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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've always thought whats it like being a women on here so thought I'd offer and experiment.
Ladies to give me the full experience bombard me with fanny pics (will accept boobs) then follow up 2 mins later asking why you not responding then 5 mins later with abuse.
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What do you mean no.
The only reason you're on here is because no person would ever want you.
How dare you say no to me.
You might be missing out on the most fabulous experience in your miserable existence
Bet you can't get any
(bunch of abuse here)
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one week later
hi bb wuu2 wanna meet? I'm a nice guy |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
Coventry |
If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder. |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder."
How do you know that? |
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"Say "thank you but not interested" and then I will abuse you for wasting my time - you get off on rejecting women dontcha!
It’s funny but also not   "
And then immediately after that try to emotionally manipulate you into meeting. Either trying to induce pity or just plain old negging. It's delightful  |
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"Say "thank you but not interested" and then I will abuse you for wasting my time - you get off on rejecting women dontcha!
It’s funny but also not
And then immediately after that try to emotionally manipulate you into meeting. Either trying to induce pity or just plain old negging. It's delightful "
Works every time too with me. I was born yesterday |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
Coventry |
"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
How do you know that?"
Yeah you're right too much hard work, let's just leave it as dated and ineffective as it is  |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
How do you know that?
Yeah you're right too much hard work, let's just leave it as dated and ineffective as it is "
That isn't what I said. I said, how do you know that changes to the site would improve people's experiences? |
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"Say "thank you but not interested" and then I will abuse you for wasting my time - you get off on rejecting women dontcha!
It’s funny but also not
And then immediately after that try to emotionally manipulate you into meeting. Either trying to induce pity or just plain old negging. It's delightful
Works every time too with me. I was born yesterday "
I'll definitely go to be alone and naked with someone who won't take no for an answer. What could possibly go wrong? |
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Man: amazing.. beautiful… the best woman I’ve ever seen… yada yada
My Response: No thanks
Same Man: You’re a fat dirty slut and no one would touch you with a barge pole… never mind a dick.
#TrueStory |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder."
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue |
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"Man: amazing.. beautiful… the best woman I’ve ever seen… yada yada
My Response: No thanks
Same Man: You’re a fat dirty slut and no one would touch you with a barge pole… never mind a dick.
#TrueStory "
yup |
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"Man: amazing.. beautiful… the best woman I’ve ever seen… yada yada
My Response: No thanks
Same Man: You’re a fat dirty slut and no one would touch you with a barge pole… never mind a dick.
#TrueStory "
We must get messages from the same men |
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"Man: amazing.. beautiful… the best woman I’ve ever seen… yada yada
My Response: No thanks
Same Man: You’re a fat dirty slut and no one would touch you with a barge pole… never mind a dick.
#TrueStory
We must get messages from the same men "
Undoubtedly
They think with their little heads… and don’t give their brain a chance to catch on.
Makes me laugh like Sid James every single day. Fucking idiots |
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"It is against rules so I am no way advising you do this but the only way you'll know for sure is go set up a female account. You don't even have to add profile text or pics.
Evie"
When I first set this up I had dozens of messages as I was writing my first profile text - and at least a handful telling me I was the most beautiful woman in the world before I had a picture up. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon |
"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder."
If men would delete the messages in their sent folder they wouldn't have the issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t forget to ignore any of the genuine nice messages you get an only focusing on the negatives ones
Always smart to put all your energy into what you don’t want |
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"Don’t forget to ignore any of the genuine nice messages you get an only focusing on the negatives ones
Always smart to put all your energy into what you don’t want "
Who’s doing that? Certainly not me.
I focus my energy where I want to…
Because you know… I can  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also whatever you do, don’t put up your filters and message girls you find interesting. That might mean facing possible rejection and you don’t want that |
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"It is against rules so I am no way advising you do this but the only way you'll know for sure is go set up a female account. You don't even have to add profile text or pics.
Evie
When I first set this up I had dozens of messages as I was writing my first profile text - and at least a handful telling me I was the most beautiful woman in the world before I had a picture up."
It was weird but MrAbz set the account up and blocked single males almost instantly as we got a whole load of "i'll fuck your Mrs" messages straight away.
It was quite eye opening for him I think.
MrsAbz
Ps I know its not all men and those were just the ones that give the rest a bad name |
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"Don’t forget to ignore any of the genuine nice messages you get an only focusing on the negatives ones
Always smart to put all your energy into what you don’t want
Who’s doing that? Certainly not me.
