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"Fab - generally tend to ignore and move away from the post. Block people as I see fit. Only on the very odd occasion will I argue. Real life - I will call it out if it requires it but otherwise distance myself from the person/s involved. I tend to only get hugely annoyed over my family/friends being insulted or bullied and a few other topics that trigger me. I dislike arguing if it can be avoided. MrsAbz" *** You are an absolute angel. You make peace with your presence without words. To bad you live in Foggy Bottom away from most. 
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"One person's bully is another's ventriloquist dummy. One person's BS is another's manna from heaven. There are people I consider to be forum bullies but many are happy to accept it as just bants. I can't be arsed calling that out because they'll just stomp their foot and spit their dummy out while shouting victim at the top of their fingers. It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant. " *** Yes, banter and bullying depends on the context and the people are involved. * " It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant." * I can relate to this^ 100%. | |||
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"9. All of the above. It depends on my mood at the time. I'm not a big fan of confrontation so will let a bit slide" * I've seen you taking the backseat when you could have a reason to fight back. It means you're calm. I like that, but won't call you when " I need a hero". | |||
"One person's bully is another's ventriloquist dummy. One person's BS is another's manna from heaven. There are people I consider to be forum bullies but many are happy to accept it as just bants. I can't be arsed calling that out because they'll just stomp their foot and spit their dummy out while shouting victim at the top of their fingers. It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant. *** Yes, banter and bullying depends on the context and the people are involved. * " It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant." * I can relate to this^ 100%. " Banter is a difficult one. I can poke fun at people on here but expect the same back. At times I've probably crossed the line but my intentions have never been to bully them. | |||
"9. All of the above. It depends on my mood at the time. I'm not a big fan of confrontation so will let a bit slide * I've seen you taking the backseat when you could have a reason to fight back. It means you're calm. I like that, but won't call you when " I need a hero". "I'd be a shit hero. But give me a bell if you've got any butter going spare | |||
"One person's bully is another's ventriloquist dummy. One person's BS is another's manna from heaven. There are people I consider to be forum bullies but many are happy to accept it as just bants. I can't be arsed calling that out because they'll just stomp their foot and spit their dummy out while shouting victim at the top of their fingers. It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant. *** Yes, banter and bullying depends on the context and the people are involved. * " It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant." * I can relate to this^ 100%. Banter is a difficult one. I can poke fun at people on here but expect the same back. At times I've probably crossed the line but my intentions have never been to bully them." Think gauging your audience with banter helps, some people will get wound up if they don't know your style etc. Bullying is never the intention with banter, although I'm sure there are some malicious people that go down that route  | |||
"Do you call people out or avoiding confrontation, when you think it's bullshit or inappropriate? I mean it in general, if it affects you in any way or really against your values. (Fab or real life situations) * 1. It bothers me, but let someone else do it. * 2. I tell off people only, if I don't like them already. * 3. I tell off people saying something inappropriate/lying/bullying, regardless I like them or not. * 4. I join in, if I don't like that person either / Have the same views * 5. Going with the crowd, whichever side is that * 6. I just get some popcorn and watch * 7. I express my dislike, if it affects me or someone else badly. It might make me unpopular, but I stand up for my valus no matter what. * 8. Ignore in future/telling off the person calling out the other. It's causing drama and I just want peace and hang out with my mates. *************************************** Which one of the 8 options is you? Feel free to make up your own option, if none of them describes you exactly. " I try to tactfully tell somebody if they have a negative trait that harms them. Most people I know won't be honest with people because they want an easy life and they want to remain in their tribe. But If you care about somebody and you see that they have negative behaviours that affect their life or push people away from them, i think you should be honest with them. I'd hate to see somebodies life spiral because I didn't want them to get pissed off at me for pointing something out. I'm not saying my opinion is always right and I should always be listened to, but some people clearly exhibit damaging behaviors, and whilst other will gossip behind their back, I'd rather be the bad guy that tells them how they come across, if they want to cut me off then that's on them. People I don't know like on here? I don't know enough about them what they are going through or their history to comment. Unless they are blatantly being a massive dickhead to someone for no reason, its none of my business. Personally I think its relative to said situation. | |||
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"9. All of the above. It depends on my mood at the time. I'm not a big fan of confrontation so will let a bit slide * I've seen you taking the backseat when you could have a reason to fight back. It means you're calm. I like that, but won't call you when " I need a hero".
