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Do what suits you, your needs and your lifestyle. You’re unlikely to score on day one so keeping plugging away (fnarr fnarr).
Be you - don’t come across as desperate or cloying.
Visit a club or social but don’t go the first time with the intention of ploughing everyone you fancy. Chill, chat, make friends.
Fab is a long haul game and you often meet the best people when you least expect it. |
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"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?
Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?  "
Go on Club/Events forum
Find one you like the sound of
Chat / engage on post
Go to event and have fun with those you arrange to meet
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on   |
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on "
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters? |
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?"
Easy, ask them out for a drink
Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested |
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over a year ago
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"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?
Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine? "
Offer your meat. You’ll get loads of meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me 
Same dude, same..."
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?
Easy, ask them out for a drink
Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested "
What if they don’t drink? |
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"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?
Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine? "
Go
To
The
Socials
Its the advice we give anyone new, but it goes double for single guys. When people can see you "in the flesh" so to speak, chat to you, interact, the chances of you making a decent impression are magnified...unless you have the personality of a hairbrush and the social skills of a bogtroll lol.
And...worst case scenario, even if you dont get lucky, you will pick up a couple of veries, and make some friends so its a win-win situation. |
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"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?
Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?
Offer your meat. You’ll get loads of meets. "
I'm ready and willing.... doesn't appear to be many meat eaters around. |
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me
Same dude, same...
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it."
I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away |
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?
Easy, ask them out for a drink
Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested
What if they don’t drink? "
I'm OK with alcohol free lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?
Easy, ask them out for a drink
Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested
What if they don’t drink? "
They’ll die of dehydration and shouldn’t be meeting anyone
Non alcoholic drinks are available |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?
Easy, ask them out for a drink
Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested
What if they don’t drink? "
He’s actually got a point.
My last three times I’ve asked to meet and set a date when someone has specifically shown interest (some messaged me first ) and told me they’d love to meet up have ghosted me.
I’m not complaining, at all. But some will string you along for whatever reason. But to be ghosted is flabbergasting when you’d spoken in a friendly way (sometimes a lengthy period).
I just don’t see what they get from it? Attention. Maybe.
*sorry, not here to discus this, but wanted to comment with what I just read.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?
Easy, ask them out for a drink
Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested
What if they don’t drink? "
We could go out for Icecream  |
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"Forums, who's online and a slide in the DM?
Or just sit and wait for hell to freeze over for someone to slide into mine?
Go
To
The
Socials
Its the advice we give anyone new, but it goes double for single guys. When people can see you "in the flesh" so to speak, chat to you, interact, the chances of you making a decent impression are magnified...unless you have the personality of a hairbrush and the social skills of a bogtroll lol.
And...worst case scenario, even if you dont get lucky, you will pick up a couple of veries, and make some friends so its a win-win situation."
I honestly couldn’t agree with this more. It’s the best way to get to know people on fab  |
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"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.
So when you next at a social??? Lol "
27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"the forums are a tiny tiny tiny part of fab 1% or 2% max and alot dont meet they just like the chitter chatter
that leaves the massive chunk of swinger who do use the forum and who do really meet as real swingers that you'll miss out on
So how do I spot the meeters from the chatters?
Easy, ask them out for a drink
Anything that isn’t a yes, is a no, move on to the next one
You’ll be surprised how easy it is to take someone out when they’re actually interested
What if they don’t drink?
He’s actually got a point.
My last three times I’ve asked to meet and set a date when someone has specifically shown interest (some messaged me first ) and told me they’d love to meet up have ghosted me.
I’m not complaining, at all. But some will string you along for whatever reason. But to be ghosted is flabbergasting when you’d spoken in a friendly way (sometimes a lengthy period).
I just don’t see what they get from it? Attention. Maybe.
*sorry, not here to discus this, but wanted to comment with what I just read.
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That’s awful, sorry to hear that
I’ve been fully stood up twice in my life and it does suck. |
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"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.
So when you next at a social??? Lol
27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly) "
Are you coming to Northampton beauts? |
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"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.
