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"I'd get rid of my imposter syndrome straight away, closely followed my awesome skill of procrastination!!"
Imposter syndrome is doable, just remind yourself that everyone at every level is totally fucking winging it and there is no upper limit to incompetence |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I would turn my motivation up a notch, struggling to care enough to get stuff done."
It's hard sometimes isn't it. I have all these grand ideas of what I want to do when I finish work, and then I sit down and it's game over  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I'd improve my confidence for sure. I can talk to folks, I can flirt with woman, I can walk with my head held high, but inside I'm always self critical and filled with self doubt "
I think alot of people are like that. I used to be very unconfident, then I pretended I was confident, people started becoming confident in me, which made me confident.
I think its healthy to be self critical to a point, you don't want to be one of these people that goes through life thinking they are 100% correct 100% of the time |
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By *unkmiMan 48 weeks ago
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"I'd improve my confidence for sure. I can talk to folks, I can flirt with woman, I can walk with my head held high, but inside I'm always self critical and filled with self doubt "
Yep me too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"My attention span - it’s very short (ADHD)"
oh I'm with you, just been diagnosed and waiting for treatment. Are you on meds? If so, how do you find them?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Less reactive to fucking arseholes.
It's difficult though.
Cause they're fucking arseholes.  "
Yeh I don't think fellas get the full gravity of what it's like being a lady in places like this.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people 
Miss S x"
People can be hard work though can't they 
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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Confidence, even though I am the absolute personification of a masculine manly alpha male ( :3 ), I do feel like my confidence could definitely do with work.
And why? Well, I wanna chat to more femboys and women but I'm too much of a subby bitch to initiate a sexual conversation. All I talk to them about when I open up is video games and sport which only seems to attract femboys. |
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress"
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x |
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"I'd be less sarky and more interested in the sex side of the site, I'd be more inclusive of people with say bi polar or depression and I'd definitely be more loveable  "
You could not be more lovable if you tried, Fred.  |
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"My attention span - it’s very short (ADHD) oh I'm with you, just been diagnosed and waiting for treatment. Are you on meds? If so, how do you find them?"
Also ADHD, started taking meds a year or so ago. It's been life changing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x"
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"My attention span - it’s very short (ADHD) oh I'm with you, just been diagnosed and waiting for treatment. Are you on meds? If so, how do you find them?
Also ADHD, started taking meds a year or so ago. It's been life changing."
That's great to hear, I got my diagnosis in October but there's a shortage so I'm not sure when I'll get them.
I'm looking forward to being less impulsive and being able to not have a song in my head 24/7.
Also not making a joke out of everything might help. |
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"I'd be less sarky and more interested in the sex side of the site, I'd be more inclusive of people with say bi polar or depression and I'd definitely be more loveable
You could not be more lovable if you tried, Fred. "
thankyou faith i do try |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental. "
Me neither I absolutely despise it, there's just no need.
Oh dear.. You get that on here I'm afraid take it with a pinch of salt lol.
With the emoji thing, it's because you can't use your own phone emojis, has to be the sites emojies unfortunately
Miss S x |
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"My attention span - it’s very short (ADHD) oh I'm with you, just been diagnosed and waiting for treatment. Are you on meds? If so, how do you find them?
Also ADHD, started taking meds a year or so ago. It's been life changing.
That's great to hear, I got my diagnosis in October but there's a shortage so I'm not sure when I'll get them.
I'm looking forward to being less impulsive and being able to not have a song in my head 24/7.
Also not making a joke out of everything might help."
I went private for diagnosis and meds, NHS waiting list is like 2-3 years.
It takes a while to find the right meds and the right dose but when you do it just makes daily life so much easier. Stops evey single little task being a huge battle of willpower |
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"I'd be less sarky and more interested in the sex side of the site, I'd be more inclusive of people with say bi polar or depression and I'd definitely be more loveable
You could not be more lovable if you tried, Fred. thankyou faith i do try "
*blows you a kiss* |
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental.
Me neither I absolutely despise it, there's just no need.
Oh dear.. You get that on here I'm afraid take it with a pinch of salt lol.
With the emoji thing, it's because you can't use your own phone emojis, has to be the sites emojies unfortunately
Miss S x"
This is a bug bear of mine! I like my own emojis *sad face* |
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"My attention span - it’s very short (ADHD) oh I'm with you, just been diagnosed and waiting for treatment. Are you on meds? If so, how do you find them?"
You’ll learn to live with it and adapt, I gave up on the meds longggggg ago, they made no difference |
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Nothing I'm perfect as is
In all honesty however I am actually happy with the changes I've already made to myself in past few years however one thing I'd like is just being able to be kinder to people it's a trait I see in my bro and people I work with like I'd love be able be as nice as you guys not to everyone of course as people are dicks |
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"One of your personality traits what would it be and why?
