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"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. " You cannot say thst someone is racist because they don't want you or other people that aren't of the type they like. That's like saying ageism is wrong because they only want a certain age group. Think your rant is totally unacceptable | |||
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"You seem a bit wound up OP" I'm wound up. But in the classic I want sex kind of way. | |||
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"Cor you’re on one today " If it rhymed it would make a great rap to be fair | |||
"Cor you’re on one today If it rhymed it would make a great rap to be fair " We can but Stan. J | |||
"Cor you’re on one today If it rhymed it would make a great rap to be fair " Ain’t nobody got time for that  | |||
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"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. You cannot say thst someone is racist because they don't want you or other people that aren't of the type they like. That's like saying ageism is wrong because they only want a certain age group. Think your rant is totally unacceptable " *** I meant certain things you don't put in the bio. I'm Caucasian by the way, but I know I don't look like it. Ignoring messages as no is good enough. | |||
"I’d take a long soak in the bath OP I love a good rant, but I save it for the appropriate thread. Making a thread to rant is a bit much If you have any Christmas chocolate left, now is the time to enjoy ot " I could not eat another bite. I’m dealing with so much indigestion and heartburn…. | |||
"Cor you’re on one today If it rhymed it would make a great rap to be fair We can but Stan. J" Problem is the only lines that rhyme are nice and nice... | |||
"Cor you’re on one today " Can I be on you….  | |||
"You seem a bit wound up OP I'm wound up. But in the classic I want sex kind of way. " *** It's not. I'm not even trying/looking in months. I'm not pissed off either. Totally calm today and for a while now. This thread is exactly going the way I expected it to go. Prove my point, but many still won't see it. | |||
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"You seem a bit wound up OP I'm wound up. But in the classic I want sex kind of way. *** It's not. I'm not even trying/looking in months. I'm not pissed off either. Totally calm today and for a while now. This thread is exactly going the way I expected it to go. Prove my point, but many still won't see it." People are allowed to disagree with you, you do know that don’t you? | |||
"You seem a bit wound up OP" *** Not at all | |||
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"I’d take a long soak in the bath OP I love a good rant, but I save it for the appropriate thread. Making a thread to rant is a bit much If you have any Christmas chocolate left, now is the time to enjoy ot I could not eat another bite. I’m dealing with so much indigestion and heartburn…. "It’s the same every year. I try to eat all the chocolate by jan 1st cuz I wanna start the year right, so I spend a week feeling sick because I have malteasers again for breakfast | |||
"You seem a bit wound up OP I'm wound up. But in the classic I want sex kind of way. *** It's not. I'm not even trying/looking in months. I'm not pissed off either. Totally calm today and for a while now. This thread is exactly going the way I expected it to go. Prove my point, but many still won't see it." Honestly I think a lot of us just don't take this as seriously | |||
"You seem a bit wound up OP I'm wound up. But in the classic I want sex kind of way. *** It's not. I'm not even trying/looking in months. I'm not pissed off either. Totally calm today and for a while now. This thread is exactly going the way I expected it to go. Prove my point, but many still won't see it." Roland, you seem nice enough most of the time but really needy. And wanting all the things you say you don't. Are you being honest here? J | |||
"I’d take a long soak in the bath OP I love a good rant, but I save it for the appropriate thread. Making a thread to rant is a bit much If you have any Christmas chocolate left, now is the time to enjoy ot I could not eat another bite. I’m dealing with so much indigestion and heartburn….
It’s the same every year. I try to eat all the chocolate by jan 1st cuz I wanna start the year right, so I spend a week feeling sick because I have malteasers again for breakfast "I walked into work this morning and as someone asked what I’d like to drink as they were growing up. I said a glass of red would be nice out of habit. | |||
"This seems like needing something to prove" *** That was my only point. It wasn't a rant. Different people will see different things in this. For example how some people almost never come to any of my threads. Hardly ever reply to me on threads. Yet, they think it's a rant. It will be drama. I'm hurt and pissed off, so they might take a jab or just get entertained. Ha ha. No. I'm totally calm and not disappointed in the reactions. Just shook the tree to see what's falling. | |||
"You seem a bit wound up OP I'm wound up. But in the classic I want sex kind of way. *** It's not. I'm not even trying/looking in months. I'm not pissed off either. Totally calm today and for a while now. This thread is exactly going the way I expected it to go. Prove my point, but many still won't see it. Honestly I think a lot of us just don't take this as seriously" *** That's not the only point I wanted to prove. I wanted to prove a silly point as well. | |||
"This seems like needing something to prove *** That was my only point. It wasn't a rant. Different people will see different things in this. For example how some people almost never come to any of my threads. Hardly ever reply to me on threads. Yet, they think it's a rant. It will be drama. I'm hurt and pissed off, so they might take a jab or just get entertained. Ha ha. No. I'm totally calm and not disappointed in the reactions. Just shook the tree to see what's falling." Your first mistake was responding to anyone saying your wound up This is an incredibly petty forum. I’ve seen people argue over nothing for 175 posts If all they can say is “you seem wound up” it means they either don’t understand or don’t have a rebuttal Take it as a W and go have a nice bath | |||
"You seem a bit wound up OP I'm wound up. But in the classic I want sex kind of way. *** It's not. I'm not even trying/looking in months. I'm not pissed off either. Totally calm today and for a while now. This thread is exactly going the way I expected it to go. Prove my point, but many still won't see it. Roland, you seem nice enough most of the time but really needy. And wanting all the things you say you don't. Are you being honest here? J" *** Wanting things is different. Honestly it has nothing to do with sex or my needs. Not even angry or disappointed. It's just another experiment with people. So far you are the only one who tried to ask a question without trying to offend/belittle me in a question already. Yet, we get on, but I wouldn't say we mix often on the forum. It shows something good about the real human you.  | |||
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"No one is on my level here that's why i haven't clicked with anyone in all the years I've been here " Lmao its always them - NEVER ME! | |||
"No one is on my level here that's why i haven't clicked with anyone in all the years I've been here Lmao its always them - NEVER ME! " well yes obviously  | |||
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"No one is on my level here that's why i haven't clicked with anyone in all the years I've been here Lmao its always them - NEVER ME! " you're missing my pont here I'm not saying anyone eles is and arsehole I'm saying I haven't clicked with anyone do you get that? Plenty of people think I'm a cunt but at the same time plenty of people love me fiercely get where this is going? | |||
