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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly. |
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It was a shock when I joined fab to learn there are people who don’t lie awake at night thinking of my face.
Once I’d got over that I regrouped and lied about what a fantastic bloke I am.
That didn’t work either.
Now I just message everyone and pick a chick a day. Some are passable. |
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly."
No, someone else's preferences are their own and in no way reflective of me so there's nothing to get offended about. It's disappointing if that person is a rare someone you fancy but that's very separate from taking offence. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I may be disappointed but not offended.
People make bad decisions all the time"
I think when I first started online dating I did get disappointed, but then when I realised that none of us really know how any of us come across until we meet, it's understandable. Some people put alot of effort Into selling themselves well and then you meet them.. others don't as much but when you meet they are top shelf peoples. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly.
No, someone else's preferences are their own and in no way reflective of me so there's nothing to get offended about. It's disappointing if that person is a rare someone you fancy but that's very separate from taking offence. "
You hit the nail on the head, it's their preferences. And also they are judging you in limited info. |
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly."
Hell naw!
I appreciate that.
*Deleting my message is a good way of saying No
*But it’s when they Block me, that reeeeeaaally pisses me off.
Why?
I’m always respectful. Never rude. |
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly."
offence is a chosen emotion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely
But then I remind myself that anyone not attracted to me physically is clearly a bad person, a judgemental person, a picky person.
And it’s their loss. |
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly.
No, someone else's preferences are their own and in no way reflective of me so there's nothing to get offended about. It's disappointing if that person is a rare someone you fancy but that's very separate from taking offence.
You hit the nail on the head, it's their preferences. And also they are judging you in limited info."
You have a great profile btw. I've never seen such thick ropes 
There's also personality preferences and vibe which will appeal to different types. |
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Definitely in no way offended. But I do have a tiny fragile self esteem and sometimes my wee feelings get hurt.
But then I have a hysterically tearful cry-wank and sit hugging my knees and rocking whilst mumbling to myself. 20-30 mins of that and I'm a new man!!!
Back in the game!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly.
No, someone else's preferences are their own and in no way reflective of me so there's nothing to get offended about. It's disappointing if that person is a rare someone you fancy but that's very separate from taking offence.
You hit the nail on the head, it's their preferences. And also they are judging you in limited info.
You have a great profile btw. I've never seen such thick ropes
There's also personality preferences and vibe which will appeal to different types. "
Why thank you.
Battle ropes, they are fun because they are heavy so I imagine the person feels more restrained but they have to use a bit off imagination and pretend the knot isn't quite as easy to loosen  |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I'd rather be told that sooner rather than strung along."
Sometimes negative issues don't arise until after a few messages.
In those cases I would try to explain why but more often than not, they start to turn into a sour argument, and blocks ensues.
When people get rejected, they can turn nasty which is a shame because...
1. It's only my opinion
2. Take it or leave it
3. There may be some validity in the discussion and
4. It doesn't need to turn sour |
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I can't remember the last time anything offended me.
It's my choice, to be offended or not.
I don't mind if someone goes out of their way to offended me, it's still my choice.
Offended if someone doesn't want to have the sex? Nah...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t internalise on fab. I’ve done a lot of work on myself and I’ve realised that I’m happy mostly happy with my face. If someone on here isn’t, that’s fine.
And fab is such a small, niche section of people I usually interact with anyway so it’s not that deep |
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By *lexm87Man
over a year ago
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"No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!
This was unbelievably community spirited of you
I got what I wanted!"
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly."
Not offended at all. It's only Fab! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, I wouldn't get offended. I had a guy tell me he didn't really fancy me but needed to shoot his load. So I obliged!!
This was unbelievably community spirited of you
I got what I wanted!"
Fair play to you! I think if somebody said to me they didn't fancy me but needed a shag I'd meet them first and have a chat, we can all come across different in real life.
If she still said she didnt fancy me after a meet then I'd be out after that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not offended but I would be a bit disappointed. But you ca no tell if someone is into you sexually or not - why set yourself up for failure ?"
Well, not everyone makes it obvious, and it's especially hard online.
I also don't realise when I'm being flirted at so I'm shit with that stuff.
Although I can see it if it happens to others. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don’t get offended. I kind of expect that from the start and it often takes me by surprise if they do.
P. S. I don’t fancy the Aquaman bloke either. "
Oh damn, I was about to reveal my true identity but nvm.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Also I can't even remember the last time I messaged someone to give them the chance to say I wasn't for them  "
Oh I'm at this stage now. If somebody hasn't expressed interest I don't message.
Unless the message is on a friendly level or we've spoken before |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly."
I just find it funny when they have pretty much described everything about me as what they're looking for, but when I message, I get deleted instantly. Makes me chuckle though. I come to learn a long time ago, that there's no point in getting bent over the actions of anyone on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If somebody says that you arnt for them?
For me, it is what it is? I tell myself that they don't understand all the wit and charm from my profile or they arnt Into guys.
And then I keep it moving.
But seriously, not everyone is for everyone.
And that's OK.
I'm sure there are a couple of ladies that don't fancy that aquaman fella.
It doesn't make him fugly.
I just find it funny when they have pretty much described everything about me as what they're looking for, but when I message, I get deleted instantly. Makes me chuckle though. I come to learn a long time ago, that there's no point in getting bent over the actions of anyone on here."
We could be the most amazing fellas in the world, we could say what we are, be that and exceed all expectations.
We could have previous partners thinking that we would never have an issue finding somebody compatible because they know us and what we bring.
The problem is..
Nobody here knows that.
There's alot of fakers out there that will tell women what they want to hear, there's only so many times somebody will get burnt before they become wary and doubt what other men tell them.
I'm the sort of person that gets on with everyone, my dates always go well wether normal dating or sexual dating, I always get positive feedback from encounters.
And being someone that always has warm receptions from people he knows and people he's just met and finds it easy to build good rapport with someone pretty quick it used to feel real disheartening when somebody wouldn't even respond, especially when you know you fit the description of what they are after and they are what you are after.
But, it is what it is. Nobody here really knows what any of us are going to be until we meet, and in all honesty, we've probably done exactly the same to other women without knowing.
But online is about how well you sell yourself, real life you can just be you.
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Doesn’t offend me at all, I know I’m not everyone’s cup off tea as well as I’m not theirs. What I do find offensive is when they want to have sex with me because I’m mixed race and they’ve never had one before…. just keep that shit to yourself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Doesn’t offend me at all, I know I’m not everyone’s cup off tea as well as I’m not theirs. What I do find offensive is when they want to have sex with me because I’m mixed race and they’ve never had one before…. just keep that shit to yourself "
Like you're a pokemon. |
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"Doesn’t offend me at all, I know I’m not everyone’s cup off tea as well as I’m not theirs. What I do find offensive is when they want to have sex with me because I’m mixed race and they’ve never had one before…. just keep that shit to yourself
Like you're a pokemon."
 to add to their collection |
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I came back to this thread to say while some of us don’t necessarily feel offended, I can see, speaking from my own personal perspective, how it can be detrimental for a person if happens on a regular basis.
It’s good to keep in mind there’s a real person on the other side of the keyboard and choose your words wisely. |
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