So when you next at a social??? Lol
27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)
Are you coming to Northampton beauts? "
I’m not LB when is that one?
I’m going to Curvy Swing and possibly the Birmingham social x |
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"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.
So when you next at a social??? Lol
27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly) "
Where?.... I'm there lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink "
Ah fuck I’ve been busted |
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink
Ah fuck I’ve been busted "
Hahahah |
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"For a bloke I would say socials or events. I know some right hotties who struggled on here for a long time before attending a social.
So when you next at a social??? Lol
27th Jan and 17th Feb (possibly)
Are you coming to Northampton beauts?
I’m not LB when is that one?
I’m going to Curvy Swing and possibly the Birmingham social x"
It’s on 17th Feb too. I need to get to a Birmingham one soon too. And I need to meet you finally xx |
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink
Ah fuck I’ve been busted "
 . Don’t drink? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me
Same dude, same...
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.
I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away "
Lucky woman! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink
Ah fuck I’ve been busted
Hahahah "
Cake. Ask them for cake! No one will refuse cake and if they don’t eat cake you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink
Ah fuck I’ve been busted
. Don’t drink? "
Sometimes I have a little drinky |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink
Ah fuck I’ve been busted
Hahahah
Cake. Ask them for cake! No one will refuse cake and if they don’t eat cake you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life "
What kind of cake? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink "
This is clearly where I'm going wrong. I stated in my profile I didn't drink.
Dam it.
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me
Same dude, same...
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.
I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away
Lucky woman! "
I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink
Ah fuck I’ve been busted
Hahahah
Cake. Ask them for cake! No one will refuse cake and if they don’t eat cake you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life
What kind of cake? "
That’s a whole other thread Kai. Don’t come in here starting dramas  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't state you won't leave them a verification, and that you don't display any....that seems to kill any chance of sex going.
Even when you've slept with them already, hide their verification and you'll end up kissing them goodbye as you do it.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me
Same dude, same...
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.
I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away
Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol "
Your over a 100 miles away! |
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me
Same dude, same...
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.
I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away
Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol
Your over a 100 miles away!"
I travel.... alot... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me
Same dude, same...
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.
I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away
Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol
Your over a 100 miles away!
I travel.... a lot... "
Yeah, they all say that yet I end up doing the driving.....which isn't happening in 2024! |
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"Offer to take the bins out
They're taking themselves out in this weather
Even the wind gets more meets than me
Same dude, same...
That dry January thread is going to be full isn't it.
I'm on a promise for the 3rd week of Jan... But that's 2 weeks away
Lucky woman! I don't mind giving you a promise... you know, to balance things.... lol
Your over a 100 miles away!
I travel.... a lot...
Yeah, they all say that yet I end up doing the driving.....which isn't happening in 2024! "
Well if they're dumb enough to say they would, and lie, they ain't worth the miles. |
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"Another hint
If you ask someone out for a drink and they say they don’t drink, next
That’s just another way to say “no thanks” politely
Anyone that’s interested, even if they don’t drink, will say yes and just order a soft drink
Ah fuck I’ve been busted
. Don’t drink?
Sometimes I have a little drinky "
When are we getting on it like Wallace and Gromit? |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
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theirs no one way to get a meet because the one thing you cant control is sexual attraction and compatibility and both of those are needed so you could have thee best profile and think your thee sex god but unless others feel it it aint going to happen
someone else said this earlier most people are not compatible thats no different on the swinging scene most men get nowhere ever not their fault just the sheer number of men wanting part of this scene .... for a guy thee best way forward afyer a decent no bullshit profile is a social or a swinging club it allows you to get to know others just dont fall into the wanking dead trap ....basically if you want to stand out then make yourself stand out .... of course some men are lucky that they dont need to do much they just ''get it'' and get loads of meets .... its a scene based on selection and rejection rejection being the biggest .... |
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MLS.
Back end of march. I’ll pop a thread in the meets section soon. 