I focus my energy where I want to…
Because you know… I can "
But it's good that he's posting - remember, OP, everything you do is wrong. No matter what tools you do or don't use to make your Fab experience good or even bearable, you should have used that other tool. Tried that too? Still your fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also whatever you do, don’t put up your filters and message girls you find interesting. That might mean facing possible rejection and you don’t want that "
Yeah but if he’s being a woman he’ll be able to cope with rejection  |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
Coventry |
"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue"
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against. |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against."
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS. |
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"Also whatever you do, don’t put up your filters and message girls you find interesting. That might mean facing possible rejection and you don’t want that
Yeah but if he’s being a woman he’ll be able to cope with rejection "
Don't tell fibs Fluffy you know women don't get rejected!
MrsAbz |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also whatever you do, don’t put up your filters and message girls you find interesting. That might mean facing possible rejection and you don’t want that
Yeah but if he’s being a woman he’ll be able to cope with rejection
Don't tell fibs Fluffy you know women don't get rejected!
MrsAbz "
Oh wait, you’re right! |
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"Also whatever you do, don’t put up your filters and message girls you find interesting. That might mean facing possible rejection and you don’t want that
Yeah but if he’s being a woman he’ll be able to cope with rejection
Don't tell fibs Fluffy you know women don't get rejected!
MrsAbz
Oh wait, you’re right!"
Everyone always respects our wishes and we get everything we want and we have to knock back offers to pick us up, drop us off, serve us with nothing in return...
and then I woke up |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS."
They’re like little shining lights… among a field of cow shit… |
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"Man: amazing.. beautiful… the best woman I’ve ever seen… yada yada
My Response: No thanks
Same Man: You’re a fat dirty slut and no one would touch you with a barge pole… never mind a dick.
#TrueStory
We must get messages from the same men "
It's like they all go on some sort of course or are reading from the same script |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
Coventry |
"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS."
It doesn't matter what you do individually ie write an informative profile, take good pics, write witty, personalised mails, if you're stuck at the bottom of an inbox with 500+ mails in it, it means nothing.
Women and couples often complain they can't find good men on here - that's why, because the site does nothing to help them rise to the top. |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS.
They’re like little shining lights… among a field of cow shit… "
There was once a forum post - legendary when I first joined - about a woman's experience on Fab. It was something like seeing a diamond disappearing down a sewer and desperately trying to find it.
It's not my words, just my recollection of the post. But it's pretty true - there are a mass of people who are no for a bunch of reasons, and a very small number who are... maybe. A small subset of those might be a yes. We just have to find them - and it's hard work and involves getting involved in some muck(y messages). |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS.
It doesn't matter what you do individually ie write an informative profile, take good pics, write witty, personalised mails, if you're stuck at the bottom of an inbox with 500+ mails in it, it means nothing.
Women and couples often complain they can't find good men on here - that's why, because the site does nothing to help them rise to the top."
I think the 500 messages thing is either a very new profile or the people on the hot pics. It wasn't my experience when I had filters open - more like 50 messages a day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS.
It doesn't matter what you do individually ie write an informative profile, take good pics, write witty, personalised mails, if you're stuck at the bottom of an inbox with 500+ mails in it, it means nothing.
Women and couples often complain they can't find good men on here - that's why, because the site does nothing to help them rise to the top."
No no no, if you read their bio properly that doesn’t happen
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
How do you know that?
Yeah you're right too much hard work, let's just leave it as dated and ineffective as it is "
Exactly.
I'm not so techno savvy and can see so many failings in the site. |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
Coventry |
"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS.
It doesn't matter what you do individually ie write an informative profile, take good pics, write witty, personalised mails, if you're stuck at the bottom of an inbox with 500+ mails in it, it means nothing.
Women and couples often complain they can't find good men on here - that's why, because the site does nothing to help them rise to the top.
I think the 500 messages thing is either a very new profile or the people on the hot pics. It wasn't my experience when I had filters open - more like 50 messages a day. "
That's still an upwall battle for a man who may have taken a genuine shine to you, conversely if we received half that many new contacts in a *year* we'd be doing well.
Would I be correct in my assumption that most of these messages are not very good? |
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"Man: amazing.. beautiful… the best woman I’ve ever seen… yada yada
My Response: No thanks
Same Man: You’re a fat dirty slut and no one would touch you with a barge pole… never mind a dick.
#TrueStory
We must get messages from the same men
It's like they all go on some sort of course or are reading from the same script "
Sorry about that ladies, I was pissed |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS.
