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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well tomorrow will be my first Mothers day in 19 years without my son, he's at uni now. I'm not looking forward to it. Would love to hear how others cope |
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Im on my own and have been mostly since my son left home. To be honest its never really bothered me. Ive always concentrated more on my mum, but shes of out for the day tomorrow
As long as i get my call from my son i will be happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My two adult children sent me cards, the youngest will make me brekkers then take off with his pals. I am happy that I've raised three independent happy kids. No matter if they are with me or not, I'm still their mother and know they love me as I do them. One was even born on mothers day.
You just have to remember you will always be your child's mother even if they are not with you physically they are in your heart forever. xxx |
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Mother's Day is really just commercialised bollocks. My 12 year old daughter tells me every day she loves me and tomorrow won't be any more special. Enjoy knowing you've raised a child to be independant and find something good to do for yourself xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Mother's Day is really just commercialised bollocks. My 12 year old daughter tells me every day she loves me and tomorrow won't be any more special. Enjoy knowing you've raised a child to be independant and find something good to do for yourself xx "
Sending cards is bollox, I agree , but for 18 yrs I have had a cuddle, not so tomorrow , so although I know all about the money making side of it , tomorrow will still be cuddle free for me. I'm going out for lunch with hubby . |
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it is going to be a different day and Im sorry to hear that you aint looking forward to it .. why not try and do something completely different to anything you have tried before like going out for a meal on your own or something .. alot of the hotels do very good deals like the holiday inns and they are very relaxed enviroments to be in .. hope your day goes well  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"it is going to be a different day and Im sorry to hear that you aint looking forward to it .. why not try and do something completely different to anything you have tried before like going out for a meal on your own or something .. alot of the hotels do very good deals like the holiday inns and they are very relaxed enviroments to be in .. hope your day goes well "
Aww thanks mate, always find it helps to read one or posts on the thread before chucking ur 2penneth in!
I'm planning on advertising on rent a granny next year as I will be well past it then!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mother's Day is really just commercialised bollocks. My 12 year old daughter tells me every day she loves me and tomorrow won't be any more special. Enjoy knowing you've raised a child to be independant and find something good to do for yourself xx
Sending cards is bollox, I agree , but for 18 yrs I have had a cuddle, not so tomorrow , so although I know all about the money making side of it , tomorrow will still be cuddle free for me. I'm going out for lunch with hubby ."
Some of us mums don't have a hubby and will be completely alone. Count every blessing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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mine son ws abroad last year and too busy this yr - daughter has come home for weekend but hardly seen her - they love me - dont need a day put aside for this - my son is my bestest closest friend - he will call me x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I count all my blessings, some are not as good as others believe me, we are not all blessed with a rosy garden even tho it may appear so to outsiders |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"mine son ws abroad last year and too busy this yr - daughter has come home for weekend but hardly seen her - they love me - dont need a day put aside for this - my son is my bestest closest friend - he will call me x"
Mine too, will just miss my cuddle. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"mine son ws abroad last year and too busy this yr - daughter has come home for weekend but hardly seen her - they love me - dont need a day put aside for this - my son is my bestest closest friend - he will call me x
Mine too, will just miss my cuddle. X"
i know xxxxx - they give the best hugs - the next one you get you let it linger -  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My kids lost their mother when they were quite young. Mother's Day was always a nightmare school clubs everything was making cards /gifts and destroying my children in the process.
So to all those saddened in any way by the day I wish you the best day it can be, distraction is the plan go have fun. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My kids lost their mother when they were quite young. Mother's Day was always a nightmare school clubs everything was making cards /gifts and destroying my children in the process.
So to all those saddened in any way by the day I wish you the best day it can be, distraction is the plan go have fun. Xx"
i remmeber someone losing thier mum at my kids school - her class didnt make stuff - eveyrbody knew why an was dealt with well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i remmeber someone losing thier mum at my kids school - her class didnt make stuff - eveyrbody knew why an was dealt with well "
Wish my kids had understanding teachers. First year I wasn't ready second one we went away for the week before. Was ok by the time they were in secondary school. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My kids lost their mother when they were quite young. Mother's Day was always a nightmare school clubs everything was making cards /gifts and destroying my children in the process.
