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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it depends on what the terms are..I believe some like to have a playmate that doesnt play with others yet themselves will play around lol
Im not keen on fuckbuddies..and most of my return meets dont like it either..we remain free n easy lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's fair to say that irrespective of what some might say with regard to swinging, all sorts of relationships can be found here on and through Fab.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A friend with benefits?
That's what I wanted but soon realised there were down sides to that.. Some get jealous, demanding, and soon commitments creep in.
Just stick to fuck buddies and you can't go wrong !! |
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While your choice of playmate has to meet your requirements ( ie, what you fancy) then there will always be a certain level of feelings involved. You are having a close sexual time with a person you find attractive and actually 'fancy'.
Exactly the same as at the beginning of a vanilla relationship  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits x"
Each relationship is unique - I think it is possible to have one to give the benefits you are looking for without the commitments of being together all the time.  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"sex yes but go out have a drink and just keep seeing the one"
That's a boyfriend. I have an fb. We have socialised together but we meet others - and that is a deliberate decision on both our parts as neither of us want a 'relationship' just fun. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
" Like all relationships it hasn't been perfect. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, dont you think? "
He's 90% perfect. Just got to beat the imperfections out of him. Then I`d have to go out with him! Eek!  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"
Sounds like different people have a different concept of what makes somebody a boyfriend. Sounds like to you a boyfriend is somebody with whom you spend most or all of your free time?
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"
OK - just the way I see things. If you only see each other but do not live together it is a boyfriend. If you live together it is a partner. If you hook up regularly for sex and see other people, it's an fb. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"how hard is it to get a realtionship with no ties but with all the benefits xEach relationship is unique - I think it is possible to have one to give the benefits you are looking for without the commitments of being together all the time. "
Love the new profile pic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So what if you got with this "friend with benefits" would you see anyone else? How would you feel if they still fucked all and sundry and had multiple FBs ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A friend with benefits?
That's what I wanted but soon realised there were down sides to that.. Some get jealous, demanding, and soon commitments creep in.
Just stick to fuck buddies and you can't go wrong !!"
I'll be your fb anytime |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A friend with benefits?
That's what I wanted but soon realised there were down sides to that.. Some get jealous, demanding, and soon commitments creep in.
Just stick to fuck buddies and you can't go wrong !!
I'll be your fb anytime"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time
OK - just the way I see things. If you only see each other but do not live together it is a boyfriend. If you live together it is a partner. If you hook up regularly for sex and see other people, it's an fb."
Completely agree. OP good luck with your quest! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"definitely dont want a boyfriend ive no time for starters"
So what is your ideal scenario then ?
I think you need to spell it out because what you are asking seems a little confusing / mixed up to me but that is based on minimal information provided of what exactly it is you are looking for. |
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"definitely dont want a boyfriend ive no time for starters
So what is your ideal scenario then ?
I think you need to spell it out because what you are asking seems a little confusing / mixed up to me but that is based on minimal information provided of what exactly it is you are looking for."
+1 what Bussy said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"
Yes it is!
I was with my ex for 3 years, it was a long distance relationship, we didn't see each other a the time, but he was still my boyfriend.
To me it seems you are looking for a boyfriend not a fb, but you just aren't admitting it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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simple i just dont want sex with a gie i dont know id like to have a drink r maybe spend time before it and i dont want to have several me just one regular so we know what we r like and how we like things |
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i have a few fb it more then justsex and yes it is nsa it like having a best friend with sex and we all understand the relationship best of both worlds with out the shit of a relationship being controllign as i have had those and ended badly |
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"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time"
I think if your shagging, going out socially etc and not seeing other people then that is essentially a boyfriend. Just my opinion tho x |
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"Think men and women see strings differently. For me, strings feel like a control mechanism, I think men may see them as requiring to much attention.
How does everyone else see them?"
I see both of your examples as strings.
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"no it not a boyfrind if u dont see each other all the time
I think if your shagging, going out socially etc and not seeing other people then that is essentially a boyfriend. Just my opinion tho x "
Mine too! |
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"simple i just dont want sex with a gie i dont know id like to have a drink r maybe spend time before it and i dont want to have several me just one regular so we know what we r like and how we like things "
That's fine and good but the sticking partially be the not seeing anyone else. That's what makes it seen like it's something it's not.
I had an fb who I used to go out drinking with,he wowould cook for me etc but as it was just a casual thing I understood he would see other people. To me that's how fb's and friends with benefits work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is no need to put a label on it, no need to define it as buddies, boyfriend or partner. Just make sure the guys you meet are clear about what you're looking for.
Good luck - whatever you're looking for, I hope you find it!  |
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I have got an amazing friend who I have known for nearly ten years and we just happen to have sex now and again. It's a little weird if either of us get into a relationship as we have to back off obviously but apart from missing each other its all good  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a 'Friend' who I see when ever I can... Harder now I've moved back up north. We talk daily and go I to his and we spend the whole weekend talking,snoozing,cooking,chilling and yes we have sex sometimes. He is my best friend but he's not by Boyfriend x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a 'Friend' who I see when ever I can... Harder now I've moved back up north. We talk daily and go I to his and we spend the whole weekend talking,snoozing,cooking,chilling and yes we have sex sometimes. He is my best friend but he's not by Boyfriend x "
consider urself now dumped..I thought we were more than friends!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a 'Friend' who I see when ever I can... Harder now I've moved back up north. We talk daily and go I to his and we spend the whole weekend talking,snoozing,cooking,chilling and yes we have sex sometimes. He is my best friend but he's not by Boyfriend x
consider urself now dumped..I thought we were more than friends!!!!!!"
Ha ha I shall unpack my bag full of goodies then  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i dont mind if he sees other people im just not like that"
my scenario is: u agree to meet friday nites every week..great, he gets an offer for a fri nite shag from someone he's been after for ages..
do u
a)tell him to go for it(without giving it with hidden meaning)
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b)get annoyed and make a meal of it
Thats just my issies with 'regular' fuckbuddy meets...to me no strings means absolutely nostrings..Ive been pretty lucky with my re-meets they know im a slut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have raised a couple of threads on here that make me believe (and I more than happy to be proved wrong) that in swinging terms you are somewhat naive in your outlook.
You are looking for a partner (you may choose to adopt a different term), who you will be exclusive with, yet you don't expect him to be exclusive to you (yet I suspect you would like him to be).
You also want all the benefits of a relationship including the sexual and social elements, but without the boring stuff like working out what you're gonna pay first, the gas or the electric.
Now I am sorry but in my opinion, that amounts to dating.
Dating is not free of emotion and should never be free of emotion if it is to have any legs.
So despite your good intentions (and I am also sure that is what they are), I predict that should you be lucky to find a person that you believe fits the bill, you will at some point develop feelings for them.
The type of man you will attract will be unlikely to fit exactly what you have in mind and isn't likely to wanting to start to play ball when you do realise that you actually have feelings for him.
At that point, when you have shown your vulnerability and true feelings, he will cool things because you start coming on too strong.
Conversely, the opposite could be true and it is he who starts developing the feelings.
Either way, I do not see a happy ending.
Would you not be better getting to know a couple of guys via the site and spending both social and sexual times with them and seeing what, if anything, develops as opposed to having a set agenda from the outset ? |
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