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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Before a guy thinks no that's too much and too full on.
If a guy messages and I reply back with a compliment it's ok isn't it?
But if I reply back with 'oh I'd definitely take my knickers off for you' is that too much?
Or fuck me now! That's too much isn't it???
Guys what's too much??? Give examples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Different people like different things. What I say it’s gonna be different to the next man you speak to.
It takes a while to get to know someone, it’s rare that you can meet somebody from the beginning, not impossible, but rare  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not a guy obviously but I've seen enough mentions of 'modest' and 'humble' on here to think that it's a rare man who likes a woman to be too forward unless it's privately and just for him
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It’s nice for a lady to be private sometimes. And I always imagine that when we shut the door to the world
, even if that’s metaphorically speaking, we can be filthy together with no shame. |
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I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much. I guess there’s maybe such a thing as too much for a particular moment. Like … “Bend me over and take me now” would be a bit much for aisle three of Waitrose. |
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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago
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I can only speak for myself, obviously, but I'd say its mostly context-dependent. Boring answer, I know.
A new message to a stranger out the blue? A new message to someone you've been talking to/have established a raport with? A follow-up message in an ongoing exchange that may or may not have become sexual? All different contexts which can affect the response.
In response for the context you've specifically asked about? I would say - again this is just for me/my opinion - if a guy messages you (I assume a first/initiation) then yeah it's perfectly okay for you to reply back with a compliment, assuming you've checked his profile and like what you see, and like what you've read in his message. The other two replies definitely seem a little strong/too much at this stage. But, not knowing the contents of his message, hard to say 100%.
I would say that many men/a lot of messages you ladies get are a clue as to how forward they would like you to be in return (read: far too forward from the many examples I've seen/been told about). |
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Nothing is too much or too forward from a woman here.
In real life difference:
If someone's too forward or have sex on first date, can be judged by some men.
I'm not 1 of them, because most of my relationships were based on sex first.
Usually first or second date, if there was a date at all.
Often happened from work, circumstances/mutual friends or even when I lived in a shared house.
With most women we were FWB first.
General cliche usually in real life for many:
Giving themselves easily = ONS/FWB material.
Few dates before sex = Relationship material
I don't think like that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting "
So if you'd messaged first and the woman comes back and says nice body! What then? |
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting "
You're certainly not speaking on behalf of me there... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting
So if you'd messaged first and the woman comes back and says nice body! What then? "
That’s not forward at all. That’s like 1% forward
That’s like, the bare minimum. A compliment showing interest?
Literally the bare minimum |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting "
Well said!
Ive been forward before and its put guys off. Sometimes i think its the guy, and him feeling some type of way, about my forwardness. Other times its me being an average lass and the concept of pretty girl privilege (pretty girls can do no wrong etc) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it extremely appealing when a girl is as forward as she wants.
I once went to a house party and a girl I knew for some time, that I had the hots for just came up to me and said, im fucking you tonight. At first I was surprised but instantly ready to go! It was so hot! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting "
And you lot say women are complicated?  |
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"Before a guy thinks no that's too much and too full on.
If a guy messages and I reply back with a compliment it's ok isn't it?
But if I reply back with 'oh I'd definitely take my knickers off for you' is that too much?
Or fuck me now! That's too much isn't it???
Guys what's too much??? Give examples."
Express yourself freely. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting
Well said!
Ive been forward before and its put guys off. Sometimes i think its the guy, and him feeling some type of way, about my forwardness. Other times its me being an average lass and the concept of pretty girl privilege (pretty girls can do no wrong etc) "
I cancelled a meet over Christmas off here because she was too forward
But that means like 3 messages in she was inviting me over
I like having both my kidneys |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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Rarely had it happen to think on it if I'm honest so I can't accurately say.
I like to think be as forward as you want, if it's being true to your own personality and self. But I'm sure there is a point when presented with it I'd think that too much too soon.
