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Dear wonderful fabbers. Inspired by recent conversation I’ve wanted to know. What are your experiences of fab or of the non monogamous lifestyle as someone for whom (is that right?) English is a second language? Do you find it easy communicating in English all the time? Are there barriers that come up? Prejudices? Etc.
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I've had ENM relationships with a few people with different native tongues.
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That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
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"That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
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Your English is better than my Polish so give yourself some credit. You are a lovely lady who is good to talk to and good company  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
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Yeah I can imagine these would be barriers. And I think it’s one of those things that might make you anxious? Or make you overthink things? |
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"Just misunderstanding, mainly from my side, especially when you start with the in the know, cool kids chat, that is not English as we oldies know it..."
Hahaha though English is my first language I do find that the variation of English that I’m most comfortable speaking and speak to say, my fiancé at home, is not language I could dream of using with fabbers. |
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"Just misunderstanding, mainly from my side, especially when you start with the in the know, cool kids chat, that is not English as we oldies know it...
Hahaha though English is my first language I do find that the variation of English that I’m most comfortable speaking and speak to say, my fiancé at home, is not language I could dream of using with fabbers. "
Not the same thing but when I reflect on code switching I think of similar things but probably not even close to speaking another language |
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"Just misunderstanding, mainly from my side, especially when you start with the in the know, cool kids chat, that is not English as we oldies know it...
Hahaha though English is my first language I do find that the variation of English that I’m most comfortable speaking and speak to say, my fiancé at home, is not language I could dream of using with fabbers. "
A lot of Fabbers probably wouldn't understand the reasonably broad dialect we use at home, especially when we mix it up with random smatterings of Spanish, Dutch and German.
So far, international barriers have not been erected in our way, Fab-wise. Our work backgrounds might help us a bit? Dunno. |
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I think anything written is easier for me.
In person I sometimes struggle, especially with humour, sarcasm etc.
But so far all the people have been great, I particularly enjoy the diversity, lots of people with international background on here.
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"That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
Your English is better than my Polish so give yourself some credit. You are a lovely lady who is good to talk to and good company "
Thank you, you’re one of the best people I know
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"That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
Yeah I can imagine these would be barriers. And I think it’s one of those things that might make you anxious? Or make you overthink things?"
Definitely.
Sometimes I think of it as my disadvantage, especially on Fab.
Communication is so important and I struggle with that.
I know for the fact people have chosen not to engage with me because of this, can’t blame them though. |
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In the past, I only sought out those who spoke the same first language as me on Fab unless it was a one off. I then grew tired of that and went for those who spoke one of the five other non English languages I speak. Casting wider nets as they say.
I think the most difficult parts are the differences in communication (passive/active), cultural differences, written communication styles as you can’t read tone, etc and I feel British English can be so cryptic for non native speakers. The humour can be different but I’ve not found that a hinderance personally. I’m very dry, quick witted sometimes I’m misunderstood.
Finally, I didn’t let language be a determining factor that I put so much weight on. It’s hard at times because sometimes English is not sufficient to capture certain feelings, thoughts in the precise way they are in my mind. What’s helpful is a person who is willing or has taken on learning the language you’re most comfortable in. At least that’s my experience.
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"Just misunderstanding, mainly from my side, especially when you start with the in the know, cool kids chat, that is not English as we oldies know it...
Hahaha though English is my first language I do find that the variation of English that I’m most comfortable speaking and speak to say, my fiancé at home, is not language I could dream of using with fabbers.
A lot of Fabbers probably wouldn't understand the reasonably broad dialect we use at home, especially when we mix it up with random smatterings of Spanish, Dutch and German.
So far, international barriers have not been erected in our way, Fab-wise. Our work backgrounds might help us a bit? Dunno. "
Yeah I can imagine. That’s just life init.
And I think your understanding of languages probably makes you ideal partners and friends of others in the lifestyle.
I just remembered that actually, I do speak like normal when I’m with gatekeeper. Shout out to him  he might be old but he gets it |
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"I think anything written is easier for me.
