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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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With Fab and the arranging to meet up with people we are literally planning to be sexy that day /hour aren’t we? So, is it sexy can you turn your sexy on? Or is it just not as hot as something more spontaneous?
* someone mentioned something somewhere else before.
How do you make sure that things are going to stay positive?
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If both of you (or all of you!) have been building a good level of want and need and desperation for each other, then it doesn’t pose a problem. If anything there’s just the glorious release of finally getting hold of each other.
But sometimes you’re just not both (or all …) on the same page at the same time. That’s when it can be awkward. When there’s an imbalance or mismatch. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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A bit of build up helps. A bit of flirting.
What I don’t like is the “I’m going to do this, this and this and you’ll cum from this, this and this”. I find that dull, boring and far too serious.
Sex itself should be fun and things (moves etc) should be spontaneous. Go with the flow.
That way it’s chilled out and there is no pressure on either party to behave or react a certain way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've got no concerns turning it on.
I'll make sure I'm freshly showered, have my hair did, smelling nice etc.
And then when I'm ready I'll just say "gis a go then luv"
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"With Fab and the arranging to meet up with people we are literally planning to be sexy that day /hour aren’t we? So, is it sexy can you turn your sexy on? Or is it just not as hot as something more spontaneous?
* someone mentioned something somewhere else before.
How do you make sure that things are going to stay positive?
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This is one of the reasons I personally prefer club meets.... as I hate the feeling of pre planned fun x
Cali |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
"If I'm not excited enough just by the anticipation of seeing them, I'm not arranging to meet them in the first place  "
Exactly this.
This is also why a social meet is fundental to me. You could have incredible sexual rapport and/or chemistry online, but there is nothing when you meet in person. That makes it very awkward.
By the time I arrange a social with someone I am pretty sure I want to take things further, but the social has been a lifesaver on a few occasions, haha  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't really like spontaneous sex. With someone I know? Sure. But then the spontaneity somewhat vanishes with planning.
If I'm attracted to and wanting to have sex with someone it would take an awful lot for that to change. Normally in the run up to it there's all of those fantastic flirty messages, the energy of anticipation... by the time I do meet someone I'm normally really rather keen. |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"With Fab and the arranging to meet up with people we are literally planning to be sexy that day /hour aren’t we? So, is it sexy can you turn your sexy on? Or is it just not as hot as something more spontaneous?
* someone mentioned something somewhere else before.
How do you make sure that things are going to stay positive?
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sex is an in the moment thing and continues with how horny you both are  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh but if he's planning to arrive at mine at a planned time on a planned day, I can....
Get my outfit planned
Plan my timings to shower, shave, put make up on etc.
I can even plan what music will be playing.
And then I can plan what I'll do when I open the door to be sexy.
Or I'll just be spontaneous with him when he's arrived. Though I'll always plan to kiss him when he arrives. That could mean being pinned against the wall, the radiator or even my fridge freezer when I plan to make him a cuppa. So many options.
Or I could get him to plan how's he's going to restrain me. |
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By *ruceyyMan
over a year ago
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"Oh but if he's planning to arrive at mine at a planned time on a planned day, I can....
Get my outfit planned
Plan my timings to shower, shave, put make up on etc.
I can even plan what music will be playing.
And then I can plan what I'll do when I open the door to be sexy.
Or I'll just be spontaneous with him when he's arrived. Though I'll always plan to kiss him when he arrives. That could mean being pinned against the wall, the radiator or even my fridge freezer when I plan to make him a cuppa. So many options.
Or I could get him to plan how's he's going to restrain me. "
This is usually how it goes for me too. I love the awkward, would you like a cup of tea tension.
Just get here already against the wall! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spontaneous is great but I like planning something and having something to look forward too.
Having a few drinks, a good chat and a laugh before we jump into bed with them is usually preferred.
Miss S x |
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It depends I can't just switch my sexy time on.
If there's a good build up via text, good flirt then yeah I can be sexy (ish)
I do find that initial point sometimes awkward though & it's that expectation, I don't like being expected to perform I'd rather go with the flow, but again as an awkward person the flow can be tricky (people just stay away from awkward old me its not sexy)
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends I can't just switch my sexy time on.
If there's a good build up via text, good flirt then yeah I can be sexy (ish)
I do find that initial point sometimes awkward though & it's that expectation, I don't like being expected to perform I'd rather go with the flow, but again as an awkward person the flow can be tricky (people just stay away from awkward old me its not sexy)
Mrs "
I think when's there's the right chemistry there isn't awkwardness and your sexy will just be there and in full force and be incredibly exciting at the same time.
If the chemistry isn't right then yes awkward is definitely a thing. |
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"It depends I can't just switch my sexy time on.
If there's a good build up via text, good flirt then yeah I can be sexy (ish)
I do find that initial point sometimes awkward though & it's that expectation, I don't like being expected to perform I'd rather go with the flow, but again as an awkward person the flow can be tricky (people just stay away from awkward old me its not sexy)
Mrs
I think when's there's the right chemistry there isn't awkwardness and your sexy will just be there and in full force and be incredibly exciting at the same time.
If the chemistry isn't right then yes awkward is definitely a thing."
This is exactly right & I don't know until I'm there in person if that chemistry is there or not, so pre planning the sex can just leave awkward old me.
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Yes, I can absolutely just "turn my sexy on". Set a date, a time and a place, and I can turn up and perform.
It's good to be organised. Perfect preparation prevents piss-poor performance, et cetera. |
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