Also, yes it will vary depending on how much I like them. Somebody I'm not interested in has little wiggle room compared to somebody I'm interested in. However I won't be disrespected nor let somebody push too far just because I like them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much. I guess there’s maybe such a thing as too much for a particular moment. Like … “Bend me over and take me now” would be a bit much for aisle three of Waitrose."
Good job I don't shop in Waitrose...but if it happ be in Tesco or Asda...all good  |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I find if you're forwards, many guys act as if you've now entered into a contractual relationship and are instantly obliged to follow up on what you've just replied with  "
To be fair it rarely happens toward us, that when it does it feels like serious business and opportunity must be grabbed. |
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"I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much. I guess there’s maybe such a thing as too much for a particular moment. Like … “Bend me over and take me now” would be a bit much for aisle three of Waitrose.
Good job I don't shop in Waitrose...but if it happ be in Tesco or Asda...all good "
I mean Asda… no chance. But Tesco  |
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting "
So basically, we can't win? Just as I thought lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've seen many guys turn down very attractive women at clubs because they are too much. They wanna know they can get you but don't like when they are presenting as too easy. From my experience they want you to be a lady until the bedroom door closes. |
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"I've seen many guys turn down very attractive women at clubs because they are too much. They wanna know they can get you but don't like when they are presenting as too easy. From my experience they want you to be a lady until the bedroom door closes."
I'm terrible at reading signs. Stating what they want works for me  |
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"I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much. I guess there’s maybe such a thing as too much for a particular moment. Like … “Bend me over and take me now” would be a bit much for aisle three of Waitrose.
Good job I don't shop in Waitrose...but if it happ be in Tesco or Asda...all good
I mean Asda… no chance. But Tesco "
It's definitely a middle aisle in Aldi thing... But only on a Wednesday |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting
So basically, we can't win? Just as I thought lol"
You can win
For example, the example given above was “is saying you body is nice too forward”
That’s the bare minimum for a conversation. A compliment.
If you are confusing a simple compliment with being too forward, then no, you can’t win
If you are capable of having a real conversation like a normal person, and showing some interest, switch out putting it on the table or making it seem like you want our kidneys, then you’ve won
Most guys experience on here isn’t women being too forward
It’s women putting 10% of the effort into the convo and expecting you to pick up the other 90% |
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"I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much. I guess there’s maybe such a thing as too much for a particular moment. Like … “Bend me over and take me now” would be a bit much for aisle three of Waitrose.
Good job I don't shop in Waitrose...but if it happ be in Tesco or Asda...all good
I mean Asda… no chance. But Tesco
It's definitely a middle aisle in Aldi thing... But only on a Wednesday "
Totally agreed on this… inbetween the inflatable airbeds and power tools |
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"Before a guy thinks no that's too much and too full on.
If a guy messages and I reply back with a compliment it's ok isn't it?
But if I reply back with 'oh I'd definitely take my knickers off for you' is that too much?
Or fuck me now! That's too much isn't it???
Guys what's too much??? Give examples."
I think I would only ever be really forward with someone I knew well... Not in messaging, because you never really know until you meet them.
I've definitely paid them compliments, they seem to quite like that. |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much. I guess there’s maybe such a thing as too much for a particular moment. Like … “Bend me over and take me now” would be a bit much for aisle three of Waitrose.
Good job I don't shop in Waitrose...but if it happ be in Tesco or Asda...all good
I mean Asda… no chance. But Tesco
It's definitely a middle aisle in Aldi thing... But only on a Wednesday "
Would it be ok in aisle 4 of Waitrose? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been on a social meet, got on like a house on fire, but I felt it was moving at a snails pace. I’m not the type to take to social meets as if they’re a date. I want to spend enough to see if we get on and when we both feel we do, I’m there for the sex!
The man I was with went to the toilets and to grab us more drinks from the bar. When he returned I thought I’d speed things along. I removed my knickers whilst sat at the table and handed them to him. I timed it appropriately as the man, who had mentioned he was not clued up on knowing when women fancied him, to say ‘This is going well and I fancy you inside my knickers.’ He was clueless but that’s a story for another day. The face he pulled when he realised what I was up to he nearly fell off his seat. We were surrounded by others at others tables. Was it forward? Of course but I felt it was contextually appropriate because I couldn’t suss out how he was not clued in to me fancying him given how tactile and overtly flirty I was and we had been before meeting.