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"I dunno about all this, man. I dunno. " Same innit  | |||
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"Im hungry" Do you want to share my maltesers? I got a big box | |||
"Im hungry Do you want to share my maltesers? I got a big box "If I have any more chocolate I'll throw up. Just a handful please. | |||
"This seems like needing something to prove *** That was my only point. It wasn't a rant. Different people will see different things in this. For example how some people almost never come to any of my threads. Hardly ever reply to me on threads. Yet, they think it's a rant. It will be drama. I'm hurt and pissed off, so they might take a jab or just get entertained. Ha ha. No. I'm totally calm and not disappointed in the reactions. Just shook the tree to see what's falling. Your first mistake was responding to anyone saying your wound up This is an incredibly petty forum. I’ve seen people argue over nothing for 175 posts If all they can say is “you seem wound up” it means they either don’t understand or don’t have a rebuttal Take it as a W and go have a nice bath " *** It will be my 3rd thread got full. 1 was Metallica Vs Iron Maiden. Don't remember the other, but someone had a go with me about something small. Some joined especially when they've seen it's upsetting me too much. *** I selected it a bit more this time, but not upset at all. * * Seem a bit of single guy whining * Take a jab on some of the real NICE ones * Write my real opinion about what's worse in a profile than a dick pic. * What's my opinion about double standards on the Forum. Not doing anything else on Fab really. * Plus I put my well unliked person in the mix. Half of those don't even know/ remember why they don't like me. But XY says thinks I am, then I must be a dick. * Also, the faces hardly show up on my threads, unless they think I'm angry/upset/hurt. * Just wanted reactions without me being upset at all. I didn't deceiv or lie. | |||
"No one is on my level here that's why i haven't clicked with anyone in all the years I've been here Lmao its always them - NEVER ME! you're missing my pont here I'm not saying anyone eles is and arsehole I'm saying I haven't clicked with anyone do you get that? Plenty of people think I'm a cunt but at the same time plenty of people love me fiercely get where this is going?" Why don't you think you haven't clicked with anyone? Nice bod fyi x | |||
"No one is on my level here that's why i haven't clicked with anyone in all the years I've been here Lmao its always them - NEVER ME! you're missing my pont here I'm not saying anyone eles is and arsehole I'm saying I haven't clicked with anyone do you get that? Plenty of people think I'm a cunt but at the same time plenty of people love me fiercely get where this is going? Why don't you think you haven't clicked with anyone? Nice bod fyi x " not sure exactly. Thank you | |||
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"Im hungry Do you want to share my maltesers? I got a big box
If I have any more chocolate I'll throw up.
Just a handful please.
"No problem. I’ll send half a box over | |||
"No one is on my level here that's why i haven't clicked with anyone in all the years I've been here Lmao its always them - NEVER ME! you're missing my pont here I'm not saying anyone eles is and arsehole I'm saying I haven't clicked with anyone do you get that? Plenty of people think I'm a cunt but at the same time plenty of people love me fiercely get where this is going? Why don't you think you haven't clicked with anyone? Nice bod fyi x not sure exactly. Thank you " Welcome x | |||
"Im hungry" *** So am I. Too much work to be the hooligan here. What are you eating? | |||
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"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. You cannot say thst someone is racist because they don't want you or other people that aren't of the type they like. That's like saying ageism is wrong because they only want a certain age group. Think your rant is totally unacceptable *** I meant certain things you don't put in the bio. I'm Caucasian by the way, but I know I don't look like it. Ignoring messages as no is good enough." Nobody is obliged to reply and most times its because what's in the initial message that fails to get a response | |||
"It's traditionally a time if reflection for a lot of us at this time of year. I guess that's what you're doing op. I think nearly everyone on here sets their fairest face to the world and will temper their responses according to who they're talking to. It's very rare that people are exactly the same with everyone. I try to be but I know I'm not it's just too darn difficult to be even handed all the time." *** Thank you! That's exactly what I was trying to do with imitating drama. Didn't break any rules though. Did I? Just added some past experiences, some against my principles, plus my well liked personality. Honestly think half of them don't know what is their issue really. Just following someone...etc. * I will share my social experiment with you after 175, if you want. Some people steps away, some offends, some confirms they dislike, some being nice, some being rude, | |||
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"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. You cannot say thst someone is racist because they don't want you or other people that aren't of the type they like. That's like saying ageism is wrong because they only want a certain age group. Think your rant is totally unacceptable *** I meant certain things you don't put in the bio. I'm Caucasian by the way, but I know I don't look like it. Ignoring messages as no is good enough. Nobody is obliged to reply and most times its because what's in the initial message that fails to get a response " *** I meant you don't need to specify the race preference. Just don't reply to the messages. Isn't that a better option? It's not about me. | |||
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"Re read it again. Can only see thoughts, reasons excuses and calling out behaviours Can only answer the question am I nice? With I'd like to think so. answering am i lying? With the question what would I be lying about?" *** Most won't read it. They just see my name. Read some of the comments, then getting popcorn. No, there won't be any drama from my part. Pathetic things is 1 guy admitting he's odd and nobody matched to his level yet. He kind of got attacked unnecessarily. I'm expecting the Christmas spirit is still there somewhere, but why people are being horrible to others for no reason. Most of my threads die with a few comments. I don't care really. I'm not doing it for popularity. This one was an obvious crap looking thread from the title already. Why people love any shit (fake) drama? Why would try to offend deeply strangers they have never met? I mean honestly I've never wrote clearly offensive to anyone here ever. I have some bad jokes still within the lines. Twice I didn't read the thread properly, and commented crap because of it. I apologised straight away when someone pointed it out. So not sure why the hate really. I'm weird? Avoid me/Ignore me I'm ugly? Don't look at me. You think I was rude to you? Send a PM or point it out without belittling me. | |||
"Cor you’re on one today " Today?????????? Phew.!! T | |||
"The thing is, attempting to change someone's mind, or trying to get them to see things how you see them can be like fighting a battle you won't win. " *** I'm Don Quixote. | |||
"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. You cannot say thst someone is racist because they don't want you or other people that aren't of the type they like. That's like saying ageism is wrong because they only want a certain age group. Think your rant is totally unacceptable " Here here | |||