Dealing with rejection. "
This is honest and I wish more people felt this way… no one is above being rejected - it happens to everybody and it never feels great but it’s a part of life for everyone. Name me the world’s best looking female celebrity and I can promise you she’s had her heartbroken at least once. |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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I could change how judgemental I can be at times. But I'm generally right so I'll keep that.
Maybe take things more seriously? That doesn't sound like fun though so probably not.
I could get rid of my self doubt, but then I'd get an ego.
I'll stay as I am, flaws and all, it's what makes me, me.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental.
Me neither I absolutely despise it, there's just no need.
Oh dear.. You get that on here I'm afraid take it with a pinch of salt lol.
With the emoji thing, it's because you can't use your own phone emojis, has to be the sites emojies unfortunately
Miss S x
This is a bug bear of mine! I like my own emojis *sad face*"
Ikr ?????? |
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"One of your personality traits what would it be and why?
Dealing with rejection.
This is honest and I wish more people felt this way… no one is above being rejected - it happens to everybody and it never feels great but it’s a part of life for everyone. Name me the world’s best looking female celebrity and I can promise you she’s had her heartbroken at least once."
I’m shit at it and I can’t help it, always have been and whilst I know everyone else goes through it, I’d like to be easier about it when it next happens.
I’m super polite if I get a knock back message on fab as I know I’m not what someone might want but I still get that dig that I’m not good enough and that’s what I’d like to be better at.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental.
Me neither I absolutely despise it, there's just no need.
Oh dear.. You get that on here I'm afraid take it with a pinch of salt lol.
With the emoji thing, it's because you can't use your own phone emojis, has to be the sites emojies unfortunately
Miss S x"
I just thought asking someone for a cock pic immediately and then calling them rude when they ask for a recent pic seemed a bit entitled.
My ?? Didn't help though tbf |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Generally very confident but not so when in these sort of situations. However have become more so, thanks to some nice people on here, and I would love more of that going forward. "
These situations like public forums or meeting people/the sexual aspect? |
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"Generally very confident but not so when in these sort of situations. However have become more so, thanks to some nice people on here, and I would love more of that going forward.
These situations like public forums or meeting people/the sexual aspect?"
Both I would say  |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental.
Me neither I absolutely despise it, there's just no need.
Oh dear.. You get that on here I'm afraid take it with a pinch of salt lol.
With the emoji thing, it's because you can't use your own phone emojis, has to be the sites emojies unfortunately
Miss S x
This is a bug bear of mine! I like my own emojis *sad face*"
Meeee toooooo 
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site) 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental.
Me neither I absolutely despise it, there's just no need.
Oh dear.. You get that on here I'm afraid take it with a pinch of salt lol.
With the emoji thing, it's because you can't use your own phone emojis, has to be the sites emojies unfortunately
Miss S x
I just thought asking someone for a cock pic immediately and then calling them rude when they ask for a recent pic seemed a bit entitled.
My ?? Didn't help though tbf "
Tut. Rude people eh
Bit of an unusual one isn't it, people demanding cock pics
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"Be less impatient with people
Miss S x
People can be hard work though can't they
I'm probably too patient with people, but then again im lucky i don't cross paths with too many that cause me any stress
Ermmmm... Just a tad
Like people who can't drive, walk super slow, rude etc can't be doing with it
Miss S x
Oh I'm with you on rudeness, I can't stand it.
I got called rude the other day on here for the first time in my life by somebody telling me to show them my cock, I ask for a recent photo and made a joke about the one they sent being 2 years old.
I over use smilies as I have a dry sense of humour and that's how I show I'm taking the piss, and couldn't understand how I was the rude one.
Then I read them back and realised all off my smilies were double questions marks, so it just ended up looking like I was being double judgmental.
Me neither I absolutely despise it, there's just no need.
Oh dear.. You get that on here I'm afraid take it with a pinch of salt lol.
With the emoji thing, it's because you can't use your own phone emojis, has to be the sites emojies unfortunately
Miss S x
I just thought asking someone for a cock pic immediately and then calling them rude when they ask for a recent pic seemed a bit entitled.
My ?? Didn't help though tbf
Tut. Rude people eh
Bit of an unusual one isn't it, people demanding cock pics
Miss S x"
Well, it was more it being her being fine with that being her second message to me but getting offended when I ask for a recent face pic.
I found it a bit odd. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 48 weeks ago
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"I’d be less impulsive "
I suffer from this and an addictive personality,if I enjoy something I smash the granny out of it until there's no enjoyment left.
I get an idea of something I want to buy and just need it immediately. |
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