As the story goes, we did wind up naked together later. |
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I personally prefer women who are forward and can take the lead. But I know that not every man is the same. Just like how some women are fine with getting sexual messages as the first message while others are not. Judging who prefers what is the challenge |
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting
So basically, we can't win? Just as I thought lol"
No, no. I don't agree with OP at all, not least because he seems to think he answers for all 'guys' but really it's only 'some guys' who might be put off by too much or too little.There are enough responses on here to show that just isn't true for many of us, and I put myself amongst that group too.
Surely it's all context-specific. In some circumstances, between some people, it's OK, in others not. We are all different and behave differently in different contexts. I certainly wouldn't think a forward woman was fake or desperate in the Fab context. |
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"I mean Asda… no chance. But Tesco
It’s where the real swingers shop.
Shush… it’s our little secret
I was hoping it was M&S. 
Only on a weekend
I'll show you my pigs in blankets "
You have more than one?  |
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"I mean Asda… no chance. But Tesco
It’s where the real swingers shop.
Shush… it’s our little secret
I was hoping it was M&S.
Only on a weekend
I'll show you my pigs in blankets
You have more than one? "
I'd be like dog with two dicks if you offered me a bed for the night  |
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The mrs chatted me up by saying “ do you want to see my lungs ?” With that she bent over and opened her gash as wide as it would go.
I saw a kidney but no lungs, I still fucked her though, for the effort.
The mr |
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"The mrs chatted me up by saying “ do you want to see my lungs ?” With that she bent over and opened her gash as wide as it would go.
I saw a kidney but no lungs, I still fucked her though, for the effort.
The mr "
Funny way to talk to the doctor |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am too forward.
My profile outlines EXACTLY what I’m looking for and it’s pretty specific.
And I will back it up in DMs.
IYKYK "
They know who they are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In the past I have had women be totally forward about wanting sex, simply because they said so and one just came into my room and climbed into bed with me. They were all colleagues at the time.
Unfortunately, at the time I was engaged and had some modicum of morality. What I want to know is, where the hell are they now?
If a total stranger just said ‘come and fuck me’ on first message now, I’d probably laugh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Before a guy thinks no that's too much and too full on.
If a guy messages and I reply back with a compliment it's ok isn't it?
But if I reply back with 'oh I'd definitely take my knickers off for you' is that too much?
Or fuck me now! That's too much isn't it???
Guys what's too much??? Give examples."
A woman can never be too forward in a message say what you think best way |
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I'm not interested in sex for the sake of it and I've no wish to discuss sex with random strangers I've never met.
My preferences are stated very clearly on my profile so anyone thinking they can bypass that by being more forward will be disappointed.
I don't send messages so every conversation in the last 4 years has been initiated by someone else.
I've had well verified women be very forward and invite me to their homes after just a couple of messages.
They have given me their home address and/or phone numbers and I've refused every one of them because the impression that gave me was that I was nothing more than another cock on fab who might scratch an itch for them.
I'm all for self confidence but at least speak to be as a human being. |
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Ah the old pre social conditioning.
Oh, but the woman should be humble and modest to a man.
Oh, woman should not be seen or heard.
Oh a woman is there for a man's pleasure.
All total antiquated horse shit!!!
If a guy doesn't like a woman being forward and it's threatening his manhold. Fuck um. He's in the dark ages and he's definitely NOT the right guy!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You’ve heard the verdict guys
Be as forward as you want
FAF messages with dick pics attached
If she can’t handed you at your most forward she doesn’t deserve you
Her loss |
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Probably should have read the previous 88 answers but, you know…
No one can be too forward with me. If I’m not interested I’ll say so in the nicest or most appropriate way I can.
Otherwise it’s game on!!
