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So for the first time ever I have been approached for a meet. Arranged yesterday to meet on weds but woke up with a tickly throat and a slight runny nose. Unlikely to clear by tomorrow. I let them know and tried to reassure im not wimping out but if i am the same tomorrow might not be well enough to meet.
My question is: can i reasonably still meet with a bit of a cold and a slight cough?! What is the etiquette there. It is winter and people are permanently spreading stuff around but pre arranged meets or club visits with play in mind seems a bit unfair to me...
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Already have and they said let them know if im ok to meet but hard to judge what they think ok means as obv a slight cough and runny nose dont dosappear in 24 hrs. Wortied if i turn up and sniffle at one point. Might absolutely disgust some people and others not care at all. |
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over a year ago
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I wouldn’t meet someone if I was feeling poorly. There’s a lack of sexiness in being with someone casual who has a runny nose and a cough.
I’d reschedule tomorrow for another time so show you’re not just wimping out but want to be at your best when you meet them. |
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"I wouldn’t meet someone if I was feeling poorly. There’s a lack of sexiness in being with someone casual who has a runny nose and a cough.
I’d reschedule tomorrow for another time so show you’re not just wimping out but want to be at your best when you meet them. "
This is how i feel - i guess my fear is not getting another chance! A lot of people complain guys wimp out of meeting (i dod once about 4 years ago and she never gave me another chance...though i think she was insulted i chose last minute Ashes tickets over her!!!) |
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over a year ago
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"Fun fact, sex suppresses cough symptoms, temporarily, I think its a bit like the flight or fight thing with adreneline?"
I’ve been coughed on during sex. Penis in vagina. His bits shook like a hurricane inside of me. |
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"Fun fact, sex suppresses cough symptoms, temporarily, I think its a bit like the flight or fight thing with adreneline?
I’ve been coughed on during sex. Penis in vagina. His bits shook like a hurricane inside of me. "
Perhaps its just me then!   |
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"I wouldn’t meet someone if I was feeling poorly. There’s a lack of sexiness in being with someone casual who has a runny nose and a cough.
I’d reschedule tomorrow for another time so show you’re not just wimping out but want to be at your best when you meet them.
This is how i feel - i guess my fear is not getting another chance! A lot of people complain guys wimp out of meeting (i dod once about 4 years ago and she never gave me another chance...though i think she was insulted i chose last minute Ashes tickets over her!!!)"
The one and only time I’ve ever needed to reschedule I felt they’d think I was backing out if meeting. Without waiting for them to suggest rescheduling, I thought giving them options of dates, and suggesting we try again suited everyone. By and by, the best meet I’ve ever had, and they were understanding. When we did meet, they mentioned me seeking to reschedule straight away made them feel I wasn’t wimping out or wasting their time. Give it a go! |
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In our book being ill and swinging are mutually exclusive. It's just not on if you know you're ill, to risk giving it to someone else.
I'd sooner cancel and be thought of as unreliable than turn up ill and be thought of as a person who spreads germs.
People are more likely to forgive you for cancelling with a good, considerate reason than they are to forgive you for giving them a shitty cold.
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"I wouldn’t meet someone if I was feeling poorly. There’s a lack of sexiness in being with someone casual who has a runny nose and a cough.
I’d reschedule tomorrow for another time so show you’re not just wimping out but want to be at your best when you meet them.
This is how i feel - i guess my fear is not getting another chance! A lot of people complain guys wimp out of meeting (i dod once about 4 years ago and she never gave me another chance...though i think she was insulted i chose last minute Ashes tickets over her!!!)
The one and only time I’ve ever needed to reschedule I felt they’d think I was backing out if meeting. Without waiting for them to suggest rescheduling, I thought giving them options of dates, and suggesting we try again suited everyone. By and by, the best meet I’ve ever had, and they were understanding. When we did meet, they mentioned me seeking to reschedule straight away made them feel I wasn’t wimping out or wasting their time. Give it a go! "
This is the way to go then i think. Thanks for the advice. |
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No offence meant but the way you’ve worded it , it looks like your looking for a way out of the meet , maybe due to nerves or something, personally if it’s just a tickly throat and slightly runny nose I’d take a few cough sweets and go |
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"Covid mask on, no kissing and tap from behind  "
Haha.
Op, I’m full of it, I wouldn’t meet anyone but that’s just my choice because I don’t feel my best.
But some people might. I wouldn’t want to catch a cold off anyone…. It’s Russian roulette..  |
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"No offence meant but the way you’ve worded it , it looks like your looking for a way out of the meet , maybe due to nerves or something, personally if it’s just a tickly throat and slightly runny nose I’d take a few cough sweets and go "
That's what im worried they'll think. Genuinely isn't! But as i haven't secured a meet from here like this before i thought id ask about the etiquette. Seems sensible to just reschedule but the 1 time i tried to do that i got blacklisted |
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If you feel well enough, perhaps put the ball in there court. Hey I'm feeling like this. Are you still comfortable to meet or would you rather rearrange |
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Aw no! So I take it she doesn't want to meet?