So to all those saddened in any way by the day I wish you the best day it can be, distraction is the plan go have fun. Xx"
Similar here, lost my partner when my son was only five, he's fifteen this month. He signs my fathers day card to my father his poppa. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love Mother's Day, as its a way for me to treat my mum and I also love what my kids do for me, I wouldn't complain one bit if that was only a phone call.
I also make sure I message some friends of mine who haven't been able to have kids and let them know that I'm thinking of them on a day that is very hard for them.
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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haha Good try
Not really j is away till Monday and we don't play unless we are together. But I made the mood way too heavy sorry. "
No you didn't. Some people will have a lovely day tomorrow and be looking forward to it, and some will have a crap day and be dreading it...and for the rest its just a normal Sunday.
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By (user no longer on site)
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First time on my own for 21 years. Dreading it. My youngest is at uni and my eldest is up north. Saying that I am going up there the weekend after to be a the scan of my grandbump, so that more than makes up for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Gonna miss seeing my mum, she won't be alone, she'll be with my dad and my brother and his family, but I just can't afford the trip to go see her this weekend, I've been down there the last two weekends and the wallet is empty now. She understands, has my card and pressie and I will call her though, so she will be happy(ish)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well tomorrow will be my first Mothers day in 19 years without my son, he's at uni now. I'm not looking forward to it. Would love to hear how others cope"
this is my second year my daughter has been away from me through uni, its hard as she is my only one but she has left me a card the other week and had a nice bouquet delivered today, she will ring me throughout the day. its hard but i will have mothers day all over again in a couple of weeks when i see her next, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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heavy hearts here- but i guess every day is hard for someone for some reason - some anniversary or special moments remembered - gawd knows i have a few myself - lets just get through them the best we can and support each other when we stumble xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac! |
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!"
well for some of us we never had that chance.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!
well for some of us we never had that chance.... "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!"
Not dictating anything.
I'm simply saying I will miss my girls and my little son who would have been 8 years old... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!
well for some of us we never had that chance.... "
That's obviously a sad tale. Not sure what you want anyone to say to that? Sympathy is condescending,much else is just a platitude. For some of course it's been their life choice. As it was for us for years.
What would you have someone say? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!
well for some of us we never had that chance....
That's obviously a sad tale. Not sure what you want anyone to say to that? Sympathy is condescending,much else is just a platitude. For some of course it's been their life choice. As it was for us for years.
What would you have someone say?"
I think what I am saying as I reposted it is remember those who have lost children. Its a very hard day for us. Its my grandma's second without her son too. Its not easy for women who have had children and lost them at any stage, before birth or before they pass away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mine have never really bothered, mainly cos their dad never took much notice of such events like birthdays, Christmas etc hence why is now an ex !!
Christmas 2012 was the first year I got presents from my boys. Was my first year as a divorcee too lol
So it will be a nice surprise to get something tomorrow lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!
well for some of us we never had that chance....
That's obviously a sad tale. Not sure what you want anyone to say to that? Sympathy is condescending,much else is just a platitude. For some of course it's been their life choice. As it was for us for years.
What would you have someone say?
I think what I am saying as I reposted it is remember those who have lost children. Its a very hard day for us. Its my grandma's second without her son too. Its not easy for women who have had children and lost them at any stage, before birth or before they pass away."
Then I agree completely with your sentiment. My brother died many years ago and for my mother she's never really gotten over that. As a family, what we do is talk about David in an old familiar way and not with any false reverence. He was only a babe, it was fifty years ago, but the scars are obvious for all to see.
There's nothing anyone can say. Life sometimes can be wonderful. But it can also be shit.
Hope you get by tomorrow x |
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!
well for some of us we never had that chance....
That's obviously a sad tale. Not sure what you want anyone to say to that? Sympathy is condescending,much else is just a platitude. For some of course it's been their life choice. As it was for us for years.