I'd be a shit hero. But give me a bell if you've got any butter going spare"*** I have almost a full tub of Cobeco male butter. You can have it, because it's like water based vaseline. Do you want it? It will go to the bin. | |||
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"One person's bully is another's ventriloquist dummy. One person's BS is another's manna from heaven. There are people I consider to be forum bullies but many are happy to accept it as just bants. I can't be arsed calling that out because they'll just stomp their foot and spit their dummy out while shouting victim at the top of their fingers. It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant. *** Yes, banter and bullying depends on the context and the people are involved. * " It always amuses me how many grown adults are happy to congratulate the emperor on his new clothes rather than state the obvious and become irrelevant." * I can relate to this^ 100%. Banter is a difficult one. I can poke fun at people on here but expect the same back. At times I've probably crossed the line but my intentions have never been to bully them. Think gauging your audience with banter helps, some people will get wound up if they don't know your style etc. Bullying is never the intention with banter, although I'm sure there are some malicious people that go down that route "It's hard to truly know your audience on a forum. What may not offend the person you've directed it at, may offend someone else reading it | |||
"9. All of the above. It depends on my mood at the time. I'm not a big fan of confrontation so will let a bit slide * I've seen you taking the backseat when you could have a reason to fight back. It means you're calm. I like that, but won't call you when " I need a hero".
I'd be a shit hero. But give me a bell if you've got any butter going spare
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I have almost a full tub of Cobeco male butter.
You can have it, because it's like water based vaseline.
Do you want it?
It will go to the bin.
"Doesn't sound very appealing. Thanks for the offer, but I'll leave it this time | |||
"Do you call people out or avoiding confrontation, when you think it's bullshit or inappropriate? I mean it in general, if it affects you in any way or really against your values. (Fab or real life situations) * 1. It bothers me, but let someone else do it. * 2. I tell off people only, if I don't like them already. * 3. I tell off people saying something inappropriate/lying/bullying, regardless I like them or not. * 4. I join in, if I don't like that person either / Have the same views * 5. Going with the crowd, whichever side is that * 6. I just get some popcorn and watch * 7. I express my dislike, if it affects me or someone else badly. It might make me unpopular, but I stand up for my valus no matter what. * 8. Ignore in future/telling off the person calling out the other. It's causing drama and I just want peace and hang out with my mates. *************************************** Which one of the 8 options is you? Feel free to make up your own option, if none of them describes you exactly. I try to tactfully tell somebody if they have a negative trait that harms them. Most people I know won't be honest with people because they want an easy life and they want to remain in their tribe. But If you care about somebody and you see that they have negative behaviours that affect their life or push people away from them, i think you should be honest with them. I'd hate to see somebodies life spiral because I didn't want them to get pissed off at me for pointing something out. I'm not saying my opinion is always right and I should always be listened to, but some people clearly exhibit damaging behaviors, and whilst other will gossip behind their back, I'd rather be the bad guy that tells them how they come across, if they want to cut me off then that's on them. People I don't know like on here? I don't know enough about them what they are going through or their history to comment. Unless they are blatantly being a massive dickhead to someone for no reason, its none of my business. Personally I think its relative to said situation. " *** Building critic is good. It's only good, if you know and like the other things about that person. Also, it should be in private, not front of everyone. If you don't do it like this ^ , then you will just make things worse for that person, and potentially for yourself too. * I have one who I'm confused that likes me or not, based on previous interactions. Keep giving jabs/suggesting remarks daily now, instead of ignoring me like the others who dislike or disagree with me. Getting slightly humiliating to be honest. | |||
"Fab - generally tend to ignore and move away from the post. Block people as I see fit. Only on the very odd occasion will I argue. Real life - I will call it out if it requires it but otherwise distance myself from the person/s involved. I tend to only get hugely annoyed over my family/friends being insulted or bullied and a few other topics that trigger me. I dislike arguing if it can be avoided. MrsAbz *** You are an absolute angel. You make peace with your presence without words. To bad you live in Foggy Bottom away from most.