It doesn't matter what you do individually ie write an informative profile, take good pics, write witty, personalised mails, if you're stuck at the bottom of an inbox with 500+ mails in it, it means nothing.
Women and couples often complain they can't find good men on here - that's why, because the site does nothing to help them rise to the top.
I think the 500 messages thing is either a very new profile or the people on the hot pics. It wasn't my experience when I had filters open - more like 50 messages a day.
That's still an upwall battle for a man who may have taken a genuine shine to you, conversely if we received half that many new contacts in a *year* we'd be doing well.
Would I be correct in my assumption that most of these messages are not very good?"
Sure. But it's not as bad as the 500 etc you make out.
Yes, you would be correct. At least half are awful, and at least half of the remaining are bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Say "thank you but not interested" and then I will abuse you for wasting my time - you get off on rejecting women dontcha!
It’s funny but also not "
You've got to block me after for the utter audacity of declining politely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I reckon most of us women could write a book on some of the frightening disturbing 1st dms we get here....Some are seriously disturbing....& Probably need reporting to the police....!!!! |
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"Say "thank you but not interested" and then I will abuse you for wasting my time - you get off on rejecting women dontcha!
It’s funny but also not
You've got to block me after for the utter audacity of declining politely "
I do like being told that there's a way I have to deal with someone's message, which is a trend I've seen.
I'll do what I please with the messages - if you don't get a response, assume no or probably not. |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
Coventry |
"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS.
It doesn't matter what you do individually ie write an informative profile, take good pics, write witty, personalised mails, if you're stuck at the bottom of an inbox with 500+ mails in it, it means nothing.
Women and couples often complain they can't find good men on here - that's why, because the site does nothing to help them rise to the top.
I think the 500 messages thing is either a very new profile or the people on the hot pics. It wasn't my experience when I had filters open - more like 50 messages a day.
That's still an upwall battle for a man who may have taken a genuine shine to you, conversely if we received half that many new contacts in a *year* we'd be doing well.
Would I be correct in my assumption that most of these messages are not very good?
Sure. But it's not as bad as the 500 etc you make out.
Yes, you would be correct. At least half are awful, and at least half of the remaining are bad."
It may still be in the hundreds or higher if she's particularly good looking, and if she's in the hot pics forget it, at that point she may aswell be on the moon such is the chance you have at meeting her.
You may think I'm exaggerating, but as a woman your experience on site like this will ever be so far from those of a man's, there's no way you could ever truly understand the frustration. |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS.
It doesn't matter what you do individually ie write an informative profile, take good pics, write witty, personalised mails, if you're stuck at the bottom of an inbox with 500+ mails in it, it means nothing.
Women and couples often complain they can't find good men on here - that's why, because the site does nothing to help them rise to the top.
I think the 500 messages thing is either a very new profile or the people on the hot pics. It wasn't my experience when I had filters open - more like 50 messages a day.
That's still an upwall battle for a man who may have taken a genuine shine to you, conversely if we received half that many new contacts in a *year* we'd be doing well.
Would I be correct in my assumption that most of these messages are not very good?
Sure. But it's not as bad as the 500 etc you make out.
Yes, you would be correct. At least half are awful, and at least half of the remaining are bad.
It may still be in the hundreds or higher if she's particularly good looking, and if she's in the hot pics forget it, at that point she may aswell be on the moon such is the chance you have at meeting her.
You may think I'm exaggerating, but as a woman your experience on site like this will ever be so far from those of a man's, there's no way you could ever truly understand the frustration."
In a time before sites like these, no one would go anywhere near me. I have a fair idea.
I owe men on here as much as people owed me back then - a big fucking zero.
And I'm a bit nicer about it - I'll talk through the process on the forum and I'll delete without reply, rather than the humiliation etc I often got when I was younger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Say "thank you but not interested" and then I will abuse you for wasting my time - you get off on rejecting women dontcha!
It’s funny but also not
You've got to block me after for the utter audacity of declining politely
I do like being told that there's a way I have to deal with someone's message, which is a trend I've seen.
I'll do what I please with the messages - if you don't get a response, assume no or probably not."
Oh that's what I need to do as the man pretending to abuse George (sorry George/Georgina) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't find it that bad tbh. I've had lots of very nice messages and actually I find them harder. Nice messages from nice men I have no attraction to. I feel bad saying no thank you because I'd hate for them to feel they've got nothing to offer. It's just how attraction works. |
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You may think I'm exaggerating, but as a woman your experience on site like this will ever be so far from those of a man's, there's no way you could ever truly understand the frustration."
