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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is the best way to get over someone.... to get under someone else? Discus lol"
Always get under someone else
Remind yourself a few things
1. You are desirable
2. You can like someone just as much as you liked the person your missing |
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I’d say yes but due to my avoidant attachment and C-PTSD, in order to avoid such “heartbreak” I step away as soon as I feel someone is getting emotionally closer, or if I do.
Not something I’d recommend but just my own experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For some people yes. For others no.
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Quite true. I don’t get over heartache, the reason the I let them in was how I felt, and my feelings are sincere and deep. It’s hard to get over anything that feels like falling in love again. So I just carry that heartache. I learn to live with it.
Life moves on op, and time heals apparently.  
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd say that's a route to poor self worth "
Yep. I'm going to agree with that. You've said heartbreak OP so I'm guessing it's more than a casual friend being a bit of a dick in the hypothetical?
I think taking time for yourself, making yourself a priority and putting that energy back in to you is important.
Sex can be great, everyone knows that. But when he's spaffed and left, you're left with yourself. If you're happy with you? Great. Do all the sex. If you're not? Heal first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've recently come out of a long relationship a couple of months ago and this is my two cents.
Breaking ties, cutting communication and deleting old pictures / videos etc is the best way to move forward.
No contact is not about erasing the memories or dismissing the significance of the relationship, it's a commitment to your own healing and growth. In time, you will emerge from this experience stronger, wiser, and ready to embrace the new chapters life has in store for you.
Allow wounds to heal without constant reminders of what once was. Remember, healing is not a linear process, and there will be days when the ache is more pronounced. During these times, lean on your support system – friends, family, or even professional guidance – to stay committed to your path.
Healthy distraction is good but using sex to get over someone can be unhealthy, not to mention dangerous.
Time is really the only solution I'm afraid, but know it will pass. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes! There's no bigger high than falling in love. How can you distract from that? Will need a whole lot of cock to distract from that!"
I think skydiving comes pretty close |
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"Is the best way to get over someone.... to get under someone else? Discus lol"
If it’s true love then no. For me that would mean stepping away from our mutual connection ie fab and filling my time with meaningful activities elsewhere. A shag or two isn’t going to help.
But if it’s a regular fb that’s run its course, probably yes. Those feelings are more easily experienced with another. |
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"Is the best way to get over someone.... to get under someone else? Discus lol
If it’s true love then no. For me that would mean stepping away from our mutual connection ie fab and filling my time with meaningful activities elsewhere. A shag or two isn’t going to help.
But if it’s a regular fb that’s run its course, probably yes. Those feelings are more easily experienced with another."
This too. |
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" Oh, I'm sorry but it's true
You're swinging on the heartache
Takin' all the best of me
Oh, can't you see?
You got the best of me
Oh, can't you see?
You're swinging on the heartbreak
Swinging' on the heartache
You're swinging on the heartbreak
Swinging on the heartache
Can't you see? Oh " |
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"Yes! There's no bigger high than falling in love. How can you distract from that? Will need a whole lot of cock to distract from that!
I think skydiving comes pretty close"
I actually got a skydive experience for Xmas! Lol |
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