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Either say the truth or come up with a plausible easy pill to swallow. If you know anything about him. Message a quick plan to him and get him to agree with a play by play and sell that to her
I'd just say the truth though |
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Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
"
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way. |
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over a year ago
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
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Now imagine if you just took 1 second to ignore it
You’ve gained nothing and probably fuelled weeks worth of drama
To each their own. When I see dog shit I just step over it. You had to jump on it and splash a few people on it in the process |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"So girlfriend of my old fb contacted me wanting to know how I know him
Shouldn't the past be in the past?
It definitely should. This smells of drama- I'd block instantly!!!"
Boiled rabbit more like. |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
"
Well I don't blame you, let him try and squirm his way out of it now. Lies always end up catching up with you sooner or later |
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If I was unaware they had an unconsenting girlfriend I'd consider the sharing of information completely valid.
I didn't ask for this shit on my doorstep, but since someone put it there the best thing to do is acknowledge it properly in my mind  |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
"
I don't blame you. He sounds like a dick. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't have even replied. As for retaliation I have more self respect than to lower myself to it.
What I would do is screenshot/record any future messages.
If that's the kinda child he is that drama isn't worthy. |
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By *hirleyMan
over a year ago
somewhere |
Not really great, but I know on that website reviews site, can't remember what it's called, had some stinging reviews of wives that had found out their husbands were fucking women from here and everyone were completely oblivious, horrible stories, kids and marriages involved etc etc...
I guess what I mean is that you never really know someone, no matter how charming they come across and do things to win your trust  |
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"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?
No, we met Dec'22.
He's only recently started seeing her.
And when he started dating we stopped meeting. "
Then there was no harm in telling her you used to hook up before they got together. |
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No idea what goes on in their relationship but if someone was contacting people I'd previously spoken to asking how I knew their partner I'd be putting my toothbrush back in my handbag and walking out if the door. |
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I'd not engage, whilst maintaining safety. It's up to her and him to settle issues. I'd emphasise never to contact you, if you are going to give any contact. But I'd generally pursue them being ignored. And I'd engage the police, if safely is harmed |
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over a year ago
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"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?
No, we met Dec'22.
He's only recently started seeing her.
And when he started dating we stopped meeting. "
Personally think it’s pretty disrespectful to tell other people about your past hookups without the person in question agreeing to it
You wouldn’t like it if some lad at the pub was telling his mates how he’s shagged you
Keep private things private until everyone involved agrees to not keep it private. That’s the respectful thing to do |
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"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?
No, we met Dec'22.
He's only recently started seeing her.
And when he started dating we stopped meeting. "
I now remember your post about it from a couple of months ago or so. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way."
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth. |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth. "
This sounds ALL kinds of fucked up. He seems like a real prize.
Stay safe, OP. What’s done is done now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
"
I’d absolutely have done this.  |
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"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?
No, we met Dec'22.
He's only recently started seeing her.
And when he started dating we stopped meeting.
I now remember your post about it from a couple of months ago or so. "
Yeah, him saying we can't meet anymore as he's dating |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth. "
I've absolutely no idea.
She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it |
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"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?
No, we met Dec'22.
He's only recently started seeing her.
And when he started dating we stopped meeting.
Personally think it’s pretty disrespectful to tell other people about your past hookups without the person in question agreeing to it
You wouldn’t like it if some lad at the pub was telling his mates how he’s shagged you
Keep private things private until everyone involved agrees to not keep it private. That’s the respectful thing to do "
You didn't read the bit where he threw her under the bus?
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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago
west midlands |
"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.
I've absolutely no idea.
She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it "
Hope you've blocked them both on everything, you really don't need all that drama in your life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.
I've absolutely no idea.
She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it "
Does he have your address ? |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.
I've absolutely no idea.
She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it
Does he have your address ?"
She... And tbf she might be jealous... But I'd assume she isn't to the point of burning OPs house down?... Let's get a little perspective here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.
I've absolutely no idea.
She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it
Does he have your address ?
She... And tbf she might be jealous... But I'd assume she isn't to the point of burning OPs house down?... Let's get a little perspective here "
He. The ex fb.
