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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?"

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I thought TikTok was only something young people used

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?" "

If you like your life wrapped up in a superficial 2 minute video by click bait hounds... Its just perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not. "

I'll watch out for that now

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

I'll watch out for that now "

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By *eroLondonMan  over a year ago

Mayfair

I usually ask them to record their voice, singing the full rendition of "Land of Hope and Glory"...and then 'WhatsApp' it to me via their burner SIM.

It serves no purpose; they're still going to be made love to.

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By *parkle1974Woman  over a year ago

Leeds

I ask all sorts from serious questions to absolutely stupid ones (those usually show their sense of humour) if they have one x

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not. "

You've never asked me that.

That's a hell of a way to find out

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not. "

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire

I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I thought TikTok was only something young people used "

Good role playing

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip? "

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LB5YkmjalDg

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By *empest2KMan  over a year ago

Derby

I usually ask them what their favourite cheese is. You can find out a lot about someone from this alone.

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By *illy IdolMan  over a year ago

Midlands


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?"

If you like your life wrapped up in a superficial 2 minute video by click bait hounds... Its just perfect. "

What can't be said or done in two minutes isn't worth being said or done

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I usually ask them to record their voice, singing the full rendition of "Land of Hope and Glory"...and then 'WhatsApp' it to me via their burner SIM.

It serves no purpose; they're still going to be made love to."

Is that trending on TikTok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?"

If you like your life wrapped up in a superficial 2 minute video by click bait hounds... Its just perfect. "

And that's how it's done, people!

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By *riar BelisseWoman  over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

For cuppa socials, I'm happy to just meet

For something potentially more, I Search through their veri list very carefully and check all connections first. A vote of confidence, from someone I know, is worth a lot to me

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LB5YkmjalDg"

Such a tune. Now I’m all in the mood for Patrick Bateman too.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I thought TikTok was only something young people used

Good role playing "

Or was I genuinely asking based on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

You've never asked me that.

That's a hell of a way to find out "

I knew with you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip? "

I remember that question

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man  over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"I usually ask them what their favourite cheese is. You can find out a lot about someone from this alone."

Yes, anyone who says they don’t like cheese would be instant end to conversation.

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

I remember that question "

Do you remember your answer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps "

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I thought TikTok was only something young people used

Good role playing

Or was I genuinely asking based on the forums "

Ooh I'm all of a flutter, I just don't know!!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

I remember that question

Do you remember your answer? "

No actually

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By *inger_SnapWoman  over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Do you like cats?

If they say no, it's good-bye.

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast

I tend not to test people just for the sake of it.

I'm not currently meeting but when I am I just have normal conversations with people often for weeks and sometimes months before arranging to meet for coffee.

The fact we are still chatting after that length of time tells me much more than asking trick questions.

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

You've never asked me that.

That's a hell of a way to find out

I knew with you"

true. it's not like it's a fucking secret

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man  over a year ago

BRIDPORT


"Do you like cats?

If they say no, it's good-bye."

Are we talking 4 legged furry cats or Andrew Loyd Webber musical?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

By asking the old Apple or Samsung question.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Do you like cats?

If they say no, it's good-bye."

Short and sweet

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I tend not to test people just for the sake of it.

I'm not currently meeting but when I am I just have normal conversations with people often for weeks and sometimes months before arranging to meet for coffee.

The fact we are still chatting after that length of time tells me much more than asking trick questions. "

It's NOT a trick question! It's part of a normal conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I tend not to test people just for the sake of it.

I'm not currently meeting but when I am I just have normal conversations with people often for weeks and sometimes months before arranging to meet for coffee.

The fact we are still chatting after that length of time tells me much more than asking trick questions.

It's NOT a trick question! It's part of a normal conversation. "

Not everyone understands TikTok

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I provide a 24 page survey. Questions cover a range of subjects including political leanings, religious beliefs, education levels, health, family background, employment history, finances and dick size

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference "

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context "

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I provide a 24 page survey. Questions cover a range of subjects including political leanings, religious beliefs, education levels, health, family background, employment history, finances and dick size "

Is this to meet them or marry them?