In person I sometimes struggle, especially with humour, sarcasm etc.
But so far all the people have been great, I particularly enjoy the diversity, lots of people with international background on here.
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Yeah I can imagine. In person I think British humour and sarcasm is really hard to read for others. Even others who speak English but aren’t British (Americans for example).
Agreed. There’s such a great group of people with lots of international backgrounds. It’s so nice meeting and talking to people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
Yeah I can imagine these would be barriers. And I think it’s one of those things that might make you anxious? Or make you overthink things?
Definitely.
Sometimes I think of it as my disadvantage, especially on Fab.
Communication is so important and I struggle with that.
I know for the fact people have chosen not to engage with me because of this, can’t blame them though."
I can blame them. I don’t think it’s nice. But for what it’s worth I love your accent. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In the past, I only sought out those who spoke the same first language as me on Fab unless it was a one off. I then grew tired of that and went for those who spoke one of the five other non English languages I speak. Casting wider nets as they say.
I think the most difficult parts are the differences in communication (passive/active), cultural differences, written communication styles as you can’t read tone, etc and I feel British English can be so cryptic for non native speakers. The humour can be different but I’ve not found that a hinderance personally. I’m very dry, quick witted sometimes I’m misunderstood.
Finally, I didn’t let language be a determining factor that I put so much weight on. It’s hard at times because sometimes English is not sufficient to capture certain feelings, thoughts in the precise way they are in my mind. What’s helpful is a person who is willing or has taken on learning the language you’re most comfortable in. At least that’s my experience.
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Bella - I love reading you in the forums. This post is great.
I can imagine it’s always easier with people that understand you. And I totally get seeking out people that will. Not the same but I’ve done that before and in many spaces do that (with like cultural things/ geographical things).
I think your final paragraph was super interesting. I definitely think learning the language that the person speaks is so important right? And I actually find when I’m speaking to other people from different places that when they say ‘there’s no direct translation’ or ‘I don’t know how to say in English’ that I realise that as things may come to your mind is not how you’re able to articulate in English sometimes. That must be tough at times. |
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"That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
Yeah I can imagine these would be barriers. And I think it’s one of those things that might make you anxious? Or make you overthink things?
Definitely.
Sometimes I think of it as my disadvantage, especially on Fab.
Communication is so important and I struggle with that.
I know for the fact people have chosen not to engage with me because of this, can’t blame them though.
I can blame them. I don’t think it’s nice. But for what it’s worth I love your accent. "
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"That’ll be me.
Language barrier means I sometimes don’t understand the context of the conversation and appear an idiot when I’m not one.
Can’t for the love of god do sex talk.
Messages get misunderstood.
I hate my accent.
I’m not familiar with British humour/culture.
I could go on but overall my experience with Fab has been very positive one so far.
Your English is better than my Polish so give yourself some credit. You are a lovely lady who is good to talk to and good company
Thank you, you’re one of the best people I know
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Thank you, that's very kind of you to say |
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It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages. |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages."
You bring up a great point. I love filthy chat during sex but English filthy chat is hilarious to me. Silent sex is terrible. Where does one find the happy medium? Sometimes I talk to myself in my head in another language during sex to make up for it. Ha, that makes me sound mad. |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages.
You bring up a great point. I love filthy chat during sex but English filthy chat is hilarious to me. Silent sex is terrible. Where does one find the happy medium? Sometimes I talk to myself in my head in another language during sex to make up for it. Ha, that makes me sound mad. "
I think I got used to the English one but I find that men are too quiet. I'm sure men would love hearing you talk in Italian, I'm guessing? Several men have asked me to do it and it really turns them on, even though they don't have a clue what I'm saying! |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages."
I so relate to this! |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages.
You bring up a great point. I love filthy chat during sex but English filthy chat is hilarious to me. Silent sex is terrible. Where does one find the happy medium? Sometimes I talk to myself in my head in another language during sex to make up for it. Ha, that makes me sound mad.