He can't be trusted to keep OP's address secret.
Arson would not be the issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
"
OMG  He told lies about you to save his own back....Not Nice....re- "To save himself he told her I stalk him"....
I wouldn't be pleased either to hear that & I'd probably tell the truth too if that's the case....I take it he was with GF when he was seeing you....The 'shits sure gonna hit the fan now' ha....
I don't like how he put it all on you saying you were a stalker....That's actually nasty of him  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?
No, we met Dec'22.
He's only recently started seeing her.
And when he started dating we stopped meeting.
I now remember your post about it from a couple of months ago or so.
Yeah, him saying we can't meet anymore as he's dating "
Problem solved. You’ve disclosed something you didn’t have to. Hopefully puts her straight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?
It just seems needlessly laden with drama... Unless that is the intent - i think i recall a previous thread where you weren't happy that he'd stopped seeing you.. Oh is it his wife he's gone back to ? |
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"I would have just ignored and blocked.
You don't know that he was with her when he was fucking you. And even if he was, what's it to you now? He's your EX fb.
Some people just thrive on drama "
Stole the words right out my .......... I was still reading the thread but would have responded similar to this.
1. I wouldn't be responding to a stranger.
2. He did not throw you under a bus -
3. You responded in a very vindictive manner and I can't exclude you from being part of the problem.
For some reason the whole story doesn't add up to me but then we don't have the whole story.
I hope it all works out for everyone in the end. |
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"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?
It just seems needlessly laden with drama... Unless that is the intent - i think i recall a previous thread where you weren't happy that he'd stopped seeing you.. Oh is it his wife he's gone back to ? "
It would still put a lot at unease knowing their partner is still messaging their old fb. Even if they're not still shagging |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
OMG He told lies about you to save his own back....Not Nice....re- "To save himself he told her I stalk him"....
I wouldn't be pleased either to hear that & I'd probably tell the truth too if that's the case....I take it he was with GF when he was seeing you....The 'shits sure gonna hit the fan now' ha....
I don't like how he put it all on you saying you were a stalker....That's actually nasty of him "
Not as nasty as stalking though... |
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"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?
It just seems needlessly laden with drama... Unless that is the intent - i think i recall a previous thread where you weren't happy that he'd stopped seeing you.. Oh is it his wife he's gone back to ? "
She knew we had a sexual relationship in the past by going through his phone while he slept checking old WhatsApp messages. And no, it's not his wife. He's separated |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth.
I've absolutely no idea.
She doesn't want him having contact with anyone in his past or any women from the sounds of it
Does he have your address ?"
No, I always went and stayed with him. |
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"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?
It just seems needlessly laden with drama... Unless that is the intent - i think i recall a previous thread where you weren't happy that he'd stopped seeing you.. Oh is it his wife he's gone back to ?
She knew we had a sexual relationship in the past by going through his phone while he slept checking old WhatsApp messages. And no, it's not his wife. He's separated "
I still don't get it.. She wanted a reaction from you and you delivered it. What was the point in engaging. We can't own other people's reactions but we can own our own. |
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This is a non story ...... simply a non story.
Hello who are you ?
Who are you ?
You don't know me.
Goodbye ! Block number.
If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.
End of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.
Hello who are you ?
Who are you ?
You don't know me.
Goodbye ! Block number.
If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.
End of."
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"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.
Hello who are you ?
Who are you ?
You don't know me.
Goodbye ! Block number.
If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.
End of."
But where’s the drama in that Granny, you’re no fun are you. |
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"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.
Hello who are you ?
Who are you ?
You don't know me.
Goodbye ! Block number.
If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.
End of.
But where’s the drama in that Granny, you’re no fun are you. "
Sometimes but it'd be fun fun not miserable fun ..... I did have a cat stalking me backwards the other day .... Is that exciting and dramatic ? |
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"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?
It just seems needlessly laden with drama... Unless that is the intent - i think i recall a previous thread where you weren't happy that he'd stopped seeing you.. Oh is it his wife he's gone back to ?