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

I remember that question

Do you remember your answer?

No actually "

For the best.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I tend not to test people just for the sake of it.

I'm not currently meeting but when I am I just have normal conversations with people often for weeks and sometimes months before arranging to meet for coffee.

The fact we are still chatting after that length of time tells me much more than asking trick questions.

It's NOT a trick question! It's part of a normal conversation.

Not everyone understands TikTok "

You're not wrong

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference. "

It's there in your opening post

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I provide a 24 page survey. Questions cover a range of subjects including political leanings, religious beliefs, education levels, health, family background, employment history, finances and dick size

Is this to meet them or marry them? "

Just to continue conversation

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By *empest2KMan  over a year ago

Derby


"I usually ask them what their favourite cheese is. You can find out a lot about someone from this alone.

Yes, anyone who says they don’t like cheese would be instant end to conversation. "

Exactly! It's the same when they don't like tea *and* coffee - they have to like at least one or the other (or ideally both), otherwise it's bye-bye time

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference.

It's there in your opening post "

No. I said this "I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative."

If you disagree with the method, no worries

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By *elix SightedMan  over a year ago

Cloud 8

Ask how roomy their minge is.

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By *ealitybitesMan  over a year ago

Belfast


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference.

It's there in your opening post

No. I said this "I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative."

If you disagree with the method, no worries "

It is a test though. You said it yourself. Ask them something they are likely to disagree with.

That's not a normal conversation.

That's a trick question regardless of whether it is about Tik Tok or anything else.

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By *lder.Woman  over a year ago

Not Local

I used to let other people do the work for me. If I could read 20 verifications saying nice things then I would begin the

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

I remember that question

Do you remember your answer?

No actually

For the best. "

That bad?

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By *impcuckMan  over a year ago

edge of taunton

my wife vets people with a fine comb from a meeting point of view 99% dont make the sexual attraction side of things and the of that 1% 99% wont make the message stage let alone meeting.

everything is done via fab on phones no email no apps no cams just simple sexua; attraction a nice chat without intusion and a meet if it takes longer than a week then its never going to happen all this bearing in mind she meets very regular so its a good job her kittle black book is full from people shes met many many times before

trust your gut feeling too 99% they are correct

i think if you play games then you will get burnt

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By *stellaWoman  over a year ago

London


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

I remember that question

Do you remember your answer?

No actually

For the best.

That bad?"

It was funny. Ageist, but funny.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

Mine is whether the adjective hip is still, well hip?

I remember that question

Do you remember your answer?

No actually

For the best.

That bad?

It was funny. Ageist, but funny. "

Out

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By *emidemiWoman  over a year ago

basingstoke


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not. "

You never asked me.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"I provide a 24 page survey. Questions cover a range of subjects including political leanings, religious beliefs, education levels, health, family background, employment history, finances and dick size "

No Rorschach test?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference.

It's there in your opening post

No. I said this "I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative."

If you disagree with the method, no worries

It is a test though. You said it yourself. Ask them something they are likely to disagree with.

That's not a normal conversation.

That's a trick question regardless of whether it is about Tik Tok or anything else. "

I have a different perspective but fair enough. It's very important to me, for example, that I know if a man is easily angered. So I say no at some point in the early chat. No to something small. Politely decline. I learnt this on here. You'd say that was a test, no doubt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

"

Do you have a sliding scale?

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference.

It's there in your opening post

No. I said this "I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative."

If you disagree with the method, no worries

It is a test though. You said it yourself. Ask them something they are likely to disagree with.

That's not a normal conversation.

That's a trick question regardless of whether it is about Tik Tok or anything else.

I have a different perspective but fair enough. It's very important to me, for example, that I know if a man is easily angered. So I say no at some point in the early chat. No to something small. Politely decline. I learnt this on here. You'd say that was a test, no doubt. "

So you're testing if he's easily angered?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not.

You never asked me. "

I’ll ask before I put the Jimmy on.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference.

It's there in your opening post

No. I said this "I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative."