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"I understood the question in the subject and beginning. I'm lost with the rest. What is it that you are actually asking or saying? T" *** It's a pretend rant for all the real reasons/experiences. Just to show how NICE people are behaving slightly after Christmas. Can't even have a calm debate without being offensive or la la la I can't hear you, I'm right about this. How an absolutely shit thread can survive this long from an unpopular person. You can't motivate/force people to change their minds about things they don't like. Even if they don't remember why. How all the cool ones gather when seemingly some drama there. I've never seen them all on any of my threads before. Plus many more things, but I won't comment on those publicly. I intend to be here in the next 48hours. I'm absolutely calm. It was for the show, but I wrote my true opinion there. Kind of rushed it, but some got my point. | |||
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"I understood the question in the subject and beginning. I'm lost with the rest. What is it that you are actually asking or saying? T *** It's a pretend rant for all the real reasons/experiences. Just to show how NICE people are behaving slightly after Christmas. Can't even have a calm debate without being offensive or la la la I can't hear you, I'm right about this. How an absolutely shit thread can survive this long from an unpopular person. You can't motivate/force people to change their minds about things they don't like. Even if they don't remember why. How all the cool ones gather when seemingly some drama there. I've never seen them all on any of my threads before. Plus many more things, but I won't comment on those publicly. I intend to be here in the next 48hours. I'm absolutely calm. It was for the show, but I wrote my true opinion there. Kind of rushed it, but some got my point. " See this is why I find this like this one difficult. You say above you're unpopular. Why? Why do you have that opinion? What makes someone popular on an Internet forum where all can comment if they like ? It just strikes me as a thread designed to cause unpleasantness and potential conflict. | |||
"I'm utterly confused by this thread "Same. | |||
"I'm utterly confused by this thread
Same. "Glad it's not just me!! Lol | |||
"How all the cool ones gather when seemingly some drama there. I've never seen them all on any of my threads before." Ooh. Who's on the cool list? | |||
"How all the cool ones gather when seemingly some drama there. I've never seen them all on any of my threads before. Ooh. Who's on the cool list?" The Cool Brothers… Big Daddy Cool… Momma Cool… | |||
"I understood the question in the subject and beginning. I'm lost with the rest. What is it that you are actually asking or saying? T *** It's a pretend rant for all the real reasons/experiences. Just to show how NICE people are behaving slightly after Christmas. Can't even have a calm debate without being offensive or la la la I can't hear you, I'm right about this. How an absolutely shit thread can survive this long from an unpopular person. You can't motivate/force people to change their minds about things they don't like. Even if they don't remember why. How all the cool ones gather when seemingly some drama there. I've never seen them all on any of my threads before. Plus many more things, but I won't comment on those publicly. I intend to be here in the next 48hours. I'm absolutely calm. It was for the show, but I wrote my true opinion there. Kind of rushed it, but some got my point. See this is why I find this like this one difficult. You say above you're unpopular. Why? Why do you have that opinion? What makes someone popular on an Internet forum where all can comment if they like ? It just strikes me as a thread designed to cause unpleasantness and potential conflict. " *** That was 1 of the point of this thread, but I'm not a shit stirrer ever. Seems like I'm not too bad with it. It was the point, but not the reason. * I have a weird humor, but apologize/ explain, if/when pointed out. I move in the grey area often. Call people out on generally wrong things. Defending people who I don't even know, simply because I don't like double standards. It's not good for my popularity, but some things are more important, so can't just stand by silent, because that will cause trouble. | |||
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"Imho op there’s more here than just a rant not a rant my humor is weird thread so if you need to vent your spleen off of the public forums then feel free to message me in a non friend non sexual kind of way. I’m a good listener (reader) and I’m very free and loose with my opinions. I also miss my kids but luckily not my wife so I’m here if you need a shoulder. Have fun op. T" **** Thank you very much. Honestly I'm fine and it wasn't a rant. I wanted it to look like one, so I guess I managed that. | |||
"Imho op there’s more here than just a rant not a rant my humor is weird thread so if you need to vent your spleen off of the public forums then feel free to message me in a non friend non sexual kind of way. I’m a good listener (reader) and I’m very free and loose with my opinions. I also miss my kids but luckily not my wife so I’m here if you need a shoulder. Have fun op. T **** Thank you very much. Honestly I'm fine and it wasn't a rant. I wanted it to look like one, so I guess I managed that." No pretty much the same as all your other threads but hey ho. T | |||
" Are you pretending and lying here?" I’m not a nice person. Selfish. Arrogant. Stuck up. Misogynistic. Also a liar | |||
"The thing is, attempting to change someone's mind, or trying to get them to see things how you see them can be like fighting a battle you won't win. *** I'm Don Quixote. "But do you like Manchego? Are you full of fantasies about chivalry? Is La Mancha where you’re from? Who is bringing the witty humour of Sancho Panza? If no to any of these, you’re the fake one. | |||
"Imho op there’s more here than just a rant not a rant my humor is weird thread so if you need to vent your spleen off of the public forums then feel free to message me in a non friend non sexual kind of way. I’m a good listener (reader) and I’m very free and loose with my opinions. I also miss my kids but luckily not my wife so I’m here if you need a shoulder. Have fun op. T"  I like when members of the community offer each other this. Warms my cold little NY heart. | |||
"I understood the question in the subject and beginning. I'm lost with the rest. What is it that you are actually asking or saying? T *** It's a pretend rant for all the real reasons/experiences. Just to show how NICE people are behaving slightly after Christmas. Can't even have a calm debate without being offensive or la la la I can't hear you, I'm right about this. How an absolutely shit thread can survive this long from an unpopular person. You can't motivate/force people to change their minds about things they don't like. Even if they don't remember why. How all the cool ones gather when seemingly some drama there. I've never seen them all on any of my threads before. Plus many more things, but I won't comment on those publicly. I intend to be here in the next 48hours. I'm absolutely calm. It was for the show, but I wrote my true opinion there. Kind of rushed it, but some got my point. " I don't see you as unpopular. Simple fact of the internet though, you put something abrasive up - even as tongue in cheek - then you will cause friction in interpretation. Also I am as nice as fuck, me. I proper disgust myself. | |||
"The thing is, attempting to change someone's mind, or trying to get them to see things how you see them can be like fighting a battle you won't win. *** I'm Don Quixote.
