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"Is Fab what you expected or did it bring totally unexpected things into your life? And are they good or bad?.."
A positive experience and I have made good friends, even found my "tribe" of weirdos too |
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Overall a good experience.
I have made some great new friends.
Met people that otherwise our paths would never have crossed.
I occasionally get a bit jaded as another forum post slides unremarked to oblivion.
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over a year ago
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I was blessed with a long queue at first then the let down. Quality comes first. It is right up all our streets.
First you need to talk but if rejected move on. Life to short to hang out with dudes who love to pretend to be something they are not in real life.
I did not come with hope or expectations |
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"Is Fab what you expected or did it bring totally unexpected things into your life? And are they good or bad?.."
A blessing i found lot friends who I've never met yetc.
I found four subs who have stay with me over the years maya been with me for ten and will remain with
Me after covid and recently time it been shit for meeting new people .but then two mth ago out of the blue on here I met the love of my life .so I'm going for blessing not bad considering i never swung or been to a club. Love been of forums .so get thumbs up from me yep I've had time wasters and catfish and loads of people saying they meet and didn't. I've come out winning here. That's my two penny worth for this thread . |
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over a year ago
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It’s a bit of both, it’s changed since lockdown brought a mass influx of new people not necessarily for the better, I know things will always alter as they become more popular and mainstream.
Not being an “exceptional” guy and also being (by my own admission) a bit weird, I’ve found it a lot more difficult than most, I also realise that with the sheer volume of guys it’s always gonna be complicated.
That said I’ve made some great friends and met a couple of amazing people on here so can’t put it down too much. |
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"Is Fab what you expected or did it bring totally unexpected things into your life? And are they good or bad?.."
Still in the "it's got potential" phase. For us, you get out what you put in. If you think you can just fill out a profile and the invites come sailing in, there's about 98.9% you're gonna wind up disappointed, if you're one of the 1.1% that effortlessly gets hookups, well done, share the secret lol |
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When I first joined I thought I might be able to hook up with folk easily and explore my kinkier side. As you can imagine, it took a while to get my first meet. I'm happy about that though because it forced me to engage more with people and not see them as potential fuck toys which is how I envisaged Fab users when I joined. It also led me to the forums and from there I've made some friends.
I haven't met anyone this time around yet but I'm honestly in no rush. I'll meet when the right person comes along, or when I get the chance to meet those I'm in contact with privately. All in all, I'm happy with Fab  |
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We met via fab and are now in the most amazing relationship. We’ve made some great friends with other couples that we genuinely get on with both inside and out the bedroom. Yes it has its down sides, some people will always spoil things, but overall we’ve had very positive experiences. |
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"Is Fab what you expected or did it bring totally unexpected things into your life? And are they good or bad?.."
If I discovered Fab years ago, it would’ve saved me from alotta heartache & problems.
But it is a pain in the arse |
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over a year ago
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I think for most guys it’s a curse that can ruin your confidence if you let it
But these days people are so easy, apps are all the rage, going out is expensive and time consuming. Fabs looks like the oasis you need.
But like all desert oasis, it’s not real
If your a guy on here getting your confidence crushed, breath, take a step back and go do it the old fashioned way. Plenty of normal women out there will give you the time of day if you can smile and say “hi, what’s your name?” In a pub. Fab isn’t a representation of the real world, or your attractiveness. It’s a rigged game for most. Don’t let it get too your head |
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over a year ago
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The opportunity to meet like-minded people to indulge in sexual activities and express yourself with no inhibitions is amazing
... On the flip side its also a very toxic place filled with idiots... And wading through them is exhausting. |
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I originally joined thinking I wouldn't even get noticed. I ended up in a two year relationship when I wasn't looking for one. I've met some lovely people and some total dickheads. I've also been able to have so great experiences with like minded people.
And like midnight days it's also exhausting wading through the toxic people. And the curse is when people bring you drama. |
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Incredibly positive for me.
I started Fab years ago as a newly seperated single parent to young kids. So I didn't have a lot of free time as such but I had a thirst for new adventures with my new found freedom. Mainly in it to hook up with single women and enjoy the variety that different new women have to offer. As everyone knows Fab is tough from a single guy POV. However I been luckily to meet some genuinely wonderful women and had some wonderful times as well as a few misses too. It was Liberating see different women at the same time and it be OK to be openly seeing other women without causing offence or being made to feel ashamed. As a single parent it was also practical because people's rare free days often don't align with yours but the more options you have the more chance someone's will align. And when you have been cheated on, dumped and left holding the baby it does sort of get you down. So knowing again that you are desirable and people do want to have sex with you is a real boost and reminder that you are ok.
I was also curious about swinging, especially 3some, 4somes and orgies, plus expanding my horizons with regards BDSM. Being on Fab was the driver that pushed me to expand out into the club scene and explore more what things sexually I could enjoy (which I'd previously not felt the freedom to). It showed me these things were out there and they were open to me. So I guess a big suprise of Fab was finding myself as a single guy in Swingers clubs. I would have never seen that coming a few years before. It was such an eye opener for someone who has always been faithfully monogamous but always couldn't genuinely understand why you can't be with someone and you both can't enjoy sex with others? It was so refreshing seeing so many happy swinging couples.
The biggest blessing of Fab and the biggest suprise was meeting Mrs Misfit. I never intended on love, a relationship and closeness I didn't believe was possible. She really is my best freind and lover. I found a relationship where can just be me. Loved and understood for who I am. I relationship where we can just be open and honest with each other and loved for it, not judged. A relationship where we help each other to grow. Plus a bigger family that brings so much love and a bright future.
So yes Fab has been a real blessing for me despite its down sides.
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It has been positive in that I've made some amazing friends over the years and met my best friend.
I've never understood why anyone who has had an entirely negative experience would still be here.
It does however bring out the worst in some people. |
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Overall a blessing.
I am grateful for the advice by a few people when I started. Met a few interesting people on the way and am hopeful that it will continue.
Curse in a way of time spent on here maybe, disappointed by a few people but this maybe as well down to wrong expectations from my side.
All in all I am happy |
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"The opportunity to meet like-minded people to indulge in sexual activities and express yourself with no inhibitions is amazing
... On the flip side its also a very toxic place filled with idiots... And wading through them is exhausting. "
Exactly this!
Surprisingly I’ve found the lounge community to be the best thing about fab for me. Quite a few arrogant pricks but mainly humble and fun people willing to share and have a laugh. |
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