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Not at all.
As Infidelity is a sin in the church's eyes and they are unforgivable to anyone who had a religious wedding.
In some religions Infidelity is punishable by death...
Now if the person who married them wasn't ordained, then its a different matter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just lie. Shaggy did it and everything was ok
You don’t have to deal with the consequences of your actions and ruin a perfectly good marriage by telling the truth, that’s inconsiderate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No because the wedding vows are also "forsaking all others"!"
Depends on the vows. A lot of couple write their own, and imagine swingers …. Do they look at that and think the same? |
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By *or7Man
over a year ago
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"Cheating is disgusting. If you cheat you deserve all the shit that comes with it."
Many people would say swinging is cheating and equally disgusting .
I prefer not to judge what anyone else's does with their life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wedding vows were created by man, not necessarily by nature.
Why did you cheat in the first place? Did they already cause the ‘for worse’ part for you to have cheated?
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"Cheating is disgusting. If you cheat you deserve all the shit that comes with it.
Many people would say swinging is cheating and equally disgusting .
I prefer not to judge what anyone else's does with their life."
Swinging isn’t cheating though so that argument doesn’t really hold any weight. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Cheating is disgusting. If you cheat you deserve all the shit that comes with it.
Many people would say swinging is cheating and equally disgusting .
I prefer not to judge what anyone else's does with their life."
Swinging is the opposite of cheating
Both people are involved and consent to it
With cheating one person is left out and isn't consenting, so it's not quite the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If a little cheating ruins a marriage, was it that strong of a marriage to start with anyways?
I’d always cheat just to see how loyal they really are. Sort the quitters from the keepers. It’s a great filter |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
I wouldn't want to play with someone who was cheating.
However, I wouldn't especially judge them as a person, either. Every case is an individual one and we seldom know the full story. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
Also, there's the usual double standard with these things.
Female on here cheating - more folk will accept it's a loveless marriage, only staying together because whatever and fair play for enjoying themselves as life is too short.
Male in the same boat - a very different reaction.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a little cheating ruins a marriage, was it that strong of a marriage to start with anyways?
I’d always cheat just to see how loyal they really are. Sort the quitters from the keepers. It’s a great filter "
Please tell me you're being sarcastic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a little cheating ruins a marriage, was it that strong of a marriage to start with anyways?
I’d always cheat just to see how loyal they really are. Sort the quitters from the keepers. It’s a great filter
Please tell me you're being sarcastic."
He is lmao |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a little cheating ruins a marriage, was it that strong of a marriage to start with anyways?
I’d always cheat just to see how loyal they really are. Sort the quitters from the keepers. It’s a great filter
Please tell me you're being sarcastic.
He is lmao"
It's almost as funny as the loopholes people have come out with above! |
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Swinging is not cheating… as long as boundaries have been discussed and agreed beforehand.
Cheating and then expecting someone to take you back because they made vows with a person who is a lying piece of shit is more than just cake and eat it.
It’s called being a cunt. Pure and simple 
Ps. Don’t get my started on liars… not today. Thanks for listening |
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I'd actively discourage anyone saty with a cheating partner.
Cheating isn't just cheating. It's also showing a lack of respect, a lack of love and a lack of care. Noone should ever have to live in that and those willing to do that deserve a shower of shit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a little cheating ruins a marriage, was it that strong of a marriage to start with anyways?
I’d always cheat just to see how loyal they really are. Sort the quitters from the keepers. It’s a great filter
Please tell me you're being sarcastic."
Not at all. How loyal are you really if a little cheating ruins a perfectly good marriage
It’s just selfish to let that get in the way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Some on here get confused between the meaning's of the words "Cheating" and "Swinging" it seems and nope cheating is never good and Mrs4 is dealing with the fall out with one of her friends being cheated on ( repeatedly) and not very nice at all......  "
What if you're on a swinging site with your spouse but you cheat on them through your single profile, you know...proper shag someone behind their back, they have no clue about it.
Is that swinging or cheating?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If a little cheating ruins a marriage, was it that strong of a marriage to start with anyways?
I’d always cheat just to see how loyal they really are. Sort the quitters from the keepers. It’s a great filter
Please tell me you're being sarcastic.
Not at all. How loyal are you really if a little cheating ruins a perfectly good marriage
It’s just selfish to let that get in the way "
I don't know whether to mouth what the fuck on reading that comment or laugh. |
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" Some on here get confused between the meaning's of the words "Cheating" and "Swinging" it seems and nope cheating is never good and Mrs4 is dealing with the fall out with one of her friends being cheated on ( repeatedly) and not very nice at all......
What if you're on a swinging site with your spouse but you cheat on them through your single profile, you know...proper shag someone behind their back, they have no clue about it.
Is that swinging or cheating?
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Cheating. 100%. |
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By *ags73Man
over a year ago
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Cheated on in a relationship, at time, I sorta knew, didn’t want it confirmed and it ended up tearing things apart. Worse was later knowing the guy was doing it as he’d been dumped by his wife.