If you disagree with the method, no worries

It is a test though. You said it yourself. Ask them something they are likely to disagree with.

That's not a normal conversation.

That's a trick question regardless of whether it is about Tik Tok or anything else.

I have a different perspective but fair enough. It's very important to me, for example, that I know if a man is easily angered. So I say no at some point in the early chat. No to something small. Politely decline. I learnt this on here. You'd say that was a test, no doubt. "

I’d ask if they play any weird games with their dates instead of just getting to know them. Sort the odds from the evens

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just chit chat

No trick questions or traps

"What do you think of TikTok" isn't a trick or a trap, it just reveals things about people based on how they perceive difference

I think any provocative question is a trap in this context

I didn't say "provocative question". It's just a question which gives insight into how people approach difference.

It's there in your opening post

No. I said this "I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative."

If you disagree with the method, no worries

It is a test though. You said it yourself. Ask them something they are likely to disagree with.

That's not a normal conversation.

That's a trick question regardless of whether it is about Tik Tok or anything else.

I have a different perspective but fair enough. It's very important to me, for example, that I know if a man is easily angered. So I say no at some point in the early chat. No to something small. Politely decline. I learnt this on here. You'd say that was a test, no doubt.

I’d ask if they play any weird games with their dates instead of just getting to know them. Sort the odds from the evens "

Touché

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


". It's very important to me, for example, that I know if a man is easily angered. So I say no at some point in the early chat. No to something small. Politely decline. I learnt this on here. "

I fully support this too

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By *elix SightedMan  over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale? "

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


". It's very important to me, for example, that I know if a man is easily angered. So I say no at some point in the early chat. No to something small. Politely decline. I learnt this on here.

I fully support this too "

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels"

Do you only meet gymnasts?

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By *unner6969Man  over a year ago

Bicester


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?" "

I chat with them, work out whether we have mutual interests and then report and block the ones that ask for money or vouchers without meeting (or with meeting, I don’t do prostitution).

Sorry, touched a nerve there, just been through one of this chats, going great until the ‘will you spoil me tonight, I don’t mean sex’ lines.

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By *elix SightedMan  over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts? "

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy

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By *uckowskiMan  over a year ago

edinburgh

I tell them (in a creepy, wizardy type voice): "ye shall answer my riddles 3, elst ye'll have no sexy weiner fun from me!!!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?"

I chat with them, work out whether we have mutual interests and then report and block the ones that ask for money or vouchers without meeting (or with meeting, I don’t do prostitution).

Sorry, touched a nerve there, just been through one of this chats, going great until the ‘will you spoil me tonight, I don’t mean sex’ lines.

"

Oh that's horrible. I'm sorry - rubbish experience, I'm sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts?

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy"

Good. I can only make it to my belly button these days.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I tend to ask if they know the airspeed velocity of an unladen Sparrow.

Or, if they know the answer to life the universe and everything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I tend to ask if they know the airspeed velocity of an unladen Sparrow.

Or, if they know the answer to life the universe and everything. "

Damn it. I only know for an unladen one.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I tend to ask if they know the airspeed velocity of an unladen Sparrow.

Or, if they know the answer to life the universe and everything.

Damn it. I only know for an unladen one. "

Well, first you have to decide whether its an African or European Swallow...

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By *ucka39Man  over a year ago

Newcastle

I meet them get undressed and if we're both wet that proves enough

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I don't have any tests or set questions.

I generally go by the rule that if conversation flows easily with a mixture of humour, flirting and meaningful depth to it, then I would enjoy their company over a cocktail for a social, and potentially also enjoy being on their cock at some later date.

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By *lueseasWoman  over a year ago

Leamington Spa


"I usually ask them for their thoughts on whether white supremacy is a global system of oppression that still oppresses people today. I’ve asked all of my meets and dates that. Platonic or not. "

Serously, why can't we have a filter for this! Genius.

My strategy is to have a very political profile, which I guess it's unusual here. How people who message repond to it (or not) is illuminating...

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By *elix SightedMan  over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts?

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy

Good. I can only make it to my belly button these days. "

Is it a roomy belly button?