I think I got used to the English one but I find that men are too quiet. I'm sure men would love hearing you talk in Italian, I'm guessing? Several men have asked me to do it and it really turns them on, even though they don't have a clue what I'm saying! "
They are all keen to hear it but half the fun is those who hear it knowing what you’re saying. Otherwise it’s just random words isn’t it?
Quiet men during sex is something that I’ve had to learn just comes with being with British men. |
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By *lueseasWoman
over a year ago
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"Dear wonderful fabbers. Inspired by recent conversation I’ve wanted to know. What are your experiences of fab or of the non monogamous lifestyle as someone for whom (is that right?) English is a second language? Do you find it easy communicating in English all the time? Are there barriers that come up? Prejudices? Etc.
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English is my second language but I have been in this country for a very long time, so I don't have any difficulties with the language - neither speaking/writing nor understanding - but sometimes it is cultural differences, different customs that can get tricky. After more than a quarter of a century in this country, I sometimes forget that it is not socially acceptable to touch people's arms or legs in conversation, even with friends. I am Italian, and I do miss that friendly, non-sexual touch, and the warmth of feeling it signals. In Italy it doesn't indicate you're coming onto someone - unless you are, but the difference is usually quite obvious!  |
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"Dear wonderful fabbers. Inspired by recent conversation I’ve wanted to know. What are your experiences of fab or of the non monogamous lifestyle as someone for whom (is that right?) English is a second language? Do you find it easy communicating in English all the time? Are there barriers that come up? Prejudices? Etc.
English is my second language but I have been in this country for a very long time, so I don't have any difficulties with the language - neither speaking/writing nor understanding - but sometimes it is cultural differences, different customs that can get tricky. After more than a quarter of a century in this country, I sometimes forget that it is not socially acceptable to touch people's arms or legs in conversation, even with friends. I am Italian, and I do miss that friendly, non-sexual touch, and the warmth of feeling it signals. In Italy it doesn't indicate you're coming onto someone - unless you are, but the difference is usually quite obvious! "
Another good one. Sometimes in non Fab moments I feel I have to literally sit on my hands to keep myself from touching others. In completely non sexual ways. I don’t know how to talk without being tactile. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
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"Dear wonderful fabbers. Inspired by recent conversation I’ve wanted to know. What are your experiences of fab or of the non monogamous lifestyle as someone for whom (is that right?) English is a second language? Do you find it easy communicating in English all the time? Are there barriers that come up? Prejudices? Etc.
English is my second language but I have been in this country for a very long time, so I don't have any difficulties with the language - neither speaking/writing nor understanding - but sometimes it is cultural differences, different customs that can get tricky. After more than a quarter of a century in this country, I sometimes forget that it is not socially acceptable to touch people's arms or legs in conversation, even with friends. I am Italian, and I do miss that friendly, non-sexual touch, and the warmth of feeling it signals. In Italy it doesn't indicate you're coming onto someone - unless you are, but the difference is usually quite obvious! "
We English do it too. |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages."
First of all you don’t come across like that at all. I think I do get though that you must feel conscious of it because it’s not you being your best you, right? You can be more confident and more expressive. I guess, an activity like dancing, is good because there’s no need to talk right? Just express.
And the sex talk I get. And actually it’s made me consider that I in learning Spanish, I’ve never considered being able to understand someone during sex. |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages.
You bring up a great point. I love filthy chat during sex but English filthy chat is hilarious to me. Silent sex is terrible. Where does one find the happy medium? Sometimes I talk to myself in my head in another language during sex to make up for it. Ha, that makes me sound mad.
I think I got used to the English one but I find that men are too quiet. I'm sure men would love hearing you talk in Italian, I'm guessing? Several men have asked me to do it and it really turns them on, even though they don't have a clue what I'm saying! "
and this is the other thing. There’s an element of loving the sound of it. But that’s not the same as understanding it right? Sorry to interject on your convo you two |
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"Dear wonderful fabbers. Inspired by recent conversation I’ve wanted to know. What are your experiences of fab or of the non monogamous lifestyle as someone for whom (is that right?) English is a second language? Do you find it easy communicating in English all the time? Are there barriers that come up? Prejudices? Etc.