But do you like Manchego? Are you full of fantasies about chivalry? Is La Mancha where you’re from? Who is bringing the witty humour of Sancho Panza? If no to any of these, you’re the fake one. "*** I was actually bullied/teased Sancho Panza when I was a kid. My surname sounds really similar to Sancho. | |||
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"Surely it's better to have your "preferences"'listed so you don't waste your time and energy on them? I don't think it's fair to call everyone with a preference a racist. If you aren't sexually attracted there is no point receiving messages from that particular group. " *** " Whites only" in profiles makes me gag and reach for the block button. I am actually technically White (Caucasian), but still find it disgusting. Of course it can be your preference, but putting it out like this is shocking. There are many much less upsetting things people don't list, because it's rude. I've seen profiles with "No small dicks". It is kind of rude way to put it, but it's a Swinger/Fuck site. I've seen some profiles with "No fat women/men". Many people thinks it's rude, but still more acceptable than "Whites only". Again I'm Caucasian/White, so it's not about me. Just ignore the message, if your preference is white and they are not. Women don't seem to have an issue with that for much less. I think it's disgusting in 2023. Reminding me to the toilets in 50's Mississippi. I'm sorry, if I upset any Klan/BNP members with this. | |||
"Surely it's better to have your "preferences"'listed so you don't waste your time and energy on them? I don't think it's fair to call everyone with a preference a racist. If you aren't sexually attracted there is no point receiving messages from that particular group. *** " Whites only" in profiles makes me gag and reach for the block button. I am actually technically White (Caucasian), but still find it disgusting. Of course it can be your preference, but putting it out like this is shocking. There are many much less upsetting things people don't list, because it's rude. I've seen profiles with "No small dicks". It is kind of rude way to put it, but it's a Swinger/Fuck site. I've seen some profiles with "No fat women/men". Many people thinks it's rude, but still more acceptable than "Whites only". Again I'm Caucasian/White, so it's not about me. Just ignore the message, if your preference is white and they are not. Women don't seem to have an issue with that for much less. I think it's disgusting in 2023. Reminding me to the toilets in 50's Mississippi. I'm sorry, if I upset any Klan/BNP members with this. " As I’ve never seen a toilet in Mississippi in the 1950s, do share how you’re reminded of the toilets on Fab, please. Is it the non said no blacks intention of it? I’m truly curious how your brain has gone to this comparison. Tbh, I’ve never been with a black person but wouldn’t think to ever put that on my profile as in state no non whites but that’s just me. I’m technically, half white but the majority of people would not assume I am or have any inclination, but that’s neither here nor there. | |||
"Surely it's better to have your "preferences"'listed so you don't waste your time and energy on them? I don't think it's fair to call everyone with a preference a racist. If you aren't sexually attracted there is no point receiving messages from that particular group. *** " Whites only" in profiles makes me gag and reach for the block button. I am actually technically White (Caucasian), but still find it disgusting. Of course it can be your preference, but putting it out like this is shocking. There are many much less upsetting things people don't list, because it's rude. I've seen profiles with "No small dicks". It is kind of rude way to put it, but it's a Swinger/Fuck site. I've seen some profiles with "No fat women/men". Many people thinks it's rude, but still more acceptable than "Whites only". Again I'm Caucasian/White, so it's not about me. Just ignore the message, if your preference is white and they are not. Women don't seem to have an issue with that for much less. I think it's disgusting in 2023. Reminding me to the toilets in 50's Mississippi. I'm sorry, if I upset any Klan/BNP members with this. " Oh ffs. That last paragraph?! Wtf has happened to this place! | |||
"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. You cannot say thst someone is racist because they don't want you or other people that aren't of the type they like. That's like saying ageism is wrong because they only want a certain age group. Think your rant is totally unacceptable " Ofcourse he can. If he feels people have specific race preferences are racist, he is entitled to feel that way and discuss it if he wishes to. You don't have to agree or acknowledge it at all. That's the beauty of opinions. He can have his, you can have yours. | |||
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"Roland, are you ok today? I'm not sure I'm following what is going on, my bad there. Sometimes you just have to let things go and move on. Some will like you and some won't. This is just life. Some will be nice and some won't. Even the nicest of person could be having a bad day and make a mean comment or flippant reply. It is best not to take it to heart. Hugs my friend, all will be well MrsAbz " *** Thanks, but I'm okay. It's just a thread for reactions and bringing out the real themselves. | |||
"Roland, are you ok today? I'm not sure I'm following what is going on, my bad there. Sometimes you just have to let things go and move on. Some will like you and some won't. This is just life. Some will be nice and some won't. Even the nicest of person could be having a bad day and make a mean comment or flippant reply. It is best not to take it to heart. Hugs my friend, all will be well MrsAbz *** Thanks, but I'm okay. It's just a thread for reactions and bringing out the real themselves." So what does that achieve? You hoping for a public stoning/slating to someone who may not agree with you? That’s nice | |||
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"Roland, are you ok today? I'm not sure I'm following what is going on, my bad there. Sometimes you just have to let things go and move on. Some will like you and some won't. This is just life. Some will be nice and some won't. Even the nicest of person could be having a bad day and make a mean comment or flippant reply. It is best not to take it to heart. Hugs my friend, all will be well MrsAbz *** Thanks, but I'm okay. It's just a thread for reactions and bringing out the real themselves." Ok, if you're sure you are fine then. I am gonna pop off this thread as I don't really know what is going on. Hugs MrsAbz | |||
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"Roland, are you ok today? I'm not sure I'm following what is going on, my bad there. Sometimes you just have to let things go and move on. Some will like you and some won't. This is just life. Some will be nice and some won't. Even the nicest of person could be having a bad day and make a mean comment or flippant reply. It is best not to take it to heart. Hugs my friend, all will be well MrsAbz *** Thanks, but I'm okay. It's just a thread for reactions and bringing out the real themselves. Ok, if you're sure you are fine then. I am gonna pop off this thread as I don't really know what is going on. Hugs MrsAbz " *** Probably it's better you don't. Bye | |||
"It's honestly worse than I thought. Racism is bad on any levels. The 3rd person called me disgusting to compare racism to racism. I finished with all the comments on this thread probably. " Seriously. How can you compare what happened in mississippi to someone's preference on their profile. I await your response | |||
"It's honestly worse than I thought. Racism is bad on any levels. The 3rd person called me disgusting to compare racism to racism. I finished with all the comments on this thread probably. " It seems as though you're reading everything through the lens of what you expect, not necessarily what is actually being written. I'm sorry you don't seem to be enjoying the forum, or fab, or something, though. | |||
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"Basically you started a thread and it didn't go as you expected. Not sure what you expected" *** Many things, but not this. | |||
"Roland. If you fill up your own thread the mods don't like it. Just walk away for a bit xx" *** Thanks for the advice. | |||
"see op didn't come back to answer my question *** Because I don't want to. I don't need to. Can't see the point anymore. I walk away from this. Taking it to the chin. Next time I will think twice, before I open this gate. Funnily about 3 people got my point. The rest only thought I'm having a bad day, upset because XYZ don't want me, I'm needy, I'm calling everyone racist...etc. Nobody backed me up on anything. I think 1 person kind of, but didn't like my way of presenting. I'm not 100% calm anymore, so I leave it like this. Walking away from this 1 sided debate. " As I said, it comes across as really needy if you throw your toys out when it doesn't go like you'd hoped. If it was truly an experiment you wouldn't give a shit. You're lucky that people were concerned that you were upset/having a bad day, it's more than a lot get on here. J | |||