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By *inkygentkentMan  over a year ago

Maidstone

I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I tend to ask if they know the airspeed velocity of an unladen Sparrow.

Or, if they know the answer to life the universe and everything.

Damn it. I only know for an unladen one.

Well, first you have to decide whether its an African or European Swallow..."

It was a TRAP!

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I just be myself and they quite quickly remove me from their list instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts?

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy

Good. I can only make it to my belly button these days.

Is it a roomy belly button?"

It's an innie nestled in some flab. I guess you could say that.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I tend to ask if they know the airspeed velocity of an unladen Sparrow.

Or, if they know the answer to life the universe and everything. "

42

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter "

Risky!

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By *inkygentkentMan  over a year ago

Maidstone


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

Risky! "

Oh it is - although I'm also one of those annoying guys who asks permission to run my kinks past them. Y'know - being polite

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By *elix SightedMan  over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts?

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy

Good. I can only make it to my belly button these days.

Is it a roomy belly button?

It's an innie nestled in some flab. I guess you could say that. "

Perfect! My plonker is shaped like an outie. We’re a match!

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By *ittlebirdWoman  over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I ask for their inside leg measurement first… then which side they dress.

That’ll do for me tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts?

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy

Good. I can only make it to my belly button these days.

Is it a roomy belly button?

It's an innie nestled in some flab. I guess you could say that.

Perfect! My plonker is shaped like an outie. We’re a match!"

Hurrah! What do you think of TikTok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I ask for their inside leg measurement first… then which side they dress.

That’ll do for me tbh "

Do you do the measuring yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I ask for their inside leg measurement first… then which side they dress.

That’ll do for me tbh "

34 left

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By *elix SightedMan  over a year ago

Cloud 8


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts?

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy

Good. I can only make it to my belly button these days.

Is it a roomy belly button?

It's an innie nestled in some flab. I guess you could say that.

Perfect! My plonker is shaped like an outie. We’re a match!

Hurrah! What do you think of TikTok? "

Haha I see what you did there!!

I have no opinion. I’ve never seen or used it, don’t really know what it’s for. But then I’m not on any social media

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By *ittlebirdWoman  over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I ask for their inside leg measurement first… then which side they dress.

That’ll do for me tbh

Do you do the measuring yourself? "

Yes. With my mouth

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?" "

Send them to the vets at home clinic appointment only mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I ask for their inside leg measurement first… then which side they dress.

That’ll do for me tbh

Do you do the measuring yourself?

Yes. With my mouth "

You nawty girl

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By *a LunaWoman  over a year ago

South Wales

I chat to them for agesssssss.

People can only hide their weirdness for so long.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Ask how roomy their minge is.

Do you have a sliding scale?

Not a physical one. They have to lean over and shout my name up there. Up itttt. There’s a direct correlation between my interest and the echo levels

Do you only meet gymnasts?

You don’t have to be that close. The really roomy ones pick up the eager wailings of the needy

Good. I can only make it to my belly button these days.

Is it a roomy belly button?

It's an innie nestled in some flab. I guess you could say that.

Perfect! My plonker is shaped like an outie. We’re a match!

Hurrah! What do you think of TikTok?

Haha I see what you did there!!

I have no opinion. I’ve never seen or used it, don’t really know what it’s for. But then I’m not on any social media "

But I'm on all of it!

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By *ittlebirdWoman  over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"I ask for their inside leg measurement first… then which side they dress.

That’ll do for me tbh

Do you do the measuring yourself?

Yes. With my mouth

You nawty girl "

Seems to work…

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By *inkygentkentMan  over a year ago

Maidstone


"I chat to them for agesssssss.

People can only hide their weirdness for so long.

"

You wouldn't have to chat to me for long to find that out

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I tell them (in a creepy, wizardy type voice): "ye shall answer my riddles 3, elst ye'll have no sexy weiner fun from me!!!""

And who doesn't love sexy weiner fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

I saw a TikTok suggesting something a little provocative. Basically, make a statement that they're likely to disagree with and then watch how they respond to the difference between you. Eg "so what do you think of TikTok?"