"Tell me about it! I live a million miles away fron everywhere. Most rubbish it is MrsAbz | |||
"Do you call people out or avoiding confrontation, when you think it's bullshit or inappropriate? I mean it in general, if it affects you in any way or really against your values. (Fab or real life situations) * 1. It bothers me, but let someone else do it. * 2. I tell off people only, if I don't like them already. * 3. I tell off people saying something inappropriate/lying/bullying, regardless I like them or not. * 4. I join in, if I don't like that person either / Have the same views * 5. Going with the crowd, whichever side is that * 6. I just get some popcorn and watch * 7. I express my dislike, if it affects me or someone else badly. It might make me unpopular, but I stand up for my valus no matter what. * 8. Ignore in future/telling off the person calling out the other. It's causing drama and I just want peace and hang out with my mates. *************************************** Which one of the 8 options is you? Feel free to make up your own option, if none of them describes you exactly. I try to tactfully tell somebody if they have a negative trait that harms them. Most people I know won't be honest with people because they want an easy life and they want to remain in their tribe. But If you care about somebody and you see that they have negative behaviours that affect their life or push people away from them, i think you should be honest with them. I'd hate to see somebodies life spiral because I didn't want them to get pissed off at me for pointing something out. I'm not saying my opinion is always right and I should always be listened to, but some people clearly exhibit damaging behaviors, and whilst other will gossip behind their back, I'd rather be the bad guy that tells them how they come across, if they want to cut me off then that's on them. People I don't know like on here? I don't know enough about them what they are going through or their history to comment. Unless they are blatantly being a massive dickhead to someone for no reason, its none of my business. Personally I think its relative to said situation. *** Building critic is good. It's only good, if you know and like the other things about that person. Also, it should be in private, not front of everyone. If you don't do it like this ^ , then you will just make things worse for that person, and potentially for yourself too. * I have one who I'm confused that likes me or not, based on previous interactions. Keep giving jabs/suggesting remarks daily now, instead of ignoring me like the others who dislike or disagree with me. Getting slightly humiliating to be honest. " My golden rule that i try to stick to is don't give it to people that don't give it. I absolutely love banter and going back and forth with people so personally I really enjoy it when someone gives me a bit of grief because that allows me to do it back. It's a sign of affection for me, if I don't like someone I don't engage with them. People I mug off a little it's to try and initiate some back and forth with. But it's very hard to do this over text as it's not obvious. I never try and do it to offend people, if I think I have offended them I apologise. The person doing this with you could be doing it as a sign off affection. Some people don't know when to stop though. For me if I'm joking with someone and they don't back it's a sign that they arnt that type of person or I've offended them, that's my cue to leave it. If this person is bothering you then I'd just reach out via pm and tell them. The person could just be a dick in general, or they genuinely might think you are laughing on the other side of the phone because in their mind it's a sign of affection? | |||
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 ) I will rip them a new one, if I see or read that type of crap. I hate bullying. .
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" My golden rule that i try to stick to is don't give it to people that don't give it. I absolutely love banter and going back and forth with people so personally I really enjoy it when someone gives me a bit of grief because that allows me to do it back. It's a sign of affection for me, if I don't like someone I don't engage with them. People I mug off a little it's to try and initiate some back and forth with. But it's very hard to do this over text as it's not obvious. I never try and do it to offend people, if I think I have offended them I apologise. The person doing this with you could be doing it as a sign off affection. Some people don't know when to stop though. For me if I'm joking with someone and they don't back it's a sign that they arnt that type of person or I've offended them, that's my cue to leave it. If this person is bothering you then I'd just reach out via pm and tell them. The person could just be a dick in general, or they genuinely might think you are laughing on the other side of the phone because in their mind it's a sign of affection? " I deleted that comment quickly actually, but thanks for replying. That one is probably the reason my other thread disappeared without breaking any rules. Hmmm...? No explanation from up high either. | |||
"…. There’s lots of things I could have called out at the time but didn’t. Usually cos I can’t be bothered with the drama and don’t actually care enough to get involved. …. " This is also true for me | |||
"Do you call people out or avoiding confrontation, when you think it's bullshit or inappropriate? I mean it in general, if it affects you in any way or really against your values. (Fab or real life situations) * 1. It bothers me, but let someone else do it. * 2. I tell off people only, if I don't like them already. * 3. I tell off people saying something inappropriate/lying/bullying, regardless I like them or not. * 4. I join in, if I don't like that person either / Have the same views * 5. Going with the crowd, whichever side is that * 6. I just get some popcorn and watch * 7. I express my dislike, if it affects me or someone else badly. It might make me unpopular, but I stand up for my valus no matter what. * 8. Ignore in future/telling off the person calling out the other. It's causing drama and I just want peace and hang out with my mates. *************************************** Which one of the 8 options is you? Feel free to make up your own option, if none of them describes you exactly. " On here I see it everytime I come to the forums. No I do not confront. I feel though lately sonething is brewing. I stay out best way. | |||
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"I used to. A lot. I can’t be bothered anymore, so I don’t tend to " *** (I think I know the answer, but...) What made you take the back seat? | |||
"On here I will pull bullshit up when I see it " *** Do you mean others, mine or yours?
***I think you get banter usually*** | |||
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