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"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** " I try to be nice, and if I find it too tough, to say nothing. " Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. " This seems rather defensive, no one knows what people really think of them on an open forum, and many people just don't make a comment if they've nothing pertinent to say. " I give what I get. " That's not always the best way. Fighting fire with fire rarely works (except in some brush and forest fire type situations). Fight fire with water. Be opposite to the people giving grief. Just an idea. " Nice to people nice to me. " That's good. " Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. " So you don't call out bullying? Or you do? " Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. " I think we would all like to think we treat people the same or how they treat us, but actually most people don't do that across the board. How we react to and act towards people depends on a lot of variables. " Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. " That's both useful and thoughtful. But here, several people have said they don't understand what you're saying, and you've become defensive. Maybe you could have explained better? " Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. " Many people do... many don't. " I have a weird humour. " I've not noticed but humour is good. " This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * " It's good to explain that. Thanks. " Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. " I don't think that's true. I I think it comes down to wording and intent. But if that's how you feel, use it as a filter. " You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * " That's a can of worms I'm not going near! " Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** " Doesn't this kind of contradict your comment about racism? Surely it can be taken as homophobia and therefore shouldn't be done, much as a comment about race in a profile could be taken as racism and shouldn't be made? " People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * " True " Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * " Also true. " Pretty woman/couple profile rating. " I don't understand that. " Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** " It is good you're standing up for your views. Not good that you got attacked for it and that's not fair, is in fact bullying. " I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. " That's good. I don't think you're "the" "Wrong Un". Or particularly weird. Happy fabbing. | |||
"see op didn't come back to answer my question *** Because I don't want to. I don't need to. Can't see the point anymore. I walk away from this. Taking it to the chin. Next time I will think twice, before I open this gate. Funnily about 3 people got my point. The rest only thought I'm having a bad day, upset because XYZ don't want me, I'm needy, I'm calling everyone racist...etc. Nobody backed me up on anything. I think 1 person kind of, but didn't like my way of presenting. I'm not 100% calm anymore, so I leave it like this. Walking away from this 1 sided debate. As I said, it comes across as really needy if you throw your toys out when it doesn't go like you'd hoped. If it was truly an experiment you wouldn't give a shit. You're lucky that people were concerned that you were upset/having a bad day, it's more than a lot get on here. J" *** As I said I wasn't pissed off at all. Until the 3rd person called my compression of racist toilet signs to "whites only" on profiles. Probably it wasn't a good example, but I had good intentions for a good reason. It just doesn't seem anyone cares really. It wasn't about me really. It was about how NICE are people slightly after Christmas. More like in action, rather than words. I know it's all written, but I'm sure you know what I meant. For awhile I was: " Okay, sure. No surprise, I knew it." "That's a bit shocking, but oh well." Now I'm just shocked how it has become about me alone with an imaginary tantrum, a bad day (now yes), (questionable) "preferences". I explained a few times I just put something (still true) there to get reactions. I was expecting most like what I got, but not really all. My weirdness/dislikes got into the way of the point I was intended to push through. I wasn't clear enough either probably, but then I wouldn't have real reactions. | |||
"OK... so I'm going back to the OP and answering every point. I hope that might make things a little better for you, Roland. Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** I try to be nice, and if I find it too tough, to say nothing. * ***I've never put you anywhere exactly. Not sure you like me or not. Doesn't really matter, because you always treated me nice or at least okay. I would say I give that back in my way.*** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. This seems rather defensive, no one knows what people really think of them on an open forum, and many people just don't make a comment if they've nothing pertinent to say. * *** I slightly disagree. I would be naive to think that most people like me here. There's some proof on this thread. I have much different traits than you in many meaning, which means different personal experiences. It doesn't mean you are wrong, just can't apply your experiences to me. I give what I get. That's not always the best way. Fighting fire with fire rarely works (except in some brush and forest fire type situations). Fight fire with water. Be opposite to the people giving grief. Just an idea. *It meant to be together with "Nice to people nice to me". It just means I don't make extra effort to fake like people openly dislike me. It doesn't mean I go and call them off why they dislike me. Occasionally I leave a sarcastic comment on their be nice threads, but nothing offensive. * Nice to people nice to me. That's good. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. So you don't call out bullying? Or you do? * ***I try to avoid bullies, but call out bullying. Usually I ending up bullied, but still worth it. My heart is in the right place, but I never said I'm choosing the smart or easy way.*** Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. I think we would all like to think we treat people the same or how they treat us, but actually most people don't do that across the board. How we react to and act towards people depends on a lot of variables. * *** I meant if you are nice to me, then I will be nice to you because of that. Not because of you are: Popular, pretty, regular, newbie, any race, any sexuality, any gender and between, any kinks, single, married, cheating...etc. It's a public forum on a fuck site. Not church, court, judges...etc. *** Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. That's both useful and thoughtful. But here, several people have said they don't understand what you're saying, and you've become defensive. Maybe you could have explained better? * ****I explained it to the ones asked nicely. Not to the once: That's disgusting, bad, clearly you do. Do you?...etc. They made up their mind already. I don't mind to debate. Quite passionate about a good debate actually. There's always a middle ground. I hate arguments. Especially when all/most against one.*** Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. Many people do... many don't. I have a weird humour. I've not noticed but humour is good. * *** Quite often the reason people think I'm rude or negative. I'm working on it. I wasn't involved in any drama before Christmas for a long time. Kind of made my joke to people like/tolerate me. That's backfired the other day.*** This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * It's good to explain that. Thanks. * ***Explanation will cause more harm than good with some.*** Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. I don't think that's true. I I think it comes down to wording and intent. But if that's how you feel, use it as a filter. * *** Yes, it can be made less shocking. I still dislike it. If someone's asking for what's wrong with their profile, then I will point it out. If they try to convince me it's good, then I block them. Racism is bad. Racism and hypocrisy is worse. So I call them out on threads. Not messaging them or anything.**** You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * That's a can of worms I'm not going near! * *** You can ignore any guy's/ girl's messages. No need to specify the race."*** Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** Doesn't this kind of contradict your comment about racism? Surely it can be taken as homophobia and therefore shouldn't be done, much as a comment about race in a profile could be taken as racism and shouldn't be made? * *** It was banter with a regular. We've done this kind of jokes before. I'm bisexual and he's straight by the way. Then someone bumped into it ...etc. Not sure how I could be homophobe when I'm bisexual. Weird joke? Yes.*** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * True Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Also true. Pretty woman/couple profile rating. I don't understand that. ***It's related to the profile rating where profile contained that "preference". Must have slipped away during editing the thread.*** Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** It is good you're standing up for your views. Not good that you got attacked for it and that's not fair, is in fact bullying. * *** It happens every single time. No matter how nice I say it. Still doing it. Can't help it. Not sure it's smart, but....*** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. That's good. I don't think you're "the" "Wrong Un". Or particularly weird. * *** It was written on this forum from someone actually I liked. Then someone bumped in who I also liked before. I know. Blocked them. Avoiding them.*** Happy fabbing." *** Now this was the nicest thing anyone ever done here. * Made me feel better * Helped me explain myself * Showed someone cares about serious things, without taking any sides really * Helped get rid of the above faster Thanks Fluffy! You are awesome!