Send them to the vets at home clinic appointment only mind "

You've lost me!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

Risky!

Oh it is - although I'm also one of those annoying guys who asks permission to run my kinks past them. Y'know - being polite "

Polite is good. And I think fair to start with kinks - it's not as though they have to guess you're kinky is it?

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I just chat to people,I don't ask questions purposely to see if I can annoy someone or to get a reaction. I think just a normal chat shows me what the person is like when we chat for a bit. I never have felt the need to test anyone or be insecure in my own instincts about people so much that I would feel the need to test anyone to like that.

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By *udding RoseWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere out there


"I just chat to people,I don't ask questions purposely to see if I can annoy someone or to get a reaction. I think just a normal chat shows me what the person is like when we chat for a bit. I never have felt the need to test anyone or be insecure in my own instincts about people so much that I would feel the need to test anyone to like that. "

100% agree with this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I wonder if people who are "secure" with their ability to gauge someone's intentions realise that's a privilege. It's great to have faith in your instincts, wish we all could. But many don't, often because of their history. I don't. So I take extra measures. You can call it trapping or testing, or insecurity or playing games. Sure. I call it keeping myself safe and I don't believe I've harmed anyone in doing so.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman  over a year ago

Reading

I'm not into testing people. I just go with the vibe and trust my instincts.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman  over a year ago

Reading


"I wonder if people who are "secure" with their ability to gauge someone's intentions realise that's a privilege. It's great to have faith in your instincts, wish we all could. But many don't, often because of their history. I don't. So I take extra measures. You can call it trapping or testing, or insecurity or playing games. Sure. I call it keeping myself safe and I don't believe I've harmed anyone in doing so. "

You do you and don't apologise for it. We are all different.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS  over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

With an increasingly light touch as the deadline for making an arrangement looms and more viable people are unavailable

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman  over a year ago

Wherever

I don’t. I’m just honest, unfiltered, unapologetically me and the good ones stay and the bad ones usually go away quickly without me doing anything, really.

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By *inkygentkentMan  over a year ago

Maidstone


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

Risky!

Oh it is - although I'm also one of those annoying guys who asks permission to run my kinks past them. Y'know - being polite

Polite is good. And I think fair to start with kinks - it's not as though they have to guess you're kinky is it? "

Yeah - I sort of give off that vibe

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I wonder if people who are "secure" with their ability to gauge someone's intentions realise that's a privilege. It's great to have faith in your instincts, wish we all could. But many don't, often because of their history. I don't. So I take extra measures. You can call it trapping or testing, or insecurity or playing games. Sure. I call it keeping myself safe and I don't believe I've harmed anyone in doing so.

You do you and don't apologise for it. We are all different. "

Thank you. I think I got a bit defensive but we all come at things from a different POV.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

Risky!

Oh it is - although I'm also one of those annoying guys who asks permission to run my kinks past them. Y'know - being polite

Polite is good. And I think fair to start with kinks - it's not as though they have to guess you're kinky is it?

Yeah - I sort of give off that vibe "

Your username is a BIG hint

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"With an increasingly light touch as the deadline for making an arrangement looms and more viable people are unavailable "

So...breathing?

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By *aseylee324Couple  over a year ago

Valley of Squinting Windows

I just allow them to trip themselves up via normal conversation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I don’t. I’m just honest, unfiltered, unapologetically me and the good ones stay and the bad ones usually go away quickly without me doing anything, really."

I wish that was my story, sounds great!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just allow them to trip themselves up via normal conversation."

People do show themselves over time, don't they?

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By *stbury DavenportMan  over a year ago

Nottingham


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?"

"Really? Even *after* you've seen my face?"

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By *inkygentkentMan  over a year ago

Maidstone


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

Risky!

Oh it is - although I'm also one of those annoying guys who asks permission to run my kinks past them. Y'know - being polite

Polite is good. And I think fair to start with kinks - it's not as though they have to guess you're kinky is it?

Yeah - I sort of give off that vibe

Your username is a BIG hint "

I call it "stating the bleedin' obvious"

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

"Really? Even *after* you've seen my face?""