English is my second language but I have been in this country for a very long time, so I don't have any difficulties with the language - neither speaking/writing nor understanding - but sometimes it is cultural differences, different customs that can get tricky. After more than a quarter of a century in this country, I sometimes forget that it is not socially acceptable to touch people's arms or legs in conversation, even with friends. I am Italian, and I do miss that friendly, non-sexual touch, and the warmth of feeling it signals. In Italy it doesn't indicate you're coming onto someone - unless you are, but the difference is usually quite obvious! "
That’s really interesting. And that’s a big cultural difference that’s not to do with language right. I think the British in me makes me uncomfortable when women are very touchy with me on the arms and legs. And actually I had an Italian colleague once kiss me on the cheek for helping her with something at work and I remember being like  wtf is happening. don’t worry I didn’t go to HR |
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"I can always point and shout."
Yes but you speak English as a first language.
And if cockney is your first language, there’s enough of you on here anyway |
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"Just misunderstanding, mainly from my side, especially when you start with the in the know, cool kids chat, that is not English as we oldies know it...
Hahaha though English is my first language I do find that the variation of English that I’m most comfortable speaking and speak to say, my fiancé at home, is not language I could dream of using with fabbers.
A lot of Fabbers probably wouldn't understand the reasonably broad dialect we use at home, especially when we mix it up with random smatterings of Spanish, Dutch and German.
So far, international barriers have not been erected in our way, Fab-wise. Our work backgrounds might help us a bit? Dunno.
Yeah I can imagine. That’s just life init.
And I think your understanding of languages probably makes you ideal partners and friends of others in the lifestyle.
I just remembered that actually, I do speak like normal when I’m with gatekeeper. Shout out to him he might be old but he gets it "
We old people do speak a completely different language to da yoof sometimes, Steve 
Our dialect can actually use some pretty antiquated English terms. For example, thee, thou, thy and tha can be heard reasonably often here!
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By *lueseasWoman
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"Dear wonderful fabbers. Inspired by recent conversation I’ve wanted to know. What are your experiences of fab or of the non monogamous lifestyle as someone for whom (is that right?) English is a second language? Do you find it easy communicating in English all the time? Are there barriers that come up? Prejudices? Etc.
English is my second language but I have been in this country for a very long time, so I don't have any difficulties with the language - neither speaking/writing nor understanding - but sometimes it is cultural differences, different customs that can get tricky. After more than a quarter of a century in this country, I sometimes forget that it is not socially acceptable to touch people's arms or legs in conversation, even with friends. I am Italian, and I do miss that friendly, non-sexual touch, and the warmth of feeling it signals. In Italy it doesn't indicate you're coming onto someone - unless you are, but the difference is usually quite obvious!
That’s really interesting. And that’s a big cultural difference that’s not to do with language right. I think the British in me makes me uncomfortable when women are very touchy with me on the arms and legs. And actually I had an Italian colleague once kiss me on the cheek for helping her with something at work and I remember being like wtf is happening. don’t worry I didn’t go to HR "
Oh, I can totally imagine that, but it would have been a purely platonic gesture of gratitude. What I find fascinating is the fact that, because it is not part of the culture here, as a result, people are unable to immediately tell if a touch, or a kiss, or anything touchy feeling has a sexual connotation or not. Whereas, if it is just a normal part of social interaction, the difference is immediately obvious, and it is very rare that intentions can be misinterpreted.
When I first arrived here, as you can imagine, I got myself into all sorts of awkward situations...  |
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"You mean like Northerners? Or those Scottish/Welsh foreign types. A translator would be handy at times."
I say this as someone that’s fallen completely for a Scottish person, that sometimes feels like a foreign language |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages.