It would still put a lot at unease knowing their partner is still messaging their old fb. Even if they're not still shagging "
Especially if they're lying about it. Messaging people you use to hook up with while in a committed relationship, then lying about it...
I probably would have sent the screen shots too. Why lie if there's nothing to hide? I'd hope someone would afford me the same. |
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"This is a non story ...... simply a non story.
Hello who are you ?
Who are you ?
You don't know me.
Goodbye ! Block number.
If this story is true everyone is deserving of what they are getting.
End of.
But where’s the drama in that Granny, you’re no fun are you.
Sometimes but it'd be fun fun not miserable fun ..... I did have a cat stalking me backwards the other day .... Is that exciting and dramatic ?"
Which of you was backwards, the cat or you, or was it one of those comedy moments when you take a step forward and the cat takes a step back, then you take a step back and the cat takes a step forward.
Perhaps the cat was feline threatened. |
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No. We were both going forward but the cat kept stopping looking back at me then trotting ahead then looking back at me..... and this went on for the length of the very long street I live in .....
I did say ffs cat cross over or go under a car...... ( in my head - i'm not mad ) |
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"I genuinely don't know why you just didn't say you used to see each other until he met her when she first got in touch? What was there to hide?
It just seems needlessly laden with drama... Unless that is the intent - i think i recall a previous thread where you weren't happy that he'd stopped seeing you.. Oh is it his wife he's gone back to ?
She knew we had a sexual relationship in the past by going through his phone while he slept checking old WhatsApp messages. And no, it's not his wife. He's separated
I still don't get it.. She wanted a reaction from you and you delivered it. What was the point in engaging. We can't own other people's reactions but we can own our own. "
I think you missed the part when I replied to her "I've got nothing to say"...
Yes she wanted a reaction so she delivered the screenshot from him. And as I said it wasn't my proudest moment retaliating.
If I was stalking him, I'm pretty sure he would have blocked me a long time ago, not now |
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I would have ignored the first message but if then if she messaged me saying he told her I was a stalker damn right I'd be messaging back giving her aaaaall the details. But to be fair, she sounds paranoid as fuck if you both had a thing when they weren't even together. I think some couples are doomed from the beginning. |
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"Was he already dating her when he was meeting you?
No, we met Dec'22.
He's only recently started seeing her.
And when he started dating we stopped meeting.
Personally think it’s pretty disrespectful to tell other people about your past hookups without the person in question agreeing to it
You wouldn’t like it if some lad at the pub was telling his mates how he’s shagged you
Keep private things private until everyone involved agrees to not keep it private. That’s the respectful thing to do "
She found our old WhatsApp messages so she knew we had a past. I never told her |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
If he threw you under the bus like that then he deserves everything he gets. I would block them both now and just get out the way.
This, I wonder why he said you stalked him instead of just telling the truth. "
Life's too easy for simple thing like that |
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"Yes, it's got really messy
She found a message from me on his Instagram DM and contacted me.
I said I've got nothing to say.
To save himself he told her I stalk him
I said I don't believe he said that and she sent me the screenshot.
Not proud of myself but I retaliated by sending her his & my conversation
Shits hit the fan
OMG He told lies about you to save his own back....Not Nice....re- "To save himself he told her I stalk him"....
I wouldn't be pleased either to hear that & I'd probably tell the truth too if that's the case....I take it he was with GF when he was seeing you....The 'shits sure gonna hit the fan now' ha....
I don't like how he put it all on you saying you were a stalker....That's actually nasty of him "
I saw him last in August. We just kept in contact via messaging |
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I think people think I told her about Fab.
She knows nothing about his life on here and that's how it should be.
The fact of the matter is she saw a message between him and me, which he turned it around to save himself |
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"No. We were both going forward but the cat kept stopping looking back at me then trotting ahead then looking back at me..... and this went on for the length of the very long street I live in .....
I did say ffs cat cross over or go under a car...... ( in my head - i'm not mad ) "
So you were stalking the cat! It's all coming out now. |
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I saw him last in August. We just kept in contact via messaging"
Unless there was a terminal bust up, with no more messaging, not meeting someone between August and November is nothing in the grand timescale of casual relationships. |
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