Somewhat harsh, don't you think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

Risky!

Oh it is - although I'm also one of those annoying guys who asks permission to run my kinks past them. Y'know - being polite

Polite is good. And I think fair to start with kinks - it's not as though they have to guess you're kinky is it?

Yeah - I sort of give off that vibe

Your username is a BIG hint

I call it "stating the bleedin' obvious" "

I need a more obvious username myself. Hmm.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman  over a year ago

ashford


"I thought TikTok was only something young people used "

Good god no! It's my fave app! Not just for u young pickles lol x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman  over a year ago

ashford

My usual go to question is did u vote in or out? X

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By *inkygentkentMan  over a year ago

Maidstone


"I lead with my kinks - the response (if any, lol) is a good indicator of whether they are light-hearted and fun or not. It's a very effective filter

Risky!

Oh it is - although I'm also one of those annoying guys who asks permission to run my kinks past them. Y'know - being polite

Polite is good. And I think fair to start with kinks - it's not as though they have to guess you're kinky is it?

Yeah - I sort of give off that vibe

Your username is a BIG hint

I call it "stating the bleedin' obvious"

I need a more obvious username myself. Hmm."

Oh I dunno - location speaks volumes!

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By *inkygentkentMan  over a year ago

Maidstone


"My usual go to question is did u vote in or out? X"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"My usual go to question is did u vote in or out? X"

In

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By *eliWoman  over a year ago

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I don't do it. I've never felt the need to. I waffle. Far, far too much. I love asking questions organically and learning people. But I don't want to test them in a way. Not in anyway. I think in part it's because I'm far too optimistic/naive. In part it's because I'd rather give a person a chance.

Limiting it down to how someone responds to one question at one point of one day, like the aforementioned in the OP, feels a tad reductive to me. I don't know.

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By *stbury DavenportMan  over a year ago

Nottingham


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?

"Really? Even *after* you've seen my face?"

Somewhat harsh, don't you think?"

You haven't seen my face!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman  over a year ago

ashford


"My usual go to question is did u vote in or out? X

In "

Lol x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS  over a year ago

chichester

just get them to have a video chat with me for a few minutes , if they dont then i dont bother with them

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I normally vet them on another app....asking for a live pic in a certain unusual pose....just to prove they are who they say they are....

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS  over a year ago

chichester


"I normally vet them on another app....asking for a live pic in a certain unusual pose....just to prove they are who they say they are...."

yeah see a live cam just kills the dickheads dead

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire


"I wonder if people who are "secure" with their ability to gauge someone's intentions realise that's a privilege. It's great to have faith in your instincts, wish we all could. But many don't, often because of their history. I don't. So I take extra measures. You can call it trapping or testing, or insecurity or playing games. Sure. I call it keeping myself safe and I don't believe I've harmed anyone in doing so. "

I don't think it's a privilege based on instinct. Do you think maybe people just have other ways of trying to ensure their safety that perhaps aren't as 'provocative '?

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By *ustBoWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down


"I wonder if people who are "secure" with their ability to gauge someone's intentions realise that's a privilege. It's great to have faith in your instincts, wish we all could. But many don't, often because of their history. I don't. So I take extra measures. You can call it trapping or testing, or insecurity or playing games. Sure. I call it keeping myself safe and I don't believe I've harmed anyone in doing so.

I don't think it's a privilege based on instinct. Do you think maybe people just have other ways of trying to ensure their safety that perhaps aren't as 'provocative '?"

Yep pretty much this. We all have had life experiences some which haven't been pleasant,but it still doesn't make me want to have to test people or consider it a privilege because I don't. And I also wouldn't want someone testing me just to see a reaction, I would find that an immediate turn off.

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By *cottish guy 555Man  over a year ago

London


"I ask for their inside leg measurement first… then which side they dress.

That’ll do for me tbh

Do you do the measuring yourself?

Yes. With my mouth

You nawty girl

Seems to work… "

I look forward to an opportunity to see if I measure up.

Spoiler alert, I don't.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple  over a year ago

Leeds

Do you like coffee?

Vetting done.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Question. - Are you a dick?