I think what we’re trying to say is. No we probably won’t understand your frustration just as you won’t understand ours as women.
However they’re both frustrations and neither should really be written off by either group of people |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
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You may think I'm exaggerating, but as a woman your experience on site like this will ever be so far from those of a man's, there's no way you could ever truly understand the frustration.
I think what we’re trying to say is. No we probably won’t understand your frustration just as you won’t understand ours as women.
However they’re both frustrations and neither should really be written off by either group of people "
If you have frustrations of your own then that's all the more reason why you should see the value in the ideas I'm proposing to refine the search/filtering process on sites like this so as women can better tailor the sort of men able to message them, and men are rewarded for making an effort with a higher priority in searches and messaging. |
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You may think I'm exaggerating, but as a woman your experience on site like this will ever be so far from those of a man's, there's no way you could ever truly understand the frustration.
I think what we’re trying to say is. No we probably won’t understand your frustration just as you won’t understand ours as women.
However they’re both frustrations and neither should really be written off by either group of people
If you have frustrations of your own then that's all the more reason why you should see the value in the ideas I'm proposing to refine the search/filtering process on sites like this so as women can better tailor the sort of men able to message them, and men are rewarded for making an effort with a higher priority in searches and messaging."
It's something you should write about in the feedback section, rather than taking over someone else's thread.
(I've never said that changes to the site are a bad idea) |
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"Ooops didn't mean for this thread to turn out like this, was meant to be a laugh
Laugh ? People are far too serious and sensitive on here to laugh.
The mr"
I know Mr i fucked up big time |
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"Ooops didn't mean for this thread to turn out like this, was meant to be a laugh
Laugh ? People are far too serious and sensitive on here to laugh.
The mr
I know Mr i fucked up big time "
No you didn’t, it’s not your fault their head is up the their own arse. You do whatever you want, fuck the majority.
The mr |
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"Man: amazing.. beautiful… the best woman I’ve ever seen… yada yada
My Response: No thanks
Same Man: You’re a fat dirty slut and no one would touch you with a barge pole… never mind a dick.
#TrueStory "
Ha ha! Yes! Makes me laugh every time though! X |
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"Ooops didn't mean for this thread to turn out like this, was meant to be a laugh
Laugh ? People are far too serious and sensitive on here to laugh.
The mr
I know Mr i fucked up big time
No you didn’t, it’s not your fault their head is up the their own arse. You do whatever you want, fuck the majority.
The mr "
Don’t sweat it big man, this is an easy topic to get the feathers russled and some of us can’t help ourselves.
You have zero control on how a thread turns out |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder."
In the longer term women receive the amount of mail they want to receive - no updates required. K |
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By *RWoodyCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
I honestly don't find it too bad.
Yes naturally you'll read a message from someone who isn't your cup of tea, but thats the same in the real world right? Not everyone I've shared a coffee with will also share our bed?
We've had some lovely messages from great guys who I don't fancy, and some not so nice ones from others I do. I'd much rather be in the nice message camp...
I think Fab will always be what Fab will always be, from either a guy or girls perspective. Just got to take it with a pinch of salt and a dash of fun.
Time for a coffee and a morning browse 
Have a great day Fabbers 
J x |
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By *r_reusMan
over a year ago
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
If men would delete the messages in their sent folder they wouldn't have the issue."
Then they wouldn't know if someone has deleted them, in which case move on, or if they've even been noticed at all.
It'd be nice if those who are fortunate enough to not be single males, would be a little less dismissive of the challenges we face, which they do not. |
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"If admin would update the site with more features to effectively streamline and refine the filtering process, women would find their inboxes less flooded and more likely to contain messages from the sort of men they're looking to meet, and men who make an effort less likely to see a wall of yellow in their 'sent' folder.
It doesn't change the people using the site though.... That's the issue
No but it allows users greater individual control over who can message them and whom they in turn can message, a chance to succeed or fail based on their personal approach, rather than simply falling down to their category, which in the case of a single male, is a lead weight we're constantly struggling against.
Honestly, the genuinely good single guys stand out against the rest. Don't believe the BS."
Absolutely agree. |
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"I've always thought whats it like being a women on here so thought I'd offer and experiment.
Ladies to give me the full experience bombard me with fanny pics (will accept boobs) then follow up 2 mins later asking why you not responding then 5 mins later with abuse.
Thank you in advance xx"
Pfft  I’d set aside a day.
Invite aaaall the ladies in my Inbox to my place & get them to form an orderly queue |
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