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"OK... so I'm going back to the OP and answering every point. I hope that might make things a little better for you, Roland. Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** I try to be nice, and if I find it too tough, to say nothing. * ***I've never put you anywhere exactly. Not sure you like me or not. Doesn't really matter, because you always treated me nice or at least okay. I would say I give that back in my way.*** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. This seems rather defensive, no one knows what people really think of them on an open forum, and many people just don't make a comment if they've nothing pertinent to say. * *** I slightly disagree. I would be naive to think that most people like me here. There's some proof on this thread. I have much different traits than you in many meaning, which means different personal experiences. It doesn't mean you are wrong, just can't apply your experiences to me. I give what I get. That's not always the best way. Fighting fire with fire rarely works (except in some brush and forest fire type situations). Fight fire with water. Be opposite to the people giving grief. Just an idea. *It meant to be together with "Nice to people nice to me". It just means I don't make extra effort to fake like people openly dislike me. It doesn't mean I go and call them off why they dislike me. Occasionally I leave a sarcastic comment on their be nice threads, but nothing offensive. * Nice to people nice to me. That's good. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. So you don't call out bullying? Or you do? * ***I try to avoid bullies, but call out bullying. Usually I ending up bullied, but still worth it. My heart is in the right place, but I never said I'm choosing the smart or easy way.*** Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. I think we would all like to think we treat people the same or how they treat us, but actually most people don't do that across the board. How we react to and act towards people depends on a lot of variables. * *** I meant if you are nice to me, then I will be nice to you because of that. Not because of you are: Popular, pretty, regular, newbie, any race, any sexuality, any gender and between, any kinks, single, married, cheating...etc. It's a public forum on a fuck site. Not church, court, judges...etc. *** Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. That's both useful and thoughtful. But here, several people have said they don't understand what you're saying, and you've become defensive. Maybe you could have explained better? * ****I explained it to the ones asked nicely. Not to the once: That's disgusting, bad, clearly you do. Do you?...etc. They made up their mind already. I don't mind to debate. Quite passionate about a good debate actually. There's always a middle ground. I hate arguments. Especially when all/most against one.*** Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. Many people do... many don't. I have a weird humour. I've not noticed but humour is good. * *** Quite often the reason people think I'm rude or negative. I'm working on it. I wasn't involved in any drama before Christmas for a long time. Kind of made my joke to people like/tolerate me. That's backfired the other day.*** This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * It's good to explain that. Thanks. * ***Explanation will cause more harm than good with some.*** Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. I don't think that's true. I I think it comes down to wording and intent. But if that's how you feel, use it as a filter. * *** Yes, it can be made less shocking. I still dislike it. If someone's asking for what's wrong with their profile, then I will point it out. If they try to convince me it's good, then I block them. Racism is bad. Racism and hypocrisy is worse. So I call them out on threads. Not messaging them or anything.**** You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * That's a can of worms I'm not going near! * *** You can ignore any guy's/ girl's messages. No need to specify the race."*** Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** Doesn't this kind of contradict your comment about racism? Surely it can be taken as homophobia and therefore shouldn't be done, much as a comment about race in a profile could be taken as racism and shouldn't be made? * *** It was banter with a regular. We've done this kind of jokes before. I'm bisexual and he's straight by the way. Then someone bumped into it ...etc. Not sure how I could be homophobe when I'm bisexual. Weird joke? Yes.*** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * True Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Also true. Pretty woman/couple profile rating. I don't understand that. ***It's related to the profile rating where profile contained that "preference". Must have slipped away during editing the thread.*** Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** It is good you're standing up for your views. Not good that you got attacked for it and that's not fair, is in fact bullying. * *** It happens every single time. No matter how nice I say it. Still doing it. Can't help it. Not sure it's smart, but....*** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. That's good. I don't think you're "the" "Wrong Un". Or particularly weird. * *** It was written on this forum from someone actually I liked. Then someone bumped in who I also liked before. I know. Blocked them. Avoiding them.*** Happy fabbing. *** Now this was the nicest thing anyone ever done here. * Made me feel better * Helped me explain myself * Showed someone cares about serious things, without taking any sides really * Helped get rid of the above faster Thanks Fluffy! You are awesome!
This kind of area should be your job, if it isn't yet.
Thanks for your input.
"*********** I'm so sorry NotSoPosh. I don't know where I read Fluffy. *** Thanks for you. You are always mega nice. Not to regular recently unfortunately. Obviously that was all for you, not Fluffy. Now probably you think I'm weird. | |||
"OK... so I'm going back to the OP and answering every point. I hope that might make things a little better for you, Roland. Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** I try to be nice, and if I find it too tough, to say nothing. * ***I've never put you anywhere exactly. Not sure you like me or not. Doesn't really matter, because you always treated me nice or at least okay. I would say I give that back in my way.*** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. This seems rather defensive, no one knows what people really think of them on an open forum, and many people just don't make a comment if they've nothing pertinent to say. * *** I slightly disagree. I would be naive to think that most people like me here. There's some proof on this thread. I have much different traits than you in many meaning, which means different personal experiences. It doesn't mean you are wrong, just can't apply your experiences to me. I give what I get. That's not always the best way. Fighting fire with fire rarely works (except in some brush and forest fire type situations). Fight fire with water. Be opposite to the people giving grief. Just an idea. *It meant to be together with "Nice to people nice to me". It just means I don't make extra effort to fake like people openly dislike me. It doesn't mean I go and call them off why they dislike me. Occasionally I leave a sarcastic comment on their be nice threads, but nothing offensive. * Nice to people nice to me. That's good. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. So you don't call out bullying? Or you do? * ***I try to avoid bullies, but call out bullying. Usually I ending up bullied, but still worth it. My heart is in the right place, but I never said I'm choosing the smart or easy way.*** Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. I think we would all like to think we treat people the same or how they treat us, but actually most people don't do that across the board. How we react to and act towards people depends on a lot of variables. * *** I meant if you are nice to me, then I will be nice to you because of that. Not because of you are: Popular, pretty, regular, newbie, any race, any sexuality, any gender and between, any kinks, single, married, cheating...etc. It's a public forum on a fuck site. Not church, court, judges...etc. *** Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. That's both useful and thoughtful. But here, several people have said they don't understand what you're saying, and you've become defensive. Maybe you could have explained better? * ****I explained it to the ones asked nicely. Not to the once: That's disgusting, bad, clearly you do. Do you?...etc. They made up their mind already. I don't mind to debate. Quite passionate about a good debate actually. There's always a middle ground. I hate arguments. Especially when all/most against one.*** Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. Many people do... many don't. I have a weird humour. I've not noticed but humour is good. * *** Quite often the reason people think I'm rude or negative. I'm working on it. I wasn't involved in any drama before Christmas for a long time. Kind of made my joke to people like/tolerate me. That's backfired the other day.*** This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * It's good to explain that. Thanks. * ***Explanation will cause more harm than good with some.*** Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. I don't think that's true. I I think it comes down to wording and intent. But if that's how you feel, use it as a filter. * *** Yes, it can be made less shocking. I still dislike it. If someone's asking for what's wrong with their profile, then I will point it out. If they try to convince me it's good, then I block them. Racism is bad. Racism and hypocrisy is worse. So I call them out on threads. Not messaging them or anything.**** You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * That's a can of worms I'm not going near! * *** You can ignore any guy's/ girl's messages. No need to specify the race."*** Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** Doesn't this kind of contradict your comment about racism? Surely it can be taken as homophobia and therefore shouldn't be done, much as a comment about race in a profile could be taken as racism and shouldn't be made? * *** It was banter with a regular. We've done this kind of jokes before. I'm bisexual and he's straight by the way. Then someone bumped into it ...etc. Not sure how I could be homophobe when I'm bisexual. Weird joke? Yes.*** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * True Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Also true. Pretty woman/couple profile rating. I don't understand that. ***It's related to the profile rating where profile contained that "preference". Must have slipped away during editing the thread.*** Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** It is good you're standing up for your views. Not good that you got attacked for it and that's not fair, is in fact bullying. * *** It happens every single time. No matter how nice I say it. Still doing it. Can't help it. Not sure it's smart, but....*** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. That's good. I don't think you're "the" "Wrong Un". Or particularly weird. * *** It was written on this forum from someone actually I liked. Then someone bumped in who I also liked before. I know. Blocked them. Avoiding them.*** Happy fabbing. *** Now this was the nicest thing anyone ever done here. * Made me feel better * Helped me explain myself * Showed someone cares about serious things, without taking any sides really * Helped get rid of the above faster Thanks Fluffy! You are awesome!