I had a night out a few weeks ago with the girls. I had a very bad cough, was a bit snotty. I felt well though. I just messaged the chat and asked if everyone would be OK if I came along and no worries if not. I think that's the best approach really because it's in her hands and at least you've let her know. If you're not well enough to go that isn't your fault and if she doesn't understand then it's not meant to be and move on to the next one. |
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"If you feel well enough, perhaps put the ball in there court. Hey I'm feeling like this. Are you still comfortable to meet or would you rather rearrange "
Yep was just about to say this. If you feel well enough to still meet up, just say something along the lines of, ‘I feel a bit under the weather but would still really like to meet up if you’re happy to do so. Let me know what you would prefer to do’ |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I met with someone who came to see me from another continent.
He was fine until a couple of days after he landed.
I took the risk and he still wanted to see me, even though he spent the two days I was with him sweating and barely eating.
I did get quite ill after and had to postpone my blood donation appointment twice because I was still coughing.
I wouldn't take the risk if someone had tested positive for Covid or if I had something important coming up. |
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"So for the first time ever I have been approached for a meet. Arranged yesterday to meet on weds but woke up with a tickly throat and a slight runny nose. Unlikely to clear by tomorrow. I let them know and tried to reassure im not wimping out but if i am the same tomorrow might not be well enough to meet.
My question is: can i reasonably still meet with a bit of a cold and a slight cough?! What is the etiquette there. It is winter and people are permanently spreading stuff around but pre arranged meets or club visits with play in mind seems a bit unfair to me...
Etiquette advice?"
Yeah I would. If you back out you'll be blocked.
Get cough sweets or something  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Aw no! So I take it she doesn't want to meet?
I had a night out a few weeks ago with the girls. I had a very bad cough, was a bit snotty. I felt well though. I just messaged the chat and asked if everyone would be OK if I came along and no worries if not. I think that's the best approach really because it's in her hands and at least you've let her know. If you're not well enough to go that isn't your fault and if she doesn't understand then it's not meant to be and move on to the next one. "
When I had Covid my sister still wanted me to come to her party.
I was feeling too unwell and wouldn't deliberately go anywhere I could pass it to vulnerable people- her being one of them.
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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"If I was ill I wouldn't meet someone where it was highly probable I'd pass my illness on and if someone met me knowing they were ill I'd be very annoyed.
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This for me too.
Re-arrange is the better option. If you’re ill you won’t be at your best. |
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By *ogk9Man
over a year ago
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"I met with someone who came to see me from another continent.
He was fine until a couple of days after he landed.
I took the risk and he still wanted to see me, even though he spent the two days I was with him sweating and barely eating.
I did get quite ill after and had to postpone my blood donation appointment twice because I was still coughing.
I wouldn't take the risk if someone had tested positive for Covid or if I had something important coming up."
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"I think you've taken the right approach OP.
I too would give them a heads up.
I'm sure they'd rather postpone until another time than catch your cold.
I've just been getting over one myself"
Id hoped so but it appears I've been designated a let down. Cant really say how i know as that's against forum rules i think
Oh well.
Maybe in another 4 years... |
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"I think you've taken the right approach OP.
I too would give them a heads up.
I'm sure they'd rather postpone until another time than catch your cold.
I've just been getting over one myself
Id hoped so but it appears I've been designated a let down. Cant really say how i know as that's against forum rules i think
Oh well.
Maybe in another 4 years..."
Oh no!! Sorry to hear. I would dar prefer someone tells me they are feeling poorly and reschedule - then having them arrive with a cold. I’d definitely be out of playing and would not find that sexy at all |
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If they came to me and said I'm not feeling great can we rearrange when are you free again that would be fine. If someone isn't willing to give it another shot after being given notice of a possible issue then there isn't much that you can do.
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"I think you've taken the right approach OP.
I too would give them a heads up.
I'm sure they'd rather postpone until another time than catch your cold.
I've just been getting over one myself
Id hoped so but it appears I've been designated a let down. Cant really say how i know as that's against forum rules i think
Oh well.
Maybe in another 4 years..."
That or they wondered why you're discussing your meet on the forum. I know you haven't mentioned names or details but they might not have appreciated you asking here instead of just sorting it out between the two of you. |
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"I think you've taken the right approach OP.
I too would give them a heads up.
I'm sure they'd rather postpone until another time than catch your cold.
I've just been getting over one myself
Id hoped so but it appears I've been designated a let down. Cant really say how i know as that's against forum rules i think
Oh well.
Maybe in another 4 years...
That or they wondered why you're discussing your meet on the forum. I know you haven't mentioned names or details but they might not have appreciated you asking here instead of just sorting it out between the two of you. "
I had already messaged and said lets wait and see how i am on the day (being tomorrow at the time). I don't see why they'd mind it being anon in here but it is possible they are offended i guess. I've been 100% transparent with them. |
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