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What were you like at 26/27?
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By *929Man
over a year ago
bedlington |
"2 kids just bought house with ex, business was in early days but doing decent pre that recession we had, naively thought life was sorted and had my happy ever after haha ffs 
Don’t say that because I feel like I nearly have my happy ever after and I’m 26  "
Don’t let it discourage you mate I was the exception all my mates who were just starting their families at the same age still happy with same parters/family now mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess we'll find out in 4-5 years! Hopefully I'm still the angry cunt that I'm known and loved for now! I swear if future me develops peace, happiness and and a lack of rage then I will be very upset with myself. |
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By *oyRoy06Man
over a year ago
leighton buzzard |
Honestly ... single, living alone, always at work, miserable and suffering my first bout of depression ... lowest I ever got in life (to date) but slowly built myself back up and still working on it now 10 years later with some major wobbles thrown in along the way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A fucking idiot with a nice house in a nice area in a job I enjoyed.
Now I'm just the 1st part."
Some things never change
Turn around and the time has flown
Some things stay the same
Though the future remains unknown
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Engaged to my first love (who also happened to be a prick) and having my second mental breakdown 
But was as horny as I am today, that's not changed!"
Some things never change
Turn around and the time has flown
Some things stay the same
Though the future remains unknown
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A fucking idiot with a nice house in a nice area in a job I enjoyed.
Now I'm just the 1st part.
Some things never change
Turn around and the time has flown
Some things stay the same
Though the future remains unknown
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You should be a poet you know. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A fucking idiot with a nice house in a nice area in a job I enjoyed.
Now I'm just the 1st part.
Some things never change
Turn around and the time has flown
Some things stay the same
Though the future remains unknown
You should be a poet you know."
I would be but I can’t speak the song lyrics from frozen forever |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A fucking idiot with a nice house in a nice area in a job I enjoyed.
Now I'm just the 1st part.
Some things never change
Turn around and the time has flown
Some things stay the same
Though the future remains unknown
You should be a poet you know.
I would be but I can’t speak the song lyrics from frozen forever"
Why did you have to go and shatter the facade I had of you -.- |
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I was living in London, had multiple circles of very cool friends, was working for a record label and artist management company and was DJing in clubs most weekends.
But, I was still suffering from depression, low self esteem and finding life a bit of a struggle financially. It's a shame really, I've sorted my mental and physical health issues out since but I feel like I'm no longer in the milleu where I can get the most out if the positive changes that have happened since then. |
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"I was a right player! Proud of it back then, but now looking back, I regret it as some of the people I shagged were actually great fucks and were gf material!"
Ditto, thought I was the business, drinking and shagging |
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It was 2000...
I was working 6 days a week just to go out and get smashed at the weekend on whatever I could ...
I'm neither proud nor ashamed , I learned more about life than any education ever did  |
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"I had just gotten married and had a 6 year old.
I was pretty much the same as I am now .
Em x
Sorry, I so read that as if you birthed a 6 year old 
She did! Sort of. Em gets it! "
That was many years later thank you very much |
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We'd been together 9-ish years. My son was 10. We went to the 2012 Olympics at Greenwich Park. We'd both fairly recently retrained and changed careers. Him first, me next.
Oh. And I was 100% able bodied. That's the subtle difference. |
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Just about to marry J, we had our own house and used to have 1/2 a tub of Ben and Jerry's each for dessert at weekends. Thursday nights were booze night with a quiz on the MSN message board we were involved with.
We bought an MGB that was as old as us and spent the summer on honeymoon driving through Europe getting sunburnt and fucking on deckchairs. It was glorious.
If you are currently in your 20s and value the thoughts of a d*unken old man...
a I'm so jealous of you right now
b sorry we fucked the housing market
c make the most of your youth
d wear sunscreen...
B |
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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago
Reading |
Engaged to be married for the first time. Married when 28. Divorced at 35. Plus bought house. In good but stressful job.Met wife while doing.Which involved working away from home. I carried on doing about until about 45. |
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Really good question. Every 3 years from childhood felt like a big shift into something else.
23/24 was the shift into major relationship, a focus on working hard, less "mate" stuff.
26/27 was marriage, real career options opening up, very infrequently with teenage/early 20s mates.
29/30 was proper home/mortgage, fatherhood, career really accelerating.
Always the "same" as I am now, but different aspects of the same person in the ascendant or descendant.