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By *eyond PurityCouple  over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We chat to people - we find out more about them talking about their interests/hobbies then we would talking about sex.

If it’s someone single, we’ll chat to them at different times of the day to see any patterns of when they interact.

We don’t meet right away so the people who do or are just interested in a fuck or are playing away disappear long before…

We also have other methods but not giving them away

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By *hesblokeMan  over a year ago

Derbyshire village


"I usually ask them what their favourite cheese is. You can find out a lot about someone from this alone."

Or their favourite dinosaur!

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"I usually ask them what their favourite cheese is. You can find out a lot about someone from this alone.

Or their favourite dinosaur!"

Cheddersaurus?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"My usual go to question is did u vote in or out? X"

Politics how does that go?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Question. - Are you a dick? "

No. I just like dick.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Do you like coffee?

Vetting done.

Mrs "

Hate the stuff. Vetting failed.

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"My usual go to question is did u vote in or out? X

Politics how does that go? "

If that fails you can ways move onto less contentious matters like religion and transgender in sports.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"My usual go to question is did u vote in or out? X

Politics how does that go?

If that fails you can ways move onto less contentious matters like religion and transgender in sports. "

Into a whole new territory there

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just talk to people normally. I don't need to lay traps. I'm quite capable of vetting someone by chatting

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By *mf123Man  over a year ago

with one foot out the door

The 3 message flow rule worked best back in my day

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just talk to people normally. I don't need to lay traps. I'm quite capable of vetting someone by chatting"

What about a honey trap

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"The 3 message flow rule worked best back in my day"

Go on then - tells us your secrets

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By *mf123Man  over a year ago

with one foot out the door


"The 3 message flow rule worked best back in my day

Go on then - tells us your secrets "

it can be messages about everything but withing 3 messages each way the convo must flow naturally if it doesnt face to face convo will stall also

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By *ig_eric_tionMan  over a year ago

IPSWICH

With a very long glove and plenty of lube.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"The 3 message flow rule worked best back in my day

Go on then - tells us your secrets it can be messages about everything but withing 3 messages each way the convo must flow naturally if it doesnt face to face convo will stall also"

How do you "vet" with just 3 questions? I'd need 103!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"With a very long glove and plenty of lube. "

Fnar fnar

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By *unner6969Man  over a year ago

Bicester


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?…

…Sorry, touched a nerve there, just been through one of those chats, going great until the ‘will you spoil me tonight, I don’t mean sex’ lines.

Oh that's horrible. I'm sorry - rubbish experience, I'm sure. "

Happens all too often, sadly, here and on the more conventional apps. Must be some very gullible men out there…

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By *rHotNottsMan  over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I just naturally get to know people but do pay a bit of attention to on to the topics people choose not to talk about, often it reveals more.

vetting / red flags for me are a unhealthy interest in other people, fab or popularity

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"What questions do you ask when you chat to a prospective meet?…

…Sorry, touched a nerve there, just been through one of those chats, going great until the ‘will you spoil me tonight, I don’t mean sex’ lines.

Oh that's horrible. I'm sorry - rubbish experience, I'm sure.

Happens all too often, sadly, here and on the more conventional apps. Must be some very gullible men out there…

"

Maybe just very lonely?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Question. - Are you a dick?

No. I just like dick. "

You sound on the level… Faf?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just naturally get to know people but do pay a bit of attention to on to the topics people choose not to talk about, often it reveals more.

vetting / red flags for me are a unhealthy interest in other people, fab or popularity "

What qualifies as unhealthy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Question. - Are you a dick?

No. I just like dick.

You sound on the level… Faf? "

Bit forward!

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By *ackformore100Man  over a year ago

Tin town


"I just naturally get to know people but do pay a bit of attention to on to the topics people choose not to talk about, often it reveals more.

vetting / red flags for me are a unhealthy interest in other people, fab or popularity

What qualifies as unhealthy? "

Something that isn't healthy?