Mr outie, meet Mrs innie.
Mrs innie, meet mr outie.
Now, play nicely. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"You’ve heard the verdict guys
Be as forward as you want
FAF messages with dick pics attached
If she can’t handed you at your most forward she doesn’t deserve you
Her loss "
I see no problem with that... as long as the sender (of whatever sex) doesn't get moody if they're ignored or kindly rejected |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Forward is fine as it's honest at least. However, there are a lot of fake profiles on here that act that way so people may be wary. Everyone is different but myself I prefer it straight and up front. |
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I'd rather a woman be forward than beat about the bush, and anythings better than hard to get. I'm more than happy to work for my prize, but throw me a bone and give me some kind of hint that I might get lucky. Instead of ignoring my 55 messages and blocking me  |
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"You’ve heard the verdict guys
Be as forward as you want
FAF messages with dick pics attached
If she can’t handed you at your most forward she doesn’t deserve you
Her loss "
Because that’s exactly what was said…  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't. "
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked! |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked! "
Maybe like that? |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked!
Maybe like that?"
What posh said! If it is fab related especially, be open like that. A little less. Subtle maybe if it's somebody in vanilla world! |
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked! "
Well that's the trick, when you like someone to get them to like you. Very difficult in the fake, internet world, much easier in real life.
Noone likes it too easy do they as it devalues the prize.
And if life was easy, we would all be driving Ferraris and running 4minute miles.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked!
Well that's the trick, when you like someone to get them to like you. Very difficult in the fake, internet world, much easier in real life.
Noone likes it too easy do they as it devalues the prize.
And if life was easy, we would all be driving Ferraris and running 4minute miles.
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On person is so much easier.
Over messages where the facial epressions, glint in the eye, the flirtatious tones are lost to the ether, I'm a bit stuck!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked!
Maybe like that?"
You can't always get the 'in' that you need though can you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Forward" makes me think of an Edwardian lady daring to show her wrists. It seems outdated and ridiculous in 2024 to judge women for having sexual confidence*
*But not me, as I don't have any |
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mmm, if you are too keen, guy will run one-time.
if he is interested, he would have let you know already.
Don't chase, as if you give it up for free, you will ultimalty feel bad about yourself.
But you might have your own rules of engagement.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not very
If your forward (to me) your either fake or desperate
Weird isn’t it? Guys complain about them never making a move, but when they do we don’t like it
Typically though, it tends to be if they are too forward before I’ve made a move
But also, if they make it too easy, that can stil be off putting "
Exactly this opposite for me.
I mean, meet me tonight is really just out of the sky first message. |
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked! "
Don't tell him, show him. |
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""Forward" makes me think of an Edwardian lady daring to show her wrists. It seems outdated and ridiculous in 2024 to judge women for having sexual confidence*
*But not me, as I don't have any"
I love this
Except the part where you don’t have confidence. We can work on that |
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked!
Don't tell him, show him. "
If a hot woman said to me "I'd love to get you naked" on here, I'd be buzzing. Be brave and just say it. As fantastic as this thread is, you don't need us. Be brave OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like them to be forward in terms of saying that they're interested in me would like the flirting to be left to imagination a bit. Women who are a bit full on too quickly or seem overly eager is a bit of a turn off for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""Forward" makes me think of an Edwardian lady daring to show her wrists. It seems outdated and ridiculous in 2024 to judge women for having sexual confidence*
*But not me, as I don't have any
I love this
Except the part where you don’t have confidence. We can work on that "
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"I like them to be forward in terms of saying that they're interested in me would like the flirting to be left to imagination a bit. Women who are a bit full on too quickly or seem overly eager is a bit of a turn off for me."
Passes a note ... lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Before a guy thinks no that's too much and too full on.
If a guy messages and I reply back with a compliment it's ok isn't it?
But if I reply back with 'oh I'd definitely take my knickers off for you' is that too much?
Or fuck me now! That's too much isn't it???
Guys what's too much??? Give examples."