I like this question OP  . |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
The definition of a wild child , reckless as hell, spent money like it grew on trees, made bad choices, slept very little, went out 3/4 times a week and just generally didn’t give two fucks about much -do I regret it? Hell no - to be honest there’s glimmers of all of these behaviours in me still 10/12yrs later and I hope they never leave me.
I’ll always be a party person I just know my limits and I am far more grounded and a lot more happy than I was then, stopped looking for a ‘fun time’ in the wrong places/people and found someone who taught me what it is to be loved - life’s a learning curve x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Really good question. Every 3 years from childhood felt like a big shift into something else.
23/24 was the shift into major relationship, a focus on working hard, less "mate" stuff.
26/27 was marriage, real career options opening up, very infrequently with teenage/early 20s mates.
29/30 was proper home/mortgage, fatherhood, career really accelerating.
Always the "same" as I am now, but different aspects of the same person in the ascendant or descendant.
I like this question OP ."
It’s cool that you can section your life like this in your mind. Your 26/27 sounds amazing |
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Chaotic. Still working hospitality, moving around constantly, about to hit the point where I decided to try and be a real adult for a while. Terrible plan, should have stuck to fucking around and enjoying myself |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Twenty six?
Working long hours. Working hard, partying hard, earning good money, renting with a couple of people - clichéd but I was having a fantastic time and my energy didn't dip. I went through a City boy phase - it was a thing and I was chaotic. Had many fantastic adventures to London, back up to Scotland.
I was also a selfish dick. Pushed people away because I had major commitment issues. Didn't talk to or bother with family.
Twenty seven? Things changed. I met my fiancé. Tried to keep him as a friend I'd fuck on breaks away. That didn't happen. 
(I love him really ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Doing nurse training living in the nursing halls of residence and slowly fucking my way round campus. Lol. Made a couple of videos and fix some photo shoots for extra money lol "
Ha! Like greys anatomy! Everyone shagging everyone |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
26 I was in a 9 year LTR, just bought a house and moved in together in the December.
On my 27th birthday (the following December) I spent the evening crying on my toilet in what was to be the start of my downward spiral into my first depressive episode (after I had broken up with my boyfriend in the September) and it took me 4 years to come out the other side!!
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I was at Uni as a mature student and being sent over the edge by the people I lived with, who'd do things like put the heating on, but open the windows so they could feel a breeze |
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At 26 no grey hair, loving life in the army. At 27 had six weeks in a coma, spent 3 months in hospital and lost fiancé to my dad. They thought it would be ok as they didn’t expect me to live…. Now enjoying life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was kind of trying to steer my life in a different direction than it where it was going.
I worked in retail, which I really didn't like.
Women would see me through the shop window and come in to tell me I was pretty.
However, fraternizing or even dating with the opposite sex was completely off my radar.
I'm still steering that ship and thankfully it's more on course. |
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"Really good question. Every 3 years from childhood felt like a big shift into something else.
23/24 was the shift into major relationship, a focus on working hard, less "mate" stuff.
26/27 was marriage, real career options opening up, very infrequently with teenage/early 20s mates.
29/30 was proper home/mortgage, fatherhood, career really accelerating.
Always the "same" as I am now, but different aspects of the same person in the ascendant or descendant.
I like this question OP .
It’s cool that you can section your life like this in your mind. Your 26/27 sounds amazing"
Thank you Pickle. You, and my kids, have been royally fucked over and for many of you life doesn't get going for 10 or 20 years later than Boomers and Xers (my lot).
Neoliberalism was never the answer. It was dog-shit that looked like icing, and the 07/08 Crash proved it. Almost two lost generations now. |
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Loving life, still playing sport reguarly, working hard to build my career, single and out every weekend for fun with friends and occasional stranger.
Lots is the same now just got a lot more experience and a life long set of responsibilities, so less party and more picky with fun times. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I had a young family, was caring for a severely disabled adult, my dad was dying from a brain tumour, and I was living with an abusive husband.
I was 8 stone, very busy and still had a lovely personality |
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"I had a young family, was caring for a severely disabled adult, my dad was dying from a brain tumour, and I was living with an abusive husband.
I was 8 stone, very busy and still had a lovely personality "
I like you Bad Nanna.
