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Levels of cheating (Just for fun)
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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LEVEL:
1 Looking at someone and thinking you'd love to fuck them.
2 Masturbating thinking of someone else.
3 Having sex with your partner but thinking of someone else.
4 Flirting.
5 Kissing.
6 Foreplay.
7 Having sex.
8 Having a physical and emotional relationship with someone else.
Feel free to agree/disagree or alter what you think on the subject.
I'm sure everyone is guilty of the first 4...
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Cheating for me is just lying. Hiding the things they choose to do because they know that those choices would hurt me.
We're on a swinging site. Fucking other people with informed and enthusiastic consent isn't cheating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2 and 3 seems worse than 4 for me
Flirting can mean a whole bunch of things.
Thinking about someone else during sex would really hurt someone if they found out. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Obviously this isn't gospel. Its just a rough guide to see what people's opinions and views are.
It's interesting to me seeing how other people look at things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Number 3 seems to be polarising.
The reason I included it in what I think everyone would have done is because from my person experience I've been having sex with someone before and someone else has briefly popped into my head. Weather that be a Porn star, celebrity, a previous lover or someone I'd love to have sex with. Not for the full duration but for a moment it has happened. |
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I define cheating as doing something with someone / in connection with someone else that you wouldn't tell your other half about. (Though it doesn't include the scenario where you admit to having sex etc with someone else without your OH's consent.) |
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"Number 3 seems to be polarising.
The reason I included it in what I think everyone would have done is because from my person experience I've been having sex with someone before and someone else has briefly popped into my head. Weather that be a Porn star, celebrity, a previous lover or someone I'd love to have sex with. Not for the full duration but for a moment it has happened."
Does it count if you're both talking about having sex with someone else at the time?  |
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"Number 3 seems to be polarising.
The reason I included it in what I think everyone would have done is because from my person experience I've been having sex with someone before and someone else has briefly popped into my head. Weather that be a Porn star, celebrity, a previous lover or someone I'd love to have sex with. Not for the full duration but for a moment it has happened."
The only time I think about someone other than the person I'm fucking during is when I make eye contact with the other person I think.
If I'm capable of just letting my brain wander elsewhere then I'd have already stopped playing and wandered off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheating for me is just lying. Hiding the things they choose to do because they know that those choices would hurt me.
We're on a swinging site. Fucking other people with informed and enthusiastic consent isn't cheating "
100%
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you do steps 1 to 3 but you feel you're not able to tell your partner you do this, then you're in the totally wrong relationship.
They are thoughts for goodness sake, fantasies, it's not cheating. |
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"Cheating for me is just lying. Hiding the things they choose to do because they know that those choices would hurt me.
We're on a swinging site. Fucking other people with informed and enthusiastic consent isn't cheating "
^^^ Yes, this! Cheating to me is about the deception and lies. Covering up things. Open communication always, I'd love to hear about my partners fantasies with someone else but maybe I'm an anomaly  |
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"Cheating for me is just lying. Hiding the things they choose to do because they know that those choices would hurt me.
We're on a swinging site. Fucking other people with informed and enthusiastic consent isn't cheating
^^^ Yes, this! Cheating to me is about the deception and lies. Covering up things. Open communication always, I'd love to hear about my partners fantasies with someone else but maybe I'm an anomaly "
Not an anomaly but a definite shame more people aren’t as willing to open up and feel the constant need to lie  |
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"I've often wondered is sexting & exchanging explicit pics cheating to most people????....To me it isn't ....!!!!"
Depends how the spouse feels about it and the agreements between relevant parties |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"2 and 3 seems worse than 4 for me
Flirting can mean a whole bunch of things.
Thinking about someone else during sex would really hurt someone if they found out. "
if they could mind read  |
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"I've often wondered is sexting & exchanging explicit pics cheating to most people????....To me it isn't ....!!!!"
Without my knowledge or consent, it absolutely would be classed as cheating and a deal breaker for me (and the same if I was to do that to MrAbz).
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Cheating for me is just lying. Hiding the things they choose to do because they know that those choices would hurt me.
We're on a swinging site. Fucking other people with informed and enthusiastic consent isn't cheating "
Exactly this. Informed and enthusiastic consent is such a fantastic way of putting it.
I think if you're lying, hiding things... it's cheating. You don't have to say every little thing you do, every time you send someone else a suggestive message for example. But if you never mentioned it, told the other person you weren't doing that etc... then yes you are.
I don't think cheating is black and white, in to neat little categories. It's so nuanced and depends on the relationship you have with another, what's been discussed. |
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"Cheating for me is just lying. Hiding the things they choose to do because they know that those choices would hurt me.
We're on a swinging site. Fucking other people with informed and enthusiastic consent isn't cheating "
Yeah it all comes down to a betrayal of trust and lying. |
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