Swinging with consent, agreement, discussion a whole different thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Cheating breaks trust which is an essential part of a relationship, not sure how easy it would be to get that back. "
The trust is easy to return to. *just my opinion but!!!
Just try and return to that respect you once had the privilege having. The one where you were the only person that had never hurt them. That’s the bitch right there, that’s the one that keeps you up at night, that’s the one where you can’t hold your head up high and be proud. Thats the one where you ch*ke when you look at the person who once had your back. That’s the respect you lost and won’t ever return.
Trust is an easy thing to establish. Respect is gone for good. Again, just my opinion.
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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago
Transsexual Transylvania |
"Cheating breaks trust which is an essential part of a relationship, not sure how easy it would be to get that back. "
It can he done, but it requires total commitment and willingness from both parties, and some couples counselling can be extremely helpful. |
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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago
Fairytale Wood |
On these threads you will always get opposing views. People will always find their own justification and seek validation, whether it is cheating or opposed to cheating or judging.
Saw it earlier "Forsaking All Others" isn't swinging in its very essence, breaking at least that marriage vow. Consensual or not.
Guys do get a much harder time over it than women, many will postulate about the immorality of cheating in forum/chat if it is guy, but wouldn't give it a second thought to a women if it got them on their pants and into bed. Seen it so many times over the years.
Just being devils advocate.
"Do no judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."
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By *enk15Man
over a year ago
Evesham |
"If a little cheating ruins a marriage, was it that strong of a marriage to start with anyways?
I’d always cheat just to see how loyal they really are. Sort the quitters from the keepers. It’s a great filter
Please tell me you're being sarcastic.
Not at all. How loyal are you really if a little cheating ruins a perfectly good marriage
It’s just selfish to let that get in the way "
I'm astonished that this is anyone's stance. |
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By *enk15Man
over a year ago
Evesham |
" Some on here get confused between the meaning's of the words "Cheating" and "Swinging" it seems and nope cheating is never good and Mrs4 is dealing with the fall out with one of her friends being cheated on ( repeatedly) and not very nice at all......
What if you're on a swinging site with your spouse but you cheat on them through your single profile, you know...proper shag someone behind their back, they have no clue about it.
Is that swinging or cheating?
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"...But you cheat on them through..."
You answered your own question. |
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"And they don't stick to the 'for worse' part of their wedding vows, do you have any right to be angry or upset and hold it against them?????
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You can feel any way you like but you don’t have the right to punish them for something you did.
I think that’s what you’re asking? |
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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago
taunton |
Has anyone got a copy of the marriage contract, have never seen mine and long ago forgot what was said on the day, must be an opt out clause in the small print some where for partners who have served a number of years of forced celibacy. |
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By *heelz69Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
"Has anyone got a copy of the marriage contract, have never seen mine and long ago forgot what was said on the day, must be an opt out clause in the small print some where for partners who have served a number of years of forced celibacy."
Yeah it's called a divorce |
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" Some on here get confused between the meaning's of the words "Cheating" and "Swinging" it seems and nope cheating is never good and Mrs4 is dealing with the fall out with one of her friends being cheated on ( repeatedly) and not very nice at all......
What if you're on a swinging site with your spouse but you cheat on them through your single profile, you know...proper shag someone behind their back, they have no clue about it.
Is that swinging or cheating?
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Cheating... Swinging is about open communication and being transparent. It really is the lowest of the low and shows what little respect you have for someone. I don't know why on earth you'd think someone should stick to their vows after you've destroyed the trust. |
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"Just lie. Shaggy did it and everything was ok
You don’t have to deal with the consequences of your actions and ruin a perfectly good marriage by telling the truth, that’s inconsiderate "
Something is wrong with the marriage if you feel the need to cheat and lie to your partner. |
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I have 2 friends, who in the last year have been cheated on by their husband and wife.
The friend-guy is now on anti-depressants and fighting hard to see his kids for 2 days per week.
The friend-girl, was cheated on by her husband with her friend. They got 3 kids and she was also on anti-depressents.
It's the lying, gas-lighting that goes with the cheating which uttly ruins people's lives. It takes years to reach a resolution for all parties, without a thought for the people affected the most, the children.
The kids will effectively be moved around to homes finding their own way in this mess.
Cheating is utterly tragic for all concerned, regardless if you are caught or not, relationships between parents and children will change.
The deverstation is horrendous. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"Just lie. Shaggy did it and everything was ok
You don’t have to deal with the consequences of your actions and ruin a perfectly good marriage by telling the truth, that’s inconsiderate
Something is wrong with the marriage if you feel the need to cheat and lie to your partner."
As much as I dislike cheats it’s probably fair to say most know that’s is the case, something is very wrong
But maybe they don’t know what to do to fix it and are too scared to leave. |
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