread recently that asked the poster below to comment on the profile of the poster above.
The response I had was the only advice, be it good or not, that I've had regarding my profile since rejoining.
I joined that thread because, well, I'm looking for meets and my messages were going unanswered. I feel that some people on Fab, particularly men like myself, who haven't had the experience they had hoped for and consider themselves decent and respectful people, need a little helping hand from time to time. Even if it's just for a little boost, because there is nothing worse than living with low self esteem and being on a site full of folk hoping to fuck, reaching out for advice from the general Fab population isn't a bad thing
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"You need a picture of you hanging outta the back of a bird in a carpark with your pants pulled down just below your ass cheek and a quality street wrapper stuck to your bare bottom."
Does it matter which quality street wrapper? I’m taking notes here. |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"I’m not a fan of these threads. Never have been. Only you can improve your profile. People telling you what to put isn’t really you is it? I just don’t get why people ask others for this kind of thing. Does it not put people off? It would put me off. Success or lack of is why they ask and also to get attention "
Listen to Fred with one of the worst profiles I’ve seen . |
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"You need a picture of you hanging outta the back of a bird in a carpark with your pants pulled down just below your ass cheek and a quality street wrapper stuck to your bare bottom.
Does it matter which quality street wrapper? I’m taking notes here. "
Purple one with the big nut |
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By *t0600 OP Man
over a year ago
elvedon |
"You need a picture of you hanging outta the back of a bird in a carpark with your pants pulled down just below your ass cheek and a quality street wrapper stuck to your bare bottom."
You know what that’s a great idea . Blue looks well on me so il go with that |
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