Its whatever you are comfortable with..diferent guys will interpret differently |
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"Before a guy thinks no that's too much and too full on.
If a guy messages and I reply back with a compliment it's ok isn't it?
But if I reply back with 'oh I'd definitely take my knickers off for you' is that too much?
Or fuck me now! That's too much isn't it???
Guys what's too much??? Give examples."
Actually difficult to say with regards to this site. If one actually regards it for what most people would assume it to be; ie an anonymous hook up site, then nothing ought to be too much. Meet secretly and anonymously for what you want.
However, as we all know, there is a very vociferous group on here very quick to tell everyone “it’s a swingers site”. Vanilla rules ok. |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield |
I think it's fine to just be confident and say what you're thinking, so long as the context is appropriate. That said, I'd be very suspicious if I received a message from an attractive woman that pretty much only said she wanted to get me naked. It'd set my fake alarm ringing at full volume. After a bit of a chat, a few flirty messages, then it's probably OK (though I'd probably still suspect she was messaging the wrong guy by mistake  )
I was at a club last week, a woman who had been stood next to me turned and started talking to me. Younger, dressed in nice lingerie and rather overly fake tanned, she was not my type at all, in looks or character. She opened with "Hi. I'm soaking wet. I just squirted all over that guy's face..." and when I politely acknowledged it she carried on "Do you want to feel?" and took my wrist and put my hand on her crotch before I could react.
That, I'd say, was too forward (not to mention unwanted).
The poster above slipping her panties across the table, though, in the context, seemed like a sound call to me.
So long as it's appropriate, I don't think it's a problem. |
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There. Is. No. Rule.
Sexual harrrasment or assault, definitely not OK.
Anything else? Whatever you are comfortable with. If the other person welcomes the advance, game on. If not, nothing lost. Tying yourself in knots trying to second-guess others is a waste of energy.
Mrs TMN x |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"I like confident, forward, strong minded women tbh.
Why don't you just send the message instead of asking strangers, who have no clue.
Confidence is earned by doing the things most don't.
Well I kinda did but I'm still not sure how to say I'd really like to get him naked!
Maybe like that?
You can't always get the 'in' that you need though can you."
Just blurt. Then apologise. That's what I tend to do. In text and in person |
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"I don’t think there’s such a thing as too much. I guess there’s maybe such a thing as too much for a particular moment. Like … “Bend me over and take me now” would be a bit much for aisle three of Waitrose."
Whereas that would be perfectly acceptable if it was in Asda! |
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"Black.
Now why did I want to know that?  "
Well it's because you are letting me know you are reading my answers.
The question is, however, now that you have the attention of most of the men on the thread, have you received the response from the man you initally wanted?
The chase, the journeys are what we live for. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Black.
Now why did I want to know that?
Well it's because you are letting me know you are reading my answers.
The question is, however, now that you have the attention of most of the men on the thread, have you received the response from the man you initally wanted?
The chase, the journeys are what we live for."
I have, but he's too far! |
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"Black.
Now why did I want to know that?
Well it's because you are letting me know you are reading my answers.
The question is, however, now that you have the attention of most of the men on the thread, have you received the response from the man you initally wanted?
The chase, the journeys are what we live for.
I have, but he's too far! "
lol...we'll perhaps if dropped only site supporters, you may get a closer proposal or pm |
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I think woman being forward with what they want is refreshing and to be honest it’s what us guys are thinking anyway so break the ice and be as forward as you want ladies. I’m expecting my inbox to be flooded now with offers…. |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield |
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The question is, however, now that you have the attention of most of the men on the thread, have you received the response from the man you initally wanted?
The chase, the journeys are what we live for.
I have, but he's too far! "
I'm sure if you told him you wanted him naked he'd be able to find a solution to that minor geographical problem |
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By *ddie1966Man
over a year ago
Paper Town Central, Essex. |
Absolutely nothing wrong with a woman being forward, but as has been already said, change forward to being confident.
However, be prepared to also be declined.
It happens.
Don't be offended by it. |
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