This kind of area should be your job, if it isn't yet.
Thanks for your input.
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I'm so sorry NotSoPosh.
I don't know where I read Fluffy.
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Thanks for you.
You are always mega nice.
Not to regular recently unfortunately.
Obviously that was all for you, not Fluffy.
Now probably you think I'm weird.
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"OK... so I'm going back to the OP and answering every point. I hope that might make things a little better for you, Roland. Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** I try to be nice, and if I find it too tough, to say nothing. * ***I've never put you anywhere exactly. Not sure you like me or not. Doesn't really matter, because you always treated me nice or at least okay. I would say I give that back in my way.*** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. This seems rather defensive, no one knows what people really think of them on an open forum, and many people just don't make a comment if they've nothing pertinent to say. * *** I slightly disagree. I would be naive to think that most people like me here. There's some proof on this thread. I have much different traits than you in many meaning, which means different personal experiences. It doesn't mean you are wrong, just can't apply your experiences to me. I give what I get. That's not always the best way. Fighting fire with fire rarely works (except in some brush and forest fire type situations). Fight fire with water. Be opposite to the people giving grief. Just an idea. *It meant to be together with "Nice to people nice to me". It just means I don't make extra effort to fake like people openly dislike me. It doesn't mean I go and call them off why they dislike me. Occasionally I leave a sarcastic comment on their be nice threads, but nothing offensive. * Nice to people nice to me. That's good. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. So you don't call out bullying? Or you do? * ***I try to avoid bullies, but call out bullying. Usually I ending up bullied, but still worth it. My heart is in the right place, but I never said I'm choosing the smart or easy way.*** Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. I think we would all like to think we treat people the same or how they treat us, but actually most people don't do that across the board. How we react to and act towards people depends on a lot of variables. * *** I meant if you are nice to me, then I will be nice to you because of that. Not because of you are: Popular, pretty, regular, newbie, any race, any sexuality, any gender and between, any kinks, single, married, cheating...etc. It's a public forum on a fuck site. Not church, court, judges...etc. *** Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. That's both useful and thoughtful. But here, several people have said they don't understand what you're saying, and you've become defensive. Maybe you could have explained better? * ****I explained it to the ones asked nicely. Not to the once: That's disgusting, bad, clearly you do. Do you?...etc. They made up their mind already. I don't mind to debate. Quite passionate about a good debate actually. There's always a middle ground. I hate arguments. Especially when all/most against one.*** Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. Many people do... many don't. I have a weird humour. I've not noticed but humour is good. * *** Quite often the reason people think I'm rude or negative. I'm working on it. I wasn't involved in any drama before Christmas for a long time. Kind of made my joke to people like/tolerate me. That's backfired the other day.*** This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * It's good to explain that. Thanks. * ***Explanation will cause more harm than good with some.*** Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. I don't think that's true. I I think it comes down to wording and intent. But if that's how you feel, use it as a filter. * *** Yes, it can be made less shocking. I still dislike it. If someone's asking for what's wrong with their profile, then I will point it out. If they try to convince me it's good, then I block them. Racism is bad. Racism and hypocrisy is worse. So I call them out on threads. Not messaging them or anything.**** You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * That's a can of worms I'm not going near! * *** You can ignore any guy's/ girl's messages. No need to specify the race."*** Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** Doesn't this kind of contradict your comment about racism? Surely it can be taken as homophobia and therefore shouldn't be done, much as a comment about race in a profile could be taken as racism and shouldn't be made? * *** It was banter with a regular. We've done this kind of jokes before. I'm bisexual and he's straight by the way. Then someone bumped into it ...etc. Not sure how I could be homophobe when I'm bisexual. Weird joke? Yes.*** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * True Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Also true. Pretty woman/couple profile rating. I don't understand that. ***It's related to the profile rating where profile contained that "preference". Must have slipped away during editing the thread.*** Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** It is good you're standing up for your views. Not good that you got attacked for it and that's not fair, is in fact bullying. * *** It happens every single time. No matter how nice I say it. Still doing it. Can't help it. Not sure it's smart, but....*** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. That's good. I don't think you're "the" "Wrong Un". Or particularly weird. * *** It was written on this forum from someone actually I liked. Then someone bumped in who I also liked before. I know. Blocked them. Avoiding them.*** Happy fabbing. *** Now this was the nicest thing anyone ever done here. * Made me feel better * Helped me explain myself * Showed someone cares about serious things, without taking any sides really * Helped get rid of the above faster Thanks Fluffy! You are awesome!
This kind of area should be your job, if it isn't yet.
Thanks for your input.
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I'm so sorry NotSoPosh.
I don't know where I read Fluffy.
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Thanks for you.
You are always mega nice.
Not to regular recently unfortunately.
Obviously that was all for you, not Fluffy.
Now probably you think I'm weird.
That hasn't made me think you're weird... it has made me laugh and snort coffee up my nose though. So now my eyes are watering and I'm laughing.
It is not sexy.
Thank you for your kind words "*** Thanks for you saving me in this situation more than one way probably. I'm sorry about the whole Fluffy thing, but as far as I can tell you two are getting on, so I guess it saved me some more embarrassment. You are a saint. Sorry about the coffee in your nose. (The auto correct suggested coffee in your *bum. Not sure why, because I hardly online on phone, and never use that combination of words.) | |||
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" Sorry about the coffee in your nose. (The auto correct suggested coffee in your *bum. Not sure why, because I hardly online on phone, and never use that combination of words.) " I don't think I've ever had coffee in my bum | |||
" Sorry about the coffee in your nose. (The auto correct suggested coffee in your *bum. Not sure why, because I hardly online on phone, and never use that combination of words.) I don't think I've ever had coffee in my bum "That’s one way to grind your beans.  | |||
" Sorry about the coffee in your nose. (The auto correct suggested coffee in your *bum. Not sure why, because I hardly online on phone, and never use that combination of words.) I don't think I've ever had coffee in my bum
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" I know it's all written, but I'm sure you know what I meant. For awhile I was: " Okay, sure. No surprise, I knew it." "That's a bit shocking, but oh well." Now I'm just shocked how it has become about me alone with an imaginary tantrum, a bad day (now yes), (questionable) "preferences". I explained a few times I just put something (still true) there to get reactions. I was expecting most like what I got, but not really all. My weirdness/dislikes got into the way of the point I was intended to push through. I wasn't clear enough either probably, but then I wouldn't have real reactions. " But why? If you post a big long wordy thread to get reactions, why are you surprised when it happens? Your posts and replies are so long it's hard to pick out which bit is the important bit. Which bit are we meant to react to? The joke? The bit about racist profiles? The bit where you make digs about who and who doesn't reply? I'm out because I've actually tried really hard to be NICE but it's been thrown back at me. J | |||
" Sorry about the coffee in your nose. (The auto correct suggested coffee in your *bum. Not sure why, because I hardly online on phone, and never use that combination of words.) I don't think I've ever had coffee in my bum
That’s one way to grind your beans.