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By *mf123Man  over a year ago

with one foot out the door


"The 3 message flow rule worked best back in my day

Go on then - tells us your secrets it can be messages about everything but withing 3 messages each way the convo must flow naturally if it doesnt face to face convo will stall also

How do you "vet" with just 3 questions? I'd need 103!"

i dont ask questions its not a quiz just need to feel engaged in the flow of conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I just naturally get to know people but do pay a bit of attention to on to the topics people choose not to talk about, often it reveals more.

vetting / red flags for me are a unhealthy interest in other people, fab or popularity

What qualifies as unhealthy?

Something that isn't healthy? "

Not helpful and it wasn't for you to answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"The 3 message flow rule worked best back in my day

Go on then - tells us your secrets it can be messages about everything but withing 3 messages each way the convo must flow naturally if it doesnt face to face convo will stall also

How do you "vet" with just 3 questions? I'd need 103!i dont ask questions its not a quiz just need to feel engaged in the flow of conversation"

I don't think I could gauge the flow or the person with just 3 messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago

I've got an idea for my next thread. So if you lovely people could just finish this one...

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman  over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

I vet people in my own time and refuse to be rushed into anything.

Fab has taught me a lot about boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've got an idea for my next thread. So if you lovely people could just finish this one..."

Start one before 175. Live a little

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By *ilverfox for youMan  over a year ago

Hull

Maybe keep it simple and ask their favourite position !!!

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By *ossannCouple  over a year ago

London

Honestly it's just a go with my gut thing. If someone makes me think that I won't be safe with them because we don't communicate well, or they can't regulate their emotions, then I don't meet them.

Aside from that, I vet people for our ability to "sexually mesh" before I meet them. I want to have some idea that there is point to leaving my house other than a drink or whatever.

I think some people don't mind meeting for drinks, so they vet for danger and see the rest in person because they don't mind using that energy for drinks and/or they can't tell anything unless they are in person. .

It can be hard to connect with people who are different to you in that respect.

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By *r TriomanMan  over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Stick a thermometer up their bum, like vets do

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman  over a year ago

Manchester(ish).


"I've got an idea for my next thread. So if you lovely people could just finish this one...

Start one before 175. Live a little"

Fast and Furious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I've got an idea for my next thread. So if you lovely people could just finish this one...

Start one before 175. Live a little"

I have two running. Traumatic!

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Stick a thermometer up their bum, like vets do "

Or use something bigger

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"Honestly it's just a go with my gut thing. If someone makes me think that I won't be safe with them because we don't communicate well, or they can't regulate their emotions, then I don't meet them.

Aside from that, I vet people for our ability to "sexually mesh" before I meet them. I want to have some idea that there is point to leaving my house other than a drink or whatever.

I think some people don't mind meeting for drinks, so they vet for danger and see the rest in person because they don't mind using that energy for drinks and/or they can't tell anything unless they are in person. .

It can be hard to connect with people who are different to you in that respect. "

actually I think vetting if people can regulate emotions is precisely why I started the thread! I mean I'm not sure I can regulate mine but irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've got an idea for my next thread. So if you lovely people could just finish this one...

Start one before 175. Live a little

Fast and Furious. "

There’s 10 of those films can you believe it

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I've got an idea for my next thread. So if you lovely people could just finish this one...

Start one before 175. Live a little

Fast and Furious.

There’s 10 of those films can you believe it"

New vetting question: how many of them have you seen?

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple  over a year ago

Aberdeen

I keep reading the title as "how do you veet people" and giggling at the thought of it

MrsAbz

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By *naswingdressWoman  over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I keep reading the title as "how do you veet people" and giggling at the thought of it

MrsAbz "

I'm imagining someone with an agricultural anal probe and gloves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP     over a year ago


"I keep reading the title as "how do you veet people" and giggling at the thought of it

MrsAbz "

that's my next thread

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple  over a year ago

Aberdeen


"I keep reading the title as "how do you veet people" and giggling at the thought of it

MrsAbz

I'm imagining someone with an agricultural anal probe and gloves."

gotta get that butt smooth as silk

I imagine a gang of people just absconding with a hairy person and then dropping them back to where they find them - bald, smooth, smelling weird and completely confused

MrsAbz

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