First of all you don’t come across like that at all. I think I do get though that you must feel conscious of it because it’s not you being your best you, right? You can be more confident and more expressive. I guess, an activity like dancing, is good because there’s no need to talk right? Just express.
And the sex talk I get. And actually it’s made me consider that I in learning Spanish, I’ve never considered being able to understand someone during sex. "
Lol don't I? I zone out sometimes because even though I'm bilingual now, I still have to really focus to follow a conversation in English and if people start talking about movies, tv shows, or celebrities, most of the time I'm completely lost! |
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I recall a very I interesting and intriguing conversation I had with a Russian woman (long before they were the bad guys) at a wedding reception. My Russian is very limited and her English was non existent but by touching knees, holding hands and touching close under the the table we know what we were saying. And so.it proved in an unoccupied room in the hotel |
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I find I prefer non-brits, or end up meeting more of them. Out of my last 15 play mates only one was English. Maybe I'm prejudiced against them? Maybe it's something to do with being in London and the demographic of the poly kinky community I'm in. Maybe it's that my work is purely international and my day to day is dealing with people from anywhere but Europe. Maybe language barriers make communication easier for me. Probably all of the above.
My experience of communication anywhere, not just here, is that all people are hard to understand - for me, and me to them. I'm neurodivergent and other ND folk get me mostly, but NTs... that's always been a struggle of misunderstanding on both sides.
I see it now that every person speaks their own language, the same word can mean different things to different people, and in different contexts, and tones, and most people go through life thinking only their version is the truth.
Language barriers make conversations more forgiving. They make the process of working to understand context and intent over specific semantics easier. They make it ok to ask "did you mean this, or that?" with no drama unfolding.
As for prejudice... We all hold prejudice, it's impossible not to in our society, whether we care to admit them, own them or address them is another thing.
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages.
You bring up a great point. I love filthy chat during sex but English filthy chat is hilarious to me. Silent sex is terrible. Where does one find the happy medium? Sometimes I talk to myself in my head in another language during sex to make up for it. Ha, that makes me sound mad.
I think I got used to the English one but I find that men are too quiet. I'm sure men would love hearing you talk in Italian, I'm guessing? Several men have asked me to do it and it really turns them on, even though they don't have a clue what I'm saying! "
Oh I agree. Go for it in the language that feels most free.
I love dirty talk in any language! So hot. You can tell the intent and the passion, and not knowing exactly what the words are make it a bit more spicy for me  |
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"It's so hard! Forums or big socials... I struggle hearing let alone understanding what people say and I must come across as really dumb and or quiet. I find that people can't see the real me because of the language barrier. Also I love talking during sex. I'm used to it now in English but it has more impact in the mother tongue. Should be in the ad for the apps to learn languages.
First of all you don’t come across like that at all. I think I do get though that you must feel conscious of it because it’s not you being your best you, right? You can be more confident and more expressive. I guess, an activity like dancing, is good because there’s no need to talk right? Just express.
And the sex talk I get. And actually it’s made me consider that I in learning Spanish, I’ve never considered being able to understand someone during sex.
Lol don't I? I zone out sometimes because even though I'm bilingual now, I still have to really focus to follow a conversation in English and if people start talking about movies, tv shows, or celebrities, most of the time I'm completely lost!"
My partner and I joke about this. We say we should go to a Pub Trivia night but the struggle is finding the perfect one. It has to have pop culture for him which I won’t know a thing about and international but for me to excel. |
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I've done a thread with foreign (Hungarian) title.
(Translation: Do you speak Hungarian?)
I was trying to encourage people to be more open minded here about people speaking English as 2nd language.
(Don't pull the trigger right away)
Tone is never going to come through the same as native speaker's tone.
(Sounds blunt often unintentionally)
The topic was exactly like this one (In English).
It had the shortest shelf life ever so far from me.
(Page 2 within 1 hour)
Not 1 person asked what the title means.
Interesting. Isn't it? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I can always point and shout.