Let me know how that goes?"Not in my cup, that’s for sure!!! | |||
" I know it's all written, but I'm sure you know what I meant. For awhile I was: " Okay, sure. No surprise, I knew it." "That's a bit shocking, but oh well." Now I'm just shocked how it has become about me alone with an imaginary tantrum, a bad day (now yes), (questionable) "preferences". I explained a few times I just put something (still true) there to get reactions. I was expecting most like what I got, but not really all. My weirdness/dislikes got into the way of the point I was intended to push through. I wasn't clear enough either probably, but then I wouldn't have real reactions. But why? If you post a big long wordy thread to get reactions, why are you surprised when it happens? Your posts and replies are so long it's hard to pick out which bit is the important bit. Which bit are we meant to react to? The joke? The bit about racist profiles? The bit where you make digs about who and who doesn't reply? I'm out because I've actually tried really hard to be NICE but it's been thrown back at me. J " I've done the thread on my phone, because my back was hurting sitting front of the PC. I check everything before I post usually. It's different for me on phone, so probably it's one of the reason it's crap. It seemed like a good idea, until later. Never going to make a thread about anything remotely serious again. I'm sorry you feel that way. Not sure what I thrown at you, but I apologize anyway. Thanks! Good night. | |||
"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. You cannot say thst someone is racist because they don't want you or other people that aren't of the type they like. That's like saying ageism is wrong because they only want a certain age group. Think your rant is totally unacceptable *** I meant certain things you don't put in the bio. I'm Caucasian by the way, but I know I don't look like it. Ignoring messages as no is good enough. Nobody is obliged to reply and most times its because what's in the initial message that fails to get a response *** I meant you don't need to specify the race preference. Just don't reply to the messages. Isn't that a better option? It's not about me. " There's a lot of profiles saying BBC or only BBC. Is that not a race preference? Isn't it better to say what you don't like then it saves being inundated with the wrong or pointless messages Some profiles also state asians only so again is that not racist in your opinion. Some put age restrictions so is that not ageist? | |||
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"I understood the question in the subject and beginning. I'm lost with the rest. What is it that you are actually asking or saying? T *** It's a pretend rant for all the real reasons/experiences. Just to show how NICE people are behaving slightly after Christmas. Can't even have a calm debate without being offensive or la la la I can't hear you, I'm right about this. How an absolutely shit thread can survive this long from an unpopular person. You can't motivate/force people to change their minds about things they don't like. Even if they don't remember why. How all the cool ones gather when seemingly some drama there. I've never seen them all on any of my threads before. Plus many more things, but I won't comment on those publicly. I intend to be here in the next 48hours. I'm absolutely calm. It was for the show, but I wrote my true opinion there. Kind of rushed it, but some got my point. See this is why I find this like this one difficult. You say above you're unpopular. Why? Why do you have that opinion? What makes someone popular on an Internet forum where all can comment if they like ? It just strikes me as a thread designed to cause unpleasantness and potential conflict. *** That was 1 of the point of this thread, but I'm not a shit stirrer ever. Seems like I'm not too bad with it. It was the point, but not the reason. * I have a weird humor, but apologize/ explain, if/when pointed out. I move in the grey area often. Call people out on generally wrong things. Defending people who I don't even know, simply because I don't like double standards. It's not good for my popularity, but some things are more important, so can't just stand by silent, because that will cause trouble. " It's you that has double standards | |||
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"This seems like needing something to prove *** That was my only point. It wasn't a rant. Different people will see different things in this. For example how some people almost never come to any of my threads. Hardly ever reply to me on threads. Yet, they think it's a rant. It will be drama. I'm hurt and pissed off, so they might take a jab or just get entertained. Ha ha. No. I'm totally calm and not disappointed in the reactions. Just shook the tree to see what's falling. Your first mistake was responding to anyone saying your wound up This is an incredibly petty forum. I’ve seen people argue over nothing for 175 posts If all they can say is “you seem wound up” it means they either don’t understand or don’t have a rebuttal Take it as a W and go have a nice bath " Regarding bath I take it candles & bubbles. glass wine | |||
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"Fake/pretend personalities won't say they are not NICE. Are you nice enough, nice or NICE? *** Skip this if you're not a fan of me. Just added some thoughts some/most won't care. I give what I get. Nice to people nice to me. Don't care about or call out people not nice to me, or others. Don't care about you are popular or newbie. Treat everyone the same, or how they treat me. Apologize or explain when I write something misunderstandable. Don't pretend just to go with the crowd or get more popular. I have a weird humour. This is my second language (Yes, I am.So?), so might come across blunt sometimes. * Specifying fancied/unfancied race in bio is racist, not a simple preference. You can ignore people's messages, so no need. * Bi guy makes a slightly homophobic joke to a straight guy doesn't make him a homophobe. It's just a weird joke. Why not ignore him like mostly by most? *** People's priorities in judgement are a bit all over here. Many people judged by looks or popularity using double standards. * Married guy admitting = Gets rotten tomatoes. Married pretty woman gets compliments and full inbox. * Pretty woman/couple profile rating. Contains "White only" or else. I point it out and block them, just as a principal without any point. Not a single person backed me up. Quite the opposite. I was kind of attacked. Apparently it's just a "preference". "I'm not racist, but..." *** I don't think I am the "Wrong Un" here. I might be the "Weird one", but my priorities and my heart are mostly in the right place. " TFL  | |||
"Hi O.P. I only read your post and the first few replies. Your post didn't come across as ranty to me. Were you ranting ? I agree with a lot of what you say and some of it I don't agree with but i haven't got time to say which. I'd like you to stop saying you are weird and such like....... Stop listening to others. As long as you know you are pretty decent and like yourself and harm no one then ignore the unnecessary comments of others. " I'm with you granny. Not sure why there's any need to give the op any grief. He makes some good points. Life's not fair.fabs not fair. Pretending it's otherwise is just an absence of awareness. | |||