And now I respect and admire you too x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Married, house, and dog
Sexless relationship
Just starting to grow up and become a man
Have to say took time for granted didn’t really do much with our lives which is a regret now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Married first child on way. Very active sex life but just with wife. Mortgage I think was £150 a month all happy. Never considered swinging. No mobile phones as such . Well was but size of a shoe box. No Internet. Porn vhs tapes or just top shelf mags. Looking back they where start of our swinging as both enjoyed reading stories looking adds etc. Good number years before tried swinging. |
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Single , obsessed with muay Thai , doing camps in Thailand and competing ,and riding skateparks whenever I could on my BMX lol, had a amazing boss at the time who let me go train and travel to compete so I made the most of it . |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
"I had a young family, was caring for a severely disabled adult, my dad was dying from a brain tumour, and I was living with an abusive husband.
I was 8 stone, very busy and still had a lovely personality
I like you Bad Nanna.
And now I respect and admire you too x"
Thank you Nick |
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For me the ages in question would have been 58 - 60 years ago, i.e. 1966 to 1969, difficult to remember that far back.
However I bought my first house, had a few good jobs, my choice of cars was Mini Coopers. Keys in the Bowl parties were in full swing, No breathlyser, eat out 4 or 5 nights a week, Steak & Chips plus a dessert for £1.50 at a Bernie. Radio 1 appeared on the scene so all in all a good period in my life |
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I was 26 in 1996 and a strong powerful woman living my best life. It was my penultimate year of studying at university and I’d had a year out working in The City for Lloyd’s of London, I was a size 8 with 32G boobs and pixie cut hair, I looked like a lollipop. Trainspotting was my theme tune, Buzz lightyear was my hero and the Euros broke my heart (that kit!?). The open relationship I was in wasn’t the hedonistic party I craved, take that split up and my mini metro got taken for a weekend from a railway car park.
So in summary, I was very different then to how I am now and altho I like both of those versions of me, I think I am happier now and I know myself better in this version and prefer this one compared to that one, but 54 year old me would still take 26 year old me out for lunch.
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A difficult question! I think we might have been in the middle of moving from Manchester to London.I was with my first wife; we hadn't started our open marriage but talked about sex a lot and were avid Forum readers. |
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"I had a young family, was caring for a severely disabled adult, my dad was dying from a brain tumour, and I was living with an abusive husband.
I was 8 stone, very busy and still had a lovely personality
I like you Bad Nanna.
And now I respect and admire you too x
Thank you Nick "
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Much the same in many ways. Responsible for a house and a deep and loving relationship. Chasing my dreams, being creative. I was stronger, leaner and fitter than I am now, I guess that’s not surprising. I wasn’t as cynical about other people as I am today. I was more open and generous, and naive. |
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A good deal of responsibility workwise progressing up the ladder in my military career (joined at 19). Seen a fair bit of the world and life. Married and had my first child by 27. Also a Landlord for a few years by then and building capital for my future. Very secure, self sufficient and continuing to build a future for my young family.
Back then I never would have guessed that life would completely change and come crashing down within a couple of years. It seemed so secure. I could have never predicted ending up a single parent of two and having to completely figure out the world again. I would have never predicted the darkness, self discovery and the beautiful freedom and self love I have now. Or the amazing love of a great woman who knows me like know one ever has.
At 27 I had ticked so many boxes of adulting. If it was a game of top trumps I would have been a decent card on paper. However how much of that in the end mattered? At 40 I have true gold. Self awareness, self love and the love of the woman I deserve and who is made for me. |
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At 26 I was just starting to settle down after many years in trouble I was the typical bad boy before that born n bred Lambeth Londoner and always ending up in trouble one way or another and couple prison sentences later. I didn’t have much in life a crap up bringing typical council up bringing then decided enough was enough and to sort my shit out so I got straight and got a decent job and place of my own and from that day on I was a honest hardworking guy and now respected by all that know me and can safely say I am genuinely one of the nicest guys anyone can have the pleasure of knowing if they want to. I now work hard and have my own little buisness in the side and live life to the fullest and take opportunities if they come my way as you never know what’s around that corner in life xx remember peeps it’s never to late to change it just takes will power and determination x |
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Snake hipped, snake booted, & super sexy (well, so I thought) hair so long & luxuriant I could sit on it.
Shagging everything in sight
Inherited 2 houses, new XJS, when I wasn't off my tits in a field at weekends I'd be off on my travels
So really, an absolute twat
The hips have gone, as has the hair, women, houses & Jaaaaag. Not taken any recreationals since I discovered it took me 2 days to stand up afterwards...
Still have a penchant for dodgy reptilian footwear though |
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Do you still have it?
we had to get rid when the kids came along 