Yes but you speak English as a first language.
And if cockney is your first language, there’s enough of you on here anyway "
I meant when speaking to a foreigner. Who needs a universal language when we have shouty-pointy. |
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"I've done a thread with foreign (Hungarian) title.
(Translation: Do you speak Hungarian?)
I was trying to encourage people to be more open minded here about people speaking English as 2nd language.
(Don't pull the trigger right away)
Tone is never going to come through the same as native speaker's tone.
(Sounds blunt often unintentionally)
The topic was exactly like this one (In English).
It had the shortest shelf life ever so far from me.
(Page 2 within 1 hour)
Not 1 person asked what the title means.
Interesting. Isn't it?"
Sometimes in life, when you write a story instead of letting the story writes itself it can be rather disappointing I’m afraid.
The best stories literally write themselves and no two books, even about the same topic, are ever the same.
Additionally, and more directly, open-minded posts that are direct, to the point, clear, concise, and welcoming often get more engagement than those that lead people on all sorts of twists and turns. As they say, it’s not the news but often the delivery they makes the difference. Maybe self reflect instead of pointing and blaming others.
Lots of peace and love to you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've done a thread with foreign (Hungarian) title.
(Translation: Do you speak Hungarian?)
I was trying to encourage people to be more open minded here about people speaking English as 2nd language.
(Don't pull the trigger right away)
Tone is never going to come through the same as native speaker's tone.
(Sounds blunt often unintentionally)
The topic was exactly like this one (In English).
It had the shortest shelf life ever so far from me.
(Page 2 within 1 hour)
Not 1 person asked what the title means.
Interesting. Isn't it?
Sometimes in life, when you write a story instead of letting the story writes itself it can be rather disappointing I’m afraid.
The best stories literally write themselves and no two books, even about the same topic, are ever the same.
Additionally, and more directly, open-minded posts that are direct, to the point, clear, concise, and welcoming often get more engagement than those that lead people on all sorts of twists and turns. As they say, it’s not the news but often the delivery they makes the difference. Maybe self reflect instead of pointing and blaming others.
Lots of peace and love to you.
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I know you’re going to take this as an arrack from a hater. Honestly, if you spent less time thinking everyone here hates you, I reckon you’d have a much better experience overall.
I said what I said without any negativity. It seems you’ve been hurt and spend a lot of your time trying to justify hurt you’re projecting you’ll receive which isn’t always where everyone that interacts (or doesn’t) with you is expressing. There’s some arses here, just like everywhere in the world, but there’s also kind-hearted people here who have tried to understand and include you too. |
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"I've done a thread with foreign (Hungarian) title.
(Translation: Do you speak Hungarian?)
I was trying to encourage people to be more open minded here about people speaking English as 2nd language.
(Don't pull the trigger right away)
Tone is never going to come through the same as native speaker's tone.
(Sounds blunt often unintentionally)
The topic was exactly like this one (In English).
It had the shortest shelf life ever so far from me.
(Page 2 within 1 hour)
Not 1 person asked what the title means.
Interesting. Isn't it?
Sometimes in life, when you write a story instead of letting the story writes itself it can be rather disappointing I’m afraid.
The best stories literally write themselves and no two books, even about the same topic, are ever the same.
Additionally, and more directly, open-minded posts that are direct, to the point, clear, concise, and welcoming often get more engagement than those that lead people on all sorts of twists and turns. As they say, it’s not the news but often the delivery they makes the difference. Maybe self reflect instead of pointing and blaming others.
Lots of peace and love to you.
I know you’re going to take this as an arrack from a hater. Honestly, if you spent less time thinking everyone here hates you, I reckon you’d have a much better experience overall.
I said what I said without any negativity. It seems you’ve been hurt and spend a lot of your time trying to justify hurt you’re projecting you’ll receive which isn’t always where everyone that interacts (or doesn’t) with you is expressing. There’s some arses here, just like everywhere in the world, but there’s also kind-hearted people here who have tried to understand and include you too. "
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