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I often send that type of message after seeing platonic friends, especially if I've been to their house. I word it appropriately though. If I haven't had a great time but I like the person I'll say words to the effect of 'it was good seeing you'. If I don't like the person but politeness calls for a follow up I say 'thank you for meeting me'. |
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over a year ago
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"Or words along those lines.
Do you send that message after seeing someone (platonic or sexual)?
Do you like receiving that kind of message?"
Nah I don’t send that kind of message. It’s a bit needy. I don’t judge anyone who says it though.
I suppose it depends on the person - I have a mate who absolutely hates when people grovel. He preferred jokes and piss taking. The other day a woman sent a text to say “thanks” to him after sex and it really put him off her in a big way. |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"Yes.
I'd send my friends that.
Its good to show gratitude.
Good to get it too. "
Yes, I'm similar. My friends definitely receive that message because I'm feeling all soft towards them and it's nice to show thanks. Appreciation for them being them. |
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"Or words along those lines.
Do you send that message after seeing someone (platonic or sexual)?
Do you like receiving that kind of message?
Nah I don’t send that kind of message. It’s a bit needy. I don’t judge anyone who says it though.
I suppose it depends on the person - I have a mate who absolutely hates when people grovel. He preferred jokes and piss taking. The other day a woman sent a text to say “thanks” to him after sex and it really put him off her in a big way."
He sees it as grovelling, that's interesting |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"I often send that type of message after seeing platonic friends, especially if I've been to their house. I word it appropriately though. If I haven't had a great time but I like the person I'll say words to the effect of 'it was good seeing you'. If I don't like the person but politeness calls for a follow up I say 'thank you for meeting me'. "
Yes of course. It would be odd if there was a saved message copied and pasted regardless of how you feel.  There's an element of politeness definitely - you can express thanks without saying or hinting 'let's do that again'. |
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Within my friends we always message each other when we get home safely. Because some of us are liabilities and there’s always a “wonderful night, thanks for coming out”.
Every meet (except for 1 ginormous asshat of a man who doesn’t deserve even my thoughts) asks me to message once I’m home. And there’s always been a “that was amazing, can’t wait to see you again etc”
I think it shows respect to ensure someone is safe & also happy. But that’s me.
I can see where “thanks” as a stand alone comment may look odd, but as a whole example as above it’s a good thing.
I’m now wittering and rambling… |
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I usually send a ‘thanks for tonight/ last night, was really good to see you! I had a wonderful time.’ But usually it’s after I tell them I’m home safe or they tell me they are.
Someone I used to see used to say ‘I had the best time’ and it was funny because we joked about her saying that to everyone. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"I usually send a ‘thanks for tonight/ last night, was really good to see you! I had a wonderful time.’ But usually it’s after I tell them I’m home safe or they tell me they are. "
This for me too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yes and it's a bonus if we receive it too, I see it as a polite we had a great time "thank you" without saying thank you as that's probably a bit weird, isn't it?
Miss S x |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Or words along those lines.
Do you send that message after seeing someone (platonic or sexual)?
Do you like receiving that kind of message?
Nah I don’t send that kind of message. It’s a bit needy. I don’t judge anyone who says it though.
I suppose it depends on the person - I have a mate who absolutely hates when people grovel. He preferred jokes and piss taking. The other day a woman sent a text to say “thanks” to him after sex and it really put him off her in a big way."
Groveling is someone saying thanks?
I think knowing and having compatible communication styles is important - for some it might be seen as being needy, for others no message like that might be seen as being rude. It varies so much. |
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Usually a text when they got home.
In the 16 years I was with my beloved everytime he left me to go home he would ring me when he got home and say thankyou for having me I had a wonderful time. Every single time |
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"Or words along those lines.
Do you send that message after seeing someone (platonic or sexual)?
Do you like receiving that kind of message?
Nah I don’t send that kind of message. It’s a bit needy. I don’t judge anyone who says it though.
I suppose it depends on the person - I have a mate who absolutely hates when people grovel. He preferred jokes and piss taking. The other day a woman sent a text to say “thanks” to him after sex and it really put him off her in a big way."
Yeah can totally get that .. had that exact kind of stand offish comment before usually spells the ends of it for me. |
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Good morning Jezebel.
I do if I’ve met someone for the first time and would like to see them again. That’s both plutonic and sexual. I’ll use it to indicate I’d like to see them again.
Very rarely with my close friends as we see each other a lot. I did yesterday as my friend came round and brought dinner with her then we put the world to rights over a bottle of wine. It was really good seeing her on a 1:1 basis. She has a young daughter so when I stop in I usually have a 2 year old using me as a climbing frame. As much as I love her family, seeing her away from chaos was just  I sent her a nice message because I wanted her to know that I’m grateful for her friendship. I’m so lucky to have the same group of best friends I went to school with |
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Yes I pretty much always text anyone who has made time for me platonic or not to give my thanks. And even if I met somebody and we weren't compatible I would still thank them for their time. It's a very quick and simple thing to do. I can't believe someone might think I'm grovelling by saying thanks.  |
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Yeah, I'll send it to pretty much everyone who took the time to meet me whether those are friends or more sexual meets. It's just a nice touch and can help with the come down if you've had a particularly amazing time, I find. |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"Within my friends we always message each other when we get home safely. Because some of us are liabilities and there’s always a “wonderful night, thanks for coming out”.
Every meet (except for 1 ginormous asshat of a man who doesn’t deserve even my thoughts) asks me to message once I’m home. And there’s always been a “that was amazing, can’t wait to see you again etc”
I think it shows respect to ensure someone is safe & also happy. But that’s me.
I can see where “thanks” as a stand alone comment may look odd, but as a whole example as above it’s a good thing.
I’m now wittering and rambling…"
Not at all! That's really sweet. 
I like when people say "message me to let me know you're safely home". Especially if I've traveled. It's like a little sign of respect and care for another.
People who are liabilities need to be checked in on. |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"Usually a text when they got home.
In the 16 years I was with my beloved everytime he left me to go home he would ring me when he got home and say thankyou for having me I had a wonderful time. Every single time"
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