What would you have someone say?"
I don't want nothing said as its my journey... I hope you have a great mothers day |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This will sound harsh. And it is.
Children aren't yours to own. They're just on loan. Whilst they are in your care its the best time, the best.
But they then go on to do the things we all did. Make lives, progress, the story is ancient.
Be grateful for what you've had and what's still to come. My 22 year old son turned up today at my mums for a family get together. My heart sang for a couple of hours. Then he was gone again.
But for that short amount of time it was great.
We old gits don't have the right to dictate terms; we wouldn't have liked it if our parents had tried that tac!
well for some of us we never had that chance....
That's obviously a sad tale. Not sure what you want anyone to say to that? Sympathy is condescending,much else is just a platitude. For some of course it's been their life choice. As it was for us for years.
What would you have someone say?
I don't want nothing said as its my journey... I hope you have a great mothers day"
Thanks. We'll do our darnedest. Mum had the all clear on throat cancer this week at 78, so we are planning a nice day. Champagne for all except her, she will stick to the usual shit German Liebfraumilch! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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As much as it must be sad for people to lose babies....surely you can't expect everyone to take that into account everytime a post about kids or mothers comes up.
If threads like these upset you maybe avoid them.
To the OP....our kids have flew the nest too, they get on with their lives and visit on Mothers day. If they couldn't visit I am happy for them to be getting on with their lives.
As long as they are happy, I am, wether I see them on Mothers day or not. |
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My eldest is married and will call me later or she and her husband may turn up. My middle and younger daughters live with me. My youngest gave me some flowers in a vase on Friday as they were beginning to open and the other will have got me something.
I'm not one for a fuss, I know my girls love me, they're happy, confident and independent(ish), don't know how I'll feel when they all leave though.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Do u know that mothers day is actually meant to be the day u visit ur mother church, the one u were christened in?
We have changed it into what it is today.
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I will see my daughter today as ,we are going out for a meal with my dad, brothers and sister etc. It will have oits sad moments as its 10yrs tomorrow since we lost our mum. It will also be nice for us to get together and remember her. My mums nickname was headoffice lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mother's Day is really just commercialised bollocks. My 12 year old daughter tells me every day she loves me and tomorrow won't be any more special. Enjoy knowing you've raised a child to be independant and find something good to do for yourself xx
Sending cards is bollox, I agree , but for 18 yrs I have had a cuddle, not so tomorrow , so although I know all about the money making side of it , tomorrow will still be cuddle free for me. I'm going out for lunch with hubby .
Some of us mums don't have a hubby and will be completely alone. Count every blessing. "
I have 2 both now fully fledged but i still miss my mothers day cuddle. It will be work for me as normal followed by a microwave meal for 1 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive been awake about an hour now. I set my phone alarm cos my husband was going to pick up our daughter for work at 615, he moaned saying why is your alarm set, I said because I didnt want you to be late for picking her up. said i wouldnt bother next time could bloody get on with it. Not seeing her today, am seeing her tuesday with mothers day card and present for me which is from her brother too, who lives at home and I doubt has even written his card. I said to my husband one card to get and nothing else. Not her fault she has to work but think she could have given card to her dad for me. Anyway, on a nicer note, I am sending my mum a nice flower display and we are taking her for lunch, so I think I will just get off my face on booze. Happy Mothers Day. Sorry for the whinging - and to all those who have lost kids dont feel too sad if you can help it and ignore the moaner who is me xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm off in a bit to drive to Somerset to see my mum. I forgot to post her card, well that's what I'm telling her when I turn up as she doesn't know I'm coming |
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"I'm off in a bit to drive to Somerset to see my mum. I forgot to post her card, well that's what I'm telling her when I turn up as she doesn't know I'm coming "
ahhh. Bless. What a lovely thing to do. You must be such a nice person. She's lucky to have you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm off in a bit to drive to Somerset to see my mum. I forgot to post her card, well that's what I'm telling her when I turn up as she doesn't know I'm coming "
Just be careful she doesn't have a seriously kinky